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Satisfy your wives’ minimum sexual needs, Cleric tells husbands

The Chief Imam of Area 10 Abuja Mosque, Sheikh Yahya Al-Yolawi has advised husband to ensure satisfaction of their wives sexual needs in order to prevent immorality.
Al-Yolawi gave the advice while during his Jumma’at Sermon titled: “ The Duties and Responsibilities of Husband and wife in Islam, “ on Friday in Abuja.
According to him, there are certain men, who after marriage, do not satisfy the sexual needs of their wives.
“ Such people are great sinners and will be convicted in the sight of Allah.
“ Husbands have a duty to satisfy their wives’ minimum sexual requirements so that they may not commit a sin by eyeing other men in order to quench their thirst.
“ Allah, the most high, has granted women the right to conjugal relations with their husbands, “ Al-Yolawi said.
The cleric admonished husbands to value their wives and never appreciate the beauty of other woman in the present of their wives.
“ This may lead to jealousy and suspicion in the mind of the wife. She would think that her husband has some feelings or relationship with that woman.
“ This thought is a poison that kills matrimonial relations and should be avoided, “ he said.
He said that in order to maintain peace and prosperity in the home, both wife and the husband should respect and take care of each other’s opinions and emotions.
He said that the anger of husband brings to the wife nothing but tension, depression and confusion, adding that the anger of the wife brings to the husband nothing but disappointment.
“ This can lead to mental torture, frustration and bitterness,“ he said.
The cleric, therefore, advised couples to be patient and compassionate in their dealings and urged husbands to always express their full confidence and trust in their wives.
“ To prove this, husbands should hand over the house keep to their wives so that they may feel dignified and involved.

“ Prophet Muhammad said that the woman is the guardian and caretaker of her husband’s house and Almighty Allah will require an account from her in this regard on the Day of Judgment.

“ This will give the husband an opportunity to freely think of other things regarding the promotion, growth development and progress of his career or business.“
Similarly, the cleric urged husbands to take responsibility over financial obligations of their wives, which include dowry, feeding clothing, accommodation and general spending.
He also appealed to those that married more than one wife to be just, fair and show equality between co-wives and treated them in a decent, kind, love and respectful manner. (NAN)

February 10, 2017
Agency to establish sexual referral network in UNILAG

The Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team (DSVRT) has concluded plans to establish a sexual referral network at the University of Lagos (UNILAG).

Students would be trained and empowered at the centre to act as first responders to sexual assault cases on campus.

The Guidance and Counseling Department of the institution has already assured the team of their commitment to partner with DSVRT in addressing the issue.

DSVRT Coordinator Mrs Titilola Vivour-Adeniyi said the decision is in line with the mandate given by Governor Akinwunmi Ambode to embark on enlightenment campaigns on sexual assault prevention, rape and domestic violence.

At an event in the campus organised by DSVRT and the Pastor Bimbo Odukoya Foundation, the students were given tips on how to avoid being victims of sexual assault and educated on how to stay safe in social settings, some of which include making a plan ‘B’ for emergency exits from a place, protecting their drinks, avoiding clubs or free parties.

They were also informed and educated on the legal implications of committing sexual assault offence.

The students were informed of their roles as bystanders, in intervening and assisting to prevent sexual assault and were taught to “CARE- Create a distraction, Ask directly, Refer the matter to an authority and Enlist others and for their fellow students.

“Students were also given tips on how to date, some of which include setting limits and being clear on them, being mindful of behaviours of their partners some of which include degrading mannerisms, extreme jokes or language, violent tendencies, and controlling or overbearing tendencies”.

Mrs Vivour-Adeniyi distributed a manual on sexual assault prevention to the students.

January 16, 2017
Sexual assault referral centre for Yaba

A new care centre where victims of sexual violence can get immediate medical and psychosocial attention will open in Lagos on Thursday.

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that the Yaba, Lagos-based Sexual Assault Referral Centre is an initiative of Women At Risk International Foundation (WARIF), a non-governmental organisation (NGO).

WARIF Chief Executive Dr Kemi DaSilva-Ibru, an obstetrician, told reporters yesterday that the fully-serviced medical suite would provide 24-hour support to victims and survivors of rape and sexual violence.

DaSilva-Ibru said the centre would provide clinical and forentic medical sevices, “long-term therapy to survivors and integrate them successfully back into society’’

“It is our primary social responsibility to ensure that all young girls and women live in a society free of rape and social violence,’’ she said.

According to DaSilva-Ibru, WARIF is in partnership with the Washington DC-based Rape Crisis Centre (DCRCC) and several government and non-government organisations to achieve its objectives.

Indira Henard, DCRCC Director, said WARIF’s establishment was a game changer for sexual assault survivors in a timely manner.

“It is important that the international community come together to not only address gender-based violence, but also create resources and tools to enable self-determination and freedom for all’’, she said.

November 28, 2016
‘I’M YET TO RECORD ANY SEXUAL ADVANCES’

Popular Tinsel star, Funmi Holder, seems to have more to deal with than just being an actress. With her debut production, The Grudge, still making cinema rounds, she says that she is not affected by the current economic recession. In this interview with FAMUYIWA DAMILARE, she talks about her challenges, how people’s judgment affected her career among other issues.

WHY did you choose to pursue acting despite the fact that you studied Botany at the university?

Acting has always been in my blood. Right from when I was a little girl, I used to do a lot of acting in my school, so it was inevitable. And I have just been waiting for the right opportunity to showcase my talent.

How did your parents feel about your decision to be an actress?

My mother has been supporting me as far back as when I was in primary school. I could vividly recall that she bought me the costumes I used in participating in the school events back then, even when most Nigerian parents frowned on things like that. As I grew older, the support and prayers got stronger. So I have never had any problems in that regard.

What was it like being the only girl in the family?

It has been pretty cool being the only girl and the last child. My brothers are far older than me, so growing up was just basically my mum and I. I had a very peaceful and quiet drama-free upbringing.

What were the challenges you faced in the course of exploit as an actress?

Starting off as an actress in Nigeria back then was a lot of hard work, because I had to physically chase the roles. Going out every day to Winnis in Surulere, hoping to catch an audition or a producer that may just be interested in working with you was quite challenging. I could recall that there was no social media, so you have to go out every day to face the reality.

Any regret so far since you began acting?

I have not recorded any regrets so far. It’s my passion and it’s what I love doing. I enjoy every bit of it of my profession.

Some actresses have revealed how movie producers offer sex for movie scripts. Have you had any such encounter?

I have never experienced sexual harassment in the industry. I have heard of it but it hasn’t happened to me in person, so I do not know how true it is or if it happens.

What advise will you give actresses who are being approached with such offer?

I have never been asked to give anything back for a script personally, so I can’t speak on what I have no experience of. I believe we all have a right to make our personal decisions. I guess whoever has been in such a situation would be in a better position to advice on it.

As a celebrity, a beautiful one at that, how do you fend off suitors?

I don’t have to ‘fend’ them off. They are my brothers. Being an actress doesn’t really affect much. As a single woman, you get a lot of advances in life, so, it’s nothing new.

How has playing Amaka Okoh in Tinsel influenced your career?

I love every bit of it. I have grown and I want to believe I am a better actor than I was when I joined the show seven years ago. And I thank Mnet/Afmag for the opportunity.

Tinsel made you a household name, but obviously you’ve been around long before then…

I have definitely been around a long time. Tinsel made me more popular for sure. I have done a number of Nollywood movies as well.

How would you differentiate sitcoms from feature films?

An actor is an actor, irrespective of the platform on which you showcase your talent. The difference between Tinsel and any other show or movies I have featured in is that Tinsel is shot mostly in the studios, while the movies are on locations. But I still try to bring my best wherever I find myself.

Which is more challenging and why?

Shooting in a studio is definitely more enjoyable compared to locations because you don’t have to deal with all the external factors like generator sound, rain, etc. you work faster and you are more creative.

How do you feel when people judge you base on your roles in movies?

Initially it used to affect me a lot when people find it hard to separate you from the character, but as I got older and more experienced in the industry I realized it’s what we have to deal with as actors. Now, I am just less bothered about it.

How do you manage your family and career at the same time?

I have been doing this for years now so it’s become a way of life. I always manage to balance things.

The Grudge is your debut production. What challenges did you encounter putting it together?

The major challenge I would say I had shooting The Grudge was having to combine producing and acting. I had never produced a movie before. I had no experience whatsoever, it was a feature film with great actors. I do not do half measures so it was difficult switching back and forth from producer to actor. But I managed to pull it off.

How were you able to get big names to star in it?

I still look back and ask myself how I was able to have these veteran actors on my project and everything went smoothly. One major factor I think worked in my favour would be that they are professionals to the core. I just feel blessed.

What was it like casting Odunlade Adekola in a mainstream Nollywood movie?

Odunlade Adekola is a fantastic addition to my cast, he is someone I admire so much and I respect his acting prowess. So having him on my project was a dream come true. He gave his very best and people will laugh from the very beginning till the end. I have watched The Grudge countless times as the producer but each time I see it, Odun still cracks me up.

How did the economic crisis affect the production of your movie?

Well, fortunately for me, I do not believe in the word ‘recession’ and what you do not believe in cannot be a part of your existence, so, no economic crisis in my world.

What’s your advice to the Federal Government on the issue?

I can only appeal that they do their best in stabilizing the economy as quickly as they can. It can’t be easy to come into power and do magic. It’s a process. We need to support our president.

November 19, 2016
THE BEDROOM SECRET THAT COMPLETELY CHANGED MY SEXUAL LIFE

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While I was in 200 level, few months to my 19th birthday I was still a virgin but felt ashamed of my status because of what older boys would say about having fun with their lovers on campus. Since I had no girl friend of my own I picked up some shameful practice which was masturbation. I soon got addicted and never felt the urge for having a girl-friend anymore, hence I was a very shy person who cannot confidently walk up to a lady and ask her out. As an addict, I would seek for any opportunity to induce ejaculation which would mean making use of any available opportunity either in the room alone, toilet, bathrooms, and sometimes in the sitting room while watching adult movies. The exercise was never a total success in many occasions as I soon got nervous whenever I hear voices or footsteps approaching I tend to hasting up the ejaculation so I can gain the needed pleasure before the intrusion of the third party. Often times the duration of these practice is 2 minutes and few seconds at max. Gradually, it became a habit an even without any interference I could no longer hold up for more than two minutes before ejaculating. http://healthchronicles.com.ng/macapower.html. It got me so worried because I could have my peers bragging of lasting for more than 20 – 30 minutes during sexual intercourse I knew quite well that some might be exaggerating but not withstanding I could not help that feeling of been weak or inferior among them so I never told anyone about my condition. I had my very first girl friend at the dinner party organized for us the final year students. I was 20 years plus then while she was 22. My mature look and lanky stature helped me overcome the age gap between us. She told me that she was a virgin, so, we never needed to have sex which was very ok by me. We had our marriage immediately after our service year since my parents agreed to sponsor it. The marriage exposed my deficiency I did not have an enjoyable honeymoon. I tried hard but could never get my spouse to orgasm. She agreed to endure with me and we began to seek for solution. I tried so many local herbs but it never worked all I achieved was quick erection but not lasting sex life. I was shy to open up to my family doctors. I stayed long on the internet but never came across this life changer (http://healthchronicles.com.ng/macapower.html) Share on Facebook Share on Twitter So I began to try other means I could remember then how some would say they use drugs to enhance this so I self medicated on clomipramine, dapoxetine and sildenafil. These drugs were not so easy to get without doctor’s prescription so I would buy a handful doze of ‘’TM’’. I soon abused these “SSRIs”. I must be honest this almost ruined my life completely as it made me hyper active. On most occasions my wife got tired of my condition and deserted me. I eventually had a diminished libido as an effect of over reliant on the drugs. Share on Facebook Share on Twitter I had no choice now but to open up since my condition has worsen, I did not tell our family doctor since I don’t want my parent to know but it wasn’t easy at the same time. The doctor warned me to stop completely the intake of cigarette or alcohol and began a therapy with me. I could feel a change in my system but it was rather too slow and most times I feel I still suffer from low sex drive despite my replacement therapy with various testosterous. I lost my confidence as a man I decide not to re marry. THE TESTIMONY On October 21, 2015 I was home in my parent house to mark my 35th birthday with them all when I overheard my younger brother friend telling him how is elder brother got saved from similar issue of quick ejaculation and that I have suffered from for many years at this point I was no longer shy I quickly cut in and met with my brother in person. He gave me this website and guaranteed me full recovery which I never believed was possible. I eventually visited the link http://healthchronicles.com.ng/macapower.html, I visited the site and was well accepted. I opened up completely and was placed on some supplements which did not take me more than three (3) weeks to gain my natural but boosted active self. Today I am happily married with a beautiful daughter. I feel so indebted to Sanmi my brother’s friend for showing me the way out.

November 14, 2016
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October 13, 2016
Why Many Nigerian Men Can’t Go More Than One Round During Sex – Expert Reveals
There is a BIG problem that is facing many Nigerian men who are in a serious or committed relationship today.

And that problem is their inability to go more than one round of sex in bed with their partner or spouse.

To give you an idea of what I mean, I want you to read this comment left by a man on a Nigerian men’s blog recently:

You can tell from this comment above that this man is unable to satisfy his wife because he cannot go more than one round of love making.

Unfortunately, research suggest that 6 out of 10 Nigerian men are suffering from this same sexual problem.

And this problem is affecting so many relationships and so many marriages as we speak.

There are many reasons why a lot of men are unable to go more than one round in bed, but the No.1 undeniable reason why a lot of men are unable to go more than one round is because of…

A Loss Of Natural Male Sexual Energy!

This loss of male sexual energy is also one of the reasons why a lot of men have the following issues:
1. Weak Erection
That is when your penis gets very soft during penetration and you are unable to achieve rock hard erection during love making
1. Premature Ejaculation
That is when you are unable to handle the pleasure that you experience during sex and you are unable to last more than 1 – 2 minutes and you ejaculate too quickly.
1. Low Libido
That is when your sex drive is VERY low and your urge to have sex with your woman is ZERO despite how attractive she is.
1. Lack of Sexual Knowledge
That is when you don’t know exactly what to do to turn your woman on, so that she will become responsive to your needs to make you turned on and gain erection to satisfy her.

These 4 reasons is why a lot of men get the type of unhappy wife reaction in the picture below in bed during love making with their woman:

If you are a man who cannot go more than one round and you are suffering from any of the above conditions, there are three things you must know to get rid of this problem:

Number One

It takes Men 2-5 Minutes To Orgasm.
It Takes Women 5 Times Longer (20 – 30 minutes) to explode into a wave of pleasure

According to a European study of 9,500 married women, 85 percent of women say that they NEVER achieve an orgasm during sex.

That means, if you are unable to give your woman a deep satisfying round of sex, she will be left unsatisfied.

To give you an insight into how important this is for women, I want to see the comment screenshot below from a real woman online on Stella Dimokokorkus’s blog:

Unfortunately, a lot of men are like this. Once they ejaculate, they lose interest in the sex and sleep off, leaving their woman to starve sexually.

Number TWO:

If You Do Not Perform Your Bedroom Duties And Satisfy Your Wife, Someone Else Will Do It For You.

The woman is like you. She is human and have feelings. If she is not satisfied, she will be sexually starved and sexual starvation leads to cheating.

You may not notice, but a prevalent situation in marriages today is infidelity among couples.

For most women, the MAJOR reason why they cheat is because of Sexual frustration.

I want you to carefully read this shocking confession from a married Nigerian woman in the comment screenshot below:

This woman is cheating on her husband because he is not performing his bedroom duties.

Number THREE:

If She Is Not Enjoying It, She Probably
Won’t Really Tell YOU

She won’t tell you because she doesn’t want to hurt your ego.

The society we live in has placed a taboo on the “S” subject, especially for married women.

Many of them now result to suffering in silence.

The bold ones on the other hand are secretly talking about these issues behind their husbands in the comment sections of gossip blogs likeLinda Ikeji Blog, Bella Naija and Stella DimokoKorkus Blog.

Let me prove this by showing you a comments dropped on these blogs below:

My point is this…

Your woman may be secretly talking about your poor performance in bed without you knowing it.

If you are a one minute man and you cant seem to “wake it up” again irrespective of what your woman does to your manhood in bed, today is the day you must do something about it.

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October 10, 2016
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Suffering in silence from:
- Weak Erection?
- Low sperm count ?
- Having Uncomfortable Prostate Symptoms?
- Being unable to give your partner the same type of mind blowing orgasms that will get her moaning and clinging to you?
Now if you are a man of 31-40, 51-60 and above, and you experience
the following symptons;
- Continuous urge to urinate again and again just after urinating.
- Frequent and uncontrollable urge to pass urine especially at night.
- Straining while passing urine.
- Weak urine stream or double urine stream whenever you pass urine
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What is Sexual Dysfunction?

Sexual dysfunction refers to a problem occurring during any phase of the sexual response cycle that prevents the individual or couple from experiencing satisfaction from the sexual activity. The sexual response cycle traditionally includes excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. Desire and arousal are both part of the excitement phase of the sexual response.

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What Are The Types Of Sexual Dysfunction?

Sexual dysfunction generally is classified into four categories:
- Desire disorders: lack of sexual desire or interest in sex
- Arousal disorders: inability to become physically aroused or excited during sexual activity (weak erection)
- Orgasm disorders: delay or absence of orgasm (climax)
- Pain disorders: pain during intercourse
What Are The Symptoms Of Sexual Dysfunction?

In men:
- Inability to achieve or maintain an erection suitable for intercourse (erectile dysfunction)
- Absent or delayed ejaculation despite adequate sexual stimulation (retarded ejaculation)
- Inability to control the timing of ejaculation (early or premature ejaculation)
- Weakness after ejaculation, (inability to go for more than one round of sex)
One thing you should understand from the above is you are not actually suffering from erectile dysfunction, retarded ejaculation or premature ejaculation. The problem you actually have is Sexual Dysfunction. Weak erection, premature ejaculation, and others are just the signs/symptoms that you are suffering from something called sexual dysfunction.

Now tell me how the problem will not persist if you continue aiming to resolve the symptoms (premature ejaculation, retarded ejaculation, erectile dysfunction an to go for more than a round of sex) when the actual problem (Sexual Dysfunction) remains.

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September 28, 2016
‘Nigerian children suffer sexual, physical violence’

More than 60 per cent Nigerian children suffer sexual, physical and other kinds of violence, the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF) said yesterday.

Ms Ladi Alabi, a Child Protection Specialist with UNICEF, Bauchi Field Office, who visited the Jos Zonal Office of the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) said the figure was an indication that six out of every 10 children experience some kind of violence.

“Half of all children in Nigeria experience physical violence, and one in four girls and one in 10 boys experience sexual violence,” she said.

“Also, one in six girls and one in five boys suffer emotional violence from parents, caregivers or adult relatives.”

The child protection specialist added that girls were significantly affected in sexual and physical violence than other combination of violence, while boys suffer emotional and physical violence most.

Alabi explained that the figures were drawn from the Violence Against Children Survey (VACS) conducted by the National Population Commission (NPC) in 2014.

She said that the national survey was supported technically by UNICEF, government and the U.S. Centres for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

Also speaking, Mr Sam Kaalu, UNICEF Communication Officer, Bauchi Field Office, said the team was in Jos to prepare ground for the launch of Priority Actions on Ending Violence Against Children.

September 24, 2016
Reprieve for victims as Lagos goes tough on sexual and domestic violence

When Chika Okorie (not real name) walked down the aisle with her husband, Godwin, eight years ago, her joy knew no bounds.

But looking back eight years after, Okorie wishes she could turn back the hand of the clock and take back every word she uttered while taking her wedding vows.

As she managed to seat up on the floor of her room where she stayed all night crying, she could barely move her legs, her whole body was in pain and her face was swollen from the blows her husband gave her over a slight misunderstanding between them.

She summoned courage and walked towards the mirror in front of her and the picture she saw made her reflect on her journey in the last eight years, and then reality dawned on her that the only time she had enjoyed marital bliss was the few months after their wedding.

For the eight years she lived with him, Roselyn was beaten more than 60 times. Sadly, her seven-year old son witnessed several sessions of the ugly incident.

With each scar, came a sting of pain in her heart that kept multiplying until she ran for her dear life.

Many women like Mrs. Okorie have found themselves in the same situation, albeit they have not been able to muster the courage to seek for help, preferring to endure the pain and suffering.

Agnes, 32, who got married at the age of 22, said in the last 10 years she has had to endure physical battery at the slightest provocation of her husband.

“He would beat me for as little as water that pours on the floor, he would abuse me in front of my children,” she recounted to our reporter.

Asked why she has remained in a physical abusive marriage, Agnes said, “My mother told me to endure, even when I confided in my pastor, he said he will speak to my husband, despite that he still beats me”.

Respite, however, may have come for victims like Mrs. Okorie and Agnes in Lagos, as the State Government has upped its ante against sexual and gender based violence (SGBV) crimes.

This time, the State Governor, Mr. Akinwunmi Ambode is leading the war from the front.

Last Thursday, he led an All Male Walk against Sexual and Gender Based Violence (SGBV), vowing that his administration would leave no stone unturned to ensure that all perpetrators of such crimes are made to face the wrath of the law.

The procession took off from Ikeja under Bridge through Awolowo Way to Lagos House in Alausa and witnessed the participation of dignitaries from all walks of life, including members of the State Executive Council, members of the State House of Assembly, key government functionaries, entertainers, youths, artisans, workers, among others.

Addressing participants at the Lagos House, Ikeja, Governor Ambode, decked in a black T-shirt and armed with a placard with the inscription ‘Stop Rape, Domestic Violence, Child Abuse’, said it was time for men to stand up and take the bull by the horn in tackling the menace of SGBV in the society, as recent research has shown that women are more prone to being victims of these crimes.

“There is also an evident trend of suppressing the voice of these victims due to the fact that these acts are perpetrated largely by men. We should not take for granted the potential exponential effect of having emotionally and psychologically damaged women in a society as the effect could transcend to their children who grow up in an environment, thinking this is the norm.

While alluding to the fact that the State Government had initiated several programs ranging from the provision of legal aid, shelter and psychological counseling services to assist these women, he said it was also pertinent to address the violent behavior of men as it concerns Rape, Domestic Violence and Child Abuse.

In the governor’s words, “The scale of men’s violence against women is enormous and its effect, demoralizing. Men as grandfathers, fathers, brothers, sons, husbands and public advocates have a pivotal role to play in condemning all forms of violence against women, girls and boys.

“We firmly believe that the way forward is to continuously engage the male folk as well as the community as a whole. Community engagement is an essential part of working to prevent and respond to all forms of Gender Based Violence.

“As men, we must stand up and speak in one voice, condemning these acts. No more would we condone or tolerate peadophiles, women beaters and rapists. It is inhumane and totally unacceptable to protect or even ignore such behaviour when we see it manifesting in our environment”.

Ambode, while commending participants of the Walk, urged them to remain ambassadors and flag bearers in the fight against domestic and sexual violence, adding “the conversation must be sustained in our workplaces, religious institutions, residential areas, social media etc. If we all join hands and speak against this, we can truly make Lagos uncomfortable for perpetrators of these heinous crimes.”

The governor also commended the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team (DSVRT), organizers of the Walk, which simultaneously took place in Festac, just as he assured that his administration would continue to do more to ensure the rights and welfare of the most vulnerable in the State are adequately protected.

“I will like you to join hands with me to say no to rapists, say no to women beaters and wherever they are, we know that the Task Force that we have set up will swing into action once it receives any petition from any member of the society. We are looking for the first 11 scapegoats whether highly or lowly placed in the society. We say no to domestic violence and sexual abuse,” Governor Ambode said.

Notable celebrities including ace comedians, Alibaba, Teju Babyface, Omobaba and music artiste, Bez joined the walk to draw attention to the war against SGBV.

According to the Alternate Chairman of DSVRT, Mrs. Omotilewa Ibirogba the State Government is more than determined to put an end to all forms of SGBV.

She said in furtherance of the Team’s objectives to be a repository of data, a detailed research was carried out in February 2016 in all prison facilities in Lagos on sex convicts and inmates awaiting trial for SGBV cases.

September 10, 2016