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  • Toke Makinwa urges singles not to lower standards in relationships

    Toke Makinwa urges singles not to lower standards in relationships

    Media personality Toke Makinwa has encouraged individuals not to compromise their standards in relationships, emphasising that there are plenty of potential partners in the world.

    Speaking during a recent episode of her podcast, Makinwa advised people to pursue partners who meet their expectations instead of yielding to societal pressure or judgment.

    She challenged the trend of shaming others for their preferences, including financial expectations in relationships, stating that it’s more productive to move on rather than criticise what doesn’t align with one’s values.

    “There’s no need to attack someone for wanting more,” she said. “If their standard doesn’t suit you, keep it moving. There are billions of people in the world.”

    Makinwa also criticised the culture of online arguments and judgment over personal relationship choices, suggesting such behaviour often stems from insecurity rather than any real fault in the person being judged.

    Makinwa said: “Don’t need to lower your standards. Honestly, if this, listen, there are over a billion people in this world, right? You can go and find somebody who has what you’re looking for. Stop letting society dictate.

    Read Also: I suffered depression after divorce with Toke Makinwa – Maje Ayida

    “If you say, oh, this girl is a money-hungry b!tch. All she wants is a man to pay her bills. If you can’t pay her bills, leave.

    “There’s another guy who does what he’s looking for. I feel like we make things harder than it is with fighting online and our opinions, and trying to shout on top of each other. If somebody is not what you’re looking for, cease the urge to start trying to pinpoint what is wrong with them, because it’s actually a reflection of you and not them.

    “That’s what they want out of their lives. After all, there are people who wake up in the morning and believe that, you know what, I’m the best thing since sliced bread. I’m Queen Diana. And if they believe it and they think it and they’re walking, it’s who are you to come and tell them that they are not?”

  • I suffered depression after divorce with Toke Makinwa – Maje Ayida

    I suffered depression after divorce with Toke Makinwa – Maje Ayida

    Fitness expert and ex-husband of Toke Makinwa, Maje Ayida has opened up on his struggles with depression following their highly publicised divorce in 2016.

    Speaking with Pastor Bolaji Idowu at a church service, Ayida said the intense scrutiny and shame led him to isolate himself, severely impacting his personal and professional life.

    According to him, his mental health deteriorated to the point where he stopped working, lost business deals, and struggled with insomnia and paranoia.

    Feeling ashamed of his situation and its effect on his family’s reputation, Ayida withdrew from society.

    However, he eventually realised the need to take accountability for his actions, marking the beginning of his recovery journey.

    He said, “I will be honest about the fact that I want through a divorce which resulted in me being depressed. It was a very publicised divorce.

    “And that left me feeling very alone. I withdrew from society, I was really ashamed of my situation. Not just for myself, of course, my self-esteem was affected, but legacy is very important to me. I was ashamed of what I felt I had done to my family’s name. As a result, I went into hiding.

    “I didn’t want to interact with anyone. I wanted to be alone, stay at home. I stopped going to work. I found it very difficult to work. It was very hard.

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    “I not only lose focus but also motivation. I lose the essence of to even get up in the morning. What am I getting up for? Everyone already feels a certain way about me. So, I started to lose work as a result of it. That was when it really started to get to me.

    “As a man, your work is your identity, and I started to lose work, business deals so it became a real problem for me.

    “That was when I made a decision. I had to make a decision for my own survival because I was living in hopelessness. It went on for weeks.

    “I was out of the look for a whole year. I checked out of life for a year to recoup. I realised that I was in a very dark space. I was in a hole but I needed to get out of it… I was on the floor. What’s sleep? I didn’t even know what that was. I had insomnia.

    “I was paranoid as well so the few chances that I do get to go out, I have created a scenario in my own mind that everybody is talking about me, people are looking at me. And that would just send me back into my own home.

    “That feeling of hopelessness and the noise that was going on around me even though I was in silence was insane. I made a choice. I decided that I didn’t want to stay in this space.

    “I did research on how to deal with it. The top of the list of the research that I did was accountability. I took the blame on myself. It made me feel worse at first until I began to take practical steps.”

    The divorce was highly publicised, with Makinwa detailing their turbulent relationship in her memoir “On Becoming”.

    Ayida subsequently sued Makinwa for defamation, winning the case in 2020.

    Despite the court’s ruling in his favor, the experience had a lasting impact on Ayida’s mental well-being.

  • Only money makes me sad at my age not love heartbreak – Toke Makinwa

    Only money makes me sad at my age not love heartbreak – Toke Makinwa

    Media personality Toke Makinwa has revealed that at this stage in her life, financial concerns affect her more deeply than matters of the heart.

    “Only money makes me sad at my age, not love or heartbreak,” she said, highlighting a shift in priorities with maturity and experience.

    Read Also: I’d be a fifth wife if opportunity comes – Toke Makinwa

    Toke also showcased her sleek high ponytail and sparkling jewelry, crediting her hairstylist and jeweler.

    This post comes months after she expressed openness to remarrying, even as a second or third wife, on her podcast “Toke Moments”.

    “In all honesty, at this point in my life, if I have the opportunity to be the second, third, fourth, or fifth wife, I will take it,” Toke said during the podcast.

    Toke’s past marriage to Maje Ayida ended in divorce in 2017 due to infidelity allegations. 

  • I’d be a fifth wife if opportunity comes – Toke Makinwa

    I’d be a fifth wife if opportunity comes – Toke Makinwa

    Media personality Toke Makinwa has stated that she wouldn’t mind being a fifth wife if given an opportunity at this point in her life.

    In a recent podcast episode of Toke Moments, she jokingly said she’d consider being a second, third, fourth or fifth wife if given the opportunity.

    “At this point in my life, if I have the opportunity to marry again, as a second, third, fourth or fifth wife, I will take it,” she said.

    Read Also: Toke Makinwa to singles: Don’t lower your standards amid societal pressure

    However, in a previous episode, she reflected on her past marriage to Maje Ayida, which ended in divorce in 2017 due to infidelity allegations.

    Toke emphasised that she’s focused on her accomplishments and the love surrounding her, rather than societal pressures about being single and childless at 40.

    She said: “I am 40, I am single, and I am childless. I said it, and I didn’t die, and that always made me tear up. I used to feel like, how am I 40 and I don’t have a child? How am I 40 and I single? How am I 40, and I am alone? Listen, if I am completely honest with you guys, if I had gotten married again, I would have been divorced. Because the lessons never stop”.

  • Toke Makinwa to singles: Don’t lower your standards amid societal pressure

    Toke Makinwa to singles: Don’t lower your standards amid societal pressure

    Media personality Toke Makinwa has urged singles not to compromise their standards when choosing a partner due to societal expectations.

    Speaking on her podcast, Toke Moments, Makinwa stated that it is perfectly fine for a woman to rely on a man financially. 

    She added that men who disagree should seek partners who align with their values instead of imposing their views on others.

    She advised singles to focus on finding a partner who meets their criteria rather than settling or judging others for their preferences. 

    According to her, individuals should prioritize their own needs and desires instead of conforming to societal pressures.

    Read Also: If I remarried, I’d have been divorced – Toke Makinwa

    She said: “You don’t need to lower your standard. There are over a billion people in this world. You can go and find somebody who has what you are looking for. Stop letting society dictate for you.

    “If you say, ‘Oh, this girl is a money-hungry b*tch. All she wants is a man to pay her bills.’ If you can’t pay her bills, leave. There is another guy who that is what he is looking for.

    “I feel like we make things harder than they are; fighting online with our opinions. If somebody is not what you are looking for, refuse the urge to start trying to pinpoint what is wrong with them because it is actually a reflection of you and not them”.

  • If I remarried, I’d have been divorced – Toke Makinwa

    If I remarried, I’d have been divorced – Toke Makinwa

    Media personality Toke Makinwa has stated that if she had gotten married again, she would have ended up divorced.

    She recently spoke about her life as a single and childless woman at 40, stating that she has come to terms with her journey and focused on her accomplishments.

    In a recent episode of her podcast, Makinwa admitted that she used to feel pressure about not having a child or a partner at her age, but has since learned to embrace her truth.

    Toke, who turned 40 last year, confessed that if she had gotten married again, she would have ended up divorced, citing that the lessons never stop.

    Instead of dwelling on what could have been, Makinwa is choosing to focus on her achievements, including building a media empire, being one of Africa’s most influential voices, and enjoying good health.

    She said: “I am 40, I am single, and I am childless. I said it, and I didn’t die, and that always made me tear up. I used to feel like, how am I 40 and I don’t have a child? How am I 40 and I single? How am I 40, and I am alone? Listen, if I am completely honest with you guys, if I had gotten married again, I would have been divorced. Because the lessons never stop. 

    “I am grateful for the journey, I am grateful for where I am at, and I am grateful that I am 40. I look at my life like I am 40 and a boss, have built an empire, am one of the most resounding voices in Africa, have a love of family, and am in great health. I love what I do, and I am not waking up miserable, thinking that I am still here.

    “You need to sit with your truth, and when you do so, you can’t shame the shameless”.

  • Teebillz apologises to Toke Makinwa over 2baba, Annie Idibia’s divorce drama

    Teebillz apologises to Toke Makinwa over 2baba, Annie Idibia’s divorce drama

    Media personality Teebillz has publicly apologised to Toke Makinwa for his previous statements regarding her comments on 2Baba and Annie Idibia’s divorce announcement.

    The apology came during a live Instagram session with Daddy Freeze.

    Teebillz explained that he was triggered by Toke’s criticism of 2Baba, stating that family feuds are best left unresolved and that separation can sometimes be the best solution for healing and reworking marriages.

    He also shared his personal experience with divorce from Tiwa Savage, emphasising the importance of giving credit to women and acknowledging the challenges of navigating the entertainment industry.

    He said: “I would like to publicly apologise to Toke. I think my message was misconstrued because, at the end of the day, we are all family. You see, this feminist thing is getting out of hand.

    “My question is, where was she all this while in Annie’s life? You see these reality shows [Young Famous and African], they just want to prey on people’s flaws to make content. Nobody holy pass. When I saw this thing, all I did was pray for this couple because, at the end of the day, who’s going to help who?

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    “This separation is a blessing for Annie and 2Baba to fix themselves. Who knows whether they are coming back together tomorrow? Who are we to choose sides?”

    Teebillz went on to express his views on how people judge others based on personal struggles, adding: “You can’t judge anyhow how they express themselves with something they’ve bottled for years. You can’t come out to say ‘I am ashamed for you.’ When it comes to family feuds, no one wins because I went through the same thing. I gave everything to Tiwa Savage, but the problem we had was the entertainment world.

    “You have to give credit to the women. Every time wey I dey fight for Tiwa, people think I am mad; that’s the mother of my child. When I see my child doing well, I am happy and that’s because of Tiwa.”

  • Why I slammed 2baba over public divorce announcement – Toke Makinwa

    Why I slammed 2baba over public divorce announcement – Toke Makinwa

    Media personality Toke Makinwa has explained her reason for criticizing 2baba after he publicly announced his divorce from his wife, Annie Idibia Macauley, on social media.

    Toke expressed her thoughts on Instagram, stating that while she supports individuals leaving unhealthy marriages, 2baba’s timing was inappropriate.

    According to Toke, there’s more to the story than meets the eye, and 2baba should not have shared the news online, especially considering the intense public scrutiny the couple is already facing.

    She emphasized the importance of empathy and timing, suggesting that 2baba’s actions may have added to the narrative of negativity surrounding the couple.

    Read Also: Toke Makinwa slams 2baba over public announcement of separation

    She wrote: “Nobody is asking anybody to stay in a situation that’s not serving them any purpose anymore. By all means, leave if you just want, but why bring this online at this very moment?

    “We know what’s going on behind closed doors. The world doesn’t know anything; it’s already been hectic with opinions flying around, and when I say we will fight for her, I’m not talking about the general public.

    “A handful of people know the truth and time will tell. Timing is everything. Empathy is everything.

    “You constantly preach love, you cannot add to the narrative that’s out here when you know what is happening behind closed doors”.

  • Single people are not miserable, lonely – Toke Makinwa

    Single people are not miserable, lonely – Toke Makinwa

    Media personality and entrepreneur Toke Makinwa has challenged the widespread notion that single individuals are inherently lonely and unhappy.

    In a post on the social media platform X, Makinwa highlighted the flawed assumption that life revolves around relationships. 

    She emphasised that many single people lead content and fulfilling lives, countering the idea that happiness is tied to being in a relationship.

    Makinwa underscored the value of personal fulfillment, urging people to prioritize their happiness over societal pressures to couple up.

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    Toke wrote: “Beats me how some people think that every single person is lonely, it’ll shock you how content and happy single people are. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to do life with someone but if you don’t find your own purpose you can be with someone and still be lonely.”

    Makinwa called for a mindset shift as the New Year approaches, urging people to stop assuming that single individuals are miserable or lonely.

    “Let that rubbish behaviour of thinking single people are miserable or lonely or sad be left in 2024. There are so many people in horrible situations (whatever you call it) that secretly wish they were alone, so let people be”, she wrote.

  • I spent my 20s following one man – Toke Makinwa 

    I spent my 20s following one man – Toke Makinwa 

    Media personality, Toke Makinwa, has shared her thoughts on her youthful experiences, revealing that she spent her entire 20s focused on a single relationship. 

    Speaking on Cocktails and Takeaways podcast, Makinwa expressed her reservations about her twenties, stating that she didn’t know what she was doing at the time.

    Makinwa reflected on the lessons she learned from that experience, acknowledging that it has shaped her into the person she is today. 

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    However, she advised young people to prioritise self-discovery and figuring themselves out before making long-term commitments like marriage.

    She said: “I don’t think I liked my twenties. I don’t think I knew what I was doing because I was in love with one man in my 20s. I spent my entire 20s following one man.

    “If I could turn back the hand of time, I’m grateful that I’m where I am today because my experience has shaped me.

    “But I tell young people that you have no business getting married in your early or mid-twenties. Figure yourself out. Know yourself first.”