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  • Ikpeazu’s wife greets first Baby of the Year’s mum

    The wife of Abia State governor, Mrs Nkechi Ikpeazu, has congratulated the mother of the first baby born at the Federal Medical Centre (FMC) in Umuahia, the state capital, in the New Year.

    She also urged mothers to raise children with good morals.

    The governor’s wife yesterday presented the baby with gift items and settled the hospital bill to mark the New Year.

    The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that the baby, a male, named Lucky Enyinnaya, was born at 2.39 a.m. to the family of Mr and Mrs Ikechukwu Igbo.

    Enyinnaya weighed 3.1 kilogrammes.

    NAN also reports that Mrs Ikpeazu also presented gift items to the nursing mothers in the Post-Natal Ward of the hospital.

    Mrs Igbo thanked the governor’s wife for her gesture, saying the birth of her child had brought good luck to her family.

    The hospital’s Chief Medical Director (CMD), Dr Abali Chuku, who was represented by Emmanuel Okereke, noted that the baby was the first child of his parents.

    Chuku added that FMC had also presented the baby with gifts.

  • Suspected gunmen kill pensioner, wife in Ilorin

    Unknown assailants have allegedly killed aged couple in Ilorin, the Kwara State capital.

    The gunmen were said to have carried out the dastardly act on Wednesday and dumped their victims’ bodies inside a well.

    The incident, it was gathered happened around Fate area of Ilorin, thus throwing residents of the area into palpable fear.

    However, the state police command said there was no cause for alarm, assuring that men and officers would be on ground to ensure security of lives and property.

     The hoodlums were said to have sneaked into the residence of their victims in the night and attacked the man said to be a pensioner.

    The identity of the man could not be established at press time.

    It was gathered that the man and his wife were shot and later tied with ropes, before being dumped in a nearby well.

    Neighbours  were said to have discovered their corpses after tracing their bloodstains to the well.

    Contacted, the spokesperson of the state police command, Ajayi Okasanmi said: “Its true but we still don’t know who did it and

    whether they were armed robbers or assassins because it was a man that came to the police to report that they had an aged couple living

    within the premises but they could not be found.But after seeing the

    traces of blood, from their section of the house, it led to a well. The police came and after searching the area, the corpses were found

    inside the well, so we called the fire service department and they came to recover the corpses which have now been deposited at the mortuary at UITH.

    “We don’t know whether they were robbers or assassins but they went away with a Toyota Camry belonging to the couple. We are still

    investigating to unravel the mystery but we would like to assure the

    public that the criminals would not escape the long arms of the law.

  • Kidnapped Anglican Priest’s wife regains freedom

    The wife of the General Secretary of the Church of Nigeria, Anglican Communion, Venerable Ayodeji Fagbemi, Florence was on Thursday released by her abductors.
    It was gathered that the victim regained her freedom after her family was able to pay a ransom.
    It was not clear if her family paid the exact amount demanded by the kidnappers.
    Her abductors, who invaded their residence at Oba-Ile Estate in Akure North Local government, on Monday night are demanded N20million ransom for her release.
    The 48 year-old woman, was said to have been released at Ikire, the headquarters of Irewole local government area of Osun State.
    It was however gathered that the kidnappers did not release the victim’s Toyota Jeep in which she was taken away with.
    Her husband, who was the immediate past Provost of the Provost of the Bishop Vining College of Theology in Akure had earlier said the family could not afford the ransom demanded by the kidnappers.
    The source said, “Mrs. Fagbemi has been released in Ikire. I know a ransom was paid but I can’t tell you the amount that was paid as ransom. The family members had gone to bring her down to Akure.
    “Though the woman has been released but the Toyota Jeep that was taken away with her has not been released. The kidnappers told the family that they would release it at a police station. But up till now (Thursday), the jeep is still with them. “
    The Police Public Relations Officer in the state, Mr. Femi Joseph confirmed the development but said he was yet to get the details of the matter as at the press time.

     

  • Husband, wife to hang for murder in Osun

    Justice Adedotun Onibokun of Osun State High Court in Ile-Ife on Wednesday sentenced one Fatai Jimoh and his wife, Lateefat to death by hanging for murder.
    Delivering judgment, Onibokun said the prosecutor had proven his case beyond any reasonable doubt, saying that the convicts were guilty of the three-count charge of murder, conspiracy and armed robbery.
    The judge consequently sentenced the couple to death by hanging for the murder of one Bukola Taiwo at Ikeketu Village near Garage Olode in Ife South Local Government Area of Osun on August 12, 2009.
    The Prosecutor and State Counsel, Mr Moses Faremi, had earlier told the court that the deceased was strangulated by the couple in her rented room and her head was smashed with a sledge hammer.
    He said that after killing the deceased, who was a palm oil seller from Ibadan, the convicts stole her wallet containing the sum of N48, 780.
    Faremi said the offence was contrary to Section (1) 316 Law of Osun State and the Robbery and Firearms (special provision) Act, Cap R11 Law of Federation of Nigeria 2000.
    The convicts were arraigned on a three-count charge of Murder, Conspiracy and Armed Robbery.

  • Wife surprises Wike on birthday 

    Wife surprises Wike on birthday 

    •’He gives people direction’ 

    The guests heard the shofar, a musical instrument. Its sound got louder, holding everyone captive. The player was not some professional musician, but Justice Eberechi Suzzette Nyesom-Wike, wife of Rivers State governor, blaring away.
    A shofar is a simple musical instrument made from a ram’s horn. It is blared as a memorial of glory. It was Mrs. Nyesom-Wike’s unique way of celebrating her husband.
    Justice Nyesom-Wike yesterday morning hosted the governor to a ‘surprise’ birthday celebration.
    The event, at the governor’s official residence, was attended by his friends and associates from the three senatorial districts.
    The modest birthday was marked by prayers, songs of praise and tributes.
    Justice Nyesom-Wike said her husband was a light that God used to shine on people’s path.
    She prayed God to continue to bless him and grant him the best of health and long life.
    “Everything my husband has passed through in life has strengthened him and made him a better person. It is God that gives him the strength to serve humanity with love and courage.
    “I know we shall grow old together. He will continue to succeed in everything he does.”
    Justice Nyesom-Wike went on: “Your name will be popular far beyond the shores of Nigeria. Your popularity will be a worldwide affair. Anywhere you go, they will talk about Nyesom, such that knowing Nyesom will be a diplomatic passport. “
    She described Governor Wike as a loving husband, a caring father and a role model to his children and youths.
    According to her, Wike is a selfless leader who is focused on achieving goals to promote people’s welfare.
    Head of Service Mr. Rufus Godwins said Wike led by example.
    He said the governor was a leader, who led from the front to give the people direction.
    Godwins said: “What happened on Monday was a show of courage by our governor. He is not a retired Army officer or a retired police officer, yet he led his people from the front.”
    He noted that the victory of Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) in the rerun was the best birthday gift for Governor Wike from the people.
    Wike said the birthday gave him the opportunity to rededicate himself to the selfless service of the state and humanity.  He said he would continue to lead the state to greater heights through implementation of quality programmes and projects.
    Wike thanked his wife, children, associates and indigenes for their support, love and prayers.

  • YOU BETTER READ THIS IF YOU DONT WANT TO LOSE YOUR WIFE TO SUGAR BOYS!

    YOU BETTER READ THIS IF YOU DONT WANT TO LOSE YOUR WIFE TO SUGAR BOYS!

    “If you are a man and you don’t want to lose your wifey to sugar boys, you better read this.”

     

    Sex is perfectly natural; it is something that is pleasurable, enjoyable and it enhances a relationship. So why don’t we learn as much as we can about it and become comfortable with ourselves as sexual human beings? Sex is as important as eating or drinking and one ought to allow the one’s appetite to be satisfied with as little restraint or false modesty as others.

     

    Sex in a woman’s world has the same currency a penny has in a man. Every penny saved is a penny earned in one world and in the next; every sexual adventure is a literary experience. Will she wait or has she found a bigger better man already? She might stay with you if you get it right, the reflection of the sex will stay forever in her eyes.

     

    If you are a man and you don’t want to lose your wifey to sugar boys, better read this. Before you can call yourself a real man naturally it is when you can win your partner 3-4 rounds of sex & at least 20minutes before ejaculation as real men do.

     

    Sex is the sauce of life, the ultimate physical ecstasy. It makes the world go round, it enlivens the senses, instills well being and fulfils unexpressed wishes. For men who suffer from impotence, life becomes a nightmare. Men who suffer the disastrous effect of erectile dysfunction know the psychological trauma and hardship associated with this condition, which may be caused by stress, anxiety, certain medicals issues or life style.

     

    Be a strong man with LIBIGAL CAPSULES! Don’t leave her disappointed, charge your sex life, SEX UP YOUR LOVE LIFE & FEEL MORE SATISFIED. For men seeking A path back to normalcy, acceptance of the problem and seeking for help is the first step.

     

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  • Bello’s wife launches pet project

    Wife of the Kogi State Governor, Hajia Rashidat Bello, at the weekend, launched her Direct Reach out Project (DROP) to cater for the vulnerable. The project, which aims to empower 10,000 persons in its first phase under the Kogi Women and Youth Advancement Foundation (KOWYAF), is geared towards reaching out and touching the lives of the people at the grassroots.

    According to Hajia Bello, looking into the innocent faces of children, the downtrodden and the less-privileged, ignites in her the desire to reach out and bring joy to them.

  • Taking a second wife 2

    IN continuation of last week’s article regarding the question asked by a reader whose wife, for some reasons after the birth of their first child, advised her husband to take a second wife because may not be able to conceive again. Her husband is seeking advice on what to do.

    In this edition, we will try to throw more light into the woman’s problem (secondary infertility). This will give us a better understanding of the problem before taking any decision.

    Secondary infertility, as it is known, can happen to anyone. And the fact that you are going through it does not mean that you are alone. The experience can be emotionally painful and stressful for both husband and wife. And it can put strain a relationship if not managed properly.

    Therefore, the way forward is to avoid being irrational, but think through every option and educate yourself on them. You may feel that your situation is a bad one with no remedy. After all, the doctor’s report says there is no way your wife can give you more children. But, have you thought of turning to God for answers? What have you got to lose by doing that?, nothing really, but a lot to gain. Have you pulsed to ask yourself why He allowed this to happen? Listen, God does not give us things or challenges because he wants to teach us a lesson. Rather, things that happen to us are situations that we can handle when we look up to Him and trust Him to see us through, bearing in mind that God’s thought for us are of good, not evil.

    When a situation is beyond you, it is wise to turn to the maker who has the manual to all His creations. This may be a test for your family to have a testimony at the end. Some will say, why bring religion into it, but my question is who gives children? If your answer is God, what is wrong with taking your situation to Him? Moreover, if you are considering your wife’s suggestion of taking a second wife, it will be nice for you to know a few things that come with such decision.

    The coming of a second wife, no matter how you try, even if you have enough resources to take care of them, will affect your relationship with your wife, who you claimed you still love. Attention and affection, whether you like it or not, will shift to the new wife. It is only natural; despite the fact that your first wife has had you for the past 36 years.

    A second woman, of course will come with her own expectations, which you must try to meet. She deserves all the attention and care, especially since she is a new wife and because you are human. No matter how much you try, there are going to be instances where you will unconsciously be hurting your first wife without even knowing it.

    The love you profess may begin to fade because there is someone else who also needs your love and attention. Remember that you cannot to forget your daughter. Her interest must also be put into consideration, because any decision you make will affect her.

    Another option you may want to consider is adoption. The days when such issues are not discussed are long gone. These days, a lot of homes, with or without biological children, are helping humanity and putting smiles and joy into to the lives of children by taking them into their homes as their own children. Many homes have been blessed through this means. You must know that it does not necessary follow that you have to be the biological parents to a child for the child to be yours.

    Adoption connects people through love; and love is one of the strongest emotions known to man. Try and get information on the issue of adoption. You can read and ask questions, because it will be nice to be well-informed in case you decide to do so. Knowledge is power.

    In addition, couples are advised to undergo private counseling with a professional, in order to help them understand the transition and be able to deal with infertility related issues. All these will be effective when discussed as a couple. So, therefore it will be nice to talk with your wife, and together, both of you can reach a conclusion on what will be most suitable for your family.

    Marriage is a work in progress.

    Finally, when difficulties come our way, we must learn not to focus on the problem, but instead seek help on how to deal with it.

    Take care of each other

     

    Harriet Ogbobine is a counselor and a motivational speaker. Send your questions and suggestions to her on her blog; www.liwh.com.ng or bineharriet@gmail.com text message only 08054682598. You can also follow her on twitter @bineharrietj  instagram harrietogbobine

  • Court dismisses N500m suit against Metuh, wife for assault

    A High Court of the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) in Maintama, Abuja has dismissed a N500million suit brought against former Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) spokesman Olisa Metuh, his wife, Kanayo and their security aide, Oche Gambo.

    Justice Folashade Ojo held that the plaintiffs – the management of an Abuja-based private school – British Nigerian Academy (formerly attended by Metuh’s son, Derrick) and two of its staff – Kola Pele (Vice Principal) and Hamzat Maftau (a teacher) failed to prove their case against the defendants.

    The plaintiffs sued Metuh and others for allegedly forcing themselves into the school on February 19, 2011 and assaulting Pele and Maftau for allegedly confiscating Derrick’s mobile telephone.

    The plaintiffs prayed the court to declare among others, that the defendants’ actions on February 19, 2011 at the school amounted to trespass and unlawful entry.

    The urged the court to award N500million damages against the defendants.

    Justice Ojo resolved the three issues for determination against the plaintiffs, adding that they failed to provide sufficient evidence to prove their case.

    On whether the presence of the defendants in the school premises on the day of the incident was unlawful, as claimed by the plaintiffs, the judge noted that the plaintiffs, even though pleaded the school’s newsletter (which they claimed contained notices of students’ relatives’ visiting days) they neglected to tender it in evidence.

    Justice Ojo held that the only inference one could draw from plaintiff’s failure to tender the newsletter, which was necessary to prove their claim of trespass, was because its content did not support their case.

    The judge held that the plaintiffs could not prove that the defendants were in the school premises, on the day of the incident, unlawfully as the plaintiffs failed to prove that claim.

    “It was a staff of the first plaintiff (Miss. Amauche Igbe) that seized the phone from the secon defendant and handed over same to the second plaintiff. The said Miss. Amauche Igbe did not testify in this case and no reason was given for her failure to testify.

    “In the face of the denial of the plaintiffs’ case by the defendants, I am of the view that the failure of the plaintiffs to call any other witnesses is very fatal to their case. The plaintiffs’ evidence is that other people were present when the assault took place. The people include the staff and students of the school.

    “In the present circumstance, I am of the view that the plaintiffs have failed to prove, by preponderance of evidence, that they were assaulted by the defendants on the day in question.

    “The alleged misconduct of the defendants, which allegedly brought pains, harassment, etc to the plaintiffs has not been proved.

    “In conclusion, I find that the plaintiffs have failed to prove their case against the defendants and same is dismissed in its entirety,” Justice Ojo said.

  • Taking a second wife

    Dear Harriet, we have been married for 36 years now and blessed with a daughter. Medical report confirms that my wife is infertile. As a result of this, she asked me to marry a second wife. I love my wife, but the question is,  should I marry a second wife?  I need your counsel. Please help me.

    Name  witheld, Abuja.

    36 years of marriage is not a piece of cake.  Congratulations to you and your wife for keeping it together and thanks for sharing your story. In our world today, a great number of our young couples spend a lot to have glamorous weddings, but it will amaze you to know that, only a few understand or are willing to accept the fact that marriage is not a bed of roses. Marriage comes with a lot of responsibilities and challenges which only those who are working together as a team and trusting God towards the progress of their union can handle.

    However, some marriages are faced with myriads of challenges  that push  some couples to contemplate going their separate ways.  Some actually quit  the moment they are faced with  challenges, forgetting that marriage is not man’s invention but a divine institute ordained by God. It is a union of a man and a woman in total mutual self-giving and commitment for life.

    Your situation deserves proper analysis for a clearer understanding of the gravity of the case at hand before taking any decision. It’s unfortunate that I don’t have a detailed information about the whole issue because your wife’s aspect is not stated and the doctor’s finding or report about the cause of the infertility after a first child was not mentioned as well.  Anyway, a situation like this does occur, therefore, you are not alone in it.

    There are a number of factors that can contribute to secondary infertility; that is inability to conceive or carry a child to term after having a first child. Perhaps,  the most common problem is age.  The older a person is,  the more challenging it is to become pregnant. As a woman approaches 30 years of age in some cases for instance, her hormone level begins  to decline and her fertility will also start to gradually decline. This happens at  a higher rate after 35 years of age. Added to the age factor is the aspect of menopause which is a stage every  woman must experience when the time comes.

    Nature often takes its natural course. Some women start experiencing premenopausal very early before the actual issue, while some get to the stage later.  Menopause marks the end of a woman natural ability to bear children. The age varies from 40 years to mid 50s. Other causes are hormonal imbalances, structural abnormalities, and unexplained infertility.

    As difficult as it may be to accept, the reality is that a woman having such medical report together with her husband will experience the same emotional trauma like couples who are waiting for a first child.  Comments like they should be grateful that they are blessed with a daughter and many are out there praying for a child,  in a situation like this, doesn’t take away their longing for another child.

    For a woman to suggest that her husband should marry a second wife because of her situation speaks volume and must not be taken for granted. May be she couldn’t  take the internal/ external pressures that come with it any more.  It could also be that she has resigned  herself to fate or she could feel that, that  could make her husband happy. This happens mostly if the husband  is always talking about the issue and how he wishes they could have more children.

    The pain and frustration will simply overwhelm her sense of reasoning. She might be experiencing emotional isolation; the feeling of being in it  alone since she is the one with the problem.  The feeling of blame and guilt will set in and if not handled properly, can lead to anger, jealousy and resentment not to forget low self esteem that comes with the feeling of not being good enough.

    This can take a serious toll on the marriage. Your type of marriage is a importance here. For example, if it is a Christian marriage the thought of a second wife is not acceptable at all because on your wedding day you vowed to remain loyal and faithful to each other still death puts you apart. Taking a second wife under in this circumstance can be a huge challenge. It is only in few situations that you would have two women living amicable.  No woman who is very intimate with her husband in a good relationship will want to share him  with another woman no matter the situation. Although,  some might see it as not being fair but what if the situation was the other way round? In life, no matter how tough a situation is,  we should learn to always picture ourselves  in the other person’s position before we pass judgment.  To be continued

    Take care of yourself and each other.

     

    Harriet Ogbobine is a counselor and a motivational speaker. Send your questions and suggestions to her on her blog; www.liwh.com.ng or bineharriet@gmail.com text message only 08054682598. You can also follow her on twitter @bineharrietj instagram harrietogbobine