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  • ‘My wife was disvirgined right in my presence’

    “I dated my girl for three years without sex. For her, I decided to remain celibate because she wasn’t ready for it.

    After our Traditional marriage, she still refused and wouldn’t let me touch her at all.

    We however fixed our wedding date. On my bachelor’s eve, my friends were around with their girlfriends.

    I really wanted to have my woman to myself that night and I spoke to her about it but she turned me down as usual and begged me to wait a little longer. I agreed after all, we would be married soon.

    At last D-DAY finally came and I was waiting patiently for the wedding ceremony to be over.

    At 6pm, we were home relaxing. I called  my wife and asked that we  take a shower together, she said she was shy and cannot come. I didn’t force her.

    She however had her bath first and I had mine later. When I finished, I came out to meet my wife asleep.

    I joined her in bed, kissed her and she woke up. I’m not even sure she was really asleep. I started making advances because I really needed it. I had waited for too long.

    My beloved wife started crying and begging me to wait till nightfall, that she needed to get some rest and when she wakes up, I’ll do all I so desire to do with her. I couldn’t hold it anymore but I managed to control the urge.

    At about 9pm or there about, we heard a knock on the door, and the person behind said he had come to drop a parcel sent to us by my mother.

    I went to get the door and I was shocked to see five armed men in mask.

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    I begged them not to harm us. They asked for money but we had no money at home, after all we just got married.

    To cut the story short, these men took turns in raping my wife.

    She got disvirgin by the first right in front of me. Right in my own eyes.

    I couldn’t bear it. I cried as I watched those heartless men force themselves on my wife.

    They didn’t leave her until she was unconscious. After the entire tragedy, I called neighbours and we rushed her to the hospital.

    After two days, she regained consciousness. I made sure she was fine.

    But really guys, I cannot forget that day, My wife was disvirgined right in my presence.

    I can’t touch her no more, i don’t even crave for her anymore.

    I cannot live with her anymore. I want to file a divorce already. What would you advise me to do?”

     

     

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  • Kidnapped commissioner’s wife, kids regain freedom

    The wife and children of Alhaji Abdullahi Gurbin-Bore, the Zamfara state Commissioner of Youths, Sport and Skills Acquisition, kidnapped by some unidentified gunmen on May 2, have regained their freedom, Commissioner of Police Mr Kenneth Ebrimson, has said.

    Ebrimson spoke in Gusau yesterday while displaying the bodies of four  bandits killed by the police.

    The bandits were not connected with the kidnapping.

    Ebrimson said the four suspected bandits were killed during the exchange of fire with the police while attempting to attack Kekawa village in Tsafe local government.

    He said the Divisional Police Officer of Tsafe Division received a distress call that bandits in large number invaded the village.

    “The Police and vigilance groups led by the DPO of Tsafe division engaged the bandits in a gun duel where four bandits were killed and others escaped with possible wounds.

    “We recovered exhibits from them including two locally-made guns, one pump action, five live cartridges and assorted charms”, he said.

    The wife, three children and three relatives of Gurbin-Bore were abducted by   gunmen on May 2 at his home town Gurbin-Bore in Zurmi local government area of the state.

    The CP said: “I am happy to announce to you this evening that the kidnapped wife, children and relatives of the state commissioner for Youths Sport and Skills Acquisition, Abdullahi Gurbin-Bore who were kidnapped 31 days ago have regained freedom.

    “No kobo was paid to bandits before they released the victims, saying that, they were released due to the pressure given to them by  the police and other security agencies”,

    Alhaji Abdullahi Gurbin-Bore also confirmed to NAN that all the kidnapped victims had returned home.

    The Police Commissioner decried the increase in informant activities in the state especially int rural communities.

    He claimed the informants were the people giving the criminals information, thus increasing crimes in the state.

  • Wife seeks dissolution of 24 year-old-marriage

    …says there’s no more love

    A house wife, Salamat Aladejobi on Tuesday asked a Customary Court sitting in Oye-Ekiti in Ekiti to dissolve her 24 year-old-marriage to her husband, Kadri Aladejobi due to lack of love.

    The petitioner, in her application for divorce, told the court that her husband was very fetish, saying that she was no longer in love with him.

    She said the union contracted according to Islamic rite, had produced four grown up children.

    She claimed that her husband was in the habit of assaulting her without any provocation, saying that all attempt by family members to intervene had proved abortive

    Salamat urged the court to grant her application for dissolution of her marriage.

    The respondent, who denied the allegations, told the court that he was not contesting the application for divorce.

    President of the Court, Mr Rasak Balogun however, adjourned the case to June 12 for judgment.

  • Lagos SSG, wife bid tearful bye to ‘dear dad’

    The remains of the founder of Ibidapo Contracting Services Limited, Chief Meshack Ibidapo, were buried last Friday at Atan Private Cemetery in Yaba, Lagos, after a funeral service at the African Church Arch Cathedral Bethel, Broad Street, Lagos. OLATUNDE ODEBIYI writes.

    Tears flowed freely last Friday as the remains of the founder of Ibidapo Contracting Services Limited, Chief  Meshack Ibidapo were buried at Atan Private Cemetery in Yaba, Lagos State.

    The late Chief Ibidapo, was the father-in-law to the Lagos Secretary to the State Government (SSG), Tunji Bello.

    The late Chief Ibidapo was buried about 3:19 pm. He died on April 3. He was 89.

    Chief Ibidapo worked with Barclays Bank (now Union Bank Plc). He was married to Jadesola on February 15, 1951 and had eight children. He was born on November 7, 1928 into the family of late Pa Samuel Ibidapo Okunrinboye and Deborah Ibidapo (nee Ogunbadewa).  He has royalty flowing in him from both the paternal and maternal sides. From the paternal side, he is part of the esteemed Olokubobade family of Owo. The Okunrinboye axis is just one of the five branches of the tree holding the Olokubobade royal pedigree.

    Dignitaries, including wife of the Lagos State Governor, Mrs Bolanle Ambode;  Leader, House of Representatives, Femi Gbajabiamila and mother of the Senate President, Morenike Saraki attended the funeral.

    Others were the Chief Executive Officer/Managing Director, Vintage Press Limited, publishers of The Nation, Victor Ifijeh; the Executive Director, Finance and Administration, Ade Odunewu and Editor, Daily, Gbenga Omotoso; Vice Chancellor, Lagos State University (LASU), Prof Olanrewaju Fagbohun and Femi Falana (SAN), among others.

    The ceremony began last Wednesday with service of songs at the deceased home; while the wake was held at Eko Club in Surulere on Thursday.

    At the burial service held at the African Church ArchCathedral Bethel, Broad Street, Lagos on Friday, the Bishop of Ife/Oshogbo Diocese of the African Church, Rt Rev IlesanmiAdekunle, in his sermon said Ibidapo died at a good old age, adding that he lived a good life.

    The cleric said: “Baba lived a fulfilled life. I learnt a lot from him, there was never a dull moment in his life and I always went to him to get refreshed. He touched the lives of many; the wake was full of testimonials of the good life he lived. ”

    The cleric described the late Ibidapo as a man who encouraged and supported all, adding that he benefited greatly from him.

    All roads leading to Eko Club in Surulere, the venue of the reception, were filled as a result of the ceremony.  It took the intervention of the various security officials, including the Lagos State Traffic Management Authority (LASTMA), to coordinate traffic. Many of the guests walked under the hot sun to the venue. They left their drivers to continue in the traffic. The hall was filled. The hall decoration was classy. It was a time to eat, dine and dance as the live band dished out songs to guests’ delight. Each of the the late Chief Ibidapo’s children had their session to dance, as they were joined by families and friends.

    Fagbohun said the late Ibidapo was a man of character and  integrity.”I thank God for the life he lived.  He passed that character of integrity to his children and he lived a life that is worthy of emulation for this generation. Baba left resounding legacies of transparency and kindness. He was a good man and everyone has been saying good things about him,” the VC said.

    Bello said the deceased was a father to him. ”To me, he was not a father in-law, he was my father.  He was a great man and I learnt a lot from him. When he was alive, one would never know if he was rich or not. He was a simple man and for that reason, I admired him.

    “He was a man that lived within his means and he taught us not to live outside what we can afford.  He was a generous giver.

    “Most of my children grew up with him; he took care of many people’s children and they are all doing fine today.  There was no one who met him and would not have something to learn from him. He distinguished himself in all things and he always thought about the lives of others and he took good care of all his workers. I will miss him because there is no one to advise me again like he does. No one to tell me things the way they are,” he said.

    Pa Ibidapo’s first child, Captain  Samuel Ibidapo (rtd), a pilot, said his father was a strong man.” His life is worthy of emulation. He gave all his children the best education and we are all well to do in our various fields. He was a philanthropist. I will miss him for his fatherly advice. He was a man I could always go to anytime I needed advice. He taught us to be upright, devoted in our work and to save for the rainy day and not spend all your earnings.

    Wife of Tunji Bello, Prof Ibiyemi, the sixth child of the deceased, said her father was loving and cared for the family.

    “We never lacked anything. He made sure his children are educated and he encouraged us to aspire to be great. He encouraged us to excel in life and be able to stand on our own; he was a cheerful giver and a wonderful man.

    “He taught us integrity, he taught us to know that we must never owe anybody. He taught us so many things about life and, all his words to us have made us who we are today.

    “I will miss him a lot, for his love and generosity. He left legacies of integrity, love, truthfulness and to be a cheerful giver.”

    A son in-law to the deceased, Bode Dawodu, a civil servant, said his father in-law was a generous man that has his family in mind.

    He said: “He will always advise us; he took all of us in-laws as his own children.  He is a giver and a lover of all. He was a man everyone can trust and hold on to.”

     

  • ‘My dad threatened to disown me if i ever legalise my marriage’

    “I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my current husband and then the issue of marriage came up.

    I wasn’t working then. He told my family and I that he doesn’t want a court marriage for no reason.

    My parents tried talking to him, I cried and begged him severally to legalize his marriage with me but he stood his grounds not to wed me in a court.

    I involved his family members to help me beg him but they said, he’s old enough to make his decisions.

    He even refused to do a white wedding either because my church requested for a court certificate, so we ended up doing only traditional marriage.

    I later got tired and gave up on the matter. I was hurt and broken but I resolved to marry him like that just to save myself and my family the shame of having a baby outside wedlock.

    My dad was angry and disappointed in him but he didn’t care and because of that my dad vowed to see me a successful and independent woman with or without him.

    After I gave birth to my baby, my dad helped me secure a job with a multinational company and things started to turn around for me.

    I could now take care of myself and secure a future.

    Though I married my husband but I never forgave him from my heart and it made me not to do anything in my husband’s name.

    We currently have three kids together but all my properties are in the name of my children. I never used him as my next of kin either.

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    Just last month my company decided to transfer me to a branch in Texas and the company is willing to pay for my entire family to relocate with me.

    My husband’s business is not doing too well and he’s willing to relocate also but we have no legal certificate to show that we are married.

    Now he wants us to go to the court to legalize our marriage and I have said “No” My dad has threatened to disown me if I ever go with him to court.

    He’s been tagging me everywhere as a bad wife who is not loyal to her husband, spoiling my family also.

    He’s family members have been calling me trying to persuade me but I told them I’m old enough to make my decisions also and I have stood my ground just like he did to me nine years ago.”

    What is your advice for this young mother of three?

     

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  • Wife to court: my husband beats me daily

    A middle age woman, Mrs Grace Okunwa, yesterday told a Customary Court sitting in Agege that her husbands, Macaulay Okunwa, beats her every day.

    Grace spoke while reacting to the petition filed against her by her husband seeking dissolution of their marriage.

    Grace, who also urged the court to dissolve her marriage to Macaulay for alleged domestic violence, told the court that she was fed up with the respondent’s attitude towards her.

    “My husband is adulterous, not trustworthy and dangerous; he beats me at every slight opportunity, even in front of our children and neighbours to the extent that I got injured on my legs My husband deceived me. He is dating one Theresa who lives not too far from our house but keeps denying it,” she said.

    Grace also raided her shop and destroyed expensive goods.

    “I want peace and l don’t want any problem in my life,” she said.

    She urged the court to end the marriage as she was no longer in love with him.

    The petitioner was absent in court.

    Grace said she moved out of their matrimonial home with three of her grown up children.

    The President of the court, Ibironke Elabor, adjourned the case till May 15.

     

  • ‘I killed my master, wife for refusing to settle me’

    An apprentice, Okwudili Okoro, has said he killed his master, Azubuike Okoro and wife, Jacinta, when they were eating.

    Last Saturday, Okwudili and his accomplice stormed the home of his master, a relation of his, brought out two cutlasses hidden under clothes and hacked him to death.

    Okwudili, who is in the police net, said he killed his brother and wife because he refused to ‘settle’ him after completing the presumably-agreed three years’ apprenticeship.

    The Nation learnt that he and his accomplice, Kenneth, fled the scene.

    It was gathered that following a report by a resident, Joseph Nwagu, at Sango Police Division, Okwudili was arrested.

    Police spokesman Abimbola Oyeyemi confirmed the incident in a statement yesterday.

    He said the bodies had been taken to the General Hospital, Ota mortuary, for post mortem.

    “Police Commissioner Ahmed Iliyasu has directed that the suspect be transferred to the Homicide Section of the State Criminal Investigation and Intelligence Department for investigation,” Oyeyemi added.

  • I’m proud of you, AY tells wife

    Popular comedian, actor and filmmaker, Ayo Makun, popularly known as AY has a profound admiration for his wife who won the ‘Nigeria Women Achievers Awards 2018’, at the Nigeria Entrepreneurs Award held last Sunday.

    The comedian who posted his wife’s picture and the plaque given at the event wrote; “Congratulations to @midas_interiors for winning the Nigeria Women Achievers Awards 2018! I am proud of you!”

    Midas Interior Ltd is a company run by Mabel Makun, which offers a variety of home and office related interior design services.

    Mabel has also taken to her Instagram to thank those who took time out of their busy schedule to vote for her. “A big thank you to God the Nigerian Women Achievers awards and every single person that took out time to vote”.

    According to report, Nigeria Entrepreneurs Award this year was rated as the most reputable business award in Nigeria.

    The rating was done by an online poll conducted by SJ Consulting Limited. According to the organisers of the online poll, Nigeria Entrepreneurs Award and other award platforms were monitored across social media.

  • Osinbajo, wife, Tinubu, Aregbesola, Fayose, Akande, Daniel, others bid Alake’s father-in-law farewell

    High profile dignitaries including the Vice President, Prof Yemi Osinbajo; his wife, Dolapo; National Leader All Progressives Congress (APC),  Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu; Osun State Governor,  Rauf Aregbesola;  his Ekiti counterpart, Ayo Fayose; former governor of Osun State and former interim national chairman of APC Bisi Akande;  yesterday witnessed the funeral  ceremony of the father-in –law to a former Commissioner of Information and Startegy in Lagos State, Mr Dele Alake, Pa Emmanuel Elegbede.

    A former governor of Ogun State, Otuba Gbenga Daniel and ex-Minister of State for Defence, Mr Musiliu Obanikoro attended the funeral service held at Araromi Baptist Church on Moloney Street, Lagos Island yesterday.

    The list also include the Secretary to the Lagos State Government, Tunji Bello; Commissioner for Information and Strategy, Kehinde Bamigbetan, his wife Fatima; Managing Director/ Editor-in-Chief, Vintage Press Limited, publishers of The Nation, Victor Ifijeh; the Daily Editor of the newspaper, Gbenga Omotoso;  Managing Director/ Editor-in-Chief, Vanguard Newspaper, Gbenga Adefaye; Managing Director, News Agency of Nigeria, Mr Bayo Onanuga; ex- Commissioner for Finance,Lagos State, Wale Edun; popular lawyer and human rights activist, Femi Falana (SAN); a former senator representing Lagos West, Tokunbo Afikuyomi; Chief Executive Officer, Lagos State Ferry Services, Paul Kalejaiye and Hon Daniel Kalejaiye, among others.

    In his sermon, Rev Shola Idowu  urged the children to follow the footsteps of their father.

    He described Elegbede as a man that lived for the service of God, nothing that his life his worthy of emulation.

    “Baba has died and has gone to rest in the bosom of the Lord. We all will die someday. We must live for God.”

    Pa Elegbede was buried at Vaults and Gardens in Ikoyi. He was 89. Guests were later entertained at  Harbour Point on Victoria Island.

    Until his retirement, he was on the board of directors of both Vono Plc  and Nipol Plc. He is survived by his wife, Elizabeth, children,  grandchildren and great grandchildren.

    Osinbajo described Elegbede as a good man whose life is worthy of emulation.

    He urged his children to emulate the good life their father lived, saying he has gone to rest in the Lord.

    “The last time I saw him he was still strong and I never knew he would be leaving us so soon.”

    Bamigbetan said Elegbede showed love to all those around him

    “He encouraged his children to show kindness to everyone and many of them are doing so up till today. He was committed Christian that lived a good Christian life. He was compassionate.”

    Alake said his father in law was a detailed and organised man, adding that he lived a good and outstanding life.”

    “He wrote with his hand writing his biography and the order of his obituary.  He organised his passage and we are doing today what he wrote down. He wrote down the names and phone numbers of those he want us to contact when he takes his last breath. He wrote down names of individuals, institutions, organisation and clubs.

    “He had the details of all his children and grandchildren. He has details of me more than I do of myself.”

    He added that his father- in- law left with them the legacy to be meticulous, accountable,  transparent, serious and jovial.

    Elegbede’s first daughter, Abosede Adebiyi said her father was a loving and caring husband and father.  “He was disciplined, God fearing and he brought us up in the way of the Lord. He taught us how to be well organized and that in whatever we want to achieve in life, we have to dream about it, write it down in a paper and follow what we have written down.”

    She added that he was a jovial father, he was disciplined and he made sure all his children were well educated.  “He took good care of us all and the extended family. He is a powerful man and always encouraged us to know God is on our side. He was a man of many parts.

    “He taught us honestly and made sure all his children are organised.  He has records of all his children. I pity my mother more because she will miss him much more. They have been together for 66 years. His legacies of honesty and organisation will live on for life in us”.

  • Wife: he’s starving me of sex

    COMPLAINING of being starved of sex by her husband, a 35-year-old businesswoman, Mrs Bilikisu Azeez, yesterday asked an Igando Customary Court to dissolve her five-year-old marriage.

    “Please dissolve this union so that I can move on with my life, my body is not wood or stone,” the woman told the court.

    She said her husband, Olusesi Azeez, starved her of sex for more than two years, adding that this is affecting her health.

    “My husband has been starving me of sex since he married his youngest wife, he has turned me to an abandoned property.

    “I have been falling sick in and out of hospital, during my last visit to the hospital, I was told that it was because I have had sex for long that is why I experience frequent sickness.”

    She also accused her husband of not caring for her and the only child of their marriage, saying “my husband does not take care of me, I feed and clothe myself.

    “He refused to enrol our only child, who is over four years old in school and has failed to pay his medical bills; I always run to my mother for the hospital bill.”

    Bilikisu, who also accused her husband of battery, said he once beat her up in the public.

    According to her, the trouble started when her husband married another woman.

    She added: “There was joy, love and peace in the house until he came with another wife, who has been fighting me also.”

    In his response, Azeez agreed that he starved his wife of sex, saying: “She once denied me of sex and since then I abandoned her. Yes, I starved her of sex, it is tit for tat because there was a day I entered her room to sleep with her and she left the bed to sleep on the floor.

    “I made an attempt eight times to sleep with her, but she refused. So since that day, I just put her aside after all she is not the only wife I have’’.

    The 45-year-old building contractor agreed to the dissolution of the union, saying : “I am no longer interested in the marriage.”

    The court’s President, Mr Akin Akinniyi, after listening to the estranged couple, advised them to explore a possible reconciliation of the crisis.

    He fixed judgement for April 12.