Category: New Woman

  • Hustling for emotional space

    THE emotional space is as competitive as any business environment you can imagine. Faced with that reality, it is always better to make sure that the one that you are attracted to get value for the emotions that they would be giving to you. You just have to put yourself constantly in your partner shoes to appreciate what you do or have left undone.

    Conversely, accepting a situation that is anything other than what you truly want in a relationship will not only make you unhappy, it will also keep you tied to someone who is not right for you. So, really ask yourself what kind of relationship you want before you become involved with a man and the chemistry starts to cloud your vision.

    Adunni and Tolu had courted for about seven months and they got along pretty well. During this period, the two lovebirds discovered some of the things they shared in common and hoped that the relationship was going to lead them to the altar. Just when Adunni thought she had found the man of her dream, the dream was aborted.

    How did things fall apart? you ask. A few weeks before the discovery, Adunni paid Tolu a surprise visit in the office. That was in order; it sometimes gives you direction and you would find out if you are on the right emotional track or not.

    How did the bubble burst? Our dear friend who was still day-dreaming an emotional adventure ran into another competitor who, surprisingly, had won the emotional crown. “I found them together in a very uncompromising way and I began to ask some questions.”

    So, did she get answers to these questions? Not really. “Tolu simply introduced the lady as his fiancée.” No apologies! For a few seconds she felt as if her heart had stopped. This relationship had caused her so much harm in the past and this certainly was the last straw. Gradually, she gained composure, got her car keys, ran out of the office and sat inside the car for a few minutes.

    It was very cold and she was lonely and alone. All kinds of things started riveting in her mind. Cars were revving as everyone was in a hurry to get out of the car park and then she finally found her way out of the mess (physical and emotional).

    Like Adunni, Nnamdi is in a deep emotional mess. He was supposed to meet his fiancée, Matilda, in the restaurant at 5 pm. The traffic was really bad and somehow he was a little late. He finally found his way into the restaurant panting and almost breathless. A few seconds after, he felt better and looked for her in their usual corner.

    To his surprise, she wasn’t around. That was quite unlike her and he decided to call her on phone. The line was dead and so he decided to wait for his sweetheart.

    With his laptop opened in front of him, he happily slipped into a happy reverie of all their moments. The things they had shared. The words she had said; he had turned out to be quite the poet.

    In that few minutes, he tried to work on some of the pending mails in his inbox. Here, he found a note from his beloved, Matilda. “I can’t make it as promised. I am a bit confused about this relationship. Please, I need some time to think about it all. Sorry for whatever inconveniences this might cause you.”

    At this point, he knew that something new must have happened; after all they spoke about an hour ago. So where do we go from here? Should he really give her another chance or start thinking of a plan B?

    It is important to know how to interpret your partner’s mood from time to time. Usually, when a man or woman acts withdrawn, that is a signal that the person is undergoing an emotional process and needs time to recharge.

    Women tend to think that if things are going well with a guy, that he will naturally want to move things forward to the next level. They’ll just assume this even when the guy has never talked about the future.

    Things will be coasting along, and suddenly the guy will change gears, she’ll find out he’s dating other women, or he doesn’t make plans with her every weekend, and she’s left wondering what the heck happened.

    The answer is that the woman created all these expectations about what the relationship was supposed to look like and how he was supposed to behave, and when he fell short of that, she became disappointed and unfulfilled. This usually winds up in a confrontation that causes tension and maybe even creates more distance.

    When the emotional matter is more than a fling, then you would discover that it can be very devastating to handle. So the next question is how you survive during the hurting period. The crux of the matter is that it can be really tough but you just have to be determined to move on and create a better emotional space for the future.

  • Solutions to real life relationship issues

    Solutions to real life relationship issues

    Thought for the week.

    Why are men nowadays treating ladies as if they themselves have no dignities? I have had a lot of complaints about men running the other way as soon as you allow them to sleep with you. As long as you don’t open your legs for them, they will for the most part treat you like a “Gem”! The moment you do, you are just another “used good” to them. My concern is:-

    (a) Are men doing this for their own selfish interest?

    (b) Are they treating women this way because too many goods are chasing little money, meaning, the law of demand and supply had been exhausted to the extent that too many women are now chasing too few men, hence we have an “inflation” of women.

    (c) Is it that the men are doing this because the women are not able to satisfy them sexually in bed, so they keep seeking and looking all around for ladies to fulfil fully their sexual greed?

    (d) Is it that women have so much cheapen themselves, since there is a believe any ways that an average woman is smarter than an average man, women are now using their so called “smartness” to scam men, men even though they are not as smart as their women counterparts are now waking up to the reality of what some women are doing to them, it’s now payback time.

    (e) Do the women see the men sleeping with them as a means for asking for material things and forms of gratification? This creates a negative impression on the minds of the men and ultimately pushes them away from the women folk. Ultimately, they are not able to differentiate between a woman of quantity and a woman of quality.

    Men of Quantity will find it difficult to appreciate a woman of quality, no matter how rich or educated the man is!

    Sadly, both are losing out greatly and it’s affecting everybody both young and old.

    Dear Princess,

    I am a man of God, aged 54 who is pastoring awhite garment church. I have a wife (aged 46), who is so suspicious that I have women friends and girlfriends outside our home. She has not always been like this; she used to be a loving and caring woman. When we met several years ago, we were inseparable lovebirds. We grew up in the remote town of Ilesha. We attended the same elementary and high schools, people had always been linking us together as husband and wife right from those our school days, our families became very close because of our relationship. Even though she was a quiet and reserved person, I was her best friend and she was always comfortable around me. When I started my ministerial workher mentality has always been negative when it comes to men in white garments. Most times our communicationturns out to quarrels and misunderstandings because of her mind-set on men in white garments. Princess, I am able to advise and assist couples when they have conflicts in their relationship or marriage but I am finding it difficult to solve my own marital issues. I am an extrovert and she is an introvert. She loves staying lonely without talking to anybody. She is not really fat and tall but she knows and people do confess that I am a handsome man. To me personally, women, ladies, girls do approach me a lot but I don’t have that kind of emotion or affection for them because of my ministerial work. I just have the beginning of any approach but I don’t have the finishing when it comes to female relationships. I have tried all my possible best to satisfy her in every way as a husband but all to no appreciation. The wife-husband relationship is not there. Most times we can stay together without any communication for hours or even days. It is only when I am feeling hungry that I do talk to her, even most time I will plead for my food but she will be sleeping while I take my food by myself. As at now, she is not working, trading or neither doing anything to keep busy. Sometimes, she is so abusive and do curse with a little or no provocation. I am the one carrying all the responsibility of the home. Even our children have known what is going on between us. We have three girls aged 20, 13 and 9. This problem has started affecting our children. I have played all my fatherly and husband role but her response is futile. She is somebody who eats and sleeps a lot. I have tried all my possible best to satisfy her emotion and affection but it is futile. People have talked to her severally to cooperate but she is not blending. I built a shop for her to be trading, she let out the shop. I have settled her for trading many times but at the end of day nothing came out of it. Every responsibility of the two of us has turned to my shoulders alone. Even she always punishes me on bed sexually; thinking and saying that I have sex with every woman outside, but the nature of ministry do not permit such nonsense. She doesn’t trust me in anything I do and she is not supportive. She is used to begging for money from me all the time which I do refuse some times. I have talked to her mother; some of her family and

    relatives but all is futile.

    The wife-motherly role is not there. In such a case like this, what would you advice and counsel me before I make up my mind and set out to take any decision.

    Anonymous.

    Dear Anonymous,

    There is a saying “physicians cannot heal themselves”. It is a known fact that most people can solve other people’s problems but when faced with similar situations they find it almost difficult to solve their own problems.

    My first question to you is that do you still love your wife? Is it possible you rekindle what you shared at the beginning of your relationship?

    What most couples fail to realise is that as we grow up, get busy with our different ways of finding our daily bread, couples will sometimes drift apart. Knowing this, it is important for you to call your wife, ask her what is bothering her. Mind you, she might not be able to put her hands on it, but if you are lucky and she is able to, then your problem is solved.

    You are a pastor,you are supposed to set examples for your followers, when you married this woman, it was for better ,for worse. If you are telling me the truth that you are not cheating on her, then the marriage can be helped. But, if you are not been honest with me and you do cheat on your wife, which is not unlike most men, then both the yam and knife are in your hands.

    I want you to try this, Date your wife for the next four weeks. How do you date your own wife? If you are gifted, write her a poem, if not buy her a card that expresses your feelings for her, Next, what does she like the most? Cloths, jewellery, money? Whatever it is that she likes, this you give her with the card on the 31st.

    As a pastor I know you hardly have time to romance and spend time with your wife, but if you want to recapture this marriage, you will need to romance your wife again. Once a week for the next four weeks, take her to a nice restaurant and show her that you care. Now after doing all this and some more, meaning it of course, see if in between if she will open up to you. Have in mind that you are doing all this because you still love her, your three daughters and you want to do everything in your power as the head of your family and ministry to make your marriage work. If you don’t love her anymore and you do not feel the marriage is worth saving then do not bother with this approach, but am sure you want to save this marriage else you will not have seek help.

    As a woman and from how you described your wife’s attitude nowadays, she appears to have given up on you and the marriage. Knowing how busy a pastoral work can be,am sure she feels neglected and unappreciated. It is up to you to bring her into your world; it is up to you to let her know that she is “part” of you and not “apart” from you. After trying my recommendations, create an avenue for effective communication and try to “listen” to her, talk “with” her and not “to” her. I look forward to hearing from you first week in February. I wish you the best.

    Wishing you a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year.

    Thought of the week

    “All that glitters is not gold”

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  • Funmilola  weds Bankole

    Funmilola weds Bankole

    ON Saturday 21st December, 2013, Patricia Funmilola and Stephen Bankole tied the knot at the RCG Glory Tabernacle Ijapo-Estate, Akure, Ondo State. Reception was held at the Reverend Gbonigi Hall, Winnerss’ Guest Garden and Resort Centre, Henry Fajemirokun Street, Ijapo Estate, Akure, which started with songs of praise and ended with dancing.

    The programme which started at 11:30am was attended by friends, families and dignitaries. The officiating officers at the reception were Engineer Akin Aragbaiye, who was the Father of the Day, while Dr.(Mrs)Esther Funmilayo Lambo was the Mother of the Day. The chairman of the occasion was Dr. Korede Christopher Aruwajoye (KC).

  • Look radiant  and natural

    Look radiant and natural

    Do you want to be a blushing bride? If your answer is yes, then it means you must look so good to get a number of compliments that would make it a day to remember. Yetunde Oladeinde looks out for ways to be radiant on your wedding day.

    EVERY bride wants to glow with elegance on her day. You can either achieve a wonderful effect on your own or make use of the services of a professional makeup artist to get the required transformation.

    For a wedding makeup to last all day, you can brush a light translucent powder on areas of the face susceptible to shine. Today’s bride wants to show her beauty in a natural, sensual way. The makeup artist should therefore provide the bride with confidence and easy elegance that will be reminisced often.

    A bride must have a natural shine that revolves on everything that she does on her day. Interestingly, recent trends in bridal makeup and hair show a preference for combinations that are soft and restrained.

    The effect is sexier, romantic and less harsh.

    No longer do the lips have to be lined heavily and matte foundation with loose powder applied. While this is traditional, today’s bridal makeup is more radiant and natural.

    Here, it is better to wear a flawless foundation as a basis. This is so important, so that you get the picture perfect outlook in your wedding photos. It gives you a good foundation and even colour. You can choose from liquid foundations or cream-based compacts. Even mineral powder makeup is great for wedding make-up because it takes all day!

    Eyes also need to look beautiful. Here you can make use of false eyelashes as part of your wedding makeup look. This will be your lashes, so they look nice and long. You also need to give your lips a hint of shine or light colour for a pretty pout. You need to remember that kissing lips will naturally lead to breathtaking beauty for your wedding makeup.

  • Force of attraction too strong to repel

    DUPE and Sesan were both as different as chalk and cheese. She had grown up in an orthodox, aristocratic family, proud of her tradition and lineage. Sesan on the other hand grew up in a laid-back Christian household. Her mother and father were her source of pride and she saw almost everything from their perspective. These two lovebirds met in their university during their post graduate studies in the Arts department and it was started first as friendship and then Cupid’s arrow brought them to the affectionate corridor.

    Scroll back down memory lane and you discover how hate melted into love. When Dupe first ran into this handsome dude at the fresher’s party, she didn’t even like his attitude. He was in the company of her school mate who introduced him briefly as her cousin. For the first ten minutes, they argued over every topic and she vowed never to have anything to do with this guy again. She thought he was too cavalier and he thought she was not in touch with reality.

    Interestingly, fate had other plans for them. Alphabetically destined together, Dupe and Sesan ended up sitting next to each other in class the following week. How was she going to handle this guy? Should she move away and find a better space? Well, something told her not to worry and just be herself. He was in a better mood or could it be that he had repented?

    Two weeks after that encounter, he also began to view her differently and they got closer and closer. She had never been so happy in her life. Everything about him was strange, different and exciting, waiting to be explored. He was so mysterious and, yet, so loving and she couldn’t wait to spend the rest of her life with him.

    Dupe and Sesan were as unlike as it could get. They were undeniably different. Their backgrounds, their upbringing, their culture, and their outlook towards life were all different. But though poles apart, it seemed like the magnetic laws were soon to start applying to them. The force of attraction was too strong to repel. They were soon quite inseparable. Most times, you do not really know who a person is until you give them a chance. At such moments, the adventurous side plays itself out and you can be sure to drink from the stream of love if you play your cards well.

    Of course, we all know that there are times when you put in so much and all you get is rejection. At such moments, all you need is to get a substitute and make yourself happy. Rejection doesn’t feel great and sometimes it feels unfathomable but it shouldn’t be something you allow to take away happiness from your life. The suffering that happens when rejection occurs comes from over-thinking the “loss” that you feel you are suffering.

    The reality of life is that rejection will form a part of itthere will be occasions when your date request will be rejected by someone, somewhere. It is a healthy attitude to accept that rejection is a part of life and to acknowledge that what really matters is finding the way to bounce back and try again. The truth of the matter is that, it is normal to feel bad, so don’t try to bottle up your disappointment and sadness.

    It is, however, better not to allow yourself to feel this way for too long. If you do not move away from being a sinking heart, then you may risk colouring your future emotional endeavours with a negative impression.

    You may also seek the help of a counsellor when you cannot handle it alone. Experts believe that you can open the window (s) of emotional possibilities with a loving and caring attitude towards your partner. In addition to all these, you also need to be thoughtful about the things that would captivate the one you adore as well as make him or her shed tears of affection and joy.

    You can put in extra effort and do everything that you have always imagined about your dream partner to the one that you finally find yourself entangled with for life. All you need to do an ’emotional transfusion’. This is a situation where you do everything on your affectionate list to the other person without holding anything back.

    Just give and give as much as you can and somehow you would discover that you are going to derive joy doing this too. By making someone happy you are investing happiness for yourself too and before you know it, it would be time to reap this emotional seeds in thousands. It is important to do this as often as you can and you can be sure of a great transformation in your relationship.

    If the challenge that you were experiencing was from your partner, then you are going to find that your partner will now become more caring, loving and thoughtful towards you. Here you would find that the energy of your unselfish acts resonates in the loving space of your partner.

  • The president’s  billionaire daughter

    The president’s billionaire daughter

    Isabel dos Santos, oldest daughter of Angolan President José Eduardo dos Santos is one of Africa’s richest women. Forbes magazine’s Kerry A. Dolan and Rafael Marques de Morais report on how she managed to amass a fortune worth $3 billion in a country living on $2 a day.

    DECEMBER 2012 Isabel dos Santos commemorated her tenth wedding anniversary to Congolese businessman Sindika Dokolo with a party. Subtlety wasn’t on the menu. She jetted in dozens of friends and relatives from as far as Germany and Brazil, who joined with hundreds of local guests in Angola for three days of lavishness, including a bash at the Fortress of Sao Miguel in the capital city of Luanda and a beachside Sunday brunch on the posh Mussulo peninsula. The invitation, according to one attendee, came in a sleek white box, promising a celebration of “a decade of passion/ a decade of friendship/ a decade worth a hundred years. …”

    A decade worth $3 billion is more like it. At 40 Dos Santos is one of Africa’s few female billionaires, and also the continent’s youngest. She has quickly and systematically garnered significant stakes in Angola’s strategic industriesbanking, cement, diamonds and telecommaking her the most influential businessperson in her homeland. More than half of her assets are held in publicly traded Portuguese companies, adding international credibility.

    When FORBES outed her as a billionaire in January 2013 the government disseminated the news as a matter of national pride, living proof that this country of 19 million has arrived.

     

    The real story, however, is how Dos Santosthe oldest daughter of Angolan President José Eduardo dos Santosacquired her wealth. For the past year FORBES has been tracing Isabel dos Santos’ path to riches, reviewing a score of documents and speaking with dozens of people on the ground. As best as we can trace, every major Angolan investment held by Dos Santos stems either from taking a chunk of a company that wants to do business in the country or from a stroke of the president’s pen that cut her into the action. Her story is a rare window into the same, tragic kleptocratic narrative that grips resource-rich countries around the world.

    For President Dos Santos it’s a foolproof way to extract money from his country, while keeping a putative arm’s-length distance away. If the 71-year-old president gets overthrown, he can reclaim the assets from his daughter. If he dies in power, she keeps the loot in the family. Isabel may decide, if she is generous, to share some of it with her seven known half-siblings. Or not. The siblings are known around Angola for despising one another.

    “It is not possible to justify this wealth, which is shamelessly displayed,” former Angolan prime minister Marcolino Moco tells FORBES. “There is no doubt that it was the father who generated such a fortune.”

    Isabel dos Santos declined to speak with FORBES for this article. Her representatives failed to respond to detailed questions sent months ago but last week issued this statement: “Mrs. Isabel dos Santos is an independent business woman, and a private investor representing solely her own interests. Her investments in Angolan and/or in Portuguese companies are transparent and have been conducted through arms-length transactions involving external entities such as reputed banks and law firms.” In turn, the spokesman accuses this article’s coauthor, an Angolan investigative journalist, of being an activist with a political agenda. The Angolan government jailed Marques de Morais in 1999 over a series of articles critical of the regime and has brought new criminal defamation charges against him over his 2011 book, Blood Diamonds: Corruption and Torture in Angola.

    Finally, a representative of Mrs. Dos Santos said that any allegations of illegal wealth transfers between her and the government are “groundless and completely absurd.” That could well be. When your father runs the show, and can dictate which national assets are sold and at what price, what’s theft of public resources in one country can be rendered legal with a swipe of the pen.

    President José Eduardo dos Santos could not be reached for comment. That is unfortunate, because the Dos Santoses, as Moco notes, have “some explaining to do.”

    FOR THREE CENTURIES the Portuguese extracted wealth from this mineral-rich country on Africa’s southwestern coast. Almost immediately after Angola won independence in 1975, various internal factions began battling one another for the right to do the exact same thing. From this chaos, which lasted 27 years, Dos Santos, who had studied oil engineering in Soviet Azerbaijan and served as foreign minister upon independence, eventually emerged as president in 1979. He’s held on to power ever since, making him the planet’s third-longest-serving nonroyal head of state.

    The president met his first wife (he’s been married at least twice), Tatiana Kukanova, while a student in Azerbaijan, and his first childIsabelwas born there. By age 6 Isabel dos Santos was in Angola’s presidential palace, and while the family’s lifestyle wasn’t over-the-top by profligate African dictator standards (save the president’s dalliancesat least five of his children are from various mistresses), the family had Christmas trees flown in from New York and $500,000 worth of bubbly imported from a Lisbon restaurateur. There was decadence enough for Isabel to earn the nickname “the Princess.”

    During Isabel’s upbringing the Angola economy sputtered, crippled by two factors: ongoing civil war and Dos Santos’ socialist policies. “In the 1980s you’d go to the supermarket and there would only be noodles on the shelves. There wasn’t much there,” says University of Southern California associate professor emeritus Gerald Bender, who’s been studying Angola since 1968. For cloistered Isabel that reality was likely invisible; she eventually attended King’s College in London, where her mother, now a British citizen, lives, and earned an undergraduate degree in engineering.

    However, as civil war resumed by the end of 1992, Isabel left for Angola’s capital city, Luanda, in a rush, allegedly after receiving death threats in London.

    By the late 1990s, when the civil war was winding down a ceasefire was formally declared in 2002President Dos Santos, like the Soviets he had studied under in the 1960s, was embracing a grab-what-you-can form of capitalism. Over the past decade Angola has been one of the world’s fastest-growing economies. GDP grew at an 11.6% annual clip from 2002 to 2011, driven by a more than doubling of oil production to 1.8 million barrels a day. The government budget sits at $69 billion, up from $6.3 billion a decade ago.

    But predictably, precious little of the windfall has made it to the people. Some 70% of Angolans live on less than $2 a day. And by the government’s own count, 10% of the country’s population is scrambling for food due to drought and bureaucratic neglect. So where’s the money going? Start with a paranoid president-for-life. The state security apparatus sucks more funds from the budget than health care, education and agriculture combined. A lot is clearly stolen: Between 2007 and 2010 at least $32 billion of oil revenue went missing from the federal ledger, according to the International Monetary Fund, which later tracked most of the money to “quasi-fiscal operations.” Angola comes in at 157 out of 176 nations ranked by Transparency International’s Corruption Perceptions Index. It trails shining stalwarts of participatory democracy such as Yemen and Kyrgyzstan. And it’s within this environment that Isabel dos Santos has surfaced with an estimated net worth of $3 billion.

    ISABEL DOS SANTOS’ formative business experience came at Miami Beach. Not the Florida city, but rather a rustic chic beachside bar and restaurant in Luanda that tries to emulate its namesake, down to the mediocre food and indifferent service. In 1997 the owner, Rui Barata, was having issues with health inspectors and taxmen. His solution: bringing in Isabel dos Santos, then 24, as his partner, with the idea, contemporaries say, that her name would keep pesky government regulators at bay. Her initial investment was negligible, according to a source with knowledge of the deal, and the restaurant thrived: Sixteen years later it’s still a weekend hot spot.

    The lessonthe equity stake available to those with a gilded namecouldn’t have been lost on Isabel dos Santos, who was entering adulthood at the exact same time Angola’s riches were being unlocked. Here’s what followed:

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    First, Grab the Diamonds. Angola is the world’s fourth-largest diamond producer, selling an estimated $1 billion in gems every year from mines situated in the country’s northeast. The mines’ exclusive concession-holder is the state-owned company, Endiama.

    In 1999 President Dos Santos pushed Endiama to form a diamond-selling partnership. Three Israeli diamond merchants, including Lev Leviev, who FORBES now estimates is worth $1.5 billion, promised contacts and expertise. The power behind the venture, according to British court records, was Russian arms dealer Arkady Gaydamaka former confidant of President Dos Santos during the civil war of 1992-2002. The new company would be called Ascorp.

    Leviev and his partners, including Gaydamak, would wind up with 24.5% of Ascorp. The government would retain 51%. The most surprising major shareholder? Isabel dos Santos, who emerged with a 24.5% stake through a Gibraltar investment company, Trans Africa Investment Services, that she had set up with her mother,

    according to TAIS’ annual report. (Leviev did not respond to a request for comment, and Gaydamak could not be reached at press time.)

    Angola’s 2010 constitution bars the president from stealing public money and acts of corruption, which would seem to prohibit the use of his position for the private enrichment of his family. No matter: Angola’s Council of Ministers, controlled by her father, approved the Ascorp deal anyway. “In a country with separation of powers and real democracy, these presidential actions to enrich his family would have caused legal procedures for his impeachment,” says lawyer Salvador Freire, president of the human rights group Maos Livres. “In Angola he is the law.”

    Ascorp was a cash cow, yielding millions of dollars in dividends per month, according to British court documents, but as the “blood diamond” business attracted international scrutiny in the middle of the 2000s, Dos Santos transferred to her mother total control of TAIS, now renamed Iaxonh Limited, according to Gibraltar’s Registry of Companies records accessed by FORBES. It’s quite a parking spot, safely under the control of a British citizen, with Isabel dos Santos conveniently sitting in Angola as her mother’s sole heir. The mother could not be reached for comment.

    Telecom: Father Knows Best. In 1997 President Dos Santos issued a decree concerning the increasingly valuable telecommunications spectrum it controlled: The government must undertake a public bidding process for new telecom licenses.

    Two years later he defied his own decreeby issuing a new one. The government could grant such a license without a public tender, as long as the grantee was a joint venture with the state. Eleven months after that the president, backed by his rubber stamp Council of Ministers, granted Unitel the right to be the first private mobile telephony operator in the countrywith the condition that he had sole power to approve the project and to decide on the shareholding structure of the company, since it involved state funds. The state-owned oil company got a 25% stake, and Isabel emerged with her own 25% stake. A spokesman for Isabel dos Santos said she contributed capital for her Unitel stake but declined to specify how much. A year later Portugal Telecom paid $12.6 million for another 25% stake.

    It was one hell of an investment. Mobile phones have revolutionized Africa, and as one of just two mobile phone networks in Angola, Unitel had amassed 9 million subscribers. Revenue last year was $2 billion, making it Angola’s largest private company.

    Her share is worth at least $1 billion, based on discussions with several analysts who follow Portugal Telecom.

     

    Banking: A Friend in Europe. As Isabel dos Santos diversified her Angolan business interests, in 2005 she diversified her network of powerful patrons. Enter Americo Amorim, a Portuguese billionaire worth $4.3 billion who has spent his life expanding his family’s business empire from cork to real estate, tourism and, especially, oil. The billionaire, who did not comment for this story, was early to seek deals in Angola after hostilities ended. When the Dos Santos clan made a move into banking in 2005, they did so in partnership with Amorim and Fernando Teles, a Portuguese national who had been CEO of another Angolan bank. They formally opened Banco Internacional de Credito, known as BIC, according to the company’s annual reports.

    The hand of Isabel’s father again played a role: President Dos Santos, as head of the Council of Ministers, formally authorized the foreign investment in the capital of the bank. Specifically how it was financed is murky, as there is no public record showing who put money into the bank. BIC’s latest annual report shows that Amorim owns 25% of the bank. Various documents reveal that another 25% is held through an investment vehicle controlled by Isabel dos Santos. Her spokesman says she was a founding member of the bank and had independent means to pay her share from her early business ventures.

    Regardless, BIC was a hit, in large part because of a deal to lend money to … the Angolan government. BIC made loans to the state worth $450 million, in addition to more than $350 million made to private ventures. BIC had assets of $6.9 billion in 2012. Isabel dos Santos’ stake is worth at least $160 million, FORBES estimates, based on the bank’s book value listed in its latest annual report. BIC officials could not be reached for comment.

     

    Oil: A Strange Partnership. Oil is Angola’s greatest natural asset. The country produces 650 million barrels per year, most of it exported. The state-owned oil firm, Sonangol, is so profitable that it was only a matter of time before the Dos Santos family would start looking for ways to hitch a ride on its success. Isabel’s banking partner, billionaire Americo Amorim, would play the key role.

    In 2005 Amorim set up a subsidiary, Amorim Energia. He would control it with a 55% stake. The remaining 45%, at least originally, went to Sonangol via a Netherlands holding company called Esperaza Holding B.V. At the end of that year Amorim Energia went shopping, acquiring 33.3% of Galp Energia, Portugal’s former state-owned oil company, for roughly $1 billion, according to press reports. At the end of 2006, according to investigative not-for-profit Global Witness, 40% of Sonangol’s stake in Esperaza ended up with a Swiss company called Exem Holding. No documents could be found that definitively tie Exem Holding to Isabel dos Santos, but her fingerprints are everywhere. Her husband, Sindika Dokolo, was put on the Amorim Energia board at the request of Esperaza, according to Global Witness. And the chairman of Isabel dos Santos’ holding company is also on the boards of Fidequity, a subsidiary of Exem Holding, and entities called Exem Energy and Exem Oil & Gas, according to public filings. Last year Amorim Energia paid $726 million for an additional 5% of Galp. Isabel’s estimated 6.9% stake in Galp is worth a recent $924 million.

    Cement: Safeguarding the “Public Interest.” For most of President Dos Santos’ reign there’s only been one cement factory in Angola, owned by a firm called Nova Cimangola. By mid-2004 the government owned 39.8% of it, state-owned oil company Sonangol’s captive bank, BAI, owned 9.5%, and the remaining 49% was owned by Swiss firm Scanang, which was in the process of being taken over by Portuguese cement company Cimpor. The government began demanding a bigger stake, arguing that the factory was a strategic asset for national reconstruction in the aftermath of the war. On Oct. 29, 2006 the president’s Council of Ministers’ Resolution 78/06 approved a $74 million payment to buy out Cimpor, declaring that the expenditure was necessary to safeguard “public interest, to restore the legality and to maintain the shareholding control of Nova Cimangola by national entities, incorporated in Angola.” The $74 million payment, according to an Angolan newspaper, came from BIC, the bank half-owned by Amorim and Isabel dos Santos. The government would now own 89%, while BAI and Angolan individuals would control the remaining 11%.

    What followed, however, showed that the larger goal wasn’t to give Angola a larger stake but rather certain Angolans. Prior to the council’s approval a company called Ciminvest was incorporated in Angola. Ciminvest was initially fronted by the president’s former legal counsel, according to the articles of incorporation he signed.

    At one point Portuguese billionaire Americo Amorim owned an estimated 30% of Ciminvest, but his representative confirms that he transferred his stake in 2009. He would not comment on who took over the stake or what was paid for it.

    The real owners are now widely understood to be Isabel dos Santos and her husband, though documents detailing ownership are not publicly available. However, Isabel admits on her resume that she chairs the board of Nova Cimangola, which she controls through Ciminvest. Without much ado, at no apparent cost, the company that was presidentially mandated to be controlled by “national entities” had become controlled by Isabel dos Santos.

     

    ISABEL DOS SANTOS’ holdings are more than just squirreled away assets to be unearthed in case of a rainy day. They throw off hefty dividends that allow her to buy yet more assets in businesses seemingly unrelated to the exploitation of Angolan properties, such as her $500 million stake in Portuguese media firm ZON.

    Meanwhile, her father has taken steps to legally protect himself from all the plundering. Under Angolan law President Dos Santos’ decision to grant a license to Unitel for the personal benefit of his daughter could be considered an abuse of power. To cover his legal bases, in 1992 the president fiddled with the law to reduce it to two grounds: taking bribes or betraying the country. Technically, he can argue, neither was violated in the case of Unitel.

    The larger strategy, though, is to portray Isabel as a hero. In January, after FORBES declared her a billionaire, the Angolan regime’s mouthpiece (and the country’s only daily newspaper), Jornal de Angola , claimed that “while we give our best for Angola without poverty, we are elated with the fact that businesswoman Isabel dos Santos has become a reference in the world of finances. This is good for Angola and it fills Angolans with pride.” Angolans should be mortified, not proud.

     Source: This story was first published in Forbes magazine under the title ‘Daddy’s Girl: How An African ‘Princess’ Banked $3 Billion In A Country Living On $2 A Day’

  • How daddy’s girl banked billions

    How daddy’s girl banked billions

    First, Grab the Diamonds. Angola is the world’s fourth-largest diamond producer, selling an estimated $1 billion in gems every year from mines situated in the country’s northeast. The mines’ exclusive concession-holder is the state-owned company, Endiama.

    In 1999 President Dos Santos pushed Endiama to form a diamond-selling partnership. Three Israeli diamond merchants, including Lev Leviev, who FORBES now estimates is worth $1.5 billion, promised contacts and expertise. The power behind the venture, according to British court records, was Russian arms dealer Arkady Gaydamaka former confidant of President Dos Santos during the civil war of 1992-2002. The new company would be called Ascorp.

    Leviev and his partners, including Gaydamak, would wind up with 24.5% of Ascorp. The government would retain 51%. The most surprising major shareholder? Isabel dos Santos, who emerged with a 24.5% stake through a Gibraltar investment company, Trans Africa Investment Services, that she had set up with her mother,

    according to TAIS’ annual report. (Leviev did not respond to a request for comment, and Gaydamak could not be reached at press time.)

    Angola’s 2010 constitution bars the president from stealing public money and acts of corruption, which would seem to prohibit the use of his position for the private enrichment of his family. No matter: Angola’s Council of Ministers, controlled by her father, approved the Ascorp deal anyway. “In a country with separation of powers and real democracy, these presidential actions to enrich his family would have caused legal procedures for his impeachment,” says lawyer Salvador Freire, president of the human rights group Maos Livres. “In Angola he is the law.”

    Ascorp was a cash cow, yielding millions of dollars in dividends per month, according to British court documents, but as the “blood diamond” business attracted international scrutiny in the middle of the 2000s, Dos Santos transferred to her mother total control of TAIS, now renamed Iaxonh Limited, according to Gibraltar’s Registry of Companies records accessed by FORBES. It’s quite a parking spot, safely under the control of a British citizen, with Isabel dos Santos conveniently sitting in Angola as her mother’s sole heir. The mother could not be reached for comment.

    Telecom: Father Knows Best. In 1997 President Dos Santos issued a decree concerning the increasingly valuable telecommunications spectrum it controlled: The government must undertake a public bidding process for new telecom licenses.

    Two years later he defied his own decreeby issuing a new one. The government could grant such a license without a public tender, as long as the grantee was a joint venture with the state. Eleven months after that the president, backed by his rubber stamp Council of Ministers, granted Unitel the right to be the first private mobile telephony operator in the countrywith the condition that he had sole power to approve the project and to decide on the shareholding structure of the company, since it involved state funds. The state-owned oil company got a 25% stake, and Isabel emerged with her own 25% stake. A spokesman for Isabel dos Santos said she contributed capital for her Unitel stake but declined to specify how much. A year later Portugal Telecom paid $12.6 million for another 25% stake.

    It was one hell of an investment. Mobile phones have revolutionized Africa, and as one of just two mobile phone networks in Angola, Unitel had amassed 9 million subscribers. Revenue last year was $2 billion, making it Angola’s largest private company.

    Her share is worth at least $1 billion, based on discussions with several analysts who follow Portugal Telecom.

     

    Banking: A Friend in Europe. As Isabel dos Santos diversified her Angolan business interests, in 2005 she diversified her network of powerful patrons. Enter Americo Amorim, a Portuguese billionaire worth $4.3 billion who has spent his life expanding his family’s business empire from cork to real estate, tourism and, especially, oil. The billionaire, who did not comment for this story, was early to seek deals in Angola after hostilities ended. When the Dos Santos clan made a move into banking in 2005, they did so in partnership with Amorim and Fernando Teles, a Portuguese national who had been CEO of another Angolan bank. They formally opened Banco Internacional de Credito, known as BIC, according to the company’s annual reports.

    The hand of Isabel’s father again played a role: President Dos Santos, as head of the Council of Ministers, formally authorized the foreign investment in the capital of the bank. Specifically how it was financed is murky, as there is no public record showing who put money into the bank. BIC’s latest annual report shows that Amorim owns 25% of the bank. Various documents reveal that another 25% is held through an investment vehicle controlled by Isabel dos Santos. Her spokesman says she was a founding member of the bank and had independent means to pay her share from her early business ventures.

    Regardless, BIC was a hit, in large part because of a deal to lend money to … the Angolan government. BIC made loans to the state worth $450 million, in addition to more than $350 million made to private ventures. BIC had assets of $6.9 billion in 2012. Isabel dos Santos’ stake is worth at least $160 million, FORBES estimates, based on the bank’s book value listed in its latest annual report. BIC officials could not be reached for comment.

     

    Oil: A Strange Partnership. Oil is Angola’s greatest natural asset. The country produces 650 million barrels per year, most of it exported. The state-owned oil firm, Sonangol, is so profitable that it was only a matter of time before the Dos Santos family would start looking for ways to hitch a ride on its success. Isabel’s banking partner, billionaire Americo Amorim, would play the key role.

    In 2005 Amorim set up a subsidiary, Amorim Energia. He would control it with a 55% stake. The remaining 45%, at least originally, went to Sonangol via a Netherlands holding company called Esperaza Holding B.V. At the end of that year Amorim Energia went shopping, acquiring 33.3% of Galp Energia, Portugal’s former state-owned oil company, for roughly $1 billion, according to press reports. At the end of 2006, according to investigative not-for-profit Global Witness, 40% of Sonangol’s stake in Esperaza ended up with a Swiss company called Exem Holding. No documents could be found that definitively tie Exem Holding to Isabel dos Santos, but her fingerprints are everywhere. Her husband, Sindika Dokolo, was put on the Amorim Energia board at the request of Esperaza, according to Global Witness. And the chairman of Isabel dos Santos’ holding company is also on the boards of Fidequity, a subsidiary of Exem Holding, and entities called Exem Energy and Exem Oil & Gas, according to public filings. Last year Amorim Energia paid $726 million for an additional 5% of Galp. Isabel’s estimated 6.9% stake in Galp is worth a recent $924 million.

    Cement: Safeguarding the “Public Interest.” For most of President Dos Santos’ reign there’s only been one cement factory in Angola, owned by a firm called Nova Cimangola. By mid-2004 the government owned 39.8% of it, state-owned oil company Sonangol’s captive bank, BAI, owned 9.5%, and the remaining 49% was owned by Swiss firm Scanang, which was in the process of being taken over by Portuguese cement company Cimpor. The government began demanding a bigger stake, arguing that the factory was a strategic asset for national reconstruction in the aftermath of the war. On Oct. 29, 2006 the president’s Council of Ministers’ Resolution 78/06 approved a $74 million payment to buy out Cimpor, declaring that the expenditure was necessary to safeguard “public interest, to restore the legality and to maintain the shareholding control of Nova Cimangola by national entities, incorporated in Angola.” The $74 million payment, according to an Angolan newspaper, came from BIC, the bank half-owned by Amorim and Isabel dos Santos. The government would now own 89%, while BAI and Angolan individuals would control the remaining 11%.

    What followed, however, showed that the larger goal wasn’t to give Angola a larger stake but rather certain Angolans. Prior to the council’s approval a company called Ciminvest was incorporated in Angola. Ciminvest was initially fronted by the president’s former legal counsel, according to the articles of incorporation he signed.

    At one point Portuguese billionaire Americo Amorim owned an estimated 30% of Ciminvest, but his representative confirms that he transferred his stake in 2009. He would not comment on who took over the stake or what was paid for it.

    The real owners are now widely understood to be Isabel dos Santos and her husband, though documents detailing ownership are not publicly available. However, Isabel admits on her resume that she chairs the board of Nova Cimangola, which she controls through Ciminvest. Without much ado, at no apparent cost, the company that was presidentially mandated to be controlled by “national entities” had become controlled by Isabel dos Santos.

     

    ISABEL DOS SANTOS’ holdings are more than just squirreled away assets to be unearthed in case of a rainy day. They throw off hefty dividends that allow her to buy yet more assets in businesses seemingly unrelated to the exploitation of Angolan properties, such as her $500 million stake in Portuguese media firm ZON.

    Meanwhile, her father has taken steps to legally protect himself from all the plundering. Under Angolan law President Dos Santos’ decision to grant a license to Unitel for the personal benefit of his daughter could be considered an abuse of power. To cover his legal bases, in 1992 the president fiddled with the law to reduce it to two grounds: taking bribes or betraying the country. Technically, he can argue, neither was violated in the case of Unitel.

    The larger strategy, though, is to portray Isabel as a hero. In January, after FORBES declared her a billionaire, the Angolan regime’s mouthpiece (and the country’s only daily newspaper), Jornal de Angola , claimed that “while we give our best for Angola without poverty, we are elated with the fact that businesswoman Isabel dos Santos has become a reference in the world of finances. This is good for Angola and it fills Angolans with pride.” Angolans should be mortified, not proud.

     Source: This story was first published in Forbes magazine under the title ‘Daddy’s Girl: How An African ‘Princess’ Banked $3 Billion In A Country Living On $2 A Day’

  • Outstanding women in 2013

    Outstanding women in 2013

    What do you do to women who worked so hard to distinguish themselves in spite of the many odds around them? Celebrating such women and their achievements would go a long way to inspire other women. Yetunde Oladeinde, Gboyega Alaka and Adetutu Audu take a look at 12 women who stood out and distinguished themselves in different fields. It is a celebration of Nigerian women who blazed the trail, broke records and shattered the glass ceiling locally and on the international scene.

    ZURIEL ODUWOLE

    ZURIEL Oduwole, 10-year-old Nigerian girl made the August, 2013 edition of Forbes Africa. She was featured because she discovered her passion at a tender age. Zuriel has met and interviewed African presidents, top African leaders and business tycoons. Recently, a list of the Top 100 Most Influential People in Africa, published by New African Magazine, was released with 23 Nigerians from different sectors dominating that list. One of the most striking names on the list is Zuriel Oduwole. Zuriel, whose Hebrew name means ‘For God is my Rock’, was featured in the magazine as a result of her fight for girl-child education in Africa.

    She is often referred to as the next Oprah Winfrey. Zuriel said she is committed and determined to rebrand Africa by bringing out positive things on the continent and, most importantly, convince Africans on the importance of educating the female gender.

    Zuriel, highlighting her goals during her recent visit to Nigeria, said she wants to encourage young Nigerians, especially girls, to “dream up, speak up and stand up” for the positive values they believe in. During her visit, she spoke to an audience of post-graduate students of the Pan-African University School of Media and Communication, and some secondary school students in Lagos, where she drew world attention to Nigeria’s abundant untapped world class human resources.

    In recognition of her excellence, Zuriel was recently specially invited to join other African leaders to celebrate African Union (AU) 50th anniversary in Ethiopia.

    She has successfully interviewed tennis super stars Venus and Serena Williams, Africa’s richest person, Aliko Dangote, and eight African presidents, some of whom include current presidents of Tanzania, Mauritius, ex-Presidents Jerry John Rawlings and John Kufuor of Ghana and President Joyce Banda of Malawi, who is one of Africa’s only two female national leaders, and most recently, she interviewed President Goodluck Jonathan of Nigeria.

    In demonstrating absolute depth in her coverage ability, she became the youngest global international media representative ever on record last November, 2012, competing with seasoned correspondents from Cable Network News (CNN), Reuters, Super Sports, Consumer News and Business Channel (CNBC) and The Guardian, likewise in South Africa and Nigeria.

    JESSICA MATHEWS

    JESSICA O. Matthews co-invented the sOccket, and founded Uncharted Play with Julia Silverman. The sOccket looks like a regular soccer ball, but it doubles as an energy-harvesting source that can help light up communities without access to electricity.

    Jessica O. Matthews and Julia Silverman, who are in their early 20s, came up with the idea for the sOccket while working on a class project during their junior year at Harvard.

    They were taking an engineering class for non-engineering majors and were tasked with addressing a social issue through art and science. Prototypes of the ball first appeared in the media in early 2010.

    The sOccket is distributed through schools and community education centres around the world with the help of established NGOs. Children in developing countries without reliable sources of electricity can play their favourite game and then plug in the light to read, do homework and help illuminate their homes.

    More than a billion families around the world use kerosene lamps as their primary source of light because electricity is either unavailable or too expensive. But as well as being a serious fire risk, kerosene lamps also endanger the health of those who breathe their fumes. The sOccket is one innovative alternative to kerosene. Matthews explains that the ball contains a pendulum, or gyroscope-like device, inside it.

    “As the ball rolls, the mechanism also rolls, harnessing kinetic energy and then storing it inside a simple battery,” she says.

    It has been favourably reviewed for its simple and direct approach to a global problem. The sOccket is currently being used in poor communities in 10 nations around Latin America and West Africa, including Mexico, Brazil, Nigeria and, most recently, Haiti. Matthews who is born to Nigerian parents and raised in America estimates Uncharted Play has produced 15,000 balls since she and Chief Social Officer Julia Silverman founded the company in May of 2011.

    FOLORUNSHO ALAKIJA

    IN the business world, the name Folorunsho Alakija continued to ring a bell all year round. As the richest black woman in the world with an estimated fortune of $7.3 billion, she could not be ignored in financial circles. As the group managing director of The Rose of Sharon Group which consists of The Rose of Sharon Prints & Promotions Limited and Digital Reality Prints Limited and the executive vice chairman of Famfa Oil Limited. Alakija is ranked by Forbes as the richest woman in Nigeria with an estimated net worth of between $600 million and $7.3 billion.

    Alakija, 62, then started her career as a secretary in a bank in the 70s. She later moved on to study fashion in London and returned to Nigeria to start a label, Supreme Stitches, where she got recognition as designer of the year. As national president and lifelong trustee of the Fashion Designers Association of Nigeria (FADAN), she left an indelible mark, promoting Nigerian culture through fashion and style.

    However, her biggest break came in oil. In 1993, her company, Famfa Oil, was awarded an oil prospecting license by then President Ibrahim Babangida, which later became OML 127, one of the country’s most prolific oil blocks. The company owned a 60 per cent stake in the block until 2000 when the Nigerian government unconstitutionally acquired a 50 per cent interest without duly compensating Alakija or Famfa Oil.

    Determined to get justice, she took the battle to the court where she challenged the acquisition and the Nigerian Supreme Court reinstated the 50 per cent stake to her company. She also has a charity called the Rose of Sharon Foundation that helps widows and orphans by empowering them through scholarships and business grants. Within the last five years, the Rose of Sharon Foundation (ROSF) has successfully provided micro credits to nine hundred and seventy-three (973) widows, educational scholarships to one thousand, three hundred and sixty-six (1,366) widow’s children and eighty-eight (88) orphans towards strengthening the enabling environment for widows and orphans in Lagos, Ogun and Oyo states .

    As part of its strategic plan of reaching out and touching widows across the length and breadth of Nigeria, it conducted a feasibility study in Benue State three years ago and discovered that the state had over 5,000 widows, (the highest in Nigeria) of which two thousand widows were registered.

    A few months back, Alakija was in Benue State where she partnered with the state government in order to alleviate the suffering of the widows and orphans. A major area to focus on over the next couple of years includes agriculture due to the fact that a majority of the widows registered are mainly engaged in subsistence farming, through subsidisation of fertilizer, introduction of mechanised farming, provision of storage facilities for widows’ farm produce, enterprise development training, and educational support for interested widows, their children, and orphans.

    In order to provide quality educational and economic development services to its widows and orphans on a sustainable basis, the ROSF partners with reputable institutions such as the Lagos State Ministry of Education for quality education and education advisory; Empretec Nigeria Foundation (a private sector initiative of United Nations Center for Trade and Development (UNCTAD) for Entrepreneurship Training Workshops (ETW) Programme, while its Doctors’ Reachout Initiatives ensures affordable healthcare services to ROSF widows, their children, and orphans.

    MAKI OSAKWE

    AMAKA Osakwe of the popular Maki Oh debuted with the “Everything in Proportion” collection in February 2010. Her mum, an artist and a designer, made her and her siblings to design all the clothes they wore as kids. Her cultural heritage also influences her work the most. ‘I’m very inspired by Nigeria and Africa in general. Lagos is a vibrant and ever-evolving city with a unique energy and I’m happy to have been brought up here. I live in Lagos because it is home, and because I’m right in the hub of my main source of inspiration. I hear, see, feel, breathe and taste Nigeria every day. I learn something new about my culture and environment every day,’ Osakwe once said in an interview.

    An ardent believer in rich cultures in all of Africa, quite a lot of fabrics at Maki Oh is organically dyed [using a process called adire] on organic silks and cottons, as opposed to industrial printing/dyeing. Maki Oh collections all express feminist views in different doses.

    Osakwe put Nigeria on the world map when Michelle Obama was on her last tour of Africa, an expedition which ended July 2013 wowed all with her unique dress sense.

    The stylish First Lady at a live hangout tagged Connecting Continents: A Conversation with U.S First Lady Michelle Obama, in Johannesburg, South Africa was spotted rocking a hand-printed adire chiffon blouse by Nigerian design label, Maki Oh.

    Maki Oh, since making his debut five years ago, has clothed Solange Knowles and Leelee Sobieski, and many other A-list stars. Obama is certainly the biggest name to have worn her design. The America’s first lady is known for wearing eye-catching garments from a range of designers, including a few upstarts who have had their career made by the first lady’s fashion choices.

    OMOTOLA JALADE-EKEINDE

    NOLLYWOOD actress Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde shocked everyone earlier this year when she was named in the prestigious Time Magazine’s Top 100 Most Influential People in the World. She emerged on that list alongside renowned global female icons like Michelle Obama, Beyonce and Kate Middleton. Not that Omotola played any part in her direct selection, but to think that she has done enough in the last 20 years of Nollywood to rank amongst the top 100 people in the world pleasantly beats most Nigerians.

    Omotola who has alternated between the top two female actress spots in Nollywood with her perennial industry rival, Genevieve Nnaji, in almost two decades, emerged on the heels of her ever-rising profile, which reached a crescendo in February 2013, when she crossed the one million likes mark on Facebook. Her selection also came as a global credibility seal on an industry over-maligned by its own people, ostensibly for substandard quality.

    Omotola’s profile has, however, always been on the rise, stepping, as it were, on the fifth gear in early 2010, with her performance in several high-grossing films, top of which was Ije, which became the highest grossing film ever in the African cinemas. This was followed by her performance in Last Flight to Abuja, which also hit the box office record as the highest grossing film in opening week, earning in the process for herself the nickname, Cinema Box Office Queen.

    In 2011, Omotola was invited to attend the Grammy Awards in Los Angeles, California, in recognition of her work with Amnesty International and her song, Barren Land, which was featured in a public service announcement, addressing the Shell Oil spill in the Niger Delta. On October 27, 2012, Omotola scored another high, as she was awarded The Black Entertainment Film Fashion Television and Arts BEFETA icon award, an exclusive honorary award for her outstanding contribution to the global film industry. She acknowledged that award as the best she had received on a global level, adding that stepping out for it was an extremely special moment for her.

    The beautiful mother of four has also been starring in her own reality show, “Omotola: The Real me,” airing on satellite TV movie channel, Africa Magic, since late 2012. Statistics show that the show has become the most viewed television series in Africa, making her the first Nigerian to ever own a reality TV show.

    She also made her US television debut in VN1’s scripted series, Hit the Floor. And had the honour of speaking at the 2013 edition of WISE Summit held in Doha on November 2, 2013.

  • ‘Women yet to  parlay public office  into influence’

    ‘Women yet to parlay public office into influence’

    Mariam Mohammed is the CEO of Saturn Gates Real Estates and Facilities Management. She also manages Best Strategic PR with clientele base like Walid Atallah, designer to the royals in the Middle East, and Feryal Al Bastalli, another top Arabian designer.

    Even though she read Media and Communication Studies from the Middlesex University, she chose to be an entrepreneur and also veered into fashion and now she is the publisher of Maktoub, a lifestyle magazine. In an interview with Yetunde Oladeinde, she talks about her passion and what Nigerian women need to excel.

    WHAT is your assessment of women in the corporate sector today?

    I find it heart warming that more and more women are attaining leadership positions in the corporate sector of countries across the world. Gone are the days when the duties of a woman were relegated to the home and kitchen. Women are blazing the trail in their careers and setting good examples even for the men and this is evident also in Nigeria. We have some women who have defied the odds and attained positions previously associated with men only. This is very laudable.

    What are the areas that need to be improved upon?

    Women need to be given more flexible work conditions that would enable them cater for the home front and also excel in their careers. The conditions surrounding maternity leave and work schedules for nursing mothers must be reviewed such that women can attain their fullest potential in their work place. Also, there should be policies in place that ensure organisations do not limit women from reaching the peak of their careers because of their gender.

    What are some of the things you are passionate about?

    I am passionate about a lot of things. I am a very creative person and I like to birth ideas and see them come to fulfilment. This is why I have started and grown a number of businesses in real estate, fashion, beauty and now publishing.

    What are some of the challenges encountered?

    I’ve encountered several challenges along the way but I always take them as a learning curve and opportunities to get better at what I do. I’ve faced some challenges working with dishonest people, keeping abreast of new developments in my business fields, unfavourable economic policies and more.

    Who or what do you consider the greatest influence in your life?

    Different people have influenced me in different ways. I am most grateful to all the business leaders and exceptional individuals who have taught me different things along the way. But I will never forget the influence of my grandfather, a selfless and kind hearted man, who is responsible in no small way for the person I’ve become today. He taught me that a good name is better than silver or gold and most of the values I live by, I learnt from him.

    What is your assessment of the average girl in Nigeria today?

    Unfortunately, the average Nigerian girl wants so much but is not willing to work for it. She wants to walk the red carpet overnight and have a wardrobe stuffed with the best collection of designer items. She wants a Kim Kardashian collection of bags and shoes overnight and would do almost anything to get it.

    I’d also say shame on the men who use their bodies in exchange for these favours. But beyond that, the average Nigerian girl needs to know who she is, be confident about herself and her abilities, and be able to stand for what’s right always.

    Economic empowerment is basic to women’s development. What can be done to bridge this gap?

    Empowering women and girls is not only the right and fair thing to do, it also makes economic sense. Countries that invest in promoting the social and economic status of women tend to have lower poverty rates. To increase their economic opportunities, women need access to more and better jobs, a business climate that supports them in starting and doing business, a financial sector that gives them access to financial services tailored to their needs, and greater livelihood, security in times of food and fuel crises. This is especially true for women living in rural areas and vulnerable environments.

    Do you think that women have benefitted in politics and governance?

    Yes, I do. It is true that women participate in government and their numbers have increased since they started. But despite women’s greater prominence in political life, women in public office have in many cases yet to parlay their visibility into leadership positions and influence over the decision-making process. There are still many instances where they are simply used as an extension of male power structures and this has to change.

    What are some of the most memorable moments in your career?

    I’ve had lots, really. Every time I see the birth of an idea and watch it grow, it gives me joy and remains memorable.

    If you have to advise young people, what would you tell them?

    The sooner you realise that life doesn’t come with automatic gold tickets, the sooner you’ll be happier about experiencing the struggle. Work hard towards your vision. Keep in mind that the feeling of failure is the feeling of being alive. It’s a sign you’ve given things a go, pushed boundaries, and bounced back. You can do it, but don’t expect any overnight miracle. Don’t focus on the destination, enjoy the journey.

    Have you benefitted from mentoring or do you have people that you mentor?

    Oh yes. I definitely have benefitted from mentoring in lots of ways. I’ve had older, successful people mentor me in different capacities and I also have younger people who I mentor in their careers too.

  • Learning at the  feet of survivors

    Learning at the feet of survivors

    In the past, researchers believed that success made people happy. Newer research, however, has identified key building blocks of success as those that work the other way round. Yetunde Oladeinde discovers how happy people are more likely to work toward goals, find the resources they need and attract others with their energy and optimism.

    WOMEN who have been battered and have issues with relationship most times are at a crossroad. From being battered they often move to the stage of abandonment which can be traumatic. How can a woman in this stage rediscover herself? How can she move from this state of frustration and find a better future.

    Louisa Eikhomun, the executive director of Echoes of Women in Africa, takes you into the world of women who have survived the trauma of violence at different stages of their lives at a forum called Encouragers Circle. The event which took place at Club Mendoza, Magodo phase two, Lagos was done in collaboration with Ideas Builders with the theme, “Where support is for survivor’s evoked emotions from all and Sundry.”

    Some of the survivors of Violence took turns to share their experiences while resource persons tried to proffer solutions to the myriad problems affecting these women.

    “The project is in realisation of the Millennium Development Goal (MDG) one which aims at reducing extreme poverty by 2015. This is also an avenue to reduce gender imbalance by creating a platform for victims and survivors to break the silence. We also provide women with emotional strength, skills for livelihood”.

    Eikhomun goes on to count some of the achievements recorded and the challenges encountered. “We have been hosting this circle since 2010 for women who have been abused, displaced due to conflict and disaster. There is urgent need to bring together these beneficiaries and encourage them emotionally, economically and provide referrals where necessary.

    She adds that: “We try to mend the lives of those who have been abused, abandoned, widowed, women with disability and single parents through genuine concern. We intervene through counseling, skill acquisition, legal aid, medical support and micro credit facilities.”

    Enitan Onitiri, who cultivates rice on about four hectares of land at Itokin, gave a presentation on Economic support for survivor’s uses some of her personal experience to buttress her point. “I have been through violence before and I learnt through the hard way. I married at an early age to someone who was older but today I can stand on my own. For me, it was determination to be heard and making sure that I gave my children the best.”

    “If you talk about violence from today till thy kingdom come, you will not find solution to it. It is important to put in your best and try to make your marriage work. But if you try and it does not work out the best thing is to empower yourself.”

    The way out of the woods for women in this category according to Onitiri is hard work. “If you believe in your fingers, then you are likely to go far. You can go even above the skies and the sky won’t even be your limit. It can be worse when you are a woman that is married to someone from another culture like me. I was an Edo woman who was married to a Yoruba man. Here you would discover that the way you were brought up was quite different from the person you are getting married to. The way to a man’s heart is what he eats and how the home is kept.”

    Onitiri continued: “While I was married I did not work, he did everything to please me. My husband was a civil engineer and all I did was to go to site with him. Death came and there was no one to turn to. I went back and asked myself how I was going to survive with four kids. Thank God I had the passion for Agriculture and I started rearing chicken and from this I went to piggery. It was on World Food Day and I had the biggest pig on my farm. I sold it and this also opened other doors for me. I was discovered by the Lagos State government and today I am one of the leading farmers in the Agric sector. I did not read Agriculture but my passion and hard work took me there. Along the line, I also went into catering but today I have handed over my catering department to my daughter. This year I reaped part of the fruits of my labour on Mother’s Day, my son bought me a jeep. “

    Juliet Ezenwa Maja Pearce, an artist spoke on support during and after violence. “It is very important not to transfer abuse. A lot of people pass on what they had suffered to others and this should not be the case. A lot of times, you find that those who perpetuate some traditions are women. Times have changed and we can no longer use the old method that we have been using to find solutions to these problems.”

    Pearce adds that: “You also need to know that you are not to blame when there is a crisis in the relationship. One other thing that mothers need to know now is that they should not gamble with the reproductive years. Women do not have all the time, it is therefore important to plan properly as well as seek counseling.”

    The climax of the event was the presentation of a cheque to young Grace by Madam Eunice Akalegbere for her to further her education. “Grace was given cheque for WAEC exams because she couldn’t complete her education because of early marriage. She has been learning computer in our office after resolving her issue with her husband”, Eikhomun said.