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  • Many things I wish I had known about sex

    Many things I wish I had known about sex

     No one told me that it takes a while before you’re comfortable doing it without any accompanying music to drown out the sounds you and whoever you’re doing it with will inevitably make.
    No one told me that there’s is a real difference between doing it with the lights on and doing it with the lights off.
    No one told me you don’t physically feel a difference, you can’t physically feel a difference, between when you’re being safe and when you’re playing with the chance of pregnancy. Your body doesn’t tell you at the moment of conception, that you’re at the moment of conception.
    No one told me that you get tired sometimes, and sweaty sometimes, and your partner does too.
    No one told me that sometimes if you aren’t entirely comfortable with someone, you notice all their physical flaws while they’re inside you. I wasn’t aware until it happened that during sex you can notice the way someone’s skin isn’t perfect everywhere, and you can notice the way their nails feel kind of uncomfortable when they grip your bare shoulders.
    No one gave me a warning that at its core, having sex is something that you kind of know how to do naturally, but that also, at its core, sex can be something that you can kind of be really bad at. That sometimes you’re just not going to have a rhythm with someone, and you’re going to notice the way that your hips and their hips always seem to be going in opposite directions and its going to be frustrating, and it’s going to make you want to stop moving your hips at all.
  • ENI BALOGUN

    ENI BALOGUN

    Eni Balogun is the lady behind Lise make-up brand. The mother of three grew up observing her father’s involvement in his men’s grooming business. The daddy’s pet later toed her father’s step as she did part-time jobs with cosmetic companies like MAC, Fashion Fair while she was studying abroad. The graduate of Investment Banking later returned to the country to follow her passion. She speaks with Adetutu Audu.

    YOU decided to relocate back to Nigeria to start your business, Lise Beauty. What informed this decision?

    I wanted to add change to the make-up industry in Nigeria because when I came for vacation in 2005 there was not really anything on ground. I did test the waters for a bit, the response was not bad. I secured my studio in Ikoyi, Lagos.

    Did you set out to be a make-up artist?

    My father owned a cosmetic business in Nigeria, Groom Away Gray (men’s hair grooming business), and as a child,  I observed him closely, travelled with him as he juggled between two countries and continents (USA & Nigeria). I knew I would someday mirror his footsteps. I started with hair, but I have always had a passion for make-up. Even as a teenager, I never got it out of my system. I have always liked arts and anything that has to do with arts. When I was in the college, most of my part-time jobs were with cosmetic companies like MAC, Fashion Fair and so on. I worked in those companies for some years. So, when I later realised my passion for make-up, I decided to go for make-up courses in So Line Beauty School in New York. Apart from this, I also did some jobs with notable photographers and fashion designers to enhance my skills. I also went to Bureau College in New York and I had my master’s degree in Investment Banking. But make-up was something I wanted to do because I prefer to be a make-up artist.

    Can you recall your first client?

    I started with friends and family. I still do friends, family plus client referrals.

    What were some of your initial challenges you faced in getting your beauty business up and running?

    I didn’t have many friends here in Nigeria and getting around to meeting new ones was out of my way. Getting the supplies and everything I need was hard getting someone to construct anything. So I had to ship most of my things from the States (US). But the electricity issues still makes my skin crawl because makeup and heat aren’t friends, especially foundations and glosses. So we have to run the generator 24/7. At first, people can be so loyal to international brands. But I don’t do much talking, though once you see my product on me or once it’s tested on the client, it simply speaks for itself.

    Initially, women who wear make-up are seen as prostitutes. Now it seems the fad has been taken over by everybody. What is your take?

    It is looking very professionally applied and the fact that Nigerian women are getting oriented about the importance of makeup is a plus. If you are not in tune with the latest makeup trends you are not in. Basically, Nigerian women have embraced makeup, the application process and the glam that come with the package.

    Across the globe, cosmetics and specifically makeup is big business. Do you think Nigerians have really keyed into making this a lucrative business?

    It just takes a lot of guts to convince Nigerians to go for a product. But the fact that we try and are still recognised for it is a big step. We have over hundreds of makeup brands to choose from. Brides respect our craft more because they appreciate the artistry services we create on their special day.

    We can’t talk makeup without talking skincare. The problem of skin bleaching is increasing among our women and some of our men, and the issue of expiry products. Have you had to deal with this in your line of work yet?

    It’s something we weren’t taught in makeup schools but you get to discover yourself. But then if you learnt special effects, it’s an addition you’ll be glad you learnt. I just believe if you don’t love yourself on the inside, you can’t love that person on the outside. But again then if gain that confidence. Some people prefer to cut cost by buying expired products all in the name of discounts and end up ruining their skin. I have seen a lot of expired makeup, fake brand name makeup. I just pray hard for the people that know about it but choose to ignore it.

    You are one of the founders of Professional and Certified Make-up Artists of Nigeria, PCMAN. Why do you think you need the body?

    We have had an overwhelming response so far due to creating a body and a good support system for makeup artists so that we can be recognised and heard.

    You were also part of the Association of Practitioners of Spa and Medical Aesthetics of Nigeria (APSMAN), at what point did you decide spa?

    I went into spa because of my skin problem. It is the process of trying to solve the problem. People should learn to take proper care of their skin. That is the largest organ. Spa is growing every day in Nigeria, it is a multi-billion dollar business in the world and we want to be among the place where the international world stands and we can only achieve that by first coming together as an association and regulating our activities.

    We also want to ensure that spa owners are properly licensed and insured to carry out their business. The association is poised to help people appreciate the essence of beauty, hence they have decided to train and license people.

    For instance, there are many products out there that are presented to people. Clients need pay attention and do  their research to decide whether a product is really necessary for the health of their skin or it’s potentially harmful.

    How was your growing up?

    I was a daddy’s girl, and I am still a daddy’s girl. I had my way all the time. But since I grew up, I cannot do all those things anymore. Growing up for me was fun. I grew up partly in Nigeria and partly in New York and Brooklyn. I had the best of those worlds. I used to ride my bicycle around the streets and I really do miss doing that now. Because of this, everybody in my neighbourhood knew me.

    You are a wife, mother and businesswoman. So, how do you juggle the three?

    I would say I am a superwoman. My husband calls me a superwoman because I work very hard. This is because I am someone who tries to please everyone. But I have realised that you cannot please everyone. In America, people appreciate you when you try to do your best for them. But here in Nigeria, it is very hard. When you are trying so hard, some people would shout at you and some would try to pull you down because they know you are better than they are. I have to continue to do my best and not really look at the way things are going around me. I just set my goals and I work towards reaching my goal.

    How supportive is your husband?

    My husband supports me in everything I do and I thank God for giving him to me. I also thank God for my three kids. He is very funny and he could be naughty. He is a very fashionable person. He is always particular about what looks best and what does not.

    Describe your style and beauty secret

    I love to go casual at all times. I love jeans and I have over a hundred pairs of jeans. It is a part of my life. And because I love to wear jeans, I hate to work in a bank. I had to look corporate all the time, but I didn’t like that. My beauty secret is that I have a husband to keep me in tune and I have my children to chase after; so, it helps me to keep the weight off. I do not have to go to the gym. All I need is to run around the house with my kids. But I do a lot of other exercises at home as well. I also dance a lot and I do my aerobic at home. When I put on my music, I really do try to shed as much weight as I can. I know I have the tendency to be fat, so I try very hard to keep the fat off. I like my physique. I am not over weight or skinny. I am just okay like this and I feel comfortable with my size.

  • 23 crazy, weird signs that might mean you’re in love (2)

    23 crazy, weird signs that might mean you’re in love (2)

    HE pushes your buttons in ways that no one else ever could, and it makes you want to scream in frustration. How could he spark something this intense in you?

    12: You have more energy

    As you go through your day, you feel more alive and energetic, as if you have a constant adrenaline rush going through you.

    You feel more productive, like you can take on the world every single day. And you’re not on drugs. Well, you’re probably not on drugs. You’re not on drugs, right?

    This weird, natural energy boost that lifts your mood and gets you excited through the day… where did it come from? It’s a crazy experience, it actually feels like you’re high on life.

    Could it have come from… him?

    13: You get defensive when your BFF is negative about him

    So you know how your BFF’s job is basically to rag on the guy you like, right? Well, maybe normally it wouldn’t bug you and might even be comforting to hear, but in this case, it’s the complete opposite.

    You have an instinctual need to protect him if she dares say anything even remotely rude about him. Even if she’s not saying something that bad, her not being super appreciative of his amazing nature is enough to spark a bit of fury in you.

    14: You have fun talking with him no matter what you’re talking about

    It doesn’t matter what the topic is, you’re just delighted to be having a conversation with him about anything.

    Even the most random, uneventful stuff (like the weather or the news) becomes exciting, engaging and fun. You can even talk about stuff you don’t care about at ALL (like his fantasy football league that you’re not even in) and it still feels like you’re having the most interesting conversation in the world.

    (Seriously, dudes, unless we’re in love with you, or IN it, we don’t care about your fantasy football league.)

    15: You totally stop thinking about your ex

    So you might have had an obsession with your ex-boyfriend who broke your heart and cheated on you with his ex-girlfriend (or whatever he did).

    You might have missed him or completely hated his guts with a burning passion that could light a thousand suns. You might have gone weeks where every morning you wake up and your first thought is wondering whether you could fit him inside a blender.

    And now? You actually pretty much don’t care anymore. You don’t fixate on your anger for the guy who screwed you over. You almost feel a sense of indifference.

    It’s a crazy experience. You never thought you’d see the day where he’s truly gone from your thoughts, but now he is… because someone else has taken over your thoughts.

    16: You do boring stuff with him just to have the chance to spend more time with him

    Does he have to go to the super market because he’s out of eggs? Sounds like fun! He needs to stop at CVS to pick up razors? Sign me up!

    No matter how boring it is or how much you’d normally hate it (errands, ugh), you’d never turn down the chance to do it with him.

    17: You can talk to him about anything

    And I do mean anything. You’re totally comfortable around him.

    You can pee with the door open without feeling weird. You tell him about a gross zit you popped the other day, he laughs and pretends to be grossed out.

    And when you have something serious to talk about with him, you know he would give you his full undivided attention about anything… just like you would for him.

    18: You can’t concentrate at work and suddenly have ADD

    So you’re at work and supposed to be doing some kind of spreadsheet or paperwork or training the new killer whale at the park to jump through a hoop, and what are you doing instead? You’re daydreaming about him.

    Or if you’re around family and friends, your mind is elsewhere. You’re just not present in the moment with them, because you’re thinking of him.

    You can’t even help it, it’s like you’re in this beautiful daydream where it’s just you and him in the world. You feel like you’re in a small world built for two, a world only you and him could ever possibly understand.

    You might even be dodging your responsibilities in lieu of an all-day text or email chain with him. And when you’re not writing, you’re sitting there obsessively checking your phone or refreshing your email waiting for the second he writes back.

    19: You can’t explain why you’re always happy

    All of a sudden you feel giddy and lighthearted for no apparent reason at all. Things that might have annoyed you or brought your mood down before don’t seem to bother you at all now.

    It’s like you’re a different person. It’s as if there’s a ray of sunshine splashing across your face. And the best part is the smile on your face comes from a place within. It’s a specific kind of happiness you’ve never experienced before. And it’s beautiful. You can’t even help it.

    20: You’re less attracted to other guys

    Ryan Gossling? George Clooney? Brad Pitt?

    Eh, whatever.

    He is enough. You can see your favorite actor and not even have the same heart-stopping reaction you would have before.

    And if you even think of being with another guy, it doesn’t really appeal to you the same way it used to. You don’t feel any kind of intense attraction to them anymore.

    All you want is him.

    21: You mentally make note of the things he likes

    Quick: What’s his favorite song? Or his favorite movie? Or his favorite color?

    Did you just rattle off the answer?

    If he mentions specific, random things he likes you can’t help but take notice. Subconsciously or not, you want to know how to make him happy.

    22: You save and remember all the firsts you have with him

    You remember the first time you met him. The first time you kissed. Or you might even have the ticket stub from your first date.

    Whatever it is, little moments with him become special, cherished memories. And you remember every detail.

    23: He scares the hell out of you Deep down, you know in your heart that if he wanted to hurt you, he’d be able to completely destroy you. You might not want to admit it, but he could break your heart so badly it’d bring you to your knees in pain and send tears streaming down your red blotchy face.

    If he tries to show you his emotional side, you might try to act like it’s too much too soon but secretly, deep down, you love every second of it.

    If you’re really honest with yourself, you’re terrified of where this could possibly lead with him, and yet you can’t help but want to take things further.

    And you know that if tomorrow you woke up and weren’t afraid of what the future with him could mean, you would miss it more than anything.

    So to sum it all up…

    Remember, a lot of the time, the biggest obstacle to love is denial . It’s scary to realize you’re in love, and it’s really easy to say, “Nope, not me, I’m not in love with him, nooooope.”

    But if you read this list, and realized that a bunch of these signs apply to you…

    Well then I hate to break it to you sister, but you’re in love.

    If you’re in love, first of all congratulations, and second of all that makes it even more important that you handle these to make or break moments every woman experiences in her relationships with men because if you already love him then your potential for heartbreak is as high as possible, so pay attention because this next step is vitally important. At some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger.

    Concluded.

     

    Source: vixendaily.com

  • ‘All we need is a bridge’

    ‘All we need is a bridge’

    •Lagos backwater communities make case for connectivity

    Hidden behind the waters off Shibiri, a community in Oto-Awori LCDA in Lagos, are a number of villages. The villages are peculiar in that they are scattered among water channels and yet boast of a host of modern amenities that may put some major towns to shame. They however lack one thing, which in their opinion, is holding them back. Medinat Kanabe reports.

    Ese Ofin, Egan, Origele, Ojota, Ishagira are some communities ensconced in between a number  of tributaries of the Badagry creeks, a major water channel which flows into the Lagos lagoon from the Badagry end. They can be accessed via Shibiri, a little Awori settlement in Oto-Awori LCDA in the old Ojo Local government Area of Lagos. Because of their natural topography,  the communities are connected by water and like a people connected by destiny, the people live the same pattern of life, share the same primary school, secondary school and hospital; except for a few who prefer to patronise private schools and hospitals in nearby towns across the creeks.

    According to the indigenes, the communities have existed for over 80 years and have grown from one little village to a number of villages that can now be called a town, based on its growing population, development and energy.

    According to Chief Yusuf Salami Abiodun, the Baale of Egan, one of the constituent villages, who says he was born in the community over 40 years ago; the community has steadily progressed over the years that there is nothing the inhabitants want in the outside world that does not exist within the community.

    Aside being born in the village, he claimed that both his parents and their parents also lived in the community. He also revealed that the community has been fortunate to have had contact with modern civilisation rather early. “Our village was discovered early by the government; that is why we have a government nursery, primary school and a secondary, which I attended.

    “The primary school is in our community while the secondary school is located in Ishagira community, where our government hospital is also located.

    “We also got electricity in this community as far back as 1988, during the reign of Gov. Raji Rasaki; and I can tell you for free that we enjoy good supply. Currently, we enjoy five days supply every week, which is better than what many who claim to live in the bigger towns and cities get per week.” Baale Abiodun said.

    Another notable impact of the government in the backwater communities is the 240 by 2-metre solid concrete foot bridge, constructed by a son of the soil and former Commissioner for Rural Development between 2011 and 2015, Cornelius Oyefolu Ojelabi. It replaced the old dilapidated wooden bridge, which served them for years. The Baale recalled how conveying seafood and farm produce to the big markets, using the old bridge, was a lot of headache and cumbersome for his people.

    According to Baale Abiodun, Ojelabi was born in Ese Ofin community and attended the primary school there. His father was a onetime Baale of the community, hence he was well acquainted with the biggest need of the people.

    “Before he built the jetty for us, we used to cross the water through a wooden bridge while the children swam across since the river is not very wide,” Baale Abiodun said.

    Explaining that he became Baale of Egan only about four months ago, he said the communities have designated market days when they transport all their goods to the market and also buy the things they need at home, pending the next market day, usually every eight days.

    Introducing the other communities, Baale Abiodun said “We have other communities around us here and they are all surrounded by water.

    Asked if the first settlers in the community had to sand fill the water, he said “No, it is the work of God. Nobody living here ever filled or had to fill their land to build their houses. Even when you dig, you dig very far before you get water. The rivers you see around the communities were created like that by God. The waters are on their own while the lands are also on their own. We plant here and we work here. Sometimes I stay here for one month without going out of the community because we have everything we need here.”

    Fishing and agrarian

    On the people’s main source of livelihood, Baale Abiodun said “It is mainly fishing, hunting and farming. We farm cassava, plantain, coconut. The women also weave mats and sell to customers who come from far and near.”

    Asked if there are plans to have private clinics establish in the communities to complement the lone government hospital and serve the over 3,000 population better, Baale said, “We will allow anyone who has been certified by the government to establish. But we can’t just allow anybody to come and build a hospital here because we’re talking about lives; and we don’t want our people dying from wrong medical diagnoses.

    “You may see this place as a village but we don’t; so we cannot allow just anyone to come here and start a hospital. I will first write to the authority and if such person is up to date, the government will tell us and we will allow him.”

    Even as a backwater village, many modern houses are springing up in different locations, most of them being built by strangers. On this, the Baale said, “Yes the houses are being built by strangers who acquired plots of land here because of its affordability. They believe that the government will in the not too distant future build a motorable bridge here, which is not far from the truth. Once a bridge is built here, there will be nothing anyone is looking for outside that will not be available here.”

    He therefore called on the government to look into this, so that more positive development can come into the community.

    In the absence of a motorable bridge, the Baale lamented that “Building a house in this community costs much more than what it cost to build the same house in the up towns and cities because everything needs to be transported across water and some of the materials used in building these houses cannot be carried by boats.

    “If a tipper brings sand or gravel, it has to be first offloaded at the river bank, then they will look for a way to get it across the water; and that is extra cost.”

    Security-wise, Baale said the entire community enjoys absolute peace and the people can even afford to sleep with their doors open and their two eyes close. He however said he cannot predict what will happen when a modern motorable bridge is built and the communities are exposed to the outside world.

    On the likelihood of wild animals such as snakes, crocodiles and the likes, constituting danger, he said that is not much of a problem since a good number of the indigenes are hunters, who constantly hunt the animals for economic purpose.

    “There are days set aside for hunters from the different communities to come together and storm the bushes. On those days, they hunt the animals down, so they know better than to come close to the communities.

    “Apart from that, there are traps that individuals set from time to time to cash animals.”

    A young landlady of Igbo extraction, who goes by the acronym ‘Nurse’ on account of her profession in the community, told this reporter that she, together with her husband and children, have been living in the community for over a year and the experience has been wonderful.

    “I am from the eastern part of Nigeria, Igbo if you like; we were first residing in the North but had to leave because of the problems of Boko Haram insurgency. My husband brought us to his brother’s house at Shibiri but because of the problems with his tenants, we left after my husband got a land and built his house here.”

    On the experience so far, she said, “I love the environment because it is peaceful. Although when he first told me that he was bringing me here, I cried because I was scared for my children because of the water. But the first time I brought the children here, they liked it and were happy, so I relaxed. It’s been a year since we’ve been living here and we are fine.

    “My children school across the water and I work outside the community as a nurse in one of the hospitals in Shibiri while my husband is a banker up town; so we cross the water every day and in all these times, I have not heard of any incident.”

    Another elderly man popularly known as Baba Maria, who spoke with The Nation said he was born in the community about 70 years ago and his parents lived there all their lives.

    He is quite hopeful and declared with the conviction of someone in the know, that the government will build a motorable bridge to link the villages with the outside world by 2018. “By next year, the government will help us build a bridge that cars can ride through so that development can come to the community.”

    Going back memory lane, he spoke of how as a young boy, everywhere used to be all bush, noting that his parents farmed and fished for survival.

    Another indigene, a boat operator, who gave his name as Omojesu said no-one exactly knows how long the community has been in existence. “My father was born in this village and I was born here too. We have always been crossing this water with boats even before this jetty was built a few years ago. The former bridge was made with planks before the commissioner came and made a concrete bridge for us.”

    He explained that the boats ferry passengers as far as Agbara, Badagry, Eko (Lagos Island), Apapa and Mile Two. “Many people come here in the morning to take boats to various places to escape the traffic on the roads, and mind you, if you get on any of our boats, we make sure you put on a life jacket in compliance with government’s safety measures, however near or far your destination.”

    On the indigenous language of the community, Omojesu said Yoruba and to a lesser extent, Ogu, more popularly known as Egun. “We heard that some people came to settle here many years ago before others came to join them. My father told me that his father was born here; so we cannot say exactly how old the village is, but the two major languages are Yoruba and Egun.”

  • Help, the world is closing in on me!

    Help, the world is closing in on me!

    •Man fighting daughter’s rape laments job loss, eviction and torment by neighbours

    Following the publication of his story in The Nation of October 8, where he alleged his daughter’s rape and an alleged police cover-up, which  led to subsequent, prosecution and remanding of the suspect in Kirikiri; Rashidi Olalekan is now pleading for help following series of problems after him. He shared his story with Gboyega Alaka.

    For pursuing justice in the matter of his 13-year-old-daughter, allegedly raped by an 88-year-old neighbour, the world seems to be closing in on Mr Rashidi Olalekan, a resident of Amosun Street in Badore community off LASU-Igando Road in Lagos.

    First, he was relieved of his driver’s job; next, he got a notice to quit his residence, where he has lived, albeit free of charge, for fifteen years; and to make matters worst, the whole community now seems to have ganged-up against him, condemning him for putting an ‘innocent’ man in jail and hounding him with verbal insults.

    According to Olalekan, the only thing his neighbours have not done to him is to physically attack him, whenever he ventures out of his compound. He says the matter has got to a level where even his children are taunted and abused. His two sons, who freely mixed in the neighbourhood, were recently chased away from a compound, where they had gone to charge their GSM phones. Yet this was a place they had always gone to for the same purpose. Even he now has to sneak out as early as possible, whenever he needs to go out – like he did on the occasion of this interview – and wait until it is dark, before returning.

    It will be recalled that the 88-year-old Omobolaji Ayoade, a Redeemed Christian Church of God pastor, who lived in the same residence with Olalekan, was alleged to have raped Olalekan’s 13-year-old daughter. According to the story, as told by Olalekan and reported in The Nation of October 8 (2017) titled: “Rape: 13-year-old victim’s father cries out for help,” that incident, which occurred Monday September 25 around 10am, would not be the first time Ayoade would be violating the girl in question, having once fingered her private part, causing her to bleed, when she was a mere 8-month old.

    Subsequently the case was heard  at a magistrate court in Ikeja,  and the judge, based on the evidence at his disposal ordered that the accused be remanded in Kirikiri until the next hearing on November 21.

    What now baffles Olalekan, is how the same neighbours who had once blacklisted their compound on account of Ayoade’s untoward behaviour, would turn around and blame him for his incarceration. “I really don’t understand what’s happening. Maybe they think I have taken the matter too far, but I think it’s all sentiment. Should I have allowed him to get away with this act once again. As far as I’m concerned, I did what I had to do because I owe it to my conscience; to my role as a father, and to my daughter. How many of them would have their daughters abused sexually twice and fold their hands?”

    Appeal

    Olalekan’s major appeal now is to fellow Nigerians. He is in dire need of a job and an accommodation, having lost his job and on the verge of losing his 15-year-old accommodation. Olalekan says his landlord, whom he once worked as a driver for, has issued everyone in the house quit notice, owing to the negative images the house has been drawing on account to this rape matter and others.

    “In truth, ” Olalekan says “the quit notice is not for me alone, but my case is really critical because I have also lost my job. My landlord has given us until December to move out. He says he wants to renovate the house, which in actual fact needs some work. I must however use this opportunity to appreciate my landlord. I worked for him as a driver for years and it was on account of this that he gave me a room in the house to live in for free. As I speak, this is my fifteenth year in the house; so all I have for him is gratitude. He even allowed me to continue staying in the house (for free) after an eye problem forced me to quit working for him at the time. He also paid me off with N64,000, which I believe was from the total N400 he was deducting from my monthly salary while I worked for him. In fact it was with that money that  I took care of my family while recuperating from the eye surgery.

    “Lest I forget, I was fortunate to have another benefactor, a member of my mosque congregation, pay for the surgeries at the Isolo General Hospital, Lagos. ”

    Asked what led to his sack, since he told this reporter in that initial report in The Nation that his boss excused him to go and take care of the problem, Olalekan said it turned out to be an indirect way of sacking him. Before then, he had worked for his immediate past boss, also as a driver, for about six months, without any record of carelessness, incompetence or accident.

    But he traced the sack to two major incidences: “The first occasion was shortly after the rape incident , when I drove my boss’ step-grand-daughter to Mowe on the outskirt of Lagos. As we got to the Long Bridge just outside Lagos along the Lagos-Ibadan Expressway, one of the car tyres punctured, but I could not stop, one because it was still about 6am in the morning and because that stretch was notorious for deadly attacks and robbery. So I continued until I got to the end of the bridge, where there was a bus stop and a turning and people were waiting to board buses. There, we met another driver, who was busy changing one of his tyres. He said it was pierced by a sharp object on the bridge but he refused to stop because of the stories he had heard of the place. So we concluded that some dangerous elements might have thrown sharp objects on the road, hoping some drivers would stop once their tyres got punctured.

    “Unfortunately, when I returned, my boss, rather than commend my effort, tongue-lashed me for being careless. He blamed me and the lady for driving such long distance and damaging the tyre. Meanwhile, this was somebody I drove for a whole six months and never for once had a tyre problem.

    “On the second occasion,  we were travelling to Abeokuta, when, as we approached the Tippers’ Garage,  my boss ordered me to stop for him to ease himself. As I made to pull over, I bumped into a big crater – and everyone would agree with me that there are lots of them on that road. In my attempt to prevent the car from rolling into a ditch, I manoeuvred it on the edge of the drainage until it rested safely. In the process, the exhaust pipe tore and my boss got furious.  But God knows, I did the best I could under the circumstance.”

    So now I’m appealing for help. I could make do with any kind of job, so long as it is legitimate. I can ride Marwa (tricycle), I can drive buses, cars and I can even man a school gate; anything legitimate, just to earn money to take care of my family. Aside the girl in question, I have two sons and a wife and they all need caring for.

     

  • Why we launched pay per day – StarTimes Boss

    Why we launched pay per day – StarTimes Boss

    On Wednesday, November 1, StarTimes officially commenced its much anticipated daily subscription plan tagged pay per day. In a brief chat with the media, the Chief Executive of the company, Mr Justin Zhang gave more insight into the birth of daily and weekly subscription in Nigeria.

    Q: When was the decision to launch the pay per day taken?

    Answer: We reached a decision to introduce pay per day in Nigeria late 2016. Although at that time, we were still testing the service in other African countries where we operate and in the South-West region in Nigeria.

    Q: Some people believe the pay per day service was introduced as a result of competition in the industry:

    Answer: That is not the case. Nigeria is our biggest market and so it would not be a wise business decision to launch a product or service without proper testing.

    The launch of our pay per day service had to be properly done so as not to cause any technical disruption, hence the need to test for months and make corrections where needed before rolling out a hitch-free service. Also, as a highly innovative company, we continually seek new ways to improve our customer experience and satisfaction and pay per day is one of such.

    Q: How was the service received by subscribers?

    Answer: Positively, as expected. Many of our subscribers have already started embracing the service. We get calls daily from customers seeking to get more information about pay per day so that they too can subscribe. I would say that this service has been much anticipated by Nigerians so we feel very happy to have pioneered the introduction of daily payments from as low as N60 in the pay-TV industry. Our aim is to ensure that we deliver digital entertainment to every Nigerian home at very affordable rates and we will ensure that this is done in the coming years.

    Related: TSTV vs DSTV: StarTimes pay per day, coincidence or strategy?

    Q: Is pay per view to be expected soon?

    Answer: I think many people misconstrue the pay-TV industry for the telecoms industry. Technologically speaking, for the pay tv industry, it is almost impossible to select individual channels based on customer preference and charge for each. While we are not ruling it out completely because things may change in the future, I know this may not be happening anytime soon given the technology on the ground.

    Q: What has StarTimes done recently to improve content?

    Answer: A lot. For example, we have upgraded our movie channels list and now have more safe channels for the kids to also enjoy. We also broadcast fairly recent new movies very new series from Hollywood. For our Nollywood fans, there are many channels dedicated to Nollywood movies and series now on StarTimes.

    Very worthy of note is that we will be broadcasting the Russia 2018 world cup live on StarTimes and this is in fulfilment of our promise to ensure than Digital entertainment is delivered to every home. All our subscribers will be enjoying live matches of the world cup from the comfort of their homes without putting a hole in their pockets come 2018.

  • Social media group to enliven plight of women

    Nonnie

    As issue of women and children continues to get global concern, a social media platform, Sisterhood Global, has relaunched its operations in line with universal approach to solving the plights of women.

    Nigerian founder of the group, Nonnie Roberson, while addressing journalists in Abuja, noted that the mission was to tackle global problems associated with women through effective use of the social media.

    She explained that the group started the project three months ago under the name, Sisterhood Africa, but had to rebrand after it had gathered over three million active members and Facebook decided to shut the page down.

    Robertson expressed optimism that the group will keep rising above gender issues by refocusing its targets, given the reason it decided to expand its scope from Africa in order to accommodate more women globally.

    She said: ‘‘it gives me great pleasure to announce the launch of the very first faith based Social Network for Women, Sisterhood Global. Evidently, we have moved from glory to glory.

    ‘‘About three months ago, it was impressed in my heart to set up a platform where women can come together, pray together, love each other, receive godly counsels, express how they feel inside and get solutions to their problems with abounding testimonies.

    ‘‘We started out with a Facebook group, which within a short while, grew to over three million active members. For reasons best known to Facebook, and without any prior notice, the group was taken down. Indeed, Sisterhood Africa (Now Sisterhood Global) was a house of solutions and testimonies. It was a place of solace for many women in Africa, and round the world. The testimonies shared on SHA were too mysterious to be understood by unbelievers and some believers.’’

    On what the social networking site will do for women, Nonnie said, ‘‘The Sisterhood Global platform – https://www.sisterhoodglobal.com – allows you to create groups, post photos, chat with friends, like posts, search for members, get notifications, add friends, send smiles, comment on posts, share posts, even poke! lol, and much more.

    ‘‘Moreso, it’s a platform to experience unprecedented miracles, find strong unshakeable love, dumbfounding miracles, open heavens, answered prayers, see the acts and know the ways of God. It is a platform for women all over the globe, who wish to experience the supernatural.’’

     

  • ‘I assist the marginalised to make reproductive health choices’

    ‘I assist the marginalised to make reproductive health choices’

    Dr Damilola Akinsulire is a Consultant Public Health Physician with Lagos University Teaching Hospital (LUTH). She runs a medical outreach programme (breast and cervical screening, family planning, counselling & services) for women prisoners and the underprivileged. .  She has touched more than 5,000 lives through her  initiatives. Akinsulire, a recipient of the prestigious Mandela Washington Fellowship, was the Best candidate in Principles and Practice of Public Health, 2017 at the National Post Graduate Medical College. In this interview with Omolara Akintoye, she speaks on her experience and how government can ensure fairness in the allocation of resources.  

    ELL us about your work at LUTH?

    My work involves implementing effective programs in communities to ensure that the health of the community is optimal. I chose the field of Public Health and Community Medicine because it is a field that emphasises prevention, focusing on not just the health of one person but of the entire populace. Our focus is on prevention, because if you are able to identify and prevent the root cause of a disease, it is more cost effective than when complications have set in.

    Here in LUTH, we run a “Well Woman Clinic, immunoprophylaxis clinic and an endemic clinic. The beautiful thing about the well woman clinic is that it is run alongside the immunoprophylaxis clinic, which allows mothers get immunisation and care for their babies and still have an opportunity to care for their own health, thereby reducing frequent visits to the hospital and lost time at work. The well woman clinic provides cancer screenings, family planning counselling, HIV counselling, to mention a few.

    There are lots of myths and misconceptions surrounding infertility and family planning, at LUTH, we try to dispel these myths. These women get information about their reproductive health and the choices to make on family planning. I’m also into quantitative and qualitative research, which guides policies and allocation of resources for health programs. Research and health needs assessment is key to implementing effective programmes.

    Do you do anything outside LUTH?

    Yes, I am actively involved in health outreaches and mentorship programmes for young persons. Outside my work in LUTH, my focus is on marginalised communities. I am very passionate about connecting marginalized women and young persons to reproductive health information and services. Take for example market women, these are also a marginalized group.

    Have you ever wondered how this group get information and access health care considering the fact that they spend long hours in the market. This curiosity prompted me to do a Research work on “Birth Preparedness and Complication Readiness amongst market women” This was to serve as a baseline and guide to future programs for this group. It is a fact that maternal mortality is high and we can only tackle this problem by leaving no one behind. If we don’t consider marginalized groups of people including adolescents and young persons, we will keep having worse health indices. I was at different markets in Mushin local government area to find out how these women get information about their health and some of my findings were interesting.

    Can you please share some of your findings?

    These group of people had little or no information about the concept of birth preparedness even though they were able to relate with some of its components. The “Birth Preparedness and Complication Readiness’ concept emphasizes getting prepared for Pregnancy and Delivery. This involves saving money for delivery, identifying a blood donor, identifying a skilled birth attendant, making arrangements for transportation to the hospital when labor starts and having information about danger signs in pregnancy and postpartum.

    My findings revealed that most of these women wait till last minutes to make preparations for their delivery; they wouldn’t register for Antenatal care until they are fifth to sixth month gone. Not being prepared for birth and delivery contributes to maternal mortality. A lot of women still deliver at homes or with unskilled persons. It is very important that women know about the danger signs in pregnancy such as swollen legs, excessive bleeding, frontal headache and heartburn. Such a woman should see her doctor immediately.

    An effective strategy to tackle maternal mortality is to look at the health of the woman right from the womb to the tomb. I mean using the Life course approach.” This is why I am interested in the health of women, children, adolescents. An unhealthy fetus from a malnourished mother may have intrauterine growth restriction, which in turn affects brain development and her grades in school. An uneducated woman is more likely to engage in unhealthy habits and delay in making the right decisions for her health.

    Ignorance and inability to make prompt decisions when emergencies arise in pregnancy contributes to maternal mortality. It will interest you to know that the nutritional status of a mother in pregnancy has been linked to the development of non-communicable diseases in her child. Recent researches are beginning to link malnutrition in the mother and fetus to be associated with the development of hypertension and diabetes in the baby in future. This is called metabolic programming. There is so much to talk about concerning the health of women and children. The health of these group are intricately linked. A healthy woman equals a healthy nation.

    Tell us your experience with female prisoners

    The government needs to pay attention to the state of the prisons. The problem identified in the prison I visited recently was overcrowding and we know that this puts the inmates at risk of respiratory tract infections, skin diseases and other contagious diseases. The free medical outreach to the prisons was to create awareness on breast cancer and empowering the inmates on conduct of self-breast examination. I also treated ailments and skin infections and provided the women with toiletries and sanitary towels.

    How do you get funds for these projects?

    I’ve been leveraging on family and friends who have been very supportive as well as my personal funds. I am also collaborating with organisations to generate funds for future projects.

    As a beneficiary of the prestigious Mandela Washington Fellowship, what was the lesson learnt?

    It all started in 2014 by President Barack Obama. The fellowship is the flagship program of the Young African Leaders Initiative (YALI) that empowers young people through academic coursework, leadership training and networking. It provides young leaders from Africa with the opportunity to hone their skills at a U.S. college or university, with support for professional development after they return home. The competition was keenly contested that in the whole of Africa, there were over 64,000 applicants and out of this, 22,000 of the applicants were from Nigeria. But only 100 of us were selected. It’s been a life changing experience exposing me to how the American health system runs and most importantly my leadership skills were sharpened. It was a rigorous 6 weeks coursework at the Ohio State University, where I studied Public Management and Policy. I will be applying the trainings and experiences gained to my public health work here.

    Tell us some of your success stories

    My success story is that I am impacting the lives of women and young persons and putting smiles on the faces of the indigent and impoverished. Career wise, a recent success was an award I received from the National Postgraduate Medical College as the best candidate in Principles and Practice of Public Health in Nigeria. It’s quite humbling for me, and it is no doubt a call for more service to humanity. I’m grateful to God, my teachers and my mentors.

    What is your advice to other doctors?

    It’s very simple. Be humble, stay focused, and have mentors, because a mentor will allow you to see the hope inside yourself and bring out the best in you.

    What is your final word?

    Reducing inequalities in health is achievable. Nigeria can achieve universal health coverage if there is strong political commitment and fair allocation of resources; and of course evidence-based research should be a driving force for policy formulation.

  • Interesting tips about Zobo, Roselle drink

    Interesting tips about Zobo, Roselle drink

    Today, we will be learning about one of Nigeria’s popular drinks, family beverage and our very own local Chapman; Roselle drinks and also known as Hibiscus tea is popularly known as zobo in Nigeria.

    Zobo drink is one of Nigeria’s popular drinks made from dried Roselle plant flowers. The drink is also as Roselle drink. It is mostly prepared at home as family beverage drink and also as refreshment in parties and get-togethers.

    Ingredients for 5 litres of Zobo drink:

    You can get more with the same quantity of ingredients depending on the concentration you want. If you will be using artificial flavours, you might want to add more water.

    2 De Rica cups of dry Zobo leaves

    1 clove of garlic

    1 big piece of ginger

    1 big, very ripe pineapple

    Enough water

    Preparation:

    Zobo leaves are usually very dusty, so make sure you wash off the dust thoroughly. It will seem like all the flavours/colour of the zobo are being washed off but don’t worry, you would be impressed to find out that the leaves still have a lot of the colour intact when you start boiling it.

    Wash, peel and cut the pineapple into thin slices. Some people add the peel of the pineapple when making the zobo drink but I don’t do this, simply because I always think that dirt sticks to the peels of pineapples.

    Similarly, peel and cut the ginger and garlic into tiny pieces.

    DIRECTIONS

    1. Put the washed zobo leaves into a deep pot.
    2. Add the pineapples and pour enough hot water to consume the contents of the pot and then some garlic at this initial stage.
    3. Start cooking at medium to high heat and let it boil for about 5 minutes.
    4. Now, add the ginger and the garlic, more water and keep boiling for the next 30 minutes. This is the actual time it would take for the zobo leaves to be completely soft and the pineapples tender.
    5. Turn off the heat and set the pot aside to cool down completely.
    6. When cool, wring out the juice from the pineapples and zobo leaves, leaving only the zobo juice in the pot.
    7. Pour the juice through a sieve to take out the remaining large particles then pour it through a chiffon cloth to remove the tiniest particles.
    8. Add any artificial flavour of your choice at this time and stir.
    9. Pour into bottles and refrigerate. Your Roselle drinks is ready but remember that it is best-served chill.
    Finally, serve with ice and sliced fruits. Enjoy with any snack of your choice.

  • When your partner stalks you

    When your partner stalks you

    Over 50% of ex-partner stalking started before they left their partner (Mullen, Pathe and Purcell, 2009)

    They become demanding/controlling, they want to know who you are texting, e-mailing, what you are saying.  They are suspicious, perhaps even paranoid.

    They are contacting you multiple times a day asking you to confirm where you are at – if you are at an unusual place and they seem to know – suspect that they have put some geo location software on your phone.

    They start sending aggressive, abusive or threatening texts.

    They start to contact your friends and family trying to check up on you, get information about you, or trying to damage those relationships.

    They start to spread rumors, put abusive, embarrassing comments online via social network, forums etc.

    They seem to know information that you haven’t told them or know what you do online such as websites you’ve gone to, people you’ve chatted or sent e-mails to etc – suspect spyware on your computer

    Your passwords stop working or keep changing.

    You find e-mails marked read that you haven’t read, or e-mails sent from your account you haven’t sent.

    Money starts going missing from your online bank account or goods being bought via online stores you use.

    Information is deleted such as friend’s contacts, computer files, e-mails.

    www.digital-trust.org