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  • Girls, don’t let your friends massacre your destiny!

    Girls, don’t let your friends massacre your destiny!

    By Temilolu Okeowo

    Greetings to you an adorable and amiable Evangelist in the Lord’s vineyard. However, I’m overwhelmed by your spirited doggedness towards the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ – by and large chastity and the girl-child. I really commend your efforts on this herculean task. May God continue to uphold and strengthen you in Jesus name!

    Adedapo Odutola

    Dear ma,

    Your message touched me because I’m a victim of premarital sex. At age 19, I’ve had so many boyfriends and had sex countless times with them and can’t even remember how many guys I’ve slept with! I never knew I was destroying myself. Now that God has shed His light on my self-destructive habit, can He forgive me for defiling myself? All the while ma, I thought I was enjoying; I thought as a teenager if I don’t “flex” now and have fun with boys in my teens, I won’t be able to enjoy my youth! That’s what my friends told me and I listened not knowing I was destroying my future. To think I don’t even have examination results to get an admission into the university!  I’m really confused and disappointed; I really feel ashamed of myself and almost hate myself!

    Miss A.

    My darling Miss A.,

    Believe me, I wish I could see you, give you a bear hug and squeeze all your pain and regret out of you! I tell you, since you realised your folly and mistakes, GOD ALREADY FORGAVE YOU! All you need is a major “spiritual overhauling!” This include a lot of deliverance prayers which can rid all forms of ungodly soul ties with your numerous sexual partners and also prayers to arm you from falling back into lust! THIS IS A VERY SERIOUS MATTER if you want total freedom! Any carnal person reading this could think I over flogg the consequences of sexual intercourse with multiple sexual partners and outside marriage and say it’s no big deal! Haaa….it’s more than a big deal I tell you! It’s like gambling with one’s precious life and destiny for a few minutes of pleasure when one can actually delay all the fun and have sex every single day with one single person that would make you experience heaven on earth and help you explode into great signs and wonders! May you not invite darkness into your life! May your flesh not quench the light of God in your life in the name of Jesus! The following steps would help you but please relax! God is in control. Thank God you know now at a young age when you still have some fire to fight. Don’t worry all will be well!

    1. Separate yourself from your promiscuous friends!
    2. Be determined for a complete change of life style and the processing of a brand new you!
    3. Look for a bible teaching, Holy Ghost-filled, holiness and narrow-way focused church where you can worship. This is because you’re about to engage in the battle of your life! The stupid, bad devil would never let you off its captivity unless you put up a fight through serious prayers, consecration of your soul and some deliverance sessions to separate you from ungodly soul ties from multiple sexual partners! You certainly can’t do this on your own!
    4. Please Google my articles on “Secondary Virginity.” They would help you a lot because they were inspired by the spirit of God and your aim is to wrestle your soul and body from fleshly lust!
    5. By the time you take the steps above and read those articles on “Secondary Virginity,” your mind would be rejuvenated and you would be more focused to pursue your destiny to a wonderful manifestation and to start with study hard to get an admission into a higher institution!

    Please keep in touch! We’ll be praying for you!

    Girls…girls…girls…when I say sexual immorality can massacre your destiny, I KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT! How can you keep mingling your spirit with spirits and demons residing in total strangers including the ones your sexual partners have been sleeping with and think all can be well with one’s destiny with an overload of evil baggage? Or you didn’t know a man pours his spirit, energy and practically his whole life inside you? Hmmm….you don’t even want to know what he takes away from you!

    • To be continued

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  • Girls, just one ungodly sexual intercourse could deform your destiny!

    Girls, just one ungodly sexual intercourse could deform your destiny!

    Dear Aunty Temilolu, I am 18 years old, I have a boyfriend and I love him so much and he loves me because he usually does things that make me happy and also advises me when I go off the right path. I don’t want just a mere relationship with him; I want to be his life partner. I was a virgin before I met him. He asked me for sex and I gave it to him because he was not happy when I refused at first. Please what should I do because he’s asking for it again? I don’t want to have sex with him again and I don’t want to lose him. Please I need your advice because I don’t want to lose him or make him unhappy?

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Why would you love any guy above yourself, above your glorious destiny? Why would you please a boy or man to the detriment of your present and your future? If only places of worship slammed the consequences of ungodly sex in your faces at every single service, the power in the word of God would pierce your hearts and open up your spiritual understanding by fire by force and envelope you with the spirit of God which would make you detest every form of sin. Alas, the crux of today’s messages is hinged on prosperity! How can anyone who is heavily yoked with the spirits and bondages of multiple, in fact uncountable sexual partners make anything meaningful out of life and not go from trouble to trouble? How can one discover one’s life partner, destiny helper and help-mate when he/she is already confused and derailed because of an ungodly soul-tie? How then can such a person enjoy the prosperity nuggets he/she is weekly bombarded with in church if our common enemy-the devil succeeds in joining him/her with his/her destiny destroyer?

    This is a very serious matter and one of the reasons for most of today’s divorces and scattered lives of both parents and the children of the failed marriage. Sadly, lives which were designed to be so beautiful become a nightmare and dreams which had been built for years and reached a dizzying height, crash suddenly into smithereens because of someone’s impatience, ungodliness, spiritual dullness etc. I pray this won’t be your portion in Jesus mighty name. AMEN!

    The point is once a life is polluted or contaminated through sexual intercourse with the wrong person, it could have a cataclysmic effect and I tell you it only takes the mercy of God for such destiny to re-align with God’s divine agenda.

    At 18, where has my young lady reached in life for her to feel her boyfriend/fiend is God’s gift and the best that would come her way? How very naïve and myopic of her. Perhaps she’s not even in the university yet. We meet more and more people every day, and will always get carried away by different personalities. She has a few years to spend in the university where she would meet the good, the bad and the ugly, she is going to observe the NYSC and meet more exciting and interesting guys yet the world at large is waiting for her-church, work, social functions, I could go on and on! My sweeties, what’s the rush? Do you know just that single act of sex could introduce uncontrollable lust into one’s life and before you are 22 you find out you’ve slept with 30 or more guys? How can you accommodate such rot in your destiny? Because your other friends are engaging in it and seem to be having a ball doesn’t mean you’ll have a ball as well neither will they get away with it. The earlier you realize that we all have different destinies which carry diverse weights spiritually, the better!

    I know a good number of you are so keen on expressing your love, but-HOW MANY SOULS DO YOU WANT TO BE MARRIED TO BEFORE YOU REACH THE RIPE AGE OF MARRIAGE? Hmmm….or you didn’t know sexual intercourse is sexual union/spiritual union? May the power of God pull you back and may you see reason with this article in Jesus name!

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  • Girls, just one ungodly sexual intercourse could deform your destiny!

    Girls, just one ungodly sexual intercourse could deform your destiny!

    DEAR Aunty Temilolu,

     

    I am 18 years old, I have a boyfriend and I love him so much and he loves me because he usually does things that make me happy and also advises me when I go off the right path. I don’t want just a mere relationship with him; I want to be his life partner. I was a virgin before I met him. He asked me for sex and I gave it to him because he was not happy when I refused at first. Please what should I do because he’s asking for it again? I don’t want to have sex with him again and I don’t want to lose him. Please I need your advice because I don’t want to lose him or make him unhappy?

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Why would you love any guy above yourself, above your glorious destiny? Why would you please a boy or man to the detriment of your present and your future? If only places of worship slammed the consequences of ungodly sex in your faces at every single service, the power in the word of God would pierce your hearts and open up your spiritual understanding by fire by force and envelope you with the spirit of God which would make you detest every form of sin. Alas, the crux of today’s messages is hinged on prosperity! How can anyone who is heavily yoked with the spirits and bondages of multiple, in fact uncountable sexual partners make anything meaningful out of life and not go from trouble to trouble? How can one discover one’s life partner, destiny helper and help-mate when he/she is already confused and derailed because of an ungodly soul-tie? How then can such a person enjoy the prosperity nuggets he/she is weekly bombarded with in church if our common enemy-the devil succeeds in joining him/her with his/her destiny destroyer?

    This is a very serious matter and one of the reasons for most of today’s divorces and scattered lives of both parents and the children of the failed marriage. Sadly, lives which were designed to be so beautiful become a nightmare and dreams which had been built for years and reached a dizzying height, crash suddenly into smithereens because of someone’s impatience, ungodliness, spiritual dullness etc. I pray this won’t be your portion in Jesus mighty name. AMEN!

    The point is once a life is polluted or contaminated through sexual intercourse with the wrong person, it could have a cataclysmic effect and I tell you it only takes the mercy of God for such destiny to re-align with God’s divine agenda.

    At 18, where has my young lady reached in life for her to feel her boyfriend/fiend is God’s gift and the best that would come her way? How very naïve and myopic of her. Perhaps she’s not even in the university yet. We meet more and more people every day, and will always get carried away by different personalities. She has a few years to spend in the university where she would meet the good, the bad and the ugly, she is going to observe the NYSC and meet more exciting and interesting guys yet the world at large is waiting for her-church, work, social functions, I could go on and on! My sweeties, what’s the rush? Do you know just that single act of sex could introduce uncontrollable lust into one’s life and before you are 22 you find out you’ve slept with 30 or more guys? How can you accommodate such rot in your destiny? Because your other friends are engaging in it and seem to be having a ball doesn’t mean you’ll have a ball as well neither will they get away with it. The earlier you realize that we all have different destinies which carry diverse weights spiritually, the better!

    I know a good number of you are so keen on expressing your love, but-HOW MANY SOULS DO YOU WANT TO BE MARRIED TO BEFORE YOU REACH THE RIPE AGE OF MARRIAGE? Hmmm….or you didn’t know sexual intercourse is sexual union/spiritual union? May the power of God pull you back and may you see reason with this article in Jesus name!

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  • Girls, may you not end up like your mothers!

    Girls, may you not end up like your mothers!

    By Temilolu Okeowo

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    In the last 2 weeks, I’ve read so much on the social media on the struggles an average woman has to go through in a patriarchal society as ours!

    And I tell you, I read too many disheartening stories and even the poems meant to gear us up and motivate us more often than not bemoan our fate as women! Day in day out, we hear of grievous domestic violence and all forms of abuse, we generally hear about the victimization of females!

    A lot of you reading have been badly messed up by the sheer horror of what your dad meted out to your mum while a lot of you never even had the opportunity to have the love and protection of your father but instead fell innocently into the hands of men you trusted who eventually defiled you physically and emotionally and thereby weakening your spirit!

    So many girls/ladies out there have been raised consciously or unconsciously to be at the mercy of men and yet they come out crying for Equality! They can’t be serious!

    Girls…girls…girls, whether you believe me or not, our society is going to get more patriarchal and I dare say in a satanic manner as well! You may wonder what patriarchy is if your mum isn’t a feminist (smiles).

    Patriarchy is a system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it! Patriarchy is the reason why a lot of  men treat their wives as objects and think they can treat them like children and batter them to a pulp in the process  not caring whose ox is gored!

    Patriarchy is the reason why a good number of sexually-abused girls/ladies out there are not bold enough to make a report at the police station because more often than not they get blamed! Patriarchy is the reason why a lot of single mothers who chose not to be “single murderers” are forever stigmatized and scorned even with all the pressure they have to face single-handedly raising their children and even when they became single mothers as a result of bolting out of a marriage that would have left their children motherless!

    Patriarchy is the reason why landlords would refuse to rent out a house to single mothers and would always ask for their husbands! I could go on and on! I don’t even want to go to the village setting where real patriarchy is practiced-embedded in their custom and a taboo to flout!

    This same patriarchy is the reason why many women out there would in spite all the abuse women generally have to suffer in our society still kowtow  shamefully with their bodies to men so they can have one favor or the other and also be a part of the polity!

    WHAT TYPE OF GIRLS/WOMEN WOULD THEY RAISE? And to think these girls would determine the lot of the society when they become women! Haa…hmm…there’s serious fire on the mountain! WHO SAYS WOMEN WOULD BE GIVEN HALF THE CHANCE IF WE DON’T REVISIT OUR MORAL VALUES AND ASSERT OURSELVES RESPONSIBLY?

    If you like prepare and arm yourself, if you like sit in front of your mirror and keep loading your face with make-up and fan-like eyelashes instead of loading yourself with brains and good morals- YOU WILL SURELY PAY FOR IT! Patriarchy would never bow for you or let you enjoy life until you are fully aware of who you are, what you’re loaded with and what you carry!

    As long as you’re still waiting for some guy or the other to meet your needs and fund you, you will always remain a football to men which they will toss in the air, bounce up and down- they’d in fact wear you out and render you useless!

    If you don’t spend the energy and time you have now to gather all the spiritual power you naturally have anyway and let it be your propeller- patriarchy will not only suppress you and your future dreams, it would make you cry and blame you for landing at the corner it chooses to box you into if you allow it! And let me add that the guys you’re drooling over now would be the ones that would trample over you in future if you don’t empower yourself!

    Girls…girls…ladies,

    Can a fortress, an institution or a spiritual house be pulled down easily?

    Believe me, if a lot of women were well-prepared-emotionally, psychologically, academically, financially,  spiritually, IT WOULD BE MOST DIFFICULT FOR ANY MAN OR A SATANICALLY-PATRIARCHAL SOCIETY TO ABUSE THEM!

    Spend all the time you have now learning life skills and not chasing boys/men or drowning in their fantasies! Spend your time learning one handicraft or the other and start making your own money! Use all the energy that comes with your adolescence to garner the SUPERNAL FIRE OF GOD!

    Read all the books you can now and acquire the knowledge that would place you many altitudes higher than a mediocre and shallow society and let’s see if any man or sick society would have the guts to harass you! May you be pampered by kings and may you live a better life than your mothers!

    And to every mother out there, may your daughters not suffer what you suffered and may your latter days be filled with great glory, great joy and happiness in Jesus name! Happy Mother’s Day!

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  • Girls, just one ungodly sexual intercourse could deform your destiny!

    Girls, just one ungodly sexual intercourse could deform your destiny!

    DEAR Aunty Temilolu,

    I am 18 years old, I have a boyfriend and I love him so much and he loves me because he usually does things that make me happy and also advises me when I go off the right path. I don’t want just a mere relationship with him; I want to be his life partner. I was a virgin before I met him.

    He asked me for sex and I gave it to him because he was not happy when I refused at first. Please what should I do because he’s asking for it again? I don’t want to have sex with him again and I don’t want to lose him. Please I need your advice because I don’t want to lose him or make him unhappy?

     

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Why would you love any guy above yourself, above your glorious destiny? Why would you please a boy or man to the detriment of your present and your future?

    If only places of worship slammed the consequences of ungodly sex in your faces at every single service, the power in the word of God would pierce your hearts and open up your spiritual understanding by fire by force and envelope you with the spirit of God which would make you detest every form of sin.

    Alas, the crux of today’s messages is hinged on prosperity! How can anyone who is heavily yoked with the spirits and bondages of multiple, in fact uncountable sexual partners make anything meaningful out of life and not go from trouble to trouble?

    How can one discover one’s life partner, destiny helper and help-mate when he/she is already confused and derailed because of an ungodly soul-tie?

    How then can such a person enjoy the prosperity nuggets he/she is weekly bombarded with in church if our common enemy-the devil succeeds in joining him/her with his/her destiny destroyer?

    This is a very serious matter and one of the reasons for most of today’s divorces and scattered lives of both parents and the children of the failed marriage.

    Sadly, lives which were designed to be so beautiful become a nightmare and dreams which had been built for years and reached a dizzying height, crash suddenly into smithereens because of someone’s impatience, ungodliness, spiritual dullness etc. I pray this won’t be your portion in Jesus mighty name. AMEN!

    The point is once a life is polluted or contaminated through sexual intercourse with the wrong person, it could have a cataclysmic effect and I tell you it only takes the mercy of God for such destiny to re-align with God’s divine agenda.

    At 18, where has my young lady reached in life for her to feel her boyfriend is God’s gift and the best that would come her way? How very naïve and myopic of her.

    Perhaps she’s not even in the university yet. We meet more and more people every day, and will always get carried away by different personalities.

    She has a few years to spend in the university where she would meet the good, the bad and the ugly, she is going to observe the NYSC and meet more exciting and interesting guys yet the world at large is waiting for her-church, work, social functions, I could go on and on!

    My sweeties, what’s the rush? Do you know just that single act of sex could introduce uncontrollable lust into one’s life and before you are 22 you find out you’ve slept with 30 or more guys?

    How can you accommodate such rot in your destiny? Because your other friends are engaging in it and seem to be having a ball doesn’t mean you’ll have a ball as well neither will they get away with it.

    The earlier you realise that we all have different destinies which carry diverse weights spiritually, the better!

    I ask again- HOW MANY SOULS DO YOU WANT TO BE MARRIED TO BEFORE YOU REACH THE RIPE AGE OF MARRIAGE? Hmmm….or you didn’t know sexual intercourse is sexual union/spiritual union? May the power of God pull you back and may you see reason with this article in Jesus name!

     

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  • Girls, contentment and endurance can give you the world!

    Girls, contentment and endurance can give you the world!

    By Temilolu Okeowo

     

    Dear Aunty Temilolu, I love reading your articles from the beginning to the end no matter how long it is. I must say your write-ups changed my thinking and way of life. I’m now born-again and don’t care what the world thinks about me! Even if all the guys out there reject me for refusing to engage in sexual immorality with them, I’m most satisfied with the love of God! Thanks so much for shaping my life. May God reward and strengthen you to write more!

    Khadijah

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Times have been hard for so many since the beginning of time, however, there’s no time in history when moral values was ignored even by a good number of parents and caution thrown to the wind as this age! Many parents have not raised their children well in this regard.

    Isn’t it rather appalling to find an expensive phone with a girl whose parents can barely afford to pay her school fees? Or find her wearing the trendiest of clothes to lectures? Fathers may not know the clothing items their daughters have, however an average mother knows her daughter’s wardrobe/what she bought her.

    Yet you find so many girls going home with clothes their parents never bought them and their mothers aren’t bothered to question them! There are so many young ladies on campus whose parents have never bought a car yet they have cars gifted to them by boyfriends.

    And with the latest set of role models this generation of girls has, your thirst for material things/luxury has risen to a disturbing level such that most girls would rather concentrate on looking fabulous and sexy to attract and date rich guys/men than concentrate on their education/self-development!

    If you ask me- there’s serious fire on the mountain! And if you carry these flamboyant life-style in your head and allow it consume your soul and make you join the band wagon of so-called “happening babes” when your parents can barely afford to pay your school fees and even feed you and your siblings, believe me, the stupid, bad devil would not only make you do things that would mess you up and divert your glorious destiny; you may not end up well!

    Yes! I know some women who were really “happening” in their early 20’s, flying first class flights all over the world, painting the town red with latest designer wears and brand new Mercedes Benz cars who are now penniless in their 50’s! It appears their potentials to make money and be self-reliant disappeared! Besides, do you even know the type of star you carry and what it would take to manifest?

    We are at an age where girls below 16 readily sleep with guys for a paltry sum of N500 because most of them don’t know any better!

    A lot of parents are terribly submerged in their economic hardship such that they can’t be bothered to look after their offspring who should be their compensation and goldmine in future.

    Yet they allow them rot – yes, these girls rot away while they should be making the most of their virtues, vivid imagination, super innate skills and potentials to chart a course that will give them all the money in the world in future!

    Unfortunately, a lot of you can’t endure hardship because you don’t have enough conviction from your parents/closest relatives while too many of you are suffocated by the glamour on social media and pressured by your peers who are running after wealth that could avail them the good things of life sleeping around with all sorts of men, exposing their destinies to a demonic invasion that will ensure they never live out the glorious life they are entitled to.

    How sad! Girls…girls…girls, when I tell you contentment and endurance can give you the world, I KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT!  You will have a change of mindset at the end of this series! Please share this article and don’t miss next Sunday’s! Before then, may God open your eyes to see your wondrous future!

    • To be continued!

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  • You don’t need to sleep with men for money!

    Sister Okeowo, I write to appreciate you for the spirit-led content of your ‘Girls Club’ column. It is a timely compass to many young girls that are exposed to the dangerous wave of ungodliness in our society enveloped with the charade called ‘news’ or information unleashed by the social media on impressionable minds. Please keep it up! The almighty God will continue to inspire you as you write. You are God-send.

    Rev. C. C. Ekeoma, Foursquare Gospel Church, Onitsha

    Dear Madam,

    Thanks so much for the good work you are doing. However, I have a question for you. Are you now saying that most girls that are not sexually-pure “useless their lives” with men? From your writing, every girl that keeps her body will be successful. Please it does not work like that. I have seen a girl who got married as a virgin but never had a child while harlots who abort countless times are having babies. The African continent is so poor that many girls that are morally-upright and holy are suffering. So, please it doesn’t work like that.

    Chichi.

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Let the truth be told an average Nigerian girl/lady is unfortunately into prostitution with pleasure or under duress! I know a lot of you would have remained virgins and be sexually pure but for your financial incapacity and uncountable overtures from men. The world has gone so bad that an average man thinks every female lady can be bought with money so they slam their sexual overtures in your faces and are so quick to move on to another lady if you refuse because quite frankly most young ladies today would gladly exchange their bodies for money/favour.  What a destructive transaction! What a dreadful waste! What a shameful depraved world! Sadly, even so many mothers out there are grooming their teenage girls for rich men that would take care of them. Haa…..

    Girls…girls…girls….Did you even know every sexual intercourse carries a heavy spiritual significance and the very first is even weightier and could practically determine how a life would go. It not only involves some blood-shed through the piercing of the hymen (it establishes a covenant), it opens up the gate of your life- your entire existence in the supernatural. Now, who are you opening it up to? Why are you opening it? For money? Money and enormous wealth of which you are a harbinger? ANY GIRL WHO BREAKS HER VIRGINITY FOR MONEY/FAVOUR SIGNS AWAY HER BIRTHRIGHT/GOODNESS TO THE DEVIL AND BECOMES HIS SLAVE! Why do you think prostitutes are stuck to their trade? And to think the spiritual transaction is so humongous such that some girls have given away the core part of their spirituality which could announce them in the world and enable them buy aircrafts before age 40 for a few hundreds of thousand or even less than a hundred thousand!  Some have foolishly sold their future and all God has deposited in them to make them prosper in life unknowingly on the altar of sex! Do you think most of these rich and elderly men would go for just any one? Do you think they are Santas?  80% of the world is highly-occultic and a good number of men lavishing gifts on young ladies are reaping bountifully and emptying these ladies spiritually! This is a very serious matter and not a fable! Little do you know what the devil is up to and guess what, the devil hates to release whatever he’s stolen from you unless you put up a fight which could take so many years or snuff life out of you! Why go through that? How would you live a good life if you become emptied of the treasure you need to coast through life because of your temporary discomfort? Hmm…if only you knew your spiritual worth! There’s so much more coming your way! May you not fall into ruin, may your stars not be emptied and may you not beg to eat in future in Jesus name!

    • To be continued

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  • Sexual purity preserves your future

    DEAR Aunty Temilolu, l am Busayo, a youth corps member in Lagos. I read one of your articles. You said girls, who wish to have successful marriages, should stay away from premarital sex. Now l ask, does doing so guarantee success in a marriage? This is because l know of five girls then when l was in secondary school, who lived fast lives with guys/men and today, all five are married with kids, but another two who kept away from men and were very religious, are having issues with conception in their marriages. How about that ma, because l can’t figure it out?

    Busayo, L.agos

     

    Dearest Busola,

    To start with, if you believe in God but still doubt the power of obedience to His commands and an undefiled marriage bed, you may need to change your place of worship! It is a proven fact that premarital sex more often than not results in making a wrong choice of spouse! Also, because millions are thriving and succeeding in sin doesn’t mean your destiny can afford to do so. What your friend’s destiny can endure could be what could destroy yours! Now, can you imagine if biblical Joseph or Esther had been tempted to use their flesh to get some temporary comfort when they really needed it, would they have fulfilled God’s glorious purpose for them? Besides, sexual purity isn’t the only guarantee for a successful marriage but believe me it does go a very long way in helping you settle with the right person! At the same time, I have seen virgins who married monsters in human form-the enemies of their destinies so to say! For your friends who are yet to conceive, it may not be God’s time and it may be as a result satanic attacks/foundational problems! If you are charting your life according to what’s acceptable in the world and your friends’ lifestyle and not according to God’s standards, believe me, you may not fulfill your destiny! What does the world or stupid, bad devil have to offer anyone?

    DON’T BE DECEIVED MY DEAR! It would be most tragic for you to trade your future peace of mind and stability for a sinful life of comfort and luxury which you could actually avail yourself if you worked on yourself enough! Besides, what in the world happened to delaying gratification? On the other hand, what joy can anyone derive from sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry, getting dumped after being loaded with multiple and even destructive strange spirits? Do you think all can be well with such a destiny? Do you even know the type of star you carry? Do you know the devil- the enemy of your shining could ensure you live a frustrated life by ensuring you fall into the trap of having sexual intercourse with just one man who appears like a knight-in-shining armor? Hmm…May God open your eyes!

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly-celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Your beliefs and values would determine the choices you make and the quality of your entire life and as you lay your bed so you lie on it! There are so many out there including some of your parents having mid-life crisis fighting the battles of their life in great frustration and even dragging their children into it because of the unpalatable choices they made in their youth. A lot of families are dysfunctional and a lot of youth are emotionally unstable and already treading on unfruitful and ruinous paths just because either of their parents could not bridle their passion and made the wrong choice of a partner whom they can’t raise a decent family with. However, I can tell you no one is a mistake! God certainly knows of every single destiny here on earth and has made us for signs and wonders. Isaiah 8:18. So, it’s left for you to make the most of this promise and not hand over your life to the devil through ungodly sex! Yes! Every form of ungodly sex gives the devil the reins of your life!

    I must warn you that surrounding all the glamour and enviable lifestyle you see being flaunted out there is a highly-tempestuous world which could flip over any unsuspecting person at anytime. But guess what? Your most potent power against such an onslaught and not being swept away by the tide is activating the power of God with your sexual purity now that you are young, vibrant and energetic enough to fight your way through and become unshakable!

     

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  • Girls, February 14 could scatter your life’s settings!

    By Temilolu Okeowo

    Dear Aunty Temilolu, in the last few years, your golden and invaluable words about chastity have been motivating me and to the glory of God, I’ll turn 20 this year still a virgin! This means a lot to me. Even though there’s been intense pressure, your articles keep my spirituality and resolution firm! May God thank you ma!

    Olabisi

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    I can read your mind on this topic. Your thoughts are likely to be“Hmm…aunty Temi has come again o!” Yes, I have come again to declutter your heart on what may have a negative influence on your life and set you on a ruinous path!

    Valentine’s Day is usually celebrated by lovers all over the world on February 14. If you ask me, I’d say you have no business “carrying it on your head.”

    Right now, a lot of you are heart-broken that your greatest love or crush isn’t sparing you a thought for that day, some of you are giddy with excitement at the gift you are getting from your lover, some of you have stolen money from your parents to buy gifts, while some of you can’t wait to have your first kiss.

    Some of you can’t even wait to taste the forbidden fruit on that day and get deflowered! How I pity you, your parents and your future about to be stolen away by the devil because of some silly feeling if care isn’t taken?

    In your impressionable and teen age, you have so much energy, passion and gusto to do everything you fancy. You have a vivid imagination and an enormous power to do exploit.

    Now what happens when all this energy is channelled towards the wrong things? Did you know that your teen years are the years that will determine how your entire life would go? Did you know your childhood dreams of achieving extra-ordinary feats are seeds of greatness sowed into you by God? Did you know that the devil-our common enemy targets bright stars in their teens and confuses them so they can never fulfill their glorious destiny? And guess what? We are all stars, distinguished with different sterling qualities to shine amongst billions in the world and leave our foot prints in the sands of time.

    Even if you are facing so much hardship in life today because of your parent’s financial inadequacies, do you or your parents have the faintest idea of the magnitude of your greatness in future if only you could concentrate all of your energy on your innate skills and talents?

    I’ve emphasised over and over again that having a romantic relationship in your teens is a huge distraction, in fact a satanic one. Your teen age is the most delicate and important in your entire life.

    It is the age when you should lay a solid foundation for the future academically, spiritually and psychologically and sadly a lot of parents are not helping matters.

    Those who wish to help matters are further frustrated by the madness of the social media. It is normal for you to have a crush in your early teens because you are becoming aware of the world around you and are generally curious about everything and also want to experiment but you shouldn’t allow it to grow.

    It would cause you sleepless nights, affect your grades and before you know it your heart gets broken and who knows what that may cause? Who knows if you are destined to shine as a medical doctor then your heart-break gives you low grades which push you to the Art class! Am I making sense?

    Just because a boy you fancy has threatened to dump you and “val” another girl in your class because you don’t want to have sex with him, you have finally decided to let him have his way this weekend so you won’t miss out on being his valentine! Good grief!  See, no matter what your G.O. tells you, once that happens; your life can never be the same again.

    In fact, your life will not only be opened up to demonic invasion, the consequences of sexual intercourse are much too heavy for you to deal with in your teens. Also, once a life has been contaminated or polluted by sexual intercourse with the wrong person, it can only take the special intervention and mercy of God to live a trouble-free life and fulfill one’s original destiny.

    Why the rush? Why don’t you make the most of now, preserve your purity, virtues, your energy and gather enormous power that would make you one of a very special kind in the world and then get enough wisdom and spiritual intelligence to marry the best man in the world and enjoy all the sex like there’s nothing else to do! May God open up your understanding! I love you all my sweeties!

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  • May you not end up a cleaner in your mate’s conglomerate

    By Temilolu Okeowo

    Dear Madam Temilolu,

    I was awe-struck after reading your article-“DON’T FLING YOUR VIRGINITY TO THE DOGS!” I never knew people like you still exist. I just want to say thank you and please keep it up!

    Anonymous

    Dear Madam,

    I began giving your articles to an 18-year-old sales girl to read. But unfortunately, I was late in doing so. Today, I was told she’s pregnant. What a world!

    Mr. Pius

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    I decided to write on something that’s been gnawing my spirit in the last few months! I realised that an average girl is no longer so interested in studying- in fact a lot of you don’t even want to read anything more than a paragraph. An average girl in the world today would rather concentrate on her looks, latest trends on social media and of course her love interest than her mental development. And to worsen matters, the social media is full of people telling them, they don’t need to be well-educated to make it big in life and they buttress their points with the saddening unemployment rate in the country today and make examples of a good number of celebrities who became a roaring success outside their education!

    Girls…girls…girls, even if your illiterate aunty is a billionaire, who says your destiny can cope and prosper with dropping out of school or not having tertiary education? Do you have the faintest idea what God has designed to make you shine in life? The social media is bombarded with people telling you, you can make it big in life without proper education! If you take in all that hook, line and sinker, YOU MAY END UP SLEEPING WITH MEN FOR MONEY TILL JESUS COMES! Yes! The economic situation appears to be getting worse such that a lot of parents now depend on their daughters to feed not caring where the money comes from!

    True, a lot of uneducated people are wealthy, running their businesses however; it is bad, bad and bad for you not to strive to get all the education you can get in your adolescence when you have all the energy to stretch your vivid imagination! Even if your parents can’t afford to pay your fees, God has a way of rewarding our efforts and would always make a way! I see so many beautiful young ladies who look like a piece of artwork after dressing up who can’t even write a simple sentence in English correctly. WHERE CAN THEY FIT, IN A HIGHLY- COMPETITIVE WORLD AS THIS?

    “Education is the Best Friend. An Educated Person is Respected Everywhere. Education Beats the Beauty and the Youth.” – Chanakya

    Being intelligent is one of the most desirable qualities in a person. It trumps your looks, wealth, or age. Education is a universal currency and is respected in all corners of the world. Long after you grow up and your youthful looks leave you, you will always have your education. A lot of your mothers watch other highly accomplished and successful women on T.V. or read about them sighing deeply in pain and regret because they had even greater ideas and fantastic opportunities but abandoned their dreams for other inanities, love and some out of a lackadaisical attitude to life.

    Even if you don’t have food to eat tonight, you could end up becoming a head of a conglomerate, a head of a government, a world-renowned scientist, artist, a Nobel laureate, AN ENVY OF NATIONS! SO DON’T GIVE UP! HELP IS ON THE WAY!!!

    I decided to write this because I know a good number of mothers in their 50’s who had wonderful opportunities in their youth who are still at the mercy of men who would never assist them for money to survive except they have carnal knowledge of them! May that not be your portion and may you be ten times greater than your role-models in Jesus name!

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    Are you still engaging in pre-marital sex? Each act devalues you! Your wonders are waiting to start. God is waiting for you to become a Secondary virgin! You are most welcome on board the chastity campaign train and Girls Club is open for all girls and ladies. Please text your name, age, school or occupation and State of domicile to 07086620576