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  • Girls, Ladies, don’t let that boy/man delay you again this year!

    Dear Madam Temilolu,

    Thanks so much for the good work you are doing. However, I have a question for you. Are you now saying that most girls that are not sexually-pure “useless their lives” with men? From your writing, every girl that keeps her body will be successful. Please it does not work like that. I have seen a girl who got married as a virgin but never had a child while harlots who abort countless times are having babies. The African continent is so poor that many girls that are morally-upright and holy are suffering. So, please it doesn’t work like that.

    Chichi

    Dear Madam Chichi,

    I understand your point of view which is coming from a carnal mind. Sexual intercourse is a spiritual venture, a spiritual union, a spiritual exchange wonderfully created by God and except you’re spiritually-inclined you can’t but make the above assertion! Please follow my articles as I would do a series that would convince you that sexual purity could place the world at your feet and give you what no man can give you- I CAN BEAT MY CHEST TO THAT! God bless you ma!

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly-celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Happy New year to you all in Jesus name. May God in His infinite mercy align you with His glorious plans for you whether the devil likes it or not in Jesus name!

    Girls…girls…ladies, BECAUSE YOUR AUNTY OR FRIEND IS PROSPERING WITH SEXUAL IMMORALITY DOESN’T MEAN YOU CAN! WHAT A’S DESTINY CAN ENDURE, COULD KILL YOURS! There are so many women who lived lavishly in their early life sleeping with strings of men friends now begging to feed in their middle age! May that not be your portion or your children’s in Jesus name!  Also, you need to be strong in the Lord even while you’re chaste! This is because you practically handover your “life” to whoever you sleep with! Before you  follow that man in marriage and commit yourself  to him for life, you must ensure you are with the right person and who God really wants you to be with to complete you in life! THIS IS A VERY SERIOUS MATTER! May the devil not swallow your destiny! This is first to dissuade you from seeing things Madam Chichi’s way although I’m coming back to write on issues she raised.

    But believe me, one major reason you could be stagnant right now is because of that guy sleeping with you, jamming his spiritual troubles with your destiny and strengthening the stubborn battles surrounding your destiny! It could also be your inability to access God’s wondrous plans for you because of your SPIRITUAL BLINDNESS AND SINS!

    What is the state of your life today compared to this time last year? If you’re yet to shift from the same position, THERE’S A PROBLEM MA! Even if you’ve not moved forward in substance, YOU SHOULD ATLEAST MOVE FORWARD SPIRITUALLY AND THAT SETTLES IT BECAUSE THEN YOU CAN SEE YOUR GLORIOUS FUTURE AND THE SCHEDULED TIME OF MANIFESTATION AND WORK TOWARDS IT!

    But how can you see your original glory when your soul is clogged with filth as a result of fleshly lust/ungodly sex? 1 PETER 2:11

    Stop cheating yourself! Stop cheating yourself!! Stop cheating yourself and making the stupid, bad devil score cheap and unnecessary goals in your life!  Dedicate this month of January to your sexual purity and nurture your spirit with the fire of Holiness. Be determined! Start today and if your life doesn’t turn around before April then God didn’t call me! I’m too sure you would share your testimony with me! YES! YES!! YES!!!

    MAY OUR LIVES TAKE AN ASTRONOMICAL LEAP THIS YEAR IN JESUS NAME!

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  • May your mothers not destroy you!

    Dear Mummy Temilolu, I need prayers and advice ma. I got deflowered at age 17 but decided to abstain till marriage. My boyfriend and I agreed on no sex till marriage but in recent times I fell into the hands of a man because I needed money to survive in school and now I feel so filthy! I never really wanted to go into such a relationship but there’s no one to fend for me as my father is not responsible for my upkeep and my mother is struggling so hard to fend for us. In fact, I must confess she was the one who convinced me to follow this man saying God won’t come down from heaven to help us that he’s an angel sent by God and I should please him with everything he wants from me so he can help us! I know this is certainly not good! I am so troubled! Please I need to hear from you ma! This is not who I want to become!

    Kate, 20

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    I’ve often said a lot of you would have loved to keep yourself pure but for the unfortunate economic hardship however, IF YOU CANNOT ENDURE PAIN, HOW CAN YOU SUSTAIN GREATNESS? If you are too fleshly and spiritually-dull, saturated in the spirit of the world instead of the spirit of God, there’s no way you can discover the goldmine you are and the wondrous future ahead of you neither can you ever fathom how to navigate your way to great wealth, bliss, joy and phenomenal achievements attached to your name! Funny thing is YOU ARE NATURALLY A GOLD MINE! How sad! And how tragic, when the nurturer, incubator and driver of your life is possessed by stupid, bad, devil! Or what else could possibly possess a mother who would encourage her daughter to fornicate-prostitute so she can have some cash? Hmm…sigh!

    The title of this article may seem to encourage patriarchy but I must tell you I know there are very irresponsible fathers who live off their daughters knowing they are enjoying largesse made from their daughters’ bodies! However, I am compelled to hit at mothers who don’t want their daughters to suffer the hardship and unpleasant life they have had to endure not knowing that they are more often than not “selling their future fortune” for coins!

    When I emphasize on you abstaining from sex and shutting your mind away from it right from your early teens, I KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT! If you can’t lay a solid foundation for a chaste life by your mid-teens, it’s going to be so difficult for you to stay sexually-pure thereafter and by then the stupid, bad devil would have won a major battle against your soul and one which you may never recover from! Not only are we in a highly-depraved world where sex is presented so loosely and as an indoor game, a crazy world where some demonized social misfits would find little children deem to sleep with, we are in a world where a good number of the custodians of our faith flagrantly take advantage of women and girls to satisfy their sexual desires! A WORLD WHERE 75% MEN WOULD NEVER HELP A GIRL OR WOMAN IN NEED EXCEPT SHE PAYS WITH HER BODY! This has become so bad now that an average man thinks he can get in between the thighs of any woman he wants as long as he’s got some cash or favour to give her! WHAT AN INSULT, HUMILIATION AND VICTIMISATION OF WOMANHOOD! Yet too many mothers are praying for wealthy men to come their daughters’ way- same daughter that carries all the virtues and glory that can buy the man and his entire generation if activated with the power of God! THIS IS A VERY SERIOUS MATTER! I shall give you an expose on this next Sunday! May God open your eyes to behold the wonder that you are in Jesus name!

    To be continued.

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  • Preserving your virginity till marriage makes you phenomenal and not an aberration!

    Dear Madam, First, I’d like to thank you for enlightening the female folk about the importance of chastity and being strong in the Lord. I just turned 26 and I’m still a virgin. I was labelled a lesbian when I was in school because I didn’t have a boyfriend and believe me, this affected me mentally, emotionally and even academiacally! This evil rumour spread like wild fire and even got to the ears of my lecturers. I lost my friends as I was really stigmatised such that I almost committed suicide. What destabilises me the most is that I still hear those evil accusations even now that I’m done with school. This has greatly affected my relationship with people and as a result of this, I don’t socialise! I’m even afraid of marriage. Please help me! Thanks ma!

    Anonymous

    My super-duper darling anonymous,

    You can’t imagine how glad I am for the state of your life and I really just can imagine how pleased God is with you and the wonderful goodies He’s reserved for you! What an awesome, adorable lady you are! The only challenge I feel you have is low self-esteem, lack of self-awareness and unassertiveness which allowed your mockers get at you! However, for you to have been able to experience all that stigma and the emotional trauma that would have come with it and yet you refuse to shift your stand on remaining pure – I RESPECT YOU AND DOFF MY HAT FOR YOU! You clearly know what you want in a depraved world. In fact, I see you as an Amazon who can make the very best out of life and command it to her satisfaction!

    What concerns you with what anyone thinks about you? YOU CAN’T IMAGINE THE ENORMOUS HEAD-ACHE YOU’VE SAVED YOUR DESTINY AND FUTURE BY BEING A VIRGIN TILL DATE! I tell everyone who cares to listen that if you can successfully subdue your flesh in the first 20 years of your life when the devil knows it’s the most effective time to divert the course of one’s destiny, YOU HAVE WON 80% LIFE’S BATTLES! Yes because you must have spared yourself a lot of unnecessary heart-ache and not lost concentration pursuing your academics to the point of acquiring fantastic grades needed to earn you an admission to study the choicest course that could promote your potential and more often than not what God has deposited in you to make you shine in life! You have not bombarded your spirit with multiple strange spirits and demons from different sexual partners and contaminated your destiny with satanic baggage that could slow you down or entirely divert the course of your destiny and a lot more reasons! Someone should please meditate on this!

    I congratulate you my darling and only hope you know what you have and how to use it to activate the power of God and navigate your way through a most beautiful life! I can imagine the extra-ordinary grace of God upon your life! I certainly won’t be able to count the numerous open doors before you because you have not opened up the gates of your life to be polluted or contaminated by strange spirits! I can imagine the enormous power of God that has welled up in you and which would empower you to remain chaste till your wedding night! The world is certainly your oyster.

    You must ignore what anyone thinks and open up your heart to God and allow your imagination to be vivid enough to magnetise to you the best things in life which your mockers can never boast of! And I see your wonderful dreams manifesting with great speed! I see you turning out a roaring success! Please focus on your destiny and hug God with all your strength because I can tell you the devil is not happy with you and would do all it can to ensure you eventually feel you wasted your time remaining chaste. Yes! It knows how to throw people into the depths of despair and make them lose their blessings if they are not strong enough spiritually!

    God knows all you need right away! The world would be shocked at the type of man you would end up with in marriage! Believe me, all you need do is incubate your imagination in the Holy Spirit and even you will be amazed at the wonderful wonder that you are! Just exhale all the negative emotions weighing down your soul and inhale the power of God and you will come out shining brightly like the sun out of the azure deep blue sky! Please keep in touch as I’d love to share your lorry-load of testimonies soonest. May your glory appear like a rainbow in Jesus name!

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    Are you still engaging in pre-marital sex? Each act devalues you! Your wonders are waiting to start. God is waiting for you to become a Secondary virgin! You are most welcome on board the chastity campaign train and Girls Club is open for all girls and ladies. Please text your name, age, school or occupation and State of domicile to 07086620576

  • Girls…girls…girls…Stop aborting great destinies!!!

    MY darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    I keep receiving messages from pregnant girls over and over again telling me they want to go for an abortion as they can’t cope with the pain and trauma that would come with the pregnancy! After convincing them not to terminate the pregnancy, they come back and tell me they just had an abortion!  Like they just took paracetamol to cure their head-ache! Do these types of girls ever think of the future? Do they have any conscience at all? When I emphasize the importance of sexual purity, a good number of you send me wonderful messages thanking me for “saving your lives,” only for some of you huge fans to turn your backs against my counsels!

    Here’s what one of my mentees sent to me after I encouraged her to keep another pregnancy to no avail! She wasn’t even sure who’s it was at first!  Read her-

    “He gave me native medicine to drink and told me that it makes pregnant women to strong and healthy. I took the medicine and after a short while, I began feeling excruciating pains in my stomach such that I couldn’t even walk. Before I knew it, I was bleeding and he drove me to Maitama hospital! When we got there, I was given an injection and 3 drips (intravenous fluid) then my system became calm. After the third one, some sharp instruments that looked like iron and scissors were inserted in me to bring out blood from my body. That’s how I aborted it ma.”

    Lord have mercy! A man got you cheaply to have sex with him and had the guts to convince you to take a concoction that terminated the pregnancy you were carrying! What is this world turning into? Does he think he would get away with it? Hmm…girls…girls…girls (shaking my head)!

    I have an aunty whose flower girl I was in 1995 and till today she’s still SEARCHING for a child in her 50’s. Most times I see her, she’s coming from church, and she’s been to all the prayer mountains, yet not one single conception in the last 24 years! I have seen some of world’s most beautiful and fantastically accomplished women cry in pain and do unimaginable things just to conceive to no avail! Can you now imagine a young lady who won’t stop sleeping around (even after several admonitions) getting pregnant, informing me and after telling her not to commit another abortion, she writes me “Mummy, I terminated the pregnancy today-my boyfriend gave me something to drink…”

    I’m sorry girl but I think you have a big problem and can only pray God would have mercy on you before you destroy yourself! That was not your first abortion and you won’t stop messing around! HOW CAN YOU BE POPPING PREGNANCIES LIKE BALLOONS? A WHOLE CHILD?

    Girls…girls…girls, if you’re so determined to terminate a pregnancy and wouldn’t take to my counsel, please don’t ever inform me! It’s your choice but please for my sanity’s sake-I don’t want to know! I’ve experienced this from 2 ladies in 1 month! It’s cruel and horrifying! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

    Abortion is a sin of great magnitude in the eyes of God because it entails the shedding of human life, innocent blood, a destiny and carries its consequences. Also, who knows what special assignment the terminated child was sent to carry out in the world? Perhaps a prophet sent to save his generation. King Solomon was a product of adultery, Apostle Paul’s young protege- Timothy was commended for his great kingdom works in the bible but his father was never mentioned, his grandmother- Lois and mother- Eunice were mentioned! Who knows how he got into the world? IF YOU DON’T WANT TO FIND YOURSELF IN A SITUATION YOU CAN’T HANDLE, WHY FORNICATE? What values would you give your children in future if your wombs are still intact?

    I pity a lot of girls who terminate pregnancies; they can’t all get away with it. DO YOU KNOW THE TYPE OF PAIN BARREN WOMEN GO THROUGH? DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY CHILDREN YOU’RE DESTINED TO HAVE? STOP IT, STOP IT, PLEASE STOP IT IN GOD’S NAME!

    May God surprise every woman looking for the fruit of the womb before the end of this year! May we not lose our children and may god arrest the hearts of our girls, may they not suffer barrenness in Jesus name!

     

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  • Virginity till marriage gives you an edge!

    Temilolu Okeowo – E-mail: temiloluokeowo@gmail.com. 07086620576 (sms only)

    Dear Ma, My boyfriend and I have been dating in the last six months and it’s been going well as he has even showed interest in marrying me but he wants sex now and I’m determined to keep my virginity till my wedding night. I love him so much and I don’t want to lose him. Please advise me ma.

    Fatima, 18

    Darling Fatima,

    From our previous chat, I realised you are not even in the higher institution and in fact still looking for admission! How then can you allow your heart to be consumed by thoughts of your boyfriend leaving you if you don’t engage in sexual intercourse with him? Honestly, I’m shaking my head but can’t quite blame you because of the world’s depravity and lack of enough minding and mentoring on prioritising your life and issues of sex by those who have an influence on you! I’d like to ask a few questions-

    1. What makes you think you’d still be together in the next three months even if you begin giving him all the sex in the world?
    2. Who tells you he’s the right person to spend the rest of your life with?
    3. Who says you’d ever want to be seen with him by this time next year or by the time you gain admission into the higher institution, get exposed to more people from different backgrounds and orientation and have a change of thought about people?
    4. What convinces you he would ever marry you even if he tells you every now and then that he can’t live without you?

    There are too many questions begging for answers but you see, whether you know what’s good for you or not- RUN, RUN, RUN AWAY FROM THIS GUY! It’s obvious he might even deflower you at your next meeting because you’re very much in love with him! Once he does, TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT, YOUR LIFE CAN NEVER REMAIN THE SAME AGAIN! You may please Google the first part of this article to find out why!

    I’d like to share a most touching poem by Tanimonure Richards Adewale

    THE VIRTUE

    A girl is a map of a heaven

    journeyed from two tender gates,

    down and over two tender hills,

    deeper down a luscious forest

    where fires lie asleep deep

    behind a powerless sheet.

     

    God once lived in that cave

    where satan hungry in boxers

    wandered to and fro with moans

    useless as a goliath ‘NO!’

    Of girls gleaming with bright pride,

    a virtue as a priceless grand prize.

     

    But God has left the forest;

    God again, is not under the thighs.

    God is now a criminal padlock;

    a big lie; archaic slavery of pleasures.

    God is a stupidity pride that must be killed;

    Yes! God in this age no longer exist!

     

    But i hear the cries of broken hearts;

    I hear the loud laments of destroyed trust;

    I see rivers run the pain of stolen emotions,

    battered in mockery of teeth,

    spat flat out, a wretched chewed gum!

     

    I ask God why, why, and why;

    God said with a painful sigh,

    “the garden of eden lost its glory

    when girls tossed me out, a useless history.

    Boys are now holier than God;

    boys are the truth; God is not.

     

    So let them wail the cries of broken heart;

    let them writhe the pain of destroyed trust;

    let them run a dark sea of stolen emotions;

    my forgiveness heals when I am called.

     

    But tell yourself and the rest,

    a seed does not die; a seed arise!

    The cracking teeth of a silent future

    Wailing, the cries of a broken daughter,

    lamenting loud, a destroyed sister,

    running the sea of a virtue gone wild

    as an inferno of lust, reckless sex toy.”

     

    Hmm…girls…girls…girls, ISN’T THE ABOVE SO TRUE? What hurts the most is you are usually at the receiving end especially in a patriarchal society as this and to worsen matters; you all are going to be responsible for the sanity and sanctity of the future society! Is the world not going to be in trouble if you don’t change your ways, receive some sense and talk to your bodies? What type of children would you birth if your wombs are still intact and what would you teach them? Indeed, these are the end times. Believe me, even if you have slept with all the men in the world, it’s in your best interest to retrace your steps, retrace your steps, retrace your steps and enjoy heaven on earth and eternity in paradise not in hell fire!!!

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    For our sisters in captivity

    The voice of God that shaketh the wilderness of Kadesh and discovereth the forests, roar at the enemies of Nigeria and release Chibok and Dapchi girls in Jesus name. Amen.

    FINAL WORD

    Chastity does not belong to the past. It saves you a lot of trouble, preserves your beautiful destiny and stands you out from the crowd. You are better off not engaging in pre-marital and extra-marital sex. Stay chaste!

    Evangelist Temilolu O. Okeowo is the founder and Head girl of The Girls Apostolic Ministry of All Nations, an apostolic ministry for girls in their teens and twenties, and Girls Club of Nigeria, an NGO for Nigerian girls aimed at influencing a positive change. She published her debut-book for girls – THE BEAUTY OF LIFE – as an undergraduate and has other books and publications. She was called to the Nigerian Bar in 2003 and is a Certified Forensics Examiner.

  • Virgins are rare gems!

    Dear Ma,

    Although I’m a boy, I love the articles you write and can’t wait to read them every weekend! May God bless and reward you!

    Akinola

     

    Dear Temi,

    I must confess you are amazing! I just love the way you go about your Chastity work. Thanks so much for what you are doing for girls. You are a powerful source of inspiration to many! May you continue to grow in God in Jesus name!

    Mani Queen (Cameroon)

     

    Dear Ma,

    I just want to tell you that I love you because you always inspire me with all your words and I must confess although we’ve never met or spoken, you are my second mum. My question is- “Do people really value virginity nowadays and being a virgin can you dress classy? Guys keep chasing me and whenever I rebuff their advances because I want to keep my virginity, they tell me it’s no big deal engaging in sex in my teens. I can’t love you less and I can’t wait to give you a tight hug whenever we meet. Thank you!

    Anonymous, 16+

     

    My sweet, sweet Anonymous,

    While you may be correct that people may no longer value virginity because of the depraved world we are today, I can also tell you for sure that anyone who is a virgin in this day and age is not only extra-ordinary and priceless, if not a super-human and would be deeply treasured by his/her spouse! This is Girls Club so let me concentrate on girls!

    Believe me; to start with, an average guy out there knows that one of the cheapest things to get is a female to satisfy his sexual urge. I can tell you a lot of guys/men are sleeping with girls, ladies and women they would never wish to marry or have their sons cleave with. Yes! Most males don’t want to imagine how many men have slept with who they want to keep for life, so finding a virgin who has most of the qualities they want in a lady is a treasure for life because they may not be expecting one to start with! Now, if I may ask- which would you prefer, a fairly-used car or a brand new one? I’m not condemning anyone who’s no longer a virgin but trying to guide the steps of upcoming girls and also re-direct the steps of those who have made mistakes to become secondary virgins and have the very best of life. TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT, ONCE YOU START ENGAGING IN PREMARITAL SEX IN YOUR TEENS, LIFE IS NEVER THE SAME AGAIN. JUST ONE SINGLE INTERCOURSE COULD RE-DIRECT YOUR LIFE’S TRAJECTORY AND TURN IT UPSIDE DOWN!

    Okay, please check out 10 reasons you are better off a virgin till marriage!

    1. Freedom from unwanted pregnancy/Abortion, STDs, Multiple Heartbreaks/depression etc.
    2. Freedom from transference of spirits from multiple sex partners which disintegrates and pollutes one’s life and could actually destroy it.
    3. Freedom from ungodly soul ties which could redesign your life.
    4. Freedom from choice of an entirely wrong or inappropriate marriage partner.
    5. Freedom from satanic diversion of your priceless virtues/what God has deposited in you to make you comfortable/shine in life.
    6. Sexual purity illuminates your soul and makes you spiritually-intelligent.
    7. Sexual purity could make you exceptionally brilliant because your soul is carrying a huge dose of God who knows all things.
    8. Sexual purity attracts goodness into your life because you are not bombarded by demons which flow from one sexual partner to the other.
    9. Sexual purity stands you out and makes you highly sought-after by men!
    10. Sexual purity makes you a power generator and too hot for the devil to handle!

    And most IMPORTANTLY- righteousness exalts while sin is a reproach! You just never can tell the type of destiny you carry and what it would require to manifest. Imagine if biblical Esther the slave girl was not a virgin; would she have become a queen in a foreign land? NO! Same for Joseph who became a prime minister in a foreign land at age 30 even after he was sold into slavery! Who knows what your sexual purity could fetch you?

    If you have long been engaging in premarital sex and you are reading, it would be in your best interest to become a Secondary Virgin i.e. abstain from sex till you get married. You will be amazed at what could become of your life if you totally abstain and let God flush you and give you a spiritual over-hauling! Mark my words; you will experience a rebirth that will shock even you as your spirit would shine like sparkling crystal!

    • To be continued

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    FINAL WORD

     

    Chastity does not belong to the past. It saves you a lot of trouble, preserves your beautiful destiny and stands you out from the crowd. You are better off not engaging in pre-marital and extra-marital sex. Stay chaste!
    Evangelist Temilolu O. Okeowo is the founder and Head girl of The Girls Apostolic Ministry of All Nations, an apostolic ministry for girls in their teens and twenties, and Girls Club of Nigeria, an NGO for Nigerian girls aimed at influencing a positive change. She published her debut-book for girls – THE BEAUTY OF LIFE – as an undergraduate and has other books and publications. She was called to the Nigerian Bar in 2003 and is a Certified Forensics Examiner.

  • Girls, don’t let the world damage you!

    Dear Ma, You’re really doing a great job! You’re saving the lives of thousands of girls out there! My prayer is that God should see you through at the point of your need. Your final word- “Chastity does not belong to the past. It saves you a lot of trouble, preserves your beautiful destiny and stands you out from the crowd…” is always ringing in my head! May God continue to empower you. You are wonderful!
    Luiz Beryl

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,
    Early last year, I dreamt someone was telling me God would speak His word to people through me and that I’d be the solution to my family problem. But to be sincere, I never followed that direction, in fact I lost touch with God through my immoral acts and now not only are my academics suffering while I’m in my final year, I’m facing serious financial hardship which has been my family’s major problem and there’s no one to help! Unfortunately, I may end up having an extra session and only God knows how I’d cope. I’m falling into depression. I need your mentoring please!
    Miss E.

    Dearest Miss E.
    I’m so sorry you missed the way and have to go through this hardship. However, when I looked through our thread of discussion, I discovered I had counseled you about boyfriend issues since 2017. I really wish you heeded my counsel perhaps you wouldn’t be dealing with this now! I consider it a huge privilege and an opportunity of a life time for you to have had that revelation and I imagine you and your family would have been on your way out of generational battles which is what’s causing you great discomfort. However, I thank God you are still in school and not in the family way because things would have gotten worse! It’s a simple matter my dear as God is ever ready to carry you in His arms and see you through! First, you have to forget your setbacks and worries as I don’t need to tell you to drop any boyfriend you may have and shut the world away! When I mean shut the world away, you have to live and act as though the only reason you are on earth is to please God! I keep telling you girls that what A’s destiny can endure could be what would kill yours! Perhaps you’ve been surrounded by friends who have boyfriends they engage in sex with and you ended up seeing no reason you shouldn’t have one. Perhaps, you’ve been spending too much time and taking solace in the social media to the detriment of your studies and coasting in worldly dictates, perhaps you’ve been worshipping at churches which do not hammer on the word of God, holiness and the narrow way- worldly churches if I may call them that and so many other reasons! All of the above fetches TROUBLE! I’m really sorry but like I earlier wrote, you are on your way to the right track!

    From now, every spare time you have outside your studying should be spent with God! Be determined to live a life of holiness. Fall in love with your bible, find a place of worship which practices the “old-time” religion, organize a prayer and fast timetable. Believe me in less than a month, you’d be amazed at what God would start revealing to you! The stupid, bad devil would always put up a fight when it sees its captives about to be delivered and your spiritual dullness/sinful ways sold you out easily and scuttled what God assigned you on your family’s behalf! Before the end of this year, you’d be perplexed at the uncommon glory ahead of you as you move in the spirit. I assure you once you cancel depression and surrender whole-heartedly to God, He’ll sort you out financially- just get the devil off your soul and see! May this counsel pierce your soul and may the spirit of God overshadow your life in Jesus mighty name!

    Girls…girls…girls…
    Do you even have the faintest idea why you are in this world? Are you manifesting God’s plans for your life or the devil’s? Sadly, many of you think you are enjoying life living in sin not knowing you are enjoying crumbs from the devil’s disgusting mouth! May you receive heavenly sense in Jesus name! To start with, if you missed my last three articles, please Google search, Girls, develop yourselves into FORTRESSES not MISTRESSES!This is a very serious matter and the articles would help condition your mind better for the future ahead of you!
    To be continued.

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  • Social media group to enliven plight of women

    Nonnie

    As issue of women and children continues to get global concern, a social media platform, Sisterhood Global, has relaunched its operations in line with universal approach to solving the plights of women.

    Nigerian founder of the group, Nonnie Roberson, while addressing journalists in Abuja, noted that the mission was to tackle global problems associated with women through effective use of the social media.

    She explained that the group started the project three months ago under the name, Sisterhood Africa, but had to rebrand after it had gathered over three million active members and Facebook decided to shut the page down.

    Robertson expressed optimism that the group will keep rising above gender issues by refocusing its targets, given the reason it decided to expand its scope from Africa in order to accommodate more women globally.

    She said: ‘‘it gives me great pleasure to announce the launch of the very first faith based Social Network for Women, Sisterhood Global. Evidently, we have moved from glory to glory.

    ‘‘About three months ago, it was impressed in my heart to set up a platform where women can come together, pray together, love each other, receive godly counsels, express how they feel inside and get solutions to their problems with abounding testimonies.

    ‘‘We started out with a Facebook group, which within a short while, grew to over three million active members. For reasons best known to Facebook, and without any prior notice, the group was taken down. Indeed, Sisterhood Africa (Now Sisterhood Global) was a house of solutions and testimonies. It was a place of solace for many women in Africa, and round the world. The testimonies shared on SHA were too mysterious to be understood by unbelievers and some believers.’’

    On what the social networking site will do for women, Nonnie said, ‘‘The Sisterhood Global platform – https://www.sisterhoodglobal.com – allows you to create groups, post photos, chat with friends, like posts, search for members, get notifications, add friends, send smiles, comment on posts, share posts, even poke! lol, and much more.

    ‘‘Moreso, it’s a platform to experience unprecedented miracles, find strong unshakeable love, dumbfounding miracles, open heavens, answered prayers, see the acts and know the ways of God. It is a platform for women all over the globe, who wish to experience the supernatural.’’

     

  • Five reasons online dating might not be such a good idea

    Five reasons online dating might not be such a good idea

    For Ladies Only

     

    Only yesterday, I got a funny call from a guy I have never met. He said that he got my number online and would like us to date. Unfortunately (for him) I am married (and happily too), putting an end to that request. That got me thinking about a topic that keeps popping in and out of my head and sometimes comes up in conversations. Is really a good idea to go online, primarily for dating purposes? With all the people we meet at school, at work, church/mosque, in the bus  and so on, is it really that hard to meet new people? I wonder, if a person can’t meet new people any other way, I hope he/she has nothing to hide. You can call me old-school if you like, but the idea of someone I have never set my eyes on calling me out of the blues to ask for a date gives me the creeps. Why? Please continue reading.

    1. Online interaction, or friendship blinds one to a fact we grew up hearing our mothers drill into our young minds, “A stranger is someone who is capable of harming you.” We equate acquaintance or any form of interaction with friendship, and it’s a big mistake. Most of our friends are people we grew up with, went to school with, colleagues, former colleagues and so on. This traditional method means that you know people who know your friend, and have an idea of the kind of person you are dealing with. But with online friends, you are dealing with a totally unknown entity.

     

     

    1. In today’s fast paced, high tech world, meeting strange people online can be very risky. Think back to Cynthia, the Nigerian babe who was kidnapped, and later murdered by a guy she met online, and flew in to Lagos to meet. The poor girl had no idea that she was dealing with a fraudster, and murderer. The internet has become a free and easy highway for psychopaths and criminals to operate virtually without trace, especially in a porous environment like ours.

     

    1. Online dating is unnatural because a major part of human communication is not only verbal communication (speech), but also includes things like tone of voice, body language and the like. Women are created with a natural sense of intuition that often protects us (and our loved ones) from danger, but dealing with someone without face-to-face , and other physical forms of interaction makes it harder to be intuitive. Online communication lacks this feature and makes it difficult, if not impossible to make value judgments for ourselves about the person you are dealing with.

     

     

     

    1. It is hard to verify, ie do a background check on the person you are chatting with. In foreign climes, people are often warned, and given guidelines about dealing with strangers they meet online. Sometimes, as human beings our emotions blind us from seeing the truth before our very eyes, but with the evidence of other people, eyes are opened to the truth. For instance, in a regular relationship, a lady’s visit to a guy’s office, or home can lead to chance meeting with his friend who can inadvertently drop the truth that the guy is married yet conveniently forgot to tell his girlfriend, online relationships don’t accord nearly as much opportunity.

     

    1. Many people have been found to give false information about themselves, some use photos of other people, and sometimes build false profile info. It is hard to continually lie to a person you see over a period of time without making a mistake, telling a mismatched lie and so on, even the body language of a liar can trigger suspicion in the person being lied to. With online communication, it is much harder to tell, sometimes, almost until it is too late.

     

    Having said all the foregoing, I must agree that quite a number of relationships have been spawned by the internet, and led to marriage, but then again, it is still important to take care.

     

  • 4 Reasons why you should choose your friends wisely

    4 Reasons why you should choose your friends wisely

    Only this morning, I was chatting with a close relative and she mentioned in passing how a lady snatched her friend’s husband. Such stories have become commonplace, but the truth is that for a friend to do such a thing, it is quite likely that she had shown the traits, no matter how faintly, but the betrayed friend failed to take heed. She might have done it to other people, or been notorious for being promiscuous. A women’s reputation is of utmost importance, and the friends one keeps can make or mar one’s reputation. Why is it important to be selective in choosing your friends?

    1. You will be judged by the type of friends you keep. Have you noticed that our friends are people like ourselves? Why do bankers have many banker friends? Or musicians have many friends in the entertainment industry and such? A popular saying goes, “Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are.” This old saying is still apt today for the simple fact that most people make value judgments about a person’s character based on the friends they keep. If you are fun loving, party/club loving individual, you will most likely have many friends who share such a life style. And if a single girl keeps friends who are into “runs”, it is assumed that she is a “runs babe” whether or not she actually does so. This might be the reason many married men do not let their wives keep single, or divorced women as friends, fearing that they might be corrupted by such friends.

     

    1. If you want a friend, be a friend. Many people complain that they do not have friends, or that they have no sincere friends. However, the good book says “He who seeks a friend must first be a friend.” Be a (good) friend; loyal, true, sincere, kind, loving, honest, not a betrayer, or backstabber. These qualities will attract people of like minds to you, and give you the skills to manage/maintain the relationship. Bear in mind the fact that habits can be learnt, unlearnt, and relearned. As such, the absence of desired positive habits is no excuse to continue to live without them, as good habits can be learnt, and bad habits done away with. However, if you choose to do the opposite, rest assured, you might never enjoy the beauty of true friendship.

     

    1. Your friends determine where you are going. Your friends can make you or break you, as peer pressure has been identified as a strong influence in human life, and experience, as many can testify. Many homes have been broken, if not destroyed by the evil counsel of friends, as the popular saying goes, “Friends of a feather flock together”. However, keeping good company will give you a strong frame work for success, why? Because good friends provide positive counsel that will help you succeed. Everyone knows that a student who keeps studious friends is more likely to succeed than one who keeps unserious ones, for the simple reason that iron sharpens iron.

     

    1. To attract the right kind of friends, be a person of value. Oftentimes, people waste their time running after people, in the hope of making them their friends, only to be rebuffed. They fail to realize that you can only offer a person your friendship, the choice to accept or decline your gesture is theirs. However, making yourself a person of value will make you a person people want to be friends with. How? Have you noticed that popular, successful people do not lack for friends? You do not need to be rich, but you must occupy yourself with something you enjoy doing, puts food on your table, meets your basic needs at the least, and takes you off the street. No serious minded person wants to be friends with a person who does nothing but visit friends all day, go looking for charity, gist, or socialize all day.