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  • How to improve on your marriage (3)

    Dear Reader,

    Peace and blessings be multiplied to you in this month of the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ. In my first lesson, I told you that marriage is a miracle. Last week, I looked at marriage covenant responsibilities.

    This week, I want you to Beware Of Divorce! Enjoying a loving home is God’s utmost desire for you and your spouse this Christmas and forever. That was His design from the beginning of creation.

    Divorce can be likened to marital amputation. It causes a lot of grief, pains, and wounds that only God can heal. Even when a wound heals, the scar remains, and in most cases, for life.  Give no place to divorce. Remember, prevention is said to be better than cure. When there is a challenge in your home, divorce should not be the first option that comes to mind. Rather, it is important to first identify and analyse the challenge.

    In the beginning of the institution of marriage, divorce was not a part of the original plan, and was never supposed to be. The Word of God says: Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24). Note the word “Man shall leave, cleave and become one flesh”.

    God hates putting away! The Word of God says: For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away (Malachi 2:16). What God says He hates, you should hate too. If you move close to any divorcee, you will observe that they themselves go through a lot of pains and agonies, and their children go through turmoil, and devastation. God views husband and wife as being bounded together in a permanent marriage relationship, and nothing should be allowed to put them apart.

    My husband used to say, “To be slow and sure is better than to be fast and foolish”. My husband and I courted for six years.  Throughout that time, we did a proper study with all sincerity of each other’s character, vision and goals. If you are not contemplating divorce, then there is no need to rush into marriage. Take your time; be sure of what you are getting into. If it is a living family you desire, prepare yourself for it and enter into it with God’s backing and certainty.

    Divorce is not as easy as it sounds, because it is not only limited to legally ending a marriage, but putting death where life once was. For those of you about getting married or yet to be married, be very careful.

    In case you are reading this article right now and you are considering divorce, and you think there is no way out. Just hold it! Who knows, this might be the reason God gave you the opportunity of reading a material like this. If only you will accept and follow God’s master plan, your story will change for the better!

    Or are you already divorced? Do not allow a sense of condemnation to overwhelm and destroy your colourful future. God can still perform His wonders in your life. Do you believe a miracle can still take place in your life and family to bring about a restoration? God is the Restorer, and I know that He will restore your marriage, if you allow Him.

    I hope this brother’s testimony will boost your faith:

    “I read your article in the newspaper. In fact, I have seen a lot of changes in my life, which prompted me to give this glorious testimony of the wonderful works of our Lord Jesus Christ.

    I got married in 1977 as an unbeliever, before I joined the police force in the year 2000. But somehow, my marriage broke up as a result of so many things. But God rebuilt the marriage from the advice and instruction I got from your article.

    I congratulate you for your effort in enlightening young men and women concerning their marital lives, so that their marriages will be peaceful and successful.” Udual, A.

    I see God giving you your own testimony, too, in Jesus’ name!

    You need the grace of God upon your life to be able to stay in your covenant marriage. This grace is only released to those who are born again. You can become born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your own Lord and personal Saviour. If you are set for this new birth experience, you can say this prayer and be born again: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • How to improve on your marriage (2)

    Dear Reader,

    Calvary greetings to you in the precious name of Jesus Christ! Last week, I shared with you on what your perspective should be about marriage. I also said that marriage is a miracle.

    This week, I will be looking at what I have captioned: Marriage Covenant Responsibilities.

    The Word of God makes it clear that marriage is a covenant, and this is expounded in my book: Marriage Covenant. What is a Covenant? The dictionary defines it as ‘a binding agreement or a contract’ usually between two people.

    The Word of God says: Marriage is honourable (Hebrews 13:4). It goes to say, therefore, that the agreement of marriage between two people is seen as a good thing in the sight of God, which eventually leads to honour and dignity for the parties involved. I want to let you know, therefore, that it is a good thing that you desire marriage, if you are not yet married. For those already married, it is a good step you have taken in life. You shall have no cause to regret it in Jesus’ name.

    However, as good as marriage is, there are covenant responsibilities that must be operated, in order for it to produce the desired good. The Word says: If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land (Isaiah 1:19). There is good in marriage, but you must be willing and obedient to operate the covenant.

    My husband, Dr. David Oyedepo will always say, “A life without responsibilities is a liability”. Furthermore, he says, “Responsibility is the price for greatness”. Do you desire good in your marriage? Are you longing for peace, harmony and serenity in your marital life? Then apply yourself to the demands of a good home. If you are yet to enact the covenant of marriage, begin to ask for grace to comply with the demands.

    What are these Covenant Responsibilities?

    FOR THE MAN:

    As A Husband, you are the head of the woman, the leader and not a dictator. You are to love your wife unconditionally as a friend and as a lover sexually (Ephesians 5:25-29). You must honour her and not treat her as a lesser being, or a slave (1 Peter 3:7). Much more, you must dwell with her according to knowledge.

    As A Father, you have the responsibility of raising your children in the nature and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4, Deuteronomy 6:6-7), not by bullying and beating. Instead, apply the rod of the Word of God, and as you mold them in the fear of the Lord, you are raising godly children, who will in turn call you blessed.

    As A Provider: A French proverb says, “A father is a banker provided by nature”. Your primary responsibility is meeting the needs of your home. The woman is only your help meet. Never shift your responsibility to your wife; it is anti-covenant to do so. To shy away from this responsibility makes you worse than an infidel [an unbeliever] (1 Timothy 5:8). This shall not be your portion!

    FOR THE WOMAN:

    As A Wife, you have the power of influence, while your husband has the power of authority. Thus, you must be a positive influence. Your responsibility, however, as far as God is concerned, is that of submission. Willingly surrender yourself to be ruled by your husband, obeying him in love (Ephesians 5:22-24). Cook and dress to please him (I Peter 3:2). Learn to go to God in prayer, rather than arguing.

    As A Mother, train your children spiritually, physically and morally, bringing them up to become arrows in the hands of God. Your role in the life of your children is a non-transferable responsibility. Therefore, don’t push them to another person to train for you.

    As A Home Maker, see to the general welfare of the home, plan and manage the resources provided (Titus 2:5). Also see to the welfare of every member of your household. This is your primary assignment, before your career or business.

    You need the grace of God to carry out your covenant responsibilities. You need to surrender your life to Christ so that, that grace can be released to you. You can say this prayer and receive that grace: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • ‘I CAN SEE MARRIAGE KNOCKING AT MY DOOR’

    ‘I CAN SEE MARRIAGE KNOCKING AT MY DOOR’

    Nollywood actor, Ajibade Omisade’s life suffered a set back at age 7 after he lost both parents. In spite of this, spending the rest of his growing years at the SOS Children’s Village home in Lagos didn’t stop him from achieving his dreams. In 2008, he emerged the first runner-up of Amstel Malta Box Office Reality show and has never looked back since. The ‘Tinsel’ star speaks to DUPE AYINLA-OLASUNKANMI, on his projects among other issues.

    HOW are you able to balance different crafts at the same time?

    It has not been easy, but one thing I know is that all things are possible if you are able to manage your time and also listen to the one, who has placed all these in your hands. Another thing is being able to apply all rules that have to do with each of those things; adequate understanding, time and the ability to study the industry, which includes public appearances and other things.

    How do you mean?

    As an entertainer, you should be able to differentiate between your personal life and your work. You should also understand the basic roots. For example, I have been able to understand the demands of being an actor and other professions that I also engage in. Some of them include being an On-Air Personality, singer, MC, and consultant.

    How did you arrive at these techniques that you have been applying?

    Being a graduate of Mass Communication with eight years of experience in the industry, I have been able to learn over time from lessons and mistakes. They have helped me balance them and not mix things up.

    How do you handle mistakes, especially when on stage?

    Compared to soaps or home videos where editing must have taken place, one has to understand that being on stage is a one delivery thing and so must be in-check of their character. That is where you have to wear your character; become who they want you to become, hence making it easy to be that person. That will make you to cut a lot of mistakes.

    I am not going to say I have been perfect in all, but I would say I have been pretty good with grooming my skill as a stage actor. It is not something that you can just decide that you want to do in just a day. You have to be able to understand what a stage is and all the rules.

    Most of the roles you have taken are lead. How did you do it?

    It is true that I have played lead in most of the movies I have featured in; but there is a lot attached to being able to achieve this. As an individual, I created goals for myself. Growing in the industry, how do you want to go about it? Are you ready to take up the crumbs and take anything they throw at you, just to be popular? Or are you ready to be calm, even when you are not popular and stay true to your discipline? These are the things that I put in check for myself.

    So when I was given the room for simple roles like crossing the road, I was able to politely decline and say it won’t lead me to where I’m going to. Also I possess a lot of skills. Most producers and production companies would say, the level at which this guy is, we can’t afford to waste his abilities. This has earned me key roles.

    I have also played sub-lead, extra, but never waka pass.

    Also, I have always made sure that wherever I find myself extra or sub-lead, I try to be a dominant factor in my character in the scene I am acting. That way, I don’t get over shadowed, and will have the producers say ‘he is too strong to play a sub’ which has earned me lead in most roles in most of my jobs.

    Have you been in a situation where you found your audience overwhelming?

    Yes I have. These are some of the hurdles we face in the profession, although they help us understand the craft better. There was an event I attended where I cracked a very vital joke. Apparently everybody found it funny, but the MD of the company that hired me did not. So at that time, I found myself stuck, and because I understood audience feedback, I was able to quickly balance up and find another angle to it.

    How did it all start?

    I won’t want to be like the normal Nigerian entertainer who would say they started from the womb. There was a young dream of being a lawyer and a radio presenter, but I didn’t really nurse the dream of being an entertainer.

    It started before my NYSC year, where a particular company came to the orphanage home where I grew up. They came to fish for talents in music, so I put in for it and became the first runner-up. They found my talent amazing and promised to nurture me, and enrolled me for the Muson School of Music.

    At that time, I went in for my NYSC, and took part in a drama competition in the camp, which got me to go for the Amstel Malta Box Office reality show. With grace and an amazing family and fans who voted, I emerged the first runner-up, hence a bigger stage for me and my life began as an actor. And because I talk a lot, I knew there was a ground for me to be an event host. So I did a self-analysis of what I wanted to be. And that was how my journey as an MC began. It was nurtured back from my NYSC days, way back in 2006. My acting skills were well grounded from the church, because I was in the drama department and the more I took part, the more I learned more about the acting industry.

    How did you land a role in Tinsel?

    Yes Tinsel is a very big project and it has had a very big effect on my career. For such project, people respect you, because they maintain standard and the ethics of the production. And for them to work with you, it means you have the quality to be on a project like that. So for others to work with you, they consider that and say ‘for such person to be on Tinsel, he has what it takes’, which will aid you from having to stretch yourself at auditions and proving to them what you can do.

    How rich are you?

    (Laughs) Calculating from my income, I would say I am not poor and I am very comfortable to pay my house rent and buy a car and buy basic things that I need. But I am not rich enough to say I am very rich. But I hope getting endorsements and acting on bigger projects.

    Are you married?

    No, but I can see marriage knocking at my door. I believe that the ideal woman would fall in place and I will be a Mr to a Mrs.

    These days more comedians are delving into acting…

    There is room for everybody to occupy in the acting industry; from slapstick actor, to instant comedian and others. So long as they understand the demands of acting, they are welcome. It is a welcome step for the industry, as long as they can be who the producers want them to be and deliver to the audience.

    Do you regard yourself as a comedian?

    I am not a comedian. I am a professionally trained event compere; meaning that I don’t pride my craft in jokes or comics. But I pride myself in professionally anchoring events to the taste of a client. People need to clearly understand that there is a difference between being a comic act and an event host. I personally, I am not well grounded as a comedian and do not go to that angle, and as a professional, I have been able to know my bounds and do not cross it. At times I do borrow jokes from these amazing comedians and give references, because it is wrong to steal other people’s materials and claim to be the one who wrote it.

    Tell us about yourself?

    I hail from Ile Ife in Osun State, Nigeria. I’m a graduate of Mass Communication from Bowen University. I was the first runner up of Amstel Malta Box Office TV Reality show in 2008. I was one of the award presenters at AMAA awards 2014, featured in over 50 TV series and Nollywood movies such as Tinsel, Living in Lagos, Troubled Waters, 2 Sides of a coin, Fuji House of Commotion, Shuga, Do Good, and Entreat amongst others. I am also a model and have done adverts for some big companies.

  • How to improve on your marriage (1)

    Dear Reader,

    Halleluyah! We have come to the last and crowning month of this glorious year. As always, it is a great privilege to welcome you to another exciting time on your favourite weekly column.  Our focus for this month shall be on How to Improve on Your Marriage.

    Today, I would start by saying that Marriage Is A Miracle! It is important for you to know that nothing works on its own, just as no problem solves itself. In the same vain, miracles only answer to certain inputs from the benefactor. In other words, your obedience to what is required of you and how you initiate same is what eventually makes your marriage a wonder to behold.

    Take the miracle of the turning of water into wine, for instance.  Mary told the servants: whatever he (Jesus) tells you to do, do it (John 2:5). The servants initiated their miracle by obeying Jesus’ instructions to fill the water pots with water. Nothing happens by chance in the Kingdom of God. There is always something you must do to get what you want. All you need to do is to accept the required responsibility.

    Marriage is a miracle! Daily, we see men and women seeking after soothsayers and seers, to know whom to marry, the cause of their marital delays, to find out what the future holds for their marriages, and how they can be guided into glorious homes.

    But, for us at the other side of Jordan, we have a reason to thank God. This is because, He doesn’t leave us to guess and grope through life. That is why He said: Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not (Jeremiah 33:3).

    It is the thoughts of man that make a man. What you think of your marriage and family makes it what it is. You can’t think obstacles in your marriage and have miracles. You can’t think of marriage as a necessary evil, and experience a glorious marriage, because sweet marriages and homes are basically provoked by your thoughts.

    Nobody builds a tower without adequate preparation and a strong foundation. You must first desire a tower, before you can build one. Do not enter into a marriage covenant without an expectation. If you expect the best, it will be yours (Proverbs 23:18).

    Someone once came to me for counselling and said that she had been having a very tough time in her marriage. As she spoke, I deduced that the root cause of her problems was her wrong perspective about marriage. She had expected grief and calamity, so when the storms rose against her marriage, she began to cry, saying, “They told me that it would be like this.”

    Below is a testimony that will further help your perspective about marriage:

    “I used to worship in a place where the pastors believe that misunderstanding brings about understanding. One day, the lady pastor asked me if I had ever had any serious quarrel with my wife (then my fiancée), and I said, ‘No’.  She then said that we had not started, and that until we had quarreled and fought, we would not know if we truly love each other.

    Shortly after our wedding, we started having problems in our home. But when I came here, I heard the Bishop say, ‘I have not had the first argument with my wife.’ I told my wife that if what the man of God said is the truth, then we’ve been in the wrong place, where we had been fed with the wrong spiritually food.  So, we decided to start worshipping here.

    We told ourselves, ‘What this man of God has seen that is making his marriage sweet, we also must discover it.’ Then I was in WOFBI Full-Time programme. After each lecture, I would go home and teach my wife the same thing. Today, to the glory of God, we don’t have misunderstandings anymore!” Ibiang, A.I.

    God has promised to grant your expectations, whether good or bad. So, let your expectations be based on God’s Word, for it is higher than any evil experience or information about marriage you may have had or heard (Proverbs 10:24).

    If you have caught any light from this piece, believe God for a unique touch in your home, and you will have a testimony in Jesus’ name.

    To have a miracle marriage, you need to first of all receive the Miracle Worker into your life. His Name is Jesus and you can receive Him by confessing your sins and saying this prayer with faith in your heart: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Marriage: A lifetime covenant (3)

    Dear Reader,

    I count it a great privilege to share God’s Word with you through this medium. It is my prayer that as you apply the series of teachings that you have received this month, they shall bring a positive change in your life and marriage in Jesus’ name.

    I discussed the origin of marriage with you in my first lesson for this month. Three weeks ago, I taught you Marriage Covenant Responsibilities. In last week’s teaching, I told you that marriage is a miracle. Today, I want you to Make Right the Wrongs of Your Marriage Covenant.

    Some people get troubled when they read materials like this, probably because they have been living together with their partners without payment of dowry, or any formal engagement/ public Christian wedding. This is not a holy union. So many couples have been living together for years and have even had children without a proper marriage.

    Instead of feeling or living in condemnation, you need to make things right today. In case you are not legally married and you fall into this category, go right away and make things right by paying the dowry. Go and legalise your union. You can do this, simply, by going to the registry for a court wedding. Thereafter, look for a minister of the gospel to bless your union.

    Time never corrects an error! An error yesterday remains an error today, except it is corrected. You can make a wrong, right!  Many people pass through a lot of difficulties in their marriages today, because of the wrong foundation of their union. I have seen women being driven out of their homes at the death of their husbands, because their union was “illegal”. The woman has no voice, because she has no legal backing. Wisdom is profitable to direct (Ecclesiastics 10: 10).

    I remember a woman I counselled sometime ago. She had been going through a tough time in her home and was ready to call it quit. To top it up, she had no child. When I interviewed her closely, I discovered that there were a lot of loopholes in her marriage. Her dowry was not paid, and there was nothing legally binding her and the man together as husband and wife. No court wedding, no church wedding; both of them just started living together!

    I counselled her to ensure that the dowry was paid, legal papers signed in the court of law, and that their union be blessed by a minister of the gospel. The next time I saw her, she was over-joyous and full of testimonies. To the glory of God, today all is well with that marriage. To crown it all, she was also expecting a baby as at that time!

    A good example of a proper marriage is recorded in Genesis.  It clearly shows us how a formal wedding should be conducted.  Adam did not just rise up to find Eve wandering about in another part of the garden, and he decided to take her home and they just started living together as husband and wife. The Word of God says: And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man (Genesis 2:22). Take note of the word, ‘brought her unto the man’. God was the One, Who brought the woman to the man.

    Since marriage is the basis for a successful family, then, you must first be married before you can enjoy a successful family life. If the foundation of your marriage is not built on the instructions of the Word of God, there is no way you will have a fulfilled family life. It is important, therefore, that you go and pay the dowry, if it has not been paid. This is scriptural.

    There is another account in the Scriptures of how a typical wedding and all that is required should be done. The Word of God says: And they called Rebekah, and said unto her, Wilt thou go with this man? And she said, I will go. And they sent away Rebekah their sister, and her nurse, and Abraham’s servant, and his men. And they blessed Rebekah, and said unto her, Thou art our sister, be thou the mother of thousands of millions, and let thy seed possess the gate of those which hate them (Genesis 24:58-60).

    A parental blessing is very important in a marriage covenant. It is something you cannot rule out. There is something about the blessings your parents pronounce on you that makes it stick on you until all their good wishes are established in your life. From the above Scripture, Abraham’s servant did not just grab Rebekah and disappeared with her. Due procedures were properly followed and the blessings of her parent became a practical reality in her life.

    Some years ago, I shared this truth at one of our women conventions. Meanwhile, a couple had been living together for almost 10 years without being properly married, had three children but the lady’s parents refused to consent to their marriage. After the convention, they decided to make peace and do the right thing. They had been up and down financially over the years. They invested so much, but had very little in return. They were very zealous for the things of God, they are covenant practitioner; yet, there was nothing to show for it. They met the lady’s family, paid the dowry, went to church and had their union blessed by one of the pastors.

    Soon after, great business doors opened for them, their lives took a new turn and they began to enjoy all manner of favours. Thereafter, they built their own house and even bought a Mercedes Benz car, all through the simple act of making wrong, right in their union. Your own testimony will be the next!

    It is also very important in your marriage covenant to acknowledge the place of a holy Christian wedding. The Word of God says: And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man (Genesis 2:22). In this verse of Scripture, we see God’s practical involvement in the institution of marriage. He gave Eve out to Adam. It is, therefore, unsafe for you to go into marriage without God. This will definitely attract the attacks of the devil. You shall not be a victim in Jesus’ name!

    God is your Father, and only a bastard would desire to go outside his father’s house to get married. The presence of God makes all the difference in a man’s life. Therefore, don’t go about without carrying the presence of God; it is dangerous!

    You also need a proper legal documentation of your union.   This is a point of contact to remind God that you have fulfilled all righteousness concerning your marriage; as such, the enemy must not have access into your family.

    You need the grace of God to make the wrong, right in your marriage. That grace is available to every born again child of God. You can say this prayer and shall be born again: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • How My Premature Ejaculation and Small Manhood Almost Put an End to My 4 Year Marriage. The Solution Will Amaze You!

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    I was fortunate enough to have a great girlfriend who really believed in me and wanted the relationship to work. One night, tears standing in her eyes, she begged me to do something about my problem.

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  • Marriage: A lifetime covenant (3)

    Dear Reader,

    I discussed the origin of marriage with you in my first lesson. Last week, I looked at marriage covenant responsibilities. Let me also say today, that marriage is a miracle! It is important for you to know that nothing works on its own, just like no problem solves itself. Miracles answer to certain inputs from the benefactor. Your obedience to what is required of you is how you initiate it.

    Take the miracle of the turning of water into wine, for instance.  Mary told the men, “Whatever he tells you to do, do it” (John 2:5). The servants initiated their miracle by obeying Jesus’ instructions to fill the water pots with water. Nothing happens by chance in the Kingdom of God. There is always something you must do to get what you want. All you need to do is accept the required responsibility.

    Marriage is a miracle! Daily, we see men and women seeking after soothsayers and seers, to know whom to marry. Some highly placed and educated young men and ladies creep stealthily into the dingy abodes of herbalists, to know the cause of their marital delays.

    Also, it is a common thing to see couples running after palm readers, fortune-tellers and astrologers, just to find out what the future holds for their marriages, and how they can be guided into glorious homes. But, for us at the other side of Jordan, we have a reason to thank God. He doesn’t leave us to guess and grope through life. That is why He said: Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not (Jeremiah 33:3).

    It is the thoughts of man that makes a man. What you think of your marriage and family makes it what it is. You can’t think obstacles in your marriage and have miracles. You can’t think of marriage as a necessary evil, and experience a glorious marriage, because sweet marriages and homes are basically provoked by your thoughts.

    Glorious marriages don’t happen by chance; they are product of choices. You can choose what happens to your marriage and family by the way you think. You have the mind of Christ which is a miracle mind, and miracle minds don’t think obstacles in marriage or consider barriers in the home. So, do not carry obstacle thoughts when looking for a life partner. Do not think impossibilities when you are looking up to God for miracle babies. The two don’t go together.

    Do you know that most couples cannot build matrimonial homes because of obstacle thoughts? Many don’t even eat good food because they don’t know where tomorrow’s meal will come from. Some couples think of nothing good about their families; all they see are obstacles. As such, they wallow in abject failure and frustration, without knowing that a man’s thoughts today make him what he would be tomorrow.

    Nobody builds a tower without adequate preparation and a strong foundation. You must first desire a tower, before you can build one. Do not enter into a marriage covenant without an expectation. If you expect the best, it will be yours (Proverbs 23:18).

    Someone once came to me for counselling. She had been having a very tough time in marriage. As she spoke, I discovered that the root cause of her problems was her wrong perspective about marriage. She had expected grief and calamity, so when the storms rose against her marriage, she began to cry, saying, “They told me that it will be like this.” Below is a testimony that will further help your perspective in your marriage.

    “I used to worship in a place where the pastors believe that ‘misunderstanding brings about understanding.’ One day, the lady pastor asked me if I had ever had any serious quarrel with my wife (then my fiancée), and I said, ‘No’. She then said we had not started, and that until we had quarreled and fought, we would not know if we truly love each other.

    Thereafter, we started having problems in our home after our marriage.  But when I came here, I heard the Bishop say, ‘I have not had the first argument with my wife.’ I told my wife that if what the man of God said is the truth, then we’ve been in the wrong place, where we had been fed with the wrong spiritually food. So, we decided to start worshipping here.

    We told ourselves, ‘What this man of God has seen that is making his marriage sweet, we also must discover it.’ Then, I was in WOFBI Full-Time programme. After each lecture, I would go home and teach my wife the same thing. Today, to the glory of God, we don’t have misunderstandings any more!” Ibiang, A.I.

    God has promised to grant your expectations, whether good or bad. So, let your expectations be based on God’s Word, for it is higher than any evil experience or information about marriage you may have had or heard (Proverbs 10:24).

    If you are already married, there is still a chance to change all negative expectations. As a couple, discuss your positive expectations, and I guarantee that things will work out more smoothly in your home.

    Unmarried ladies and young men, what do you expect in marriage? Your expectations shall not be cut off (Proverb 23:18). Before we got married, my husband and I made discoveries from God’s Word that made us expect a hitch-free marriage. Our testimony today: those expectations have not been cut off.

    I believe you have been mightily blessed by this teaching. So, as I pray for your family, believe God for a unique touch in your home. You will have a testimony!

    In the Name of Jesus, I ask for the hand of God to rest heavily on your home. Because marriage is a miracle, I declare that from today, you begin to enjoy God’s goodness and honour in your marriage!

    To have a miracle marriage, you need to first of all receive the Miracle Worker into your life. His Name is Jesus and you can receive Him by confessing your sins and saying this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Marriage: A lifetime covenant (2)

    Dear Reader,

    Greetings in Jesus’ precious Name! Our God is forever faithful. Praise to our Omnipotent God, the Maker of all things. The Word of God encourages us to ‘pursue after knowledge and search wisdom out’. As you continue to read and apply yourself to the demands of the Word of God, every plan of the enemy to frustrate your family life shall be annulled in Jesus’ Mighty Name!

    I discussed the origin of marriage last week. Today, I will be looking at what I have titled: Marriage Covenant Responsibilities.

    The Word of God makes it clear that marriage is a covenant, and this is expounded in my book: Marriage Covenant. What is a Covenant? The dictionary defines it as ‘a binding agreement; or a contract’ usually between two people.

    The Word of God says: Marriage is Honourable … (Hebrews 13:4). It goes to say, therefore, that the agreement of marriage between two people is seen as a good thing in the sight of God, which eventually leads to honour and dignity for the parties involved. I want to let you know, therefore, that it is a good thing for you to desire marriage, if you are not yet married. For those already married, it is a good step you have taken in life. You shall have no cause to regret it.

    However, as good as marriage is, there are covenant responsibilities that must be operated in order for it to produce the desired good. The Word says: If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land (Isaiah 1:19). There is good in marriage, but you must be willing and obedient to operate the covenant.

    My husband, Dr. David Oyedepo will always say, “A life without responsibilities is a liability”. Furthermore, a wise man once said: “Responsibility is the price for greatness”. Do you desire good in your marriage? Are you longing for peace, harmony and serenity in your marital life? Then apply yourself to the demands of a good home. If you are yet to enact the covenant of marriage, begin to ask for grace to comply with the demands. If it is in your heart to obey God, it shall be easy for you to do so.

    Greatness and fulfilment don’t come by magic; neither are they meant for a specific group of people, but for as many as would fear God and work righteousness. If people are having great testimonies concerning their family relationships, why not you? Greatness and fulfilment are meant for you, if you care to walk in the covenant.

    What are these Covenant Responsibilities?

    For the man:

    1. As a Husband
    2. He is the head of the woman, the leader and not a dictator. He must lead spiritually, because God will hold him accountable (Genesis 3:9).
    3. He must love his wife unconditionally as a brother, friend and as a lover, sexually (Ephesians 5:25-29).
    4. He must honour his wife and not treat her as a lesser being or a slave (1 Peter 3:7)
    5. He must dwell with her according to knowledge. He must know her likes and dislikes. She is an individual too, who has a mind of her own. Never compare her to your mother or anyone! It is foolishness to do so, says God (2 Corinthians 10:12). Women expect to be fulfilled in the following areas: companionship, compassion, romance and passion. Never treat her as an old cargo; instead, renew your love for her on daily basis.
    6. As a father

    The man has the responsibility of raising his children in the nature and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4; Deuteronomy 6:6-7), not by bullying and beating. Instead, apply the rod of the Word of God, and as you mould them in the fear of the Lord, you are raising godly children, who will in turn call you blessed.

    1. As a provider

    A French proverb says, “A father is a banker provided by nature”. You are responsible for the needs of your home. Meeting the needs of the home is the primary responsibility of the man. The woman is only your help meet. Never shift your responsibility to your wife; it is anti-covenant to do so. To shy away from this responsibility makes you worse than an infidel [an unbeliever] (1 Timothy 5:8). This shall not be your portion.

    For the woman:

    1. As a wife

    She has the power of influence, while her husband has the power of authority. She must be a positive influence. Her responsibility, however, as far as God is concerned is that of submission.

    1. She willingly allows herself to be ruled by her husband, obeying him in love (Ephesians 5:22-24).
    2. She must reverence him (Ephesians 5:33).
    3. She must cook to please him.
    4. She must dress to please him (1 Peter 3:2).
    5. She must love him (Titus 2:4; Proverbs 31:26).
    6. Sshe must learn to go to God in prayer, rather than arguing.
    7. As a mother

    She must train her children both spiritually and physically, bringing them up to become arrows in the hands of God. A mother’s role in the life of a child is a non-transferable responsibility. Mothers, don’t push your children to another person to train for you. Whatever “means” God gives you, use it to bring up your children. God will hold you accountable for failing in your role as a mother. Prepare your children for life ahead. It is your covenant responsibility.

    1. As a home maker

    Seeing to the general welfare of the home, planning and managing resources provided are your covenant responsibilities (Titus 2:5). You are the homemaker, not house-help. You are to see to the welfare of every member of your household. This is your primary assignment before your career or business.

    You need the grace of God to carry out your covenant responsibilities. But you need to surrender your life to Christ before that grace can be given to you.  You can say this prayer and receive that grace. “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Marriage: A lifetime covenant

    Dear Reader,

    I welcome you to this month’s teaching. I want you to be rest assured that God is going to visit you this month. This month, I shall be discussing on Marriage: A Lifetime Covenant.

    Today, I want to start by looking at the origin of marriage. In Genesis 2:18-25, we see God initiating the idea of male and female relationship in which both will serve as succour to each other. God’s purpose for instituting marriage is to create a help that is suitable, adaptable and complementary, to establish unity and for procreation.

    What is Marriage?

    Marriage is a union between a man and a woman. It is the coming together of two people of opposite sex, with a view to building a God-centred home. Marriage is not the culture of any country of the world; rather, it is heaven’s culture. It is God’s idea, not man’s idea. The Word of God says: And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof. And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man (Genesis 2:21-22).

    God in His infinite wisdom knew that man would have certain needs and desires that cannot be satisfied by animals or other things He created. So, He initiated the idea of marriage, and formed a helpmeet for man.

    It is important for us to know that at the beginning of the institution called marriage, God introduced it as a union between a man and woman and not same sex. People of the world have perverted what God Himself formed for man and his wife to enjoy. In the beginning, it was not so. Homosexualism is really growing fast in various countries of the world today. God’s rule has been laid down concerning this abominable thing. The Word of God says: Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination (Leviticus 18:22).

    Scripturally, marriage is for a lifetime. It is, therefore, not to be entered into without knowing what you are getting into. It is very important for you to know what marriage is and is not, before you say, “I do” to anyone. Hear the testimony of this sister.

    “When I was ready for marriage, I noticed that some things were working against me. But I was not a serious Christian then. However, when I dedicated my life fully to Jesus Christ in 1992, it became obvious. Yet, I lacked wisdom and counsel, and I was emotionally immature.

    All the same, I got married, and the Lord has been merciful.  However, on joining this Church and listening to different ministrations, my life and marriage has acquired meaning, and direction. Now, my marriage is established and I am free from all manner of oppressions of the wicked.

    My family has increased remarkably and I now apply myself to the wisdom of God that He has imparted on me by reason of the teachings and ministrations I get here!”

    Opara, C. C. N.

    God ordained marriage for man and woman to give, and receive satisfaction, and to meet the needs, and desires of one another. This marriage relationship is very unique since it involves the spirit, soul and body of two individuals. As long as a couple is born again and their lives have been transformed, they have become new creatures and they belong to the same spiritual Kingdom.

    Our father, Abraham, knew the importance of this; that is why he told his servant to go to his (Abraham’s) people to get a wife for his son. The Word of God says: And Abraham said unto his eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he had, Put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh. And I will make thee swear by the Lord, the God of heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell (Genesis 24:2-3).

    In the realm of the soul, both husband and wife should have the same mind concerning issues of life, especially when it comes to living one’s life according to the doctrines of the Holy Bible. There must be an agreement between the couple, before they can really walk in the principles of the Bible. The Bible advises: Can two walk together, except they be agreed? (Amos 3:3).

    It is important, therefore, for us to know that there is no agreement between light and darkness. So, as a believer in Christ that is regenerated, you are not permitted to even consider an unbeliever for marriage. The Word of God says: Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people (2 Corinthians 6:14-16).

    To have a good marriage and a successful family, you need to first have a good stand with God. To do so, you need to confess your sins and surrender your life to Him. Please say this prayer in faith, if you are ready for this: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • God’s ultimate desire for your marriage (4)

    DEAR READER,

    You are welcome to God’s presence! I have shown you some of God’s desires for your marriage. Today, I shall be looking at how Marriage is for Better Living.

    Marriage was instituted for the better living of mankind. It is not to bring hurts or constitute a hindrance. If you want your home and marriage to exhibit a better living, God must be at the centre of your heart and home. You have to be open to His Words and follow His instructions. His Words, instructions or commandments are not grievous or burdensome (1 John 5:3).

    In other words, it is an easy thing to do because God created man with an innate desire to please Him and follow His will (Scripture). The Lord Jesus came to make it easier for man to follow and obey the Word of God. He said: Come, all that labour… for my burden is light and my yoke is easy (Matthew 11:28). Instead of seeking to do things your way, why not do them God’s way to get the results you desire cheaply.

    Because family life originated from the Lord, He must be the centre of your family life to enjoy a better living. Countless people are having a near death experience in their family lives. Some married many wives and are still dissatisfied. Others are separated, while some live a cat and dog life, wishing that someone would deliver them from it. Despite all these, there are some who are enjoying family life and making a success of it. This is not just by luck. Success is not by luck, you programme yourself for the type of success you desire.

    As a born-again child of God, enjoying a better family life is your birthright. It is God’s will and desire for you to enjoy an exciting marriage, home, life and family. Apart from making God the centre of your family, the next thing you must understand is that family life is meant for better living. It is meant for help, not hurt. The Bible says: I will make him a help meet (Genesis 2:18); Two are better than one (Ecclesiastes 4:9).

    Family life was created to help man and not hinder him; it is not meant to make life worse for him. If that is what you have been seeing in the lives and homes of others, or maybe in yours, I can assure you that it is not what God desires for you. Whether you are a father, mother, husband, wife, child or relation, can you boldly say with sincerity from your heart that you are a help to others in the home? Or have you been a hindrance to the success of others in the home? Is it your policy at home to help family members? Or do you maintain a survival-of-the-fittest attitude?

    In case someone has told you: “That’s how life is”, “Just bear it”, or “Maybe that’s your lot in life.” That’s not what God has designed for you. Don’t accept less than what God has purposed for you. Don’t allow the devil to cheat you into believing that a better living and marriage are not for you to enjoy. Your family can still stand out; your situation can still change. The breath of life can still find its way into your family, if you will co-operate with God.

    As a wife/mother, God put you beside that man and those children, so you can help them. As a husband/father, God put you beside that woman, children, so you can help them, be an example to them and bring them up the right way. It is not your teachers’ responsibility to train your children. Children, God put you in that family to be a blessing (Psalm 127:3). Are you a pleasure to your family or a pain? If you are about getting married, are you ready to be a help to your mate? Or are you just looking for someone to service your needs? If you are not ready to be a help, watch it and retrace your steps.

    To be a help transcends all areas of life. If one party is faltering, the other needs to lift him or her up. The Word of God says: If they fall, the one will lift up his fellow… (Ecclesiastes 4:10).

    No matter how much your success, your connection or family members will also need to succeed. If you ignore their progress, you may eventually be faced with mending their failures. No matter who that member of the family is, the grace of God is sufficient for you. It will enable you to be a helper in Jesus’ name!

    Financially, you are also meant to be a helper in your family. Money seeks worshippers; refuse to be its convert. Some Christians go to church, sing together, lift up hands to God, but when it comes to money, that is their god which must not be touched. Read this testimony: “I am newly married and was touched by what you narrated about homes in the article of “Family Matters”. Since then, through my application of the knowledge gained, things have changed positively for me…” Chidube, N.A. (Aba).

    Money has brought division into many families. Don’t let it bring division into yours. Ensure that you are a helper to your spouse in this area. Hiding your money from one another is not the way to financial success. Render financial help to one another. The humorous thing about money is that if you don’t know how to send it on errands, it will send you and often times, on evil ones. If you have been defaulting, you can repent by saying this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).