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    ‘Marriage is possibility For Me If A Man with a right mentality walks into my life’

     The name Modupe Ozolua means different things to different categories of Nigerians.  But for the mother of one who derives great happiness in the laughter etched on the faces of the many people she continues to assist, there is more to life than her pioneering efforts in cosmetic and constructive surgery. Her greatest passion, she says, is simply to make people she comes across happy and beautiful. No wonder her philanthropic commitment has taken to all parts of Nigeria and even outside the country. In this interview with the Deputy Editor, Nation’s Capital, YOMI ODUNUGA, and Correspondents, DELE ANOFI and FAITH YAHAYA, she relayed her encounters with displaced Nigerians in various camps. Modupe also shared her thoughts on sundry issues as well as her role in the Stella Obasanjo plastic surgery saga. Excerpts:

    Some would say body enhancement and philanthropy do not mix. One is strictly business, while the other requires a passion for giving. In your own case, you seem to be at home with both. How do you cope?

    When Body Enhancement Limited started, of course it was cosmetic and constructive surgery for those who could afford our services. When you become synonymous with a service, both the privileged and the under-privileged will come to you and that is what happened. So, a lot of people that could not afford the constructive surgery but had deformities and abnormalities, come into my office and ask me for surgeries but of course they could not afford it and I could not understand why people would see someone obviously deformed and not try to help. For me, it is something that comes naturally, wanting to help is just part of my nature. So, it only made sense to me that I should use the resources that I had, and still have, to help them. So, a lot of my surgeons that come to do the cosmetic surgery, when they finish making men and women beautiful, they volunteer their time.

    I don’t pay doctors that come and do this work. They do it for free. They don’t ask for anything. They bring their equipment and in addition, we buy whatever we can buy, we provide their accommodation, we pay for their tickets, take care of their feeding and they in turn sacrifice their time to help people and that is what we have been doing since 2003, It has been a long time coming but that is what we have been doing and we have expanded it and it is now beyond surgeries. Some people are normal physically but they are hungry. We have some that are not deformed but they are sick and just some little medication that costs N200 can restore someone’s sight or save someone from going blind. So, I decided and I spoke with my Board of Trustees and my Patron, Desmond Tutu, and we said we need to do more because the need is so much and rendering help comes to me naturally, it gives me pleasure, so we just merge them as one, and I guess it was meant to be.

    Of recent, we have discovered that the philanthropy part of your work takes more of your time, why is it so?

    It takes my time because that is the one that makes me happy. Perhaps, people know Body Enhancement Limited but I have so many businesses. Body Enhancement is what people know and it is fine with me. The cosmetic business is done at a particular period of the year, it is usually between March and April and October to November. So, my clients know when to come and meet me and they make their payments and get their surgeries done. So, my time is not necessarily free because I have other things I am doing also but that part is there and these days, people don’t see me advertise anymore because people know. The charity part is taking much more of my time and it is actually what I want to do as long as my other businesses yield the desired profits from wherever I am investing. As long as my businesses are doing fine, I will be able to take from that money and do the work that gives me happiness and that is helping people.

    The charity part of your work is taking you around the country and just recently, you were in the North East and we recall that you left a place where you went to donate things and a few hours later, Boko Haram struck. Considering how volatile the North is right now, why did you still venture into that part of the country? Are you not scared?

    The fact is, before I do anything, I cross my Ts and dot my Is. We have done programmes in the North before. We were in Baylesa and we were not relaxing in Yenagoa, we were in the creeks of Bayelsa with gunboats, speedboats going for three to four hours into the Atlantic Ocean through the creeks to go and feed poor people. Many people in Bayelsa, including the indigenous staff that I hired, refused to go with us because not everybody will venture into that trip and come back alive. But the reasoning for me which will be the same answer that will cover the reason why we are in the North East, is, because we have decided that we are going to work on rehabilitating internally displaced Nigerians. I don’t call them people or persons, they are human beings, they are boys, girls, mothers, fathers and I feel we should show some level of respect and recognise them as Nigerians, so the whole person thing is so impersonal.

    We said we are going to rehabilitate them and that is what we are doing. It is not about going to donate food and all that. Rehabilitation is beyond that; it is helping them get back on their feet to be able to regain their dignity and to be able to have the ability to feed themselves and their families. That is what is taking us there and just as in Baylesa, in the North East and other places, I am not only responsible for the safety of myself, I am also responsible for the safety of my team. If I don’t value my life, I value the lives of those who are ready to follow me to anywhere I want to go and I am very blessed that I have a team that is ready. My team trusts me because they know that I have thought it out carefully and I have complete confidence that we are going in there to do what we are going to do and come out alive and there won’t be any issues. I don’t move stupidly or carelessly, I put into consideration all the things that I need to put into consideration, though things can happen because there is no guarantee that someone who leaves the house in the morning will return to that house safely at night. I make contact with the right people I need to contact when I am going somewhere and the rest, I put into God’s hand.

    Does that mean state governments do not provide you security details while in their territories?

    We were in Gombe a couple of weeks ago and Governor Ibrahim Dankwambo had offered to give us security and other things but I said no, I don’t want any security, I don’t want any siren, I don’t want any police guard because I don’t want any unnecessary attention to us. We go to where we need to but there are places that require security like when we went to the creeks in Bayelsa State. We went with Naval gunboats, armed Navy officers and when we were around town, we had armed policemen providing security.

    What strikes you when you get to the camp, especially what people are not talking about but that you would like to draw the attention of the government to?

    It is heart breaking than what people see or talk about in their comfort zones.. When we were in Gombe, everywhere I went to, I was busy crying and I don’t cry easily. It got to a point that the State Emergency Management Agency (SEMA) and National Emergency Management Agency (NEMA) officials had to tell me to stop crying if I don’t want to have high blood pressure. We have visited two states where the displaced Nigerians are and I must say that I applaud the Gombe State Government for what it is doing. The government has passed that relief point where all you do is to donate food. It is a huge liability. We had already confirmed the kind of skill the women had, so we went with sewing machines. Those who know how to make groundnut oil, and petty trading, we got their data and we gave them what they wanted and they were surprised because no organisation, not even government, had asked the women what they used to do before they became displaced; no one had ever asked them.

    We are helping the women because by so doing, we are helping the children too. We bought cloth fabrics for those who were selling clothes, gave money to those that were doing petty trading. I entered the market to buy them the materials they would need to start and then we put them through on how to sell and how they can grow the business. We will still go back to check on them and those that are doing good, we would be able to put more money into their businesses, God willing. There is nothing like self-esteem if you are not able to feed yourself and the shocking thing is that some of those displaced people are doctors contrary to the notion that most of them are farmers. Even if they are farmers, we have rich people who are farmers in today’s world. Because of their displacement, they have lost all they used to have and now, they just sit from morning to night waiting for people to come and give them small cup of rice to eat. How dehumanising is that? And, as you know, every woman is responsible to feed her children.

    There is even a woman in that camp that has 16 children, some 10 and we are talking about women who are below 30 years of age. We see that some of them have even given up hope and we always tell them that our target is to ensure that those of them who have given up hope are not abandoned and that they know that God has not forsaken them. People need to understand that they are not just IDPs, what I saw were faces not the tag IDPs. Immediately I saw them, it reminded me that it could be any of us at any point in time and that we are where we are now is by the grace of God and that is what I want people to realise. To be honest, it is cheaper to rehabilitate them than to keep giving them food.

    Tell us about the National Medical Mission.

    God willing in June this year, we are going to be having a huge National Medical Mission, we are putting together different medical specialists-plastic surgeons, general surgeons, optometrists, gynaecologists, orthopaedic surgeons, we are all coming together for free work and we are going to be doing a 10-day surgical time. The last time we did it was in 2006 and I love the programme because it is so amazing. We are going to split into two, we will spend five days in the North and we have been speaking with states that would like to partner us with our logistics and we are going to render medical treatment for free. We will also pick a state in the South West or South East. The number of patients is not limited; we are going to treat as many as possible and about 20 international medical personnel will be brought and probably with about 20 indigenous medical personnel too and that is excluding the non-surgical personnel.

    There was a time we heard your organisation was considering acquiring two mobile surgical units, how far have you gone with that?

    Unfortunately, we have not gone very far. What is sad is that when people hear and see what we do, all I keep hearing is, oh, God bless you Modupe, you are doing such a great job. Yes, I am interested in people’s prayers. But, I also need their financial support. We have not gone far as far as sponsorship is concerned but we got calls for mobile unit and each one is about $800,000 and the quotation and the information about it is on our website and the company name for verification. The mobile unit is equipped with multiple operating room and we can drive it anywhere and do surgery for free which helps because this way, we will not have to rely on states to accommodate us and that is why we have to work with state governments when such programmes come up. So, state governments buffer the logistic aspect of it because we can’t do that alone.

    Our food donation programme is also in partnership with the Nigeria Customs Service, they gave us trailer loads of rice and other things that we donate at our discretion during programmes. We also do donations of toys that we give to children and then we give clothes. We were in Yola last week and there, there were 501 children between the ages of one and 14 and they are just sitting at the camp wasting away, no education, nothing. We are going to sponsor their education. They will be enrolling in schools and before they go, the boys will have their haircut and the girls will have their hair done and we will give them uniforms, school books, and other things. And the interesting thing again is that amongst the displaced Nigerians, there are teachers and we have hired them to teach the students, so they are now on our payroll and we will be paying them every month.

    Isn’t the charity work eating deep into your pocket?

    Of course it is.

    Don’t you have corporate sponsors?

    Honestly, we don’t. It is not very nice when you write to some banks and some organisations and you say, this is what we have and this is what we are doing. We picked rural schools in very remote places  places that people don’t want to go and there are some schools that the children barely have uniforms and there is nothing as uplifting to a child as a nice clean uniform and when you look at how much it costs to sew a new uniform for a child, sewing and the material is about N500 and N1,000 will sew two uniforms for a child and let us say we have about 1,000 children, it is barely anything and then we write to them because we have written to so many people and we give a breakdown of what we want to do and we send lists of options and ask for sponsorship of school uniforms, schools bags and we even suggest that we will brand them.

    But they will write back to us commending us to keep up the good work but that they are sorry, they don’t have money. So, it gets to a point that makes me feel like, ‘why waste ink and paper to write to people who would prefer to sponsor beauty pageants and football matches?’ So, we don’t have any sponsor. This says a lot about our culture of giving as a society but maybe I am talking to the wrong people because many organisations also get sponsorship for different things. It is very sad and that is because when they hear we are doing such programmes, they think it is some sort of ulterior personal motive and I hear things like, ‘Do you want to run for any political position?’ I get insulted by such comments. What has giving got to do with politics? I am not interested; and I doing this since 2003. So, why should someone always feel that to help someone, you must get something back? It does not put us as Nigerians in very good light.

    Where do you plan to take the philanthropic train to after the North East?

    We have not done enough in the North East. We will still have to give the women money and equipment to empower them. We have not gotten land for them to be able to go and farm. We are not yet done and only God knows when we will be done there.

    Do you have time to relax considering the fact that the work takes much of your time?

    I barely relax, it is work, work, work and it makes me happy.

    As a businesswoman, how would you describe the Nigerian business environment?

    I left Nigeria when I was 17 and I didn’t return until I was 27 and I came to start my business here. Just like anything, not just Nigeria but the whole world and life in general, things change and times have changed. Some countries for the better, while some for the worse but the truth is, most countries were affected during the global recession and unfortunately for Nigeria, we have additional challenges, but I think no matter what it is we are going through as Nigerians, we will get past it but I don’t know how soon that will be.

    Modupe Ozolua means different things to different people. Who is Modupe beyond surgery?

    If I were to describe myself, I will just say I am just a simple but complicated person. I am very straightforward and some people might see that as an issue but I don’t. I am as honest as I can be and I try to be happy and try to see good in everything around me until you prove me otherwise. I am easy going and cool until you make me not to be cool with you.

    Being in cosmetic surgery is something that some will describe as being scary because of the kind of things you need to see in the surgical rooms and the damaged figures you need to correct, how do you cope?

    In line with what I have said about times changing, I as a person have evolved over time because before I got into medicine as a business interest, I used to be very squeamish about the sight of blood, I could not stand it but it has become so much part of my life and I love it and if I am not in the operating room watching surgery, I am not happy. There are two times I am happy the most. When I am in the operating room watching surgeries, I am not a surgeon and when I am doing the outreach programmes by helping people out. These two times are when I am most comfortable. I looked past the obvious, which is the pain they are going through, if it is a constructive surgery and focus on what the result will be. It is all about the control of the mind and for me it comes easy. Looking past the present and seeing something better come out of it.

    Sometime ago, there was an unfortunate death of the former First Lady, Stella Obasanjo, and somehow, your name cropped up and we have not seen or heard you defend that anywhere?

    Was I involved with Stella Obasanjo’s surgery? No. Did I refer her to a surgeon in Spain? No. Did I discuss cosmetic surgery with her prior to her death? No. Did I advise her? No. Stella Obasanjo and I were not talking long before she passed away. I was in shock to know about her death and it was a horrible time for me because I had friends who were involved in the plane crash earlier and I was also traumatised because my father had just died and we were preparing for his funeral. So, I did not appreciate anybody calling me and telling me something I knew nothing about. So, I am the wrong person to be asked about Stella’s death unless someone has proof to say I am lying, if not, nobody should ask me again.

    You are above 40 and we know men disturb you, are you not planning to settle down soon?

    When God says yes, then yes, because there is time for everything. The truth is, we all have our own different callings and different purposes in life. I have always known that coming to Nigeria was just because of the foundation, I knew God just deceived me and brought me here, I know my coming is not because of cosmetic surgery, it was because of the foundation and I have come to just accept it that this is it. This is what I am created to do and I have embraced it. The truth is if I had remarried during the course of all this, I don’t think I will be doing what I am doing. I would have been at home worried about my husband and how to take care of the children. I thank God I am blessed and I have a son who is in the university and he is 19. He is my biggest supporter; he supports me in all I do. There is a time for everything and I believe this is the time for me to do what I am supposed to do. Whenever God says He is going to give me a man that will support my calling, that will not be a hindrance to fulfilling my destiny, then I am cool.

    What is your philosophy about life?

    Let me say the easiest which is simplest in my opinion, I believe we are all here for a purpose, some people will go through life never knowing what their purpose is, while some will. When you are able to identify what your purpose is, it is then you get to enjoy life and live life properly and I use that as a guiding factor for myself. I say that to my son a lot and to people close to me. I think people should remind themselves of it because you never really go through life twice. I am doing what I am supposed to do and that helps.

    What is your advice to so many young girls out there who want to be like Modupe?

    They should be true to themselves and to God.

    Do you get angry?

    I have a nasty temper.

    What calms you down?

    Reminding myself that I am the boss and I have the final say.

    Some people say Modupe is a very saucy person and that maybe her beauty has gone into her brain, what do you say to people like that?

    Some would say body enhancement and philanthropy do not mix. One is strictly business, while the other requires a passion for giving. In your own case, you seem to be at home with both. How do you cope?

    When Body Enhancement Limited started, of course it was cosmetic and constructive surgery for those who could afford our services. When you become synonymous with a service, both the privileged and the under-privileged will come to you and that is what happened. So, a lot of people that could not afford the constructive surgery but had deformities and abnormalities, come into my office and ask me for surgeries but of course they could not afford it and I could not understand why people would see someone obviously deformed and not try to help. For me, it is something that comes naturally, wanting to help is just part of my nature. So, it only made sense to me that I should use the resources that I had, and still have, to help them. So, a lot of my surgeons that come to do the cosmetic surgery, when they finish making men and women beautiful, they volunteer their time.

    I don’t pay doctors that come and do this work. They do it for free. They don’t ask for anything. They bring their equipment and in addition, we buy whatever we can buy, we provide their accommodation, we pay for their tickets, take care of their feeding and they in turn sacrifice their time to help people and that is what we have been doing since 2003, It has been a long time coming but that is what we have been doing and we have expanded it and it is now beyond surgeries. Some people are normal physically but they are hungry. We have some that are not deformed but they are sick and just some little medication that costs N200 can restore someone’s sight or save someone from going blind. So, I decided and I spoke with my Board of Trustees and my Patron, Desmond Tutu, and we said we need to do more because the need is so much and rendering help comes to me naturally, it gives me pleasure, so we just merge them as one, and I guess it was meant to be.

    Of recent, we have discovered that the philanthropy part of your work takes more of your time, why is it so?

    It takes my time because that is the one that makes me happy. Perhaps, people know Body Enhancement Limited but I have so many businesses. Body Enhancement is what people know and it is fine with me. The cosmetic business is done at a particular period of the year, it is usually between March and April and October to November. So, my clients know when to come and meet me and they make their payments and get their surgeries done. So, my time is not necessarily free because I have other things I am doing also but that part is there and these days, people don’t see me advertise anymore because people know. The charity part is taking much more of my time and it is actually what I want to do as long as my other businesses yield the desired profits from wherever I am investing. As long as my businesses are doing fine, I will be able to take from that money and do the work that gives me happiness and that is helping people.

    The charity part of your work is taking you around the country and just recently, you were in the North East and we recall that you left a place where you went to donate things and a few hours later, Boko Haram struck. Considering how volatile the North is right now, why did you still venture into that part of the country? Are you not scared?

    The fact is, before I do anything, I cross my Ts and dot my Is. We have done programmes in the North before. We were in Baylesa and we were not relaxing in Yenagoa, we were in the creeks of Bayelsa with gunboats, speedboats going for three to four hours into the Atlantic Ocean through the creeks to go and feed poor people. Many people in Bayelsa, including the indigenous staff that I hired, refused to go with us because not everybody will venture into that trip and come back alive. But the reasoning for me which will be the same answer that will cover the reason why we are in the North East, is, because we have decided that we are going to work on rehabilitating internally displaced Nigerians. I don’t call them people or persons, they are human beings, they are boys, girls, mothers, fathers and I feel we should show some level of respect and recognise them as Nigerians, so the whole person thing is so impersonal.

    We said we are going to rehabilitate them and that is what we are doing. It is not about going to donate food and all that. Rehabilitation is beyond that; it is helping them get back on their feet to be able to regain their dignity and to be able to have the ability to feed themselves and their families. That is what is taking us there and just as in Baylesa, in the North East and other places, I am not only responsible for the safety of myself, I am also responsible for the safety of my team. If I don’t value my life, I value the lives of those who are ready to follow me to anywhere I want to go and I am very blessed that I have a team that is ready. My team trusts me because they know that I have thought it out carefully and I have complete confidence that we are going in there to do what we are going to do and come out alive and there won’t be any issues. I don’t move stupidly or carelessly, I put into consideration all the things that I need to put into consideration, though things can happen because there is no guarantee that someone who leaves the house in the morning will return to that house safely at night. I make contact with the right people I need to contact when I am going somewhere and the rest, I put into God’s hand.

    Does that mean state governments do not provide you security details while in their territories?

    We were in Gombe a couple of weeks ago and Governor Ibrahim Dankwambo had offered to give us security and other things but I said no, I don’t want any security, I don’t want any siren, I don’t want any police guard because I don’t want any unnecessary attention to us. We go to where we need to but there are places that require security like when we went to the creeks in Bayelsa State. We went with Naval gunboats, armed Navy officers and when we were around town, we had armed policemen providing security.

    What strikes you when you get to the camp, especially what people are not talking about but that you would like to draw the attention of the government to?

    It is heart breaking than what people see or talk about in their comfort zones.. When we were in Gombe, everywhere I went to, I was busy crying and I don’t cry easily. It got to a point that the State Emergency Management Agency (SEMA) and National Emergency Management Agency (NEMA) officials had to tell me to stop crying if I don’t want to have high blood pressure. We have visited two states where the displaced Nigerians are and I must say that I applaud the Gombe State Government for what it is doing. The government has passed that relief point where all you do is to donate food. It is a huge liability. We had already confirmed the kind of skill the women had, so we went with sewing machines. Those who know how to make groundnut oil, and petty trading, we got their data and we gave them what they wanted and they were surprised because no organisation, not even government, had asked the women what they used to do before they became displaced; no one had ever asked them.

    We are helping the women because by so doing, we are helping the children too. We bought cloth fabrics for those who were selling clothes, gave money to those that were doing petty trading. I entered the market to buy them the materials they would need to start and then we put them through on how to sell and how they can grow the business. We will still go back to check on them and those that are doing good, we would be able to put more money into their businesses, God willing. There is nothing like self-esteem if you are not able to feed yourself and the shocking thing is that some of those displaced people are doctors contrary to the notion that most of them are farmers. Even if they are farmers, we have rich people who are farmers in today’s world. Because of their displacement, they have lost all they used to have and now, they just sit from morning to night waiting for people to come and give them small cup of rice to eat. How dehumanising is that? And, as you know, every woman is responsible to feed her children.

    There is even a woman in that camp that has 16 children, some 10 and we are talking about women who are below 30 years of age. We see that some of them have even given up hope and we always tell them that our target is to ensure that those of them who have given up hope are not abandoned and that they know that God has not forsaken them. People need to understand that they are not just IDPs, what I saw were faces not the tag IDPs. Immediately I saw them, it reminded me that it could be any of us at any point in time and that we are where we are now is by the grace of God and that is what I want people to realise. To be honest, it is cheaper to rehabilitate them than to keep giving them food.

    Tell us about the National Medical Mission.

    God willing in June this year, we are going to be having a huge National Medical Mission, we are putting together different medical specialists-plastic surgeons, general surgeons, optometrists, gynaecologists, orthopaedic surgeons, we are all coming together for free work and we are going to be doing a 10-day surgical time. The last time we did it was in 2006 and I love the programme because it is so amazing. We are going to split into two, we will spend five days in the North and we have been speaking with states that would like to partner us with our logistics and we are going to render medical treatment for free. We will also pick a state in the South West or South East. The number of patients is not limited; we are going to treat as many as possible and about 20 international medical personnel will be brought and probably with about 20 indigenous medical personnel too and that is excluding the non-surgical personnel.

    There was a time we heard your organisation was considering acquiring two mobile surgical units, how far have you gone with that?

    Unfortunately, we have not gone very far. What is sad is that when people hear and see what we do, all I keep hearing is, oh, God bless you Modupe, you are doing such a great job. Yes, I am interested in people’s prayers. But, I also need their financial support. We have not gone far as far as sponsorship is concerned but we got calls for mobile unit and each one is about $800,000 and the quotation and the information about it is on our website and the company name for verification. The mobile unit is equipped with multiple operating room and we can drive it anywhere and do surgery for free which helps because this way, we will not have to rely on states to accommodate us and that is why we have to work with state governments when such programmes come up. So, state governments buffer the logistic aspect of it because we can’t do that alone.

    Our food donation programme is also in partnership with the Nigeria Customs Service, they gave us trailer loads of rice and other things that we donate at our discretion during programmes. We also do donations of toys that we give to children and then we give clothes. We were in Yola last week and there, there were 501 children between the ages of one and 14 and they are just sitting at the camp wasting away, no education, nothing. We are going to sponsor their education. They will be enrolling in schools and before they go, the boys will have their haircut and the girls will have their hair done and we will give them uniforms, school books, and other things. And the interesting thing again is that amongst the displaced Nigerians, there are teachers and we have hired them to teach the students, so they are now on our payroll and we will be paying them every month.

    Isn’t the charity work eating deep into your pocket?

    Of course it is.

    Don’t you have corporate sponsors?

    Honestly, we don’t. It is not very nice when you write to some banks and some organisations and you say, this is what we have and this is what we are doing. We picked rural schools in very remote places  places that people don’t want to go and there are some schools that the children barely have uniforms and there is nothing as uplifting to a child as a nice clean uniform and when you look at how much it costs to sew a new uniform for a child, sewing and the material is about N500 and N1,000 will sew two uniforms for a child and let us say we have about 1,000 children, it is barely anything and then we write to them because we have written to so many people and we give a breakdown of what we want to do and we send lists of options and ask for sponsorship of school uniforms, schools bags and we even suggest that we will brand them.

    But they will write back to us commending us to keep up the good work but that they are sorry, they don’t have money. So, it gets to a point that makes me feel like, ‘why waste ink and paper to write to people who would prefer to sponsor beauty pageants and football matches?’ So, we don’t have any sponsor. This says a lot about our culture of giving as a society but maybe I am talking to the wrong people because many organisations also get sponsorship for different things. It is very sad and that is because when they hear we are doing such programmes, they think it is some sort of ulterior personal motive and I hear things like, ‘Do you want to run for any political position?’ I get insulted by such comments. What has giving got to do with politics? I am not interested; and I doing this since 2003. So, why should someone always feel that to help someone, you must get something back? It does not put us as Nigerians in very good light.

    Where do you plan to take the philanthropic train to after the North East?

    We have not done enough in the North East. We will still have to give the women money and equipment to empower them. We have not gotten land for them to be able to go and farm. We are not yet done and only God knows when we will be done there.

    Do you have time to relax considering the fact that the work takes much of your time?

    I barely relax, it is work, work, work and it makes me happy.

    As a businesswoman, how would you describe the Nigerian business environment?

    I left Nigeria when I was 17 and I didn’t return until I was 27 and I came to start my business here. Just like anything, not just Nigeria but the whole world and life in general, things change and times have changed. Some countries for the better, while some for the worse but the truth is, most countries were affected during the global recession and unfortunately for Nigeria, we have additional challenges, but I think no matter what it is we are going through as Nigerians, we will get past it but I don’t know how soon that will be.

    Modupe Ozolua means different things to different people. Who is Modupe beyond surgery?

    If I were to describe myself, I will just say I am just a simple but complicated person. I am very straightforward and some people might see that as an issue but I don’t. I am as honest as I can be and I try to be happy and try to see good in everything around me until you prove me otherwise. I am easy going and cool until you make me not to be cool with you.

    Being in cosmetic surgery is something that some will describe as being scary because of the kind of things you need to see in the surgical rooms and the damaged figures you need to correct, how do you cope?

    In line with what I have said about times changing, I as a person have evolved over time because before I got into medicine as a business interest, I used to be very squeamish about the sight of blood, I could not stand it but it has become so much part of my life and I love it and if I am not in the operating room watching surgery, I am not happy. There are two times I am happy the most. When I am in the operating room watching surgeries, I am not a surgeon and when I am doing the outreach programmes by helping people out. These two times are when I am most comfortable. I looked past the obvious, which is the pain they are going through, if it is a constructive surgery and focus on what the result will be. It is all about the control of the mind and for me it comes easy. Looking past the present and seeing something better come out of it.

    Sometime ago, there was an unfortunate death of the former First Lady, Stella Obasanjo, and somehow, your name cropped up and we have not seen or heard you defend that anywhere?

    Was I involved with Stella Obasanjo’s surgery? No. Did I refer her to a surgeon in Spain? No. Did I discuss cosmetic surgery with her prior to her death? No. Did I advise her? No. Stella Obasanjo and I were not talking long before she passed away. I was in shock to know about her death and it was a horrible time for me because I had friends who were involved in the plane crash earlier and I was also traumatised because my father had just died and we were preparing for his funeral. So, I did not appreciate anybody calling me and telling me something I knew nothing about. So, I am the wrong person to be asked about Stella’s death unless someone has proof to say I am lying, if not, nobody should ask me again.

    You are above 40 and we know men disturb you, are you not planning to settle down soon?

    When God says yes, then yes, because there is time for everything. The truth is, we all have our own different callings and different purposes in life. I have always known that coming to Nigeria was just because of the foundation, I knew God just deceived me and brought me here, I know my coming is not because of cosmetic surgery, it was because of the foundation and I have come to just accept it that this is it. This is what I am created to do and I have embraced it. The truth is if I had remarried during the course of all this, I don’t think I will be doing what I am doing. I would have been at home worried about my husband and how to take care of the children. I thank God I am blessed and I have a son who is in the university and he is 19. He is my biggest supporter; he supports me in all I do. There is a time for everything and I believe this is the time for me to do what I am supposed to do. Whenever God says He is going to give me a man that will support my calling, that will not be a hindrance to fulfilling my destiny, then I am cool.

    What is your philosophy about life?

    Let me say the easiest which is simplest in my opinion, I believe we are all here for a purpose, some people will go through life never knowing what their purpose is, while some will. When you are able to identify what your purpose is, it is then you get to enjoy life and live life properly and I use that as a guiding factor for myself. I say that to my son a lot and to people close to me. I think people should remind themselves of it because you never really go through life twice. I am doing what I am supposed to do and that helps.

    What is your advice to so many young girls out there who want to be like Modupe?

    They should be true to themselves and to God.

    Do you get angry?

    I have a nasty temper.

    What calms you down?

    Reminding myself that I am the boss and I have the final say.

    Some people say Modupe is a very saucy person and that maybe her beauty has gone into her brain, what do you say to people like that?

    Some would say body enhancement and philanthropy do not mix. One is strictly business, while the other requires a passion for giving. In your own case, you seem to be at home with both. How do you cope?

    When Body Enhancement Limited started, of course it was cosmetic and constructive surgery for those who could afford our services. When you become synonymous with a service, both the privileged and the under-privileged will come to you and that is what happened. So, a lot of people that could not afford the constructive surgery but had deformities and abnormalities, come into my office and ask me for surgeries but of course they could not afford it and I could not understand why people would see someone obviously deformed and not try to help. For me, it is something that comes naturally, wanting to help is just part of my nature. So, it only made sense to me that I should use the resources that I had, and still have, to help them. So, a lot of my surgeons that come to do the cosmetic surgery, when they finish making men and women beautiful, they volunteer their time.

    I don’t pay doctors that come and do this work. They do it for free. They don’t ask for anything. They bring their equipment and in addition, we buy whatever we can buy, we provide their accommodation, we pay for their tickets, take care of their feeding and they in turn sacrifice their time to help people and that is what we have been doing since 2003, It has been a long time coming but that is what we have been doing and we have expanded it and it is now beyond surgeries. Some people are normal physically but they are hungry. We have some that are not deformed but they are sick and just some little medication that costs N200 can restore someone’s sight or save someone from going blind. So, I decided and I spoke with my Board of Trustees and my Patron, Desmond Tutu, and we said we need to do more because the need is so much and rendering help comes to me naturally, it gives me pleasure, so we just merge them as one, and I guess it was meant to be.

    Of recent, we have discovered that the philanthropy part of your work takes more of your time, why is it so?

    It takes my time because that is the one that makes me happy. Perhaps, people know Body Enhancement Limited but I have so many businesses. Body Enhancement is what people know and it is fine with me. The cosmetic business is done at a particular period of the year, it is usually between March and April and October to November. So, my clients know when to come and meet me and they make their payments and get their surgeries done. So, my time is not necessarily free because I have other things I am doing also but that part is there and these days, people don’t see me advertise anymore because people know. The charity part is taking much more of my time and it is actually what I want to do as long as my other businesses yield the desired profits from wherever I am investing. As long as my businesses are doing fine, I will be able to take from that money and do the work that gives me happiness and that is helping people.

    The charity part of your work is taking you around the country and just recently, you were in the North East and we recall that you left a place where you went to donate things and a few hours later, Boko Haram struck. Considering how volatile the North is right now, why did you still venture into that part of the country? Are you not scared?

    The fact is, before I do anything, I cross my Ts and dot my Is. We have done programmes in the North before. We were in Baylesa and we were not relaxing in Yenagoa, we were in the creeks of Bayelsa with gunboats, speedboats going for three to four hours into the Atlantic Ocean through the creeks to go and feed poor people. Many people in Bayelsa, including the indigenous staff that I hired, refused to go with us because not everybody will venture into that trip and come back alive. But the reasoning for me which will be the same answer that will cover the reason why we are in the North East, is, because we have decided that we are going to work on rehabilitating internally displaced Nigerians. I don’t call them people or persons, they are human beings, they are boys, girls, mothers, fathers and I feel we should show some level of respect and recognise them as Nigerians, so the whole person thing is so impersonal.

    We said we are going to rehabilitate them and that is what we are doing. It is not about going to donate food and all that. Rehabilitation is beyond that; it is helping them get back on their feet to be able to regain their dignity and to be able to have the ability to feed themselves and their families. That is what is taking us there and just as in Baylesa, in the North East and other places, I am not only responsible for the safety of myself, I am also responsible for the safety of my team. If I don’t value my life, I value the lives of those who are ready to follow me to anywhere I want to go and I am very blessed that I have a team that is ready. My team trusts me because they know that I have thought it out carefully and I have complete confidence that we are going in there to do what we are going to do and come out alive and there won’t be any issues. I don’t move stupidly or carelessly, I put into consideration all the things that I need to put into consideration, though things can happen because there is no guarantee that someone who leaves the house in the morning will return to that house safely at night. I make contact with the right people I need to contact when I am going somewhere and the rest, I put into God’s hand.

    Does that mean state governments do not provide you security details while in their territories?

    We were in Gombe a couple of weeks ago and Governor Ibrahim Dankwambo had offered to give us security and other things but I said no, I don’t want any security, I don’t want any siren, I don’t want any police guard because I don’t want any unnecessary attention to us. We go to where we need to but there are places that require security like when we went to the creeks in Bayelsa State. We went with Naval gunboats, armed Navy officers and when we were around town, we had armed policemen providing security.

    What strikes you when you get to the camp, especially what people are not talking about but that you would like to draw the attention of the government to?

    It is heart breaking than what people see or talk about in their comfort zones.. When we were in Gombe, everywhere I went to, I was busy crying and I don’t cry easily. It got to a point that the State Emergency Management Agency (SEMA) and National Emergency Management Agency (NEMA) officials had to tell me to stop crying if I don’t want to have high blood pressure. We have visited two states where the displaced Nigerians are and I must say that I applaud the Gombe State Government for what it is doing. The government has passed that relief point where all you do is to donate food. It is a huge liability. We had already confirmed the kind of skill the women had, so we went with sewing machines. Those who know how to make groundnut oil, and petty trading, we got their data and we gave them what they wanted and they were surprised because no organisation, not even government, had asked the women what they used to do before they became displaced; no one had ever asked them.

    We are helping the women because by so doing, we are helping the children too. We bought cloth fabrics for those who were selling clothes, gave money to those that were doing petty trading. I entered the market to buy them the materials they would need to start and then we put them through on how to sell and how they can grow the business. We will still go back to check on them and those that are doing good, we would be able to put more money into their businesses, God willing. There is nothing like self-esteem if you are not able to feed yourself and the shocking thing is that some of those displaced people are doctors contrary to the notion that most of them are farmers. Even if they are farmers, we have rich people who are farmers in today’s world. Because of their displacement, they have lost all they used to have and now, they just sit from morning to night waiting for people to come and give them small cup of rice to eat. How dehumanising is that? And, as you know, every woman is responsible to feed her children.

    There is even a woman in that camp that has 16 children, some 10 and we are talking about women who are below 30 years of age. We see that some of them have even given up hope and we always tell them that our target is to ensure that those of them who have given up hope are not abandoned and that they know that God has not forsaken them. People need to understand that they are not just IDPs, what I saw were faces not the tag IDPs. Immediately I saw them, it reminded me that it could be any of us at any point in time and that we are where we are now is by the grace of God and that is what I want people to realise. To be honest, it is cheaper to rehabilitate them than to keep giving them food.

    Tell us about the National Medical Mission.

    God willing in June this year, we are going to be having a huge National Medical Mission, we are putting together different medical specialists-plastic surgeons, general surgeons, optometrists, gynaecologists, orthopaedic surgeons, we are all coming together for free work and we are going to be doing a 10-day surgical time. The last time we did it was in 2006 and I love the programme because it is so amazing. We are going to split into two, we will spend five days in the North and we have been speaking with states that would like to partner us with our logistics and we are going to render medical treatment for free. We will also pick a state in the South West or South East. The number of patients is not limited; we are going to treat as many as possible and about 20 international medical personnel will be brought and probably with about 20 indigenous medical personnel too and that is excluding the non-surgical personnel.

    There was a time we heard your organisation was considering acquiring two mobile surgical units, how far have you gone with that?

    Unfortunately, we have not gone very far. What is sad is that when people hear and see what we do, all I keep hearing is, oh, God bless you Modupe, you are doing such a great job. Yes, I am interested in people’s prayers. But, I also need their financial support. We have not gone far as far as sponsorship is concerned but we got calls for mobile unit and each one is about $800,000 and the quotation and the information about it is on our website and the company name for verification. The mobile unit is equipped with multiple operating room and we can drive it anywhere and do surgery for free which helps because this way, we will not have to rely on states to accommodate us and that is why we have to work with state governments when such programmes come up. So, state governments buffer the logistic aspect of it because we can’t do that alone.

    Our food donation programme is also in partnership with the Nigeria Customs Service, they gave us trailer loads of rice and other things that we donate at our discretion during programmes. We also do donations of toys that we give to children and then we give clothes. We were in Yola last week and there, there were 501 children between the ages of one and 14 and they are just sitting at the camp wasting away, no education, nothing. We are going to sponsor their education. They will be enrolling in schools and before they go, the boys will have their haircut and the girls will have their hair done and we will give them uniforms, school books, and other things. And the interesting thing again is that amongst the displaced Nigerians, there are teachers and we have hired them to teach the students, so they are now on our payroll and we will be paying them every month.

    Isn’t the charity work eating deep into your pocket?

    Of course it is.

    Don’t you have corporate sponsors?

    Honestly, we don’t. It is not very nice when you write to some banks and some organisations and you say, this is what we have and this is what we are doing. We picked rural schools in very remote places  places that people don’t want to go and there are some schools that the children barely have uniforms and there is nothing as uplifting to a child as a nice clean uniform and when you look at how much it costs to sew a new uniform for a child, sewing and the material is about N500 and N1,000 will sew two uniforms for a child and let us say we have about 1,000 children, it is barely anything and then we write to them because we have written to so many people and we give a breakdown of what we want to do and we send lists of options and ask for sponsorship of school uniforms, schools bags and we even suggest that we will brand them.

    But they will write back to us commending us to keep up the good work but that they are sorry, they don’t have money. So, it gets to a point that makes me feel like, ‘why waste ink and paper to write to people who would prefer to sponsor beauty pageants and football matches?’ So, we don’t have any sponsor. This says a lot about our culture of giving as a society but maybe I am talking to the wrong people because many organisations also get sponsorship for different things. It is very sad and that is because when they hear we are doing such programmes, they think it is some sort of ulterior personal motive and I hear things like, ‘Do you want to run for any political position?’ I get insulted by such comments. What has giving got to do with politics? I am not interested; and I doing this since 2003. So, why should someone always feel that to help someone, you must get something back? It does not put us as Nigerians in very good light.

    Where do you plan to take the philanthropic train to after the North East?

    We have not done enough in the North East. We will still have to give the women money and equipment to empower them. We have not gotten land for them to be able to go and farm. We are not yet done and only God knows when we will be done there.

    Do you have time to relax considering the fact that the work takes much of your time?

    I barely relax, it is work, work, work and it makes me happy.

    As a businesswoman, how would you describe the Nigerian business environment?

    I left Nigeria when I was 17 and I didn’t return until I was 27 and I came to start my business here. Just like anything, not just Nigeria but the whole world and life in general, things change and times have changed. Some countries for the better, while some for the worse but the truth is, most countries were affected during the global recession and unfortunately for Nigeria, we have additional challenges, but I think no matter what it is we are going through as Nigerians, we will get past it but I don’t know how soon that will be.

    Modupe Ozolua means different things to different people. Who is Modupe beyond surgery?

    If I were to describe myself, I will just say I am just a simple but complicated person. I am very straightforward and some people might see that as an issue but I don’t. I am as honest as I can be and I try to be happy and try to see good in everything around me until you prove me otherwise. I am easy going and cool until you make me not to be cool with you.

    Being in cosmetic surgery is something that some will describe as being scary because of the kind of things you need to see in the surgical rooms and the damaged figures you need to correct, how do you cope?

    In line with what I have said about times changing, I as a person have evolved over time because before I got into medicine as a business interest, I used to be very squeamish about the sight of blood, I could not stand it but it has become so much part of my life and I love it and if I am not in the operating room watching surgery, I am not happy. There are two times I am happy the most. When I am in the operating room watching surgeries, I am not a surgeon and when I am doing the outreach programmes by helping people out. These two times are when I am most comfortable. I looked past the obvious, which is the pain they are going through, if it is a constructive surgery and focus on what the result will be. It is all about the control of the mind and for me it comes easy. Looking past the present and seeing something better come out of it.

    Sometime ago, there was an unfortunate death of the former First Lady, Stella Obasanjo, and somehow, your name cropped up and we have not seen or heard you defend that anywhere?

    Was I involved with Stella Obasanjo’s surgery? No. Did I refer her to a surgeon in Spain? No. Did I discuss cosmetic surgery with her prior to her death? No. Did I advise her? No. Stella Obasanjo and I were not talking long before she passed away. I was in shock to know about her death and it was a horrible time for me because I had friends who were involved in the plane crash earlier and I was also traumatised because my father had just died and we were preparing for his funeral. So, I did not appreciate anybody calling me and telling me something I knew nothing about. So, I am the wrong person to be asked about Stella’s death unless someone has proof to say I am lying, if not, nobody should ask me again.

    You are above 40 and we know men disturb you, are you not planning to settle down soon?

    When God says yes, then yes, because there is time for everything. The truth is, we all have our own different callings and different purposes in life. I have always known that coming to Nigeria was just because of the foundation, I knew God just deceived me and brought me here, I know my coming is not because of cosmetic surgery, it was because of the foundation and I have come to just accept it that this is it. This is what I am created to do and I have embraced it. The truth is if I had remarried during the course of all this, I don’t think I will be doing what I am doing. I would have been at home worried about my husband and how to take care of the children. I thank God I am blessed and I have a son who is in the university and he is 19. He is my biggest supporter; he supports me in all I do. There is a time for everything and I believe this is the time for me to do what I am supposed to do. Whenever God says He is going to give me a man that will support my calling, that will not be a hindrance to fulfilling my destiny, then I am cool.

    What is your philosophy about life?

    Let me say the easiest which is simplest in my opinion, I believe we are all here for a purpose, some people will go through life never knowing what their purpose is, while some will. When you are able to identify what your purpose is, it is then you get to enjoy life and live life properly and I use that as a guiding factor for myself. I say that to my son a lot and to people close to me. I think people should remind themselves of it because you never really go through life twice. I am doing what I am supposed to do and that helps.

    What is your advice to so many young girls out there who want to be like Modupe?

    They should be true to themselves and to God.

    Do you get angry?

    I have a nasty temper.

    What calms you down?

    Reminding myself that I am the boss and I have the final say.

    Some people say Modupe is a very saucy person and that maybe her beauty has gone into her brain, what do you say to people like that?

  • Sexual intimacy in marriage

    Thanks for sharing your situation with us. We hope we will be able to provide some tips that will help your marriage, especially in the sexual aspect. What you are going through is not different. Most beginners have the same challenges. From your story, I can see that there is a bit of communication between you and your wife which is a plus. In the beginning, the challenges are great, but trust me, with the right information you will later improve.

    Sexual intimacy in marriage is very important because it is the process whereby husband and wife give in or blend their personalities. It helps them experience together the highest moment in their life of complete oneness. Therefore, understanding how to enjoy sexual intimacy with your spouse is to have a clear knowledge of your spouse’s expectations and how to work towards achieving them. However, being a Christian or Muslim is the more reason while you and your wife should talk about sex freely with  each other.  Almighty God ordains marriage with sex for bonding and procreation. I know full well that there is something powerfully binding that happens when husband and wife makes love. And frankly, it angers Satan because deep down he knows that marriage where sex is treasured and protected is a force to be reckoned with. Yes, he has a more difficult task on his hands when he goes up against a couple that savours being one with each other. Sexuality is a natural and essential part of intimate human partnership. That is why husband and wife who are sexually satisfied are happier and healthier than those who don’t. So to achieve this you must create an atmosphere for intimacy. Remember small changes make big difference. More so marriage is the only platform that you have the licence to explore sexual intimacy with your spouse. That is to say you should do and undo with your spouse.   The following are helpful tips:

    Learn to set the mood: Relax and be free with each other to start with, and then try to engage your wife about your day’s happenings and ask her about her day. Allow her to express herself freely. Laugh over issues with her. As a matter of fact, start being nice to her from morning, so that when it gets to bed time you and your wife are already in a relax mood to enjoy sex.

    Communication: Talk to your spouse; commend her for letting you know that she is not satisfied sexually. Then, ask her what she likes. Also state your likes as well. Let her know that you are in it together and that there is always room for improvement. Discuss the issue freely. Close the conversation with a warm embrace and affectionate kiss.

    Expression: Put the conversation into practice, just like the saying goes “action speaks louder than words”. A sexually satisfied spouse makes a happy home.

    Appreciation: Nothing leads more to gratitude and compliment. Men and women want to be appreciated. They want to be noticed, admired and complimented. When you shower your relationship (wife) with gratitude and good energy of appreciation, your wife will want to be close to you in every aspect.

    Learn to be romantic: To some women, romance or foreplay puts them in the mood. Study your spouse; know what interests her and then incorporate it into your sex life.

    Be spontaneous: Broaden your knowledge. Read books that will educate you more. Be creative. Flow with your feelings. Have no specific time to be intimate with your wife. Surprise her. That way, you can really satisfy her in bed. If you can get her something she likes when she is not expecting it that will be nice.  Always remember that you are married and so two are now one. Like I will say, you now have the licence to enjoy each other sexually. This feeling will definitely help you knock off the feeling that you are not good enough. Instead, it will help you build up your self- esteem.

    Moreover, learn to develop the skill of being able to hold up your sexual urge and help your wife to build up her sexual desire, so that both will be ready to enter into the moment of marital intimacy together (climax). Then, ensure you accompany each other, cuddling lovingly and tenderly until each falls into a calm relaxing sleep in the arms of one another.

     

    Harriet Ogbobine is a counselor and a motivational speaker. Send in your questions and suggestions to her on bineharriet@gmail.com.   You can also follow her on twitter@bineharrietj or txt message only to 08023058805. Blog; liwh.com.ng

  • Alcohol, hemp-smoking crash marriage

    After about two years of irreconcilable differences orchestrated by the husband’s alleged excessive alcoholism and hemp smoking, a Lagos court yesterday dissolved the marriage between Segun Falaye and his wife, Celestina.

    The Customary Court in Igando, a Lagos suburb, ordered that the couple should cease to be husband and wife immediately.

    The petitioner, Celestina (33), a business woman, had filed a suit seeking the dissolution of her marriage, citing her husband’s heavy drinking and hemp smoking habit.

    “My husband takes alcoholic drinks excessively and gets drunk after which he falls inside gutter, misbehaving and disgracing me,” she told the court.

    Celestina said after smoking hemp, her former husband had always behaved strangely.

    “My husband is always mentally disturbed after smoking hemp …he always descends on me giving me serious beating,” she added.

    She regretted that the man could not manage the business she established for him as it collapsed two months after.

    Celestina said: “I opened a bookshop for my husband, but he mismanaged it; the capital and the profit were spent on beer. He is lazy and does not want to work. He depends solely on me for feeding, paying the children’s school fees and for house rent.”

    The mother of two pleaded with the court to dissolve the marriage, saying there is no love lost between them.

    However, Falaye (40), who denied some of the allegations, said: “I am used to drinking, but not always. I have never taken Indian hemp before. I take alcoholic drinks moderately not excessively. I used to pay the bills when I was working, but now that I have no job I cannot steal to fend for my family. My wife controls and commands me like a baby, all because she pays the bills. My wife is aggressive; she gets angry easily and always.’’

    He, however, urged the court not to grant his wife’s request for the dissolution of the marriage, saying: “I still love her.”

    The court’s President, Mr Ruphus Adeyeri, who said all efforts to reconcile both parties were unsuccessful, ruled: “Both parties are no longer husband and wife; they are free to go their separate ways.”

  • Gbolahan SALAMI Marriage will boost my career

    Gbolahan SALAMI Marriage will boost my career

    HE is regarded as the latest enfant-terrible of Nigerian football in the mould of illustrious names such as Tarila Okoronwata and Etim John Esin who were known for their talent and notoriety on and off the field in their heyday.

    No wonder Gbolahan Faud Salami, the burly Super Eagles’ striker, is known on the local scene as Balotelli – a nickname after the charismatic Italian striker, Mario Balotelli, for allegedly sharing things in common – but it seems Gbolahan is, indeed, a misunderstood guy.

    When it comes to lovey-dovey, the Super Eagles’ striker is indeed in a world of his own as he purred over Ololade, the delectable girl he recently dragged to the altar in Lagos. Now on the verge of moving abroad to ply his trade with Red Star Belgrade, the former Shooting Stars’ striker noted that change in his marital status would positively bode well for his career.

    “I want to believe that getting married will impact positively on my playing career,” Salami told The Nation Sport & Style days before his departure with the Super Eagles to Abu Dhabi for an international friendly match against Cote d’Ivoire. “Yes, I think so, because that was exactly the major reason why I took my time to choose someone who would help my career to blossom.

    “I believe since I’m now married, it would open ways for better things for me, and my wife would be very supportive in ensuring that I attain the greatest height in my career. I will now settle down to play my game without any distraction whatsoever,” he noted.

    Salami said meeting Ololade was one of the best things that have happened to him, describing their relationship as love at first sight.

    “I met her while I was in Ibadan playing for 3SC though she lives and works in Lagos,” he revealed. “We are both from Kwara State and I’m so happy that we have eventually gotten married.

    “I am so happy and it has been so sweet for me, and I am enjoying every bit of it and I am confident that God in his infinite mercies would perfect everything about it.

    “It is very unfortunate that I did not have the opportunity for any honeymoon, because I am here in the Super Eagles camp. That is my job, and my wife really understands that. I appreciate her for that, which is exactly what attracted her to me.

    “I’m attracted to her for so many reasons and because she is an understanding person. She is very homely, caring, and beautiful also.

    “How many children would I want to have? It is God that gives children, and I will leave him to decide that. But as a human being, I think three kids would be okay by me,” he said.

    But be that as it may, he lamented the Super Eagles’ non-qualification for the on-going 2015 African Cup f Nations in Equatorial Guinea. “I would not be happy watching the championship at home, most especially when we were supposed to be defending the trophy we won two years ago in South Africa. Well, what do we do, we would watch from home, and believe that that is what fate had for us.”

    Yet nothing bothers this cheery guy than being described as a super brat or Balotelli of Nigerian football. “I always laugh when people call me Balotelli. I have sat down to review things and found out that my demand for my right is what has given me that name.

    “The truth is that I don’t like people cheating me, especially when it comes to the issue of money. What I don’t like is for any club to promise paying me certain amount of money, and at the end of the day, they would not fulfil their promise, while I would strive to fulfil my own promise on the field of play.

    “I will feel cheated and would surely react and it is when I react that people would start calling me names. I am not a bad person, those who are close to me would surely attest to this,” he affirmed.

    Born April 15th, 1991 in Lagos but Salami hails from Kwara State and started his professional career with Sunshine Stars of Akure in the 2008/2009 football season. In 2010, he moved over to the Shooting Stars Sports Club of Ibadan.

    Same year, he was suspended by the management of the Nigeria Premier League for his provocative gesture at the then Head Coach of Sunshine Stars, Gbenga Ogunbote, after he scored a goal against the Akure gunners in a league encounter.

    In the 2011/2012 season, he struck a deal with the Mamelodi Sundown of South Africa; a deal that was immediately terminated before it started. He returned to Shooting stars to continue his playing before moving over to Aba to join the “Peoples Elephants”, Enyimba International of Aba. After a stint in Aba, he returned to 3SC in the 2012/2013 season. When 3SC went on relegation to the National League at the end of that season, he left for Warri Wolves, and scored 14 goals at the end of the season.

    At the international scene, he was a member of the National U.20 team that played in the FIFA U.20 World Cup in Canada 2007. He was part of the National U.23 squad that failed to qualify for the 2012 London Olympic Games. In January 2014, Super Eagles Head Coach, Stephen Keshi, invited him to the home-based Super Eagles team that went to the 2014 African Nations Championship in South Africa. He scored the only goal in the opening 1:2 loss to Mali. He was also in the Super Eagles squad that failed to qualify for the AFCON 2015 holding in Equatorial Guinea this month. In the 2015 AFCON debacle when the Super Eagles lost 2-3 at home to Congo – the team’s first defeat in over 20 years – he scored a late goal as a substitute which has further cemented his place within the rank and file of the Super Eagles.

    RED STAR BELGRADE:  SALAMI’s NEW CLUB

    Red Star Belgrade or simply Red Star is a Serbian professional football club based in Belgrade, the major part of the Red Star Sports Society with 26 national championships and 24 national cups in both Serbian and ex-Yugoslav competitions. Red Star was the most successful club in former Yugoslavia and finished as first in the Yugoslav First League all-time table.

    They are the only Serbian and Ex-Yugoslav club to have ever won the European Cup, having done so in 1991, and the only team from the South eastern and Eastern Europe to have ever won the Intercontinental Cup, which it also won in 1991. In the following season, Red Star reached the semi-finals of the European Cup, before they reached in 1957, 1971 the semi-finals, as well as 1958, 1974, 1981, 1982, 1987 the quarterfinals of the European Cup. In 1979, they reached the UEFA Cup final, but lost to Borussia Monchengladbach. Also, they reached in 1975 the semi-finals of the UEFA Cup Winners’ Cup. Therefore, Red Star is the most successful club from the South eastern- and Eastern Europe, being the only club which was both European and World Club champion.

    According to 2008 polls, Red Star Belgrade is the most popular football club in Serbia, with nearly 48.2% of the population supporting them. They have many supporters in all other former Yugoslavian republics and in the Serbian Diaspora.

    Their main rivals are fellow Belgrade side, Partizan. The championship matches between these two clubs are known as The eternal derby. In September 2009, British Daily Mail ranked the Red Star  Partizan derby fourth among the 10 greatest football rivalries of all time.

    According to the International Federation of Football History & Statistics’ list of the Top 200 European clubs of the 20th century, Red Star Belgrade is the highest-ranked Serbian and Ex-Yugoslavian club, sharing the 27th position on the list with Dutch club, Feyenoord Rotterdam.

  • How I resisted marriage offers after my husband died —Nollywood star Lanre Hassan

    How I resisted marriage offers after my husband died —Nollywood star Lanre Hassan

    Popular actress, Lanre Hassan, is a veteran of the Yoruba genre of Nollywood. She ranks among the few of the older generation who are still vibrant in an industry that is fast being taken over by younger talents. In this interview with SEGUN AJIBOYE (Assitant Editor), she tells the story of her journey in the make-believe industry, marriage, style and other sundry issues. Excerpts:

    You have been around as an actress for a long time. How has it been?

    To start with, my name is Lanre Hassan, popularly known as Mama Awero or Maami. But to answer your question, the journey has been good. God has been very kind and good to me and I thank Him for all His goodness in my life.

    You talked about God’s goodness. But how tough was it starting a career in acting?

    There is no point denying the fact that it has been tough. To be in an industry for 51 years is no joke at all. When we started, parents didn’t allow their children to act. They regarded the job as a job for no-do-wells. So, anybody who showed interest in the job was regarded as either lazy or irresponsible. Nobody gave us any recognition.

    So how did you cope with the perception?

    I will tell you that most of us who were around then went into the industry because of the love for the job. We did not make any money and people around did not show us any respect, but we were determined to prove them wrong. We never thought that a time like this would ever come. But God has been wonderful.

    And you are reaping the fruits of your dedication today.

    Exactly! After all the sufferings of those days, I am enjoying the fruits of my labour. There is hardly any country that I have not been to around the world. In Nigeria, I don’t think there is any place that I don’t know. All these are because of the job I do. I cannot walk on the street without people recognizing me and shouting my name.

    I know you are popular among your fans. How rich are you?

    You see, our people measure success with money. But that is wrong. Your acceptance by a large crowd of people, who most times you don’t even know, is a sign of how successful you are. I thank God for His blessings. Though I may not be rich in terms of counting the millions, but God has made me to be comfortable. And that, to me, is a measure of my success.

    Looking at the industry today, the fad is for the practitioners, especially the young ladies, to start movie productions, even before fully learning the arts of the trade. What is your view on this trend?

    Things were not like this during our time. Back then, all of us were dedicated to the job because of the love that we have for it. So, there was no rush among us to make money. As I speak with you, I will call a certified movie director to direct movie, even though I can direct. But unfortunately, what you find among young actors and actresses is to start production, even before they know how to act well. It is like a child trying to run before he could walk. They want to act, direct and produce at the same time. We have been telling them about this shortcoming and I pray that they will understand what we are trying to tell them.

    I am sure you must have been very charming in your younger days. How were you able to cope with harassment from the men?

    It is all about discipline. You need to be disciplined and to know the child of whom you are. For me, a lot of credit should go to my guardian. She is late now, but she trained us on how to relate with the men. So, from that early age, we knew how to relate with the men and what to expect from them.

    But looking at the industry today, it seems the fears of the parents during your time are being confirmed. Very few of the young women are married. And even those who are married soon quit the marriage. Why are these happening?

    The difference is that during our time, we knew one another very well. Most of the marriages during our time were based on the love for each. But these days, things are no longer the same. If you live in Nigeria and you are married to a man who lives in the UK or US, you should be asked when and how you met. They just go into marriages without knowing anything about each other. So, even before you can blink, you hear that the marriage had packed up.

    Is your husband an actor?

    My husband was not an actor. As a matter of fact, he wanted me to quit the job soon after we got married, but we found a way to resolve it. All this was because we understood each other. If we didn’t understand each other, there was no way the marriage would stand.

    You are saying that the job is not responsible for the crashed marriages…

    You cannot blame the job for the crashed marriages. It is the fault of the individual woman. Look at all those old women in the industry. Why didn’t they suffer the same fate with their marriages? So, the marriages crash not because they are actresses or actors. It is part of the traits that we are witnessing today.

    Which can you describe as the happiest day since you started acting?

    For me, everyday is a happy day. Don’t forget that we are trained to make people happy. So, for you to do that, you have to be happy yourself.

    So there was no  incident that has discouraged you so far?

    Well, I can point to one particular incident. It was the day I lost my child. It was the day that one of us, that popular actor, Ojo Ladipo, popularly called Baba Mero died. We went to his house and came back home. In the morning, my child was dead. It was really tough. I simply lost all. And shortly before then, I had lost another child. He died while I was on the stage acting.

    So you felt like quitting?

    Yes. I was scared and asked myself several questions. What could be responsible? Was it because of my job? I just could not stand it. But thank God, there were several elderly people around us. They came and consoled me. They told me that the deaths were just coincidental. That was what saved me. It learnt a lot on how to relate with other people. And that you should be nice to people on your way up because you might need them on your way down.

    You sure have a very bright sense of fashion. Do you have any fashion routine?

    The truth is that I don’t have any particular style. Whatever you see me wear or step out in is the grace of God. However, I know that there is the need for you to step out neat because you need to dress the way that you want people to address you.

    Your husband died a long time ago. Why have you refused to try another marriage?

    Me, another marriage? No, I don’t want it.

    Are the men not pestering you?

    You should know that they would come. But it is up to you to politely reject whatever offer they are bringing. You need to stand on your feet and maintain your stand.

    So, how did you maintain your stand?

    By simply making them understand that I am not interested in marriage; and that my kids are my companions. It is that simple. Moreover, how would any man want to marry me when I am always on the road travelling for one job or the other.

    You were a member of the Ojo Ladipo Theatre Group. How many were you at the time?

    We were about four at the beginning. The group included me, Ojo Ladipo, Iya Mero and Oga Bello. But later on, others came to join. Some could not stay because it was tough. But we persevered and remained with the group. Today we are reaping the fruits of our perseverance. And that is what I want the younger generation of artistes to imbibe. There is no need for them be in haste to be rich. All those will come with time._

     

     

    ‘Marriage? I’m fulfilled the way I am’  • Continued from Page 37

     

    • Continued from Page 37

     

    Abuja have started to raise their own families. There is nothing that gives me joy than seeing people who went through my tutelage aspire, perspire and acquire.

    Does that mean you won’t ever give marriage a second chance?

    Never say never because limitations, like fears, are often illusions. It is only God that can decide that. Maybe if God reconciles me with my ex, but what do I even want again? Honestly, ask me, what do I want again? I have my God, I worship Him in happiness. I have a lovely team of excellent staff. I have a successful son. God has done enough for me and no man can equate God’s stand in my life. I am fulfilled.

    We have observed that you are also a show-stopper when it comes to parties.

    I sell what I wear, I wear what I sell. I don’t do cheap fashion. I go for quality and people know that if they have me at their events, they have quality and what I wear from my jewelries down to clothes and shoes are all original from the source. We have just launched the new Honey Bee branded Gele and Honey Bee shoe series; that is why people are presently trooping into my place to buy. We are proud of our business heritage.

    How does your day look like?

    My day starts with God. I pray and offer Him praises for His kindness and mercy upon my life. I also appreciate Him for the role He is playing upon my businesses and family. That done, I try to meditate, and read the news on CNN and BBC. I am a news person, I like to be abreast with what goes around in my environment and other parts of the world. I take my breakfast after my first client comes around.

    The day is often busy and interesting, at times they come down and sometimes we send our sale representatives to go and drop for them. If I am not travelling or attending to other issues, I do my business and count my blessings for the day. Beyond everything, it is good to pay tithe to God and that is one secret of God’s blessing in my life.

    Do you have a role model?

    Yes I do, her name is Madam Hedy Bush of Abba Bush Intercontinental; she is my prime producer and supplier in Austria, very humble, intelligent woman with good diction of English language. I love her calmness and Godliness despite her wealth. She is one woman I look up to and I will like to be like her someday because she is an astute business woman with a heart of gold.

    What does style mean to you?

    It means comfort, confidence, expression and strategy. Style is what you sell and what you sell is what you learn and what you learn is what you earn and what you earn is what permits your social security. I am a sociologist, I studied sociology and that is why I am sounding like this (laughs). So, style to me is comfort, confidence, expression and strategy. I mean you cannot expect me to go and see Mrs. Dieziani Madueke or Mrs Dame Patience Jonathan now and I take Abuja taxi cab to their office.

    It is like somebody that wants to go and see Governor Babatunde Fashola in Lagos and you go there in a Danfo bus, I am sure you will spend hours at the reception room. That is if they will even allow the person in. But step in there with a top notch SUV or Mercedes Benz Car and before you even alight from your car, the message that you are around would have already reached your host. I believe in style, I believe in quality fabrics and accessories, I believe in standards and that is why I am Honey Bee.

  • God’s view concerning marriage (3)

    God’s view concerning marriage (3)

    Dear Reader, we have seen so far in this series that God’s view for marriage is good and it is also to provide help for man.

    This week, I will be sharing with you on one of the most important instructions in the Bible for finding a mate. It is one you must have in marriage, to build the foundation of the home with Christ. I am teaching on being Unequally Yoked.

    A complete bond in marriage is based on the foundation that each partner is “equal” in their belief and vision for their life in Jesus Christ. God’s Word says: Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14).

    In a bid to find the right partner, the Bible clearly states that there cannot be a successful relationship, when both partners do not view things from the same spiritual perspective. No child of Christ can expect to find his or her perfect mate in a shrine or cult because light and darkness have nothing in common. The Believer and unbeliever, each serves different masters.

    Some people try to flout this law. They think God wants to deprive them of what they like. No, He only wants what’s best for you. Too many, after it is too late, have discovered that they can’t bend God’s rules and expect to enjoy their marriages.

    As a born again child of God, look for one who is also a believer. Make sure he or she understands what it means to have Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour. No matter how appealing or suited you think that person is, you are not to compromise this first and major rule or you will be signing in for heartache!

    Some people have concluded that since they have waited for so long and have not got the right person to marry, they are ready to marry whoever comes, even unbelievers.  Such people have forgotten that how long they have waited is not as important as the success of the marriage. Take for instance, someone who is 30 years old before marriage and may probably live up to 90 years on earth.  If such a person rushes into marriage with an unbeliever, it implies that he or she will have 60 years to live with an unbeliever.

    Now, the journey after marriage for him or her is longer than the one he or her has gone through. Wisdom therefore, demands that you seat down to think before rushing into a marriage that will not last. God’s Word says: …None shall want her mate (Isaiah 34:16). If He says none shall want her mate, it means He has a mate for everyone. Remember, God cares about you and He cannot forget you; wait for His time.

    A sister I know in church, who out of desperation got herself married to an unbeliever, found out too late how unwise her decision was. She was contemplating leaving the home because they both were living like room mates. Although they were living in the same house, they were not on speaking terms. That is certainly not what marriage is all about. God has reserved something wonderful for you. Why not patiently wait and obediently follow through and you will get your desired partner in Jesus’ Name.

    Someone may want to ask if one has been in courtship before conversion, should the courtship continue after the salvation of one of the parties or not?  It is so simple. When one of the parties (or both of them) gets born again, the best thing to do immediately after conversion is to break the relationship.  This is because the relationship started when both parties were unbelievers.

    This is not to say that it is impossible for God to bring them together again.  If you are a serious child of God serving the Lord sincerely and in truth, He will guide you.

    Since old things are passed away and all have become new at salvation, that kind of courtship should be done away with. Such individuals were in the kingdom of darkness when the relationship started, but now that one or both are saved, there is a translation into the Kingdom of the Lord Jesus, which is a new Kingdom altogether. There ought not to be any carry-over from the old kingdom to the new one.

    In case you are out there reading this material today and you claim to be born again, but still engage in fornication, you better stop it before it stops you. Fornication is a sin against your own body. It is you opening yourself spirit, soul and body for the devil to come in and destroy you. Health-wise, spiritually and also mentally, you are damaging your system. Please don’t do it. Marriage is for life. You have all the time you want with your spouse under a legal and spiritual covering.

    If you have offended God in this area, don’t lose hope. God is a merciful Father. If you confess your sins and forsake them, He will cleanse you from unrighteousness. This is what being born again is all about.  If you want to be born again, please say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I believe You died and rose again for my sake. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now I know I am born again!

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, and conselling@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • God’s view concerning marriage (2)

    God’s view concerning marriage (2)

    Dear Reader, it’s a great day and I welcome you to another time with Jesus today. As we open up the secrets from God’s Word once more today, I pray that the Lord will open up your understanding!

    Last week, we saw that God’s view for marriage is for the good of man. This week, we shall go further to see how God views marriage – A Help Meet for Him.

    God’s Word says: And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him (Genesis 2:18).

    Before Eve was brought to Adam, certain responsibilities had been committed to him. It was his duty to dress and keep the garden (Genesis 2:15). But God saw that he needed help to fulfill those responsibilities.

    In Genesis 1:28, God had said to the man, … Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. This statement is a blessing, but it also connotes responsibility. “Multiply”, “Replenish”, “Subdue”. Certainly, Adam needed help. So, God sent him help in the form of a woman, one that was suitable, adaptable and complementary to him. She was not just any kind of help, she was … A help meet for him. Marriage was created to help man, not to hurt him. It was created for his comfort, not discomfort. Both the husband and wife are meant to support one another in every area of life. When a man is struggling to carry a heavy load alone, he experiences a lot of strain and struggles, but once he has someone to share it with, he is relaxed.

    Husband and wife are meant to complement each other by filling up the vacuum in each other’s lives. In Genesis 27, there is this story about Rebecca. She failed in her duty as Isaac’s help meet, and played an unpleasant role in the incidence of Jacob stealing Esau’s blessing. Isaac was old and so could not see, because his eyes were dim.  Rebecca knew this weakness, but rather than complement him by helping him, she exploited the situation by “assisting” Jacob to steal Esau’s blessing.

    It was Rebecca that initiated the idea of Jacob stealing Esau’s blessing. Even when Jacob noted the loopholes in the plan, Rebecca still convinced him to go ahead.  Without her support, Jacob would not have been able to deceive Isaac and steal Esau’s blessings. She used her husband’s weakness against him and her son.

    Wife, you are meant to be a help-meet. You are created to surround your man with aid and assistance. His life should be better as a result of his association with you. Your contributions in his life should be positive. If the vices he had before you were married keep increasing rather than decrease, if his life remains at the same spot, then you’re not carrying out your responsibility in his life.

    You are to bring about a positive change in your husband’s life. The difference in his life, as a result of his marrying you, should be glaring for all to see. It is your responsibility to help him attain the greater heights God has prepared for him.

    Be a helper not a destroyer, an asset not a liability, a blessing, not a burden and a soothing balm, not a thorn in his flesh.

    You need the help of God to be able to be a help that is meet to your spouse.  This comes by surrendering your life to Christ.  You surrender by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord.  If you are ready to be born again, please say this prayer:  Dear Lord, I come to You today.  I am a sinner.  Forgive me of my sins.  Cleanse me with Your precious Blood.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now I know I am born again!

     

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, and conselling@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Court dissolves 17 years marriage over adultery

    An Osogbo Grade II Customary Court on Tuesday dissolved the 17-year-old marriage between Funmilayo Kareem and her husband Saliu, over adultery.

    In his judgment, the President of the court, Chief Bolarinwa Popoola, held that the marriage ended when the petitioner left the respondent’s house had a child for another person.

    “Adultery is and has always been a major cause of divorce. This marriage is hereby dissolved with immediate effect,’’ he held.

    Popoola awarded custody of the children who were above the legal age of six to the respondent and granted the petitioner right of access to see the children at any time.

    Funmilayo, a mother of three, had urged the court to dissolve the marriage on the ground that her husband was a dirty man and always cursed her whenever they fought.

    “The major reason why I want to divorce him is that he is a dirty man, and he fights and curses me a lot.

    “I do not know how I became his wife, only God knows, I was forced to marry him, until now, I do not know his people.

    “About two years ago, he told me to follow him to a prophet, I refused to go, so he asked me to leave and I moved out since 2012 and we have been separated since then,” she said.

    Kareem denied all the allegations and urged the court to grant his wife’s request.

    “It is not true that she was forced to marry me; we knew each other for about a year before I married her.

    “We even went to pay her bride price to her family. What actually happened was that she became adulterous and I reported her to her parents, they denied it.

    “She claimed to be attending vigils, but I got to know that she was sleeping about; I once did not allow her to go for the vigil but she insisted and left without my permission.

    “I went to the pastor and asked of her, the pastor denied seeing her and he called her, which was when she said she told me a lie to
    leave the house.

    “The reason why she came to court is that she has a child for another man, she even left my house with the pregnancy,” he said.

  • Breaking tribal boundaries through marriage

    Breaking tribal boundaries through marriage

    It was an occasion that drew the crème-de-la-crème. The venue was Calabar, Cross River State, and precisely, the residence of Senator Princess Florence Ita-Giwa, Eka Iban Efik Duop Eba, at Diamond Hill last Friday.

    The renowned politician and leader of the Bakassi people was giving her daughter, Koko, away in a traditional marriage ceremony that defied tribal boundaries. It was according to the Efik native laws and customs. The groom from Imo State was Chimaobi, son of the late Chief Shawcross Moore Obioha, former Chairman of Continental Sales Ltd, a big player in the nation’s oil sector.

    Chairman of the occasion was an Efik son and former governor of Cross River State, Mr Donald Duke. The day though in period when the infamous Calabar rains remain persistent, was blessed with a clear weather which saw the event through. Efik and Igbo traditional performances kept the occasion lively.

    The couple beautifully attired in traditional Efik marriage outfits were excited about their union.

    Koko who had just been to the fattening room in preparation for marriage in accordance with the customs was grateful to God for making the day possible and a success.

    She said she was attracted to her groom because he is God fearing man.

    Her words, “He is a God fearing man and I feel that any man that is God fearing comes with a lot of other positive attributes that would complement him. When you are God fearing you are focussed. When you are God fearing, you will know that whatever challenges you face, you will come out victorious and successful. We work together as a team. He is my brother and best friend. He is my confidant.”

    On how they met, she said, “We met on my birthday. I went out for lunch and he happened to be in the same place and that is how it started.”

    Chimaobi described his bride as beautiful, down to earth, understanding and intelligent and hardworking.

    “I am excited about today because we looked forward to it for a long time. And God has answered our prayers and we are very happy,” he said.

    Mother of the bride, Senator Ita-Giwa said, “We thank all for their overwhelming support. It is a great day. I thank God. I just thank him.”

    She advised the couple to always believe in God in everything they do.

    “They should hold on to their God and have a successful marriage. They should live a good life and trust each other. They should believe in each other and always have the presence of God in their union,” she advised.

    Mother of the groom, Mrs Evelyn Obioha, who is from Abraka in Delta State, was excited her first son was getting married.

    “I have always been in support of their relationship. Koko is a good girl and would make a good wife for my son. I am happy we are marrying into her family. Intertribal marriage fosters unity and I am happy my son is marrying into an Efik family.”

    Popular Nollywood actor, Mr Nkem Owoh, popularly known Ukwa or Osuofia also had some words for the couple.

    “I wish them happy married life and blessings. The enemy shall not see them. I wish them love and understanding. Marriage is a very beautiful institution and I wish them well,” he said.

    Among dignitaries at the event were the Obong of Calabar, Edidem Ekpo Okon Abasi Otu; the Paramount Ruler of Bakassi, Dr Etim Okon Edet; the traditional ruler of Abraka, Delta State, HRM, Air Vice Marshal Lucky Ararile Ovie; the traditional ruler of Arondizogu in Imo State, Eze Kosmas Kanu; Senate Leader, Victor Ndoma-Egba, who represents the central senatorial district of the state; and Senator Bassey Otu, who represents the southern senatorial district.

    Also in attendance were former governorship aspirant in Delta State, Chief Great Ogboru: Cross River House of Representatives member, Mr Daniel Asuquo; Nollywood actress, Kate Henshaw, members of the state executive council among a host of others.

    The white wedding of the couple is expected to come up in Lagos tomorrow.

     

     

  • Shun materialism, Christians urged

    The word of God should be the cornerstone of the faith of believers as against miracles and materialism, the general overseer of the Grace Prevailing Assembly, Ojodu Lagos, Dr Godwin Nwachukwu, has stated.

    He spoke at the grand finale of the annual Integrity Conference of the church with the theme repositioning for revival.

    Nwachukwu described the state of the Christian faith today as pathetic.

    Quoting copiously from 11Thessalonians 2:1-3 and 1Timothy 4, he said people no more seek God but miracles and quick-fix riches.

    According to him: “What is available today is the gimmick of the devil; materialism is the bottom line. There is power tussle everywhere.

    “Everyone seeks fame, power and influence, forgetting Jesus .No wonder there are iniquities everywhere and love is waxing cold. In fact, what we are seeing now is a danger sign and signs of the last days.”

    The cleric proffered love as antidote to infighting and the pulling of fellow Christians down.

    “What we should pray for is the capacity to withstand challenges and be kind. Let us find a common front and promise to be better. There is capacity and power in the blood of Jesus to do what we have in mind to do,” he said.

    His wife, Mrs. Gloria Nwachukwu, spoke on why marriage is failing.

    She said the institution is under attack because most times, it is planted in unfriendly environments.

    According to her: “Marriage involves friendship love, hard work, understanding, sacrifice and denials .It is not just for anybody.

    “Individuals involved must be physically, mentally, psychologically and emotionally ready. When this is done, they will be able to meet up with any challenge.”