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  • My wife was angry when she saw my new super bike

    My wife was angry when she saw my new super bike

    How it all started for him

    Well, Nigerians call them Power bikes, but the correct name is Superbikes. Today I ride a Kawasaki ZX1400 Ninja, about the second fastest sports bike in the world. It does 1-100 kph in 2.5 seconds with a top speed of 320kph. In the beginning, I actually started out riding Mobylettes, you know, the small motorized bicycles that you pedal until it starts when I was about 13 years old in 1972. An uncle of mine had one and used to let my cousin and I ride it up and down the street, whenever he came visiting my parents. Then in 1975, this same cousin’s roommate at the University of Ife (Now OAU) had a small Kawasaki 100cc. We used to ride that, also.

    That was the first time I rode a bike that had proper gears. I first started riding Superbikes when I was in my second year in campus in 1976. That was when I bought a Kawasaki 250cc. It was considered big in those days. After which I began riding my friends’ Kawasaki Z1000cc. That makes it 36 years ago, since I started riding bikes.

    Parents’ reactions

    Well, my parents were separated by then and I lived with my mum. She didn’t know at first that I owned a bike because I bought it secretly with my bursary; you know states used to give bursaries to supplement students’ fees in those days. It wasn’t until I had an accident with it, that she found out. The accident affected my bike. So I started borrowing friends’ bikes to ride.

    Place of abode

    It was actually at the University of Ife that I actually got to ride Superbikes. Having some form of vehicle was necessary at the university because, once we left the hostel which was our entitlement in our first year, most of us moved to the Staff Quarters which was kilometers away from the Lecture Theatres. I actually grew up in a suburb of Yaba called Abule Ijesha. And there was a time just before I got admission to the university that I lived with my maternal uncle in Ikoyi. That was when the chopper bicycle was in vogue and some friends and I used to ride around Ikoyi in groups. I used to lend my younger cousin Aigboje (the current MD of Access Bank Plc), my chopper bicycle. We could do wheelies (riding on the rear wheel alone) and J turns and that is where I got more used to being on two wheels even without the power behind them.

    We all learnt to drive about the age of 16 as the roads were free and sometimes, some of our friends would take their parents’ cars and we would race around Ikoyi. We used to race to Badagry and back too as the roads were free in those days with bushes on either side all the way, but we stopped that when some of our friends died in a crash when they ran under a trailer.

    His environment and bike riding

    Well, as I said earlier, at the University of Ife, the distance between the halls of learning and the even the Hostels was so great that parents saw the need to buy some form of transportation for their children. It became a fad then to ride a Superbike and some of us formed groups as far back as then. I belonged to the JPS Club which comprised Sam Okagbue, Charles Atuona, late Dele Odelola, and Ladi Farinde who all had Harley Davidson Bikes. I was the only one who had a Kawasaki. We took our name from a very classy cigarette John Player’s Special which we all smoked at that time. We stood out of the crowd in those days and attended lectures together. The group broke up as we specialised more in our studies. By the way, I stopped smoking in 1988 (laughs).

    Surmounting the fear factor

    Well, when you’re 18 in second year in the university as most of us were and have no responsibilities, you tended to be fearless and daring. It’s not like these days where people would sit for JAMB endlessly before getting admission. In those pre-JAMB days, we generally were between 16 and 19 in our first year and at that age you tended to be thrill-seeking and without fear. I was never afraid on a bike and the faster the bike, the more exciting it was, even when on busy roads with many intersections. I think the adrenaline high compensated for the fact that one did not do drugs. Very few people smoked grass in those days and even fewer did drugs like Mandrax and we knew them all and laughed at them. These days with one’s responsibilities and with maturity, one does not take unnecessary risks. So the fear is not there, but there is the respect.

    Preferred mode of mobility

    Of course, I prefer driving a car. There are so many safety features in a car and you are ensconced, no, cocooned in a car with all the modern safety features. You can even drive with your subconscious mind, with just enough alertness for the traffic situation; whereas, on a bike, all your senses have to be honed and on edge. You dare not lose concentration for a second, particularly when one is riding in Lagos traffic. And when you’re riding outside Lagos, it isn’t much more different. You are generally at a higher speed, so you’re watching for people or animals crossing the road unexpectedly, and you’re also monitoring the performance of the bike so as to be prepared if you have a mechanical fault or another.

    Wife’s concerns

    Of course, my wife is concerned. She was so relieved when I sold my last bike, Suzuki GX750R a couple of years ago because; she thought I was done with riding. She was upset when she saw this new one, but she had to accept it when I explained to her that I had a project I was working on which involves bikes and that was why I need one at this time. I would rather keep the details to myself for now. When the time is ripe you will be the first to know.

    Personality

    Well, I would say that I am free-spirited and adventurous to reasonable limits these days. When I was younger, I was daring and as they say, dared where angels feared to tread. The effusion of time and the responsibilities of maturity have dulled the edge of my ‘venturesomeness’ somewhat.

    Is bike riding riding professional, sport, fun or leisure?

    I would say all the above, except professional in the sense which I think you have used it. Biking for me had a gap of many years until the expansion of the Lekki Road began some years back. It sometimes would take six hours to cover a distance of two kilometres on the way home after a hard day’s work, and it was so exhausting whether you were driving or being driven. One such evening while suffering the torment of one of those traffic jams, a Superbike roared past me and jarred my thoughts into an eureka moment. I can ride one of those things, I thought! The next day, I went out and bought a used Suzuki GSX750R and that was the end of my suffering. I rode it to and from work for about two years until the road works had moved beyond Lekki Phase 1 where I live and one could breathe easy again in the traffic. Then I sold it.

  • Which authority takes complaint from a wife who is battered by her husband?

    How does one handle a bully husband? Which authority takes complaint from a victim wife? A man so battered his wife this morning I felt like inviting the police. – 08024061242.

     

    Hello! Everyday all over the world, wives are being beaten and battered to death by the same men who are supposed to protect them. Physical abuse is something no woman should put up with. I wonder why the wife is this case has not cried out. It appears the couple who just spoke about lives in your environment. We have all these community meetings not only to ensure that we have adequate security and keep the environment clean. We have them so that we can look after each other and generally being our brothers’ keeper. God forbid, if this man beats his wife to death, the whole community will then have no choice than call the police and arrange a burial for her. At that point, it would be too late.

    If you have a chairman in that community (mine is a close consisting of just about 20 houses yet we have a chairman who ensures the different families are doing fine), arrange to let him and other people (men and women who do not beat their partners) speak with this man. He should be made to know that if he tries to physically abuse her again, it will become a big police issue.

    If on the other hands, the wife is the one who moves the man to the level of uncontrollable anger, older women should have a word with her about how to keep her caustic tongue in check. Weak African men resort to their strength over women when angry while their ‘oyinbo’ brothers fire bullets. Real men are those who silently deal with women who give them problems.

    If you think your community can’t handle this couple, then, you may suggest to the women to seek for help from a of the many women

  • My manhood is so small; my wife doesn’t like making love to me

    Good afternoon. I am 34 years but I can hardly satisfy my wife in bed because I don’t last up to 3 minutes when making love to her and after the first round it takes up to 5 hours to come on again. Also, my penis is small and this is making my wife not wanting to make love with me. I am afraid I am losing her. I need what will enhance my penis and performance without side effect. Thank you for good work and help save my family. Abu, Calabar.

    Dear Abu, pleasuring a woman, especially your wife shouldn’t be such a big deal with or without a big penis. A lot of women make the mistake of thinking that the size really matters when all you need is to know the right position for sex in order to be able to make contact with a woman’s clitoris during sex. While men can easily find pleasure during oral sexual intercourse, several minutes of penetration or even just hard and fast thrusting, the woman has two major areas by which she can experience mind-blowing orgasm and gain sexual satisfaction-the clitoris and the G-spot. Knowing how to gently stroke it during cunnilingus will do the trick to making a woman climax. So the next time she makes you feel inadequate because your male organ is small, prove to her that you know the tips and tricks to giving her an explosive orgasm within a matter of minutes by finding a way to stimulate her clits.

    If however the real issues are quick ejaculation or weak erections, then you can talk to me about the drugs you will need. Cheers!

  • My wife’s death forced me back into music, says C strokes

    My wife’s death forced me back into music, says C strokes

    What was your motivation to go into music?

    Music is an inborn thing for me. It started when I was young. In those days, if you dare tell your parents that you want to go into music, you should be ready for strokes of the cane. It is the same thing with football; if they see you playing football, you are in trouble. But now, parents encourage their children, they even buy seven balls for them – one for each day so that they want them to be the Kanu Nwankwos of tomorrow.

    Music is a talent in me and I think I still have something to offer to the Nigerian music industry. That is why I am into music. I started playing the keyboard at the age of eight and nobody taught me. My father came back from one of these Asian countries in the 70s with a keyboard. When I saw it, I sat on it and started playing. People don’t believe in reincarnation but I think that was something from my past life. I hadn’t seen a keyboard before but I played it. When my father came in he was surprised. As soon as I saw him I was afraid and I stopped playing. And he said, ‘you were playing a song, go ahead’. I didn’t know I was even playing.

    That was how it started. I played in churches; I got to assistant choirmaster. I played in the secondary school, I was chapel prefect. I played in some bands with the producers of those days. As a student in the University of Calabar, I was also performing. I got income from it back then and it helped. I played in shows and was able to cater for some needs. I could live like a big boy and went as far as to Awka to play for Rogers All Stars studios. I even played a show in Iganmu (National Arts Theatre).

    But after I graduated it all ceased because I knew I had to get food on the table and in Nigeria you must work hard.

    Tell us about your stage name C strokes, why is it so unique?

    The C is for my initial, my name (Chimbiko); the strokes, it is actually reggae, but we are coming from way back and putting what reggae is in the present and it is a stroke different from whatever kind of stroke you ever had. It is with a touch of class, it is classical. You have the R n B, Lovers Rock, conscious part of it. The C strokes you in all these ramifications.

    Why did you wait this long to take this path?

    I lost my wife two years ago (2011) and her death devastated me so much. Music, being my second love, provided an escape from the pains I feel. I had to fall back to what I loved most. My wife was a very important part of me and when she left I had to fill that void. Music became the filler.

    I missed my wife so much. I wrote a song about her, my heartache and feeling. I went back to a man I had know over the years (producers, Sinclari (Seenclear) Konboye), who knows that I had the talent. He had always insisted that I had the talent and I should contribute. I was so busy. But trying to fill that void, the only way I could express myself was to go back into music and it is my love now.

    I released my first single in August 2012. It was produced by Sinclair, a fantastic producer and a friend of many years. After that single dedicated to my wife, he said, ‘men I don’t want you to stop here; if nothing more, sing for your children, tell them you have the talent and show them what you have.’ That is why I am in today. For my first single, the reception was wonderful in Port Harcourt. People like it and enjoyed it. It was dedicated to my late wife and it made people realise that I could sing.

    You played a couple of your songs now, and I realise that they are purely reggae…

    Reggae is the only brand of music that gives you the message. All the departments of reggae afford you the opportunity to express yourself – if it is lovers rock, you are talking about love. If you don’t have the depth in lyrics, you are not grounded, you cannot write reggae lyrics. And it is a conscious music and not just for those who want to play with rhythm or drums and all that. You must be rooted and I think reggae gives me the platform to express my inner arts.

    Yes. But beyond expressing ‘inner art’ your songs also sound political, talking about the oppressor…?

    I grew up in a middleclass family. In those days, it was easy because Nigeria had the rich, the middle class and the poor and everything transcended like that; so, nobody felt the gap. The poor were even comfortable because if they cannot reach the rich, the middleclass was there to assist them. But, today that difference is there and everybody can see it. We have eliminated the middleclass.

    As a young boy, my parents were civil servants and I could reach out to any of the classes. I could walk up with the rich and I could spend time with the poor. With the elimination of the middleclass today, there is no hope for the poor. The middleclass was the bridge in those days. I think the rich are getting too rich now to remember the poor and we must bridge the gap. The society is not fair to the poor and we don’t listen to their cries.

    I have a song called ‘Hungry Faces’. I feel for the poor because I have been around them. I am a pure Port Harcourt boy – I won’t say I have felt poverty, but I have seen it and I know how the poor feel. I feel bad and I feel threatened that one day while sleeping, something could happen to me. I feel we should still reach out and tell the rich ‘stop getting too rich without considering these people’. That is why I say ‘leaders of the world, please we have to get it right’.

    I learnt you have a foundation, what does it do? How does it relate to your music and message?

    The foundation also came up because of my wife’s death. I realised that there are lots of people like me out there who go through pain. If you are poor and lose your loved ones or wife through childbirth, I know what it feels like. With my solid foundation, I was able to cater for some needs and those of my children. What about those who are not so fortunate and are not working? I saw one report in The Nation of a young man asking for help to cater for his triplet after the death of his wife. The foundation was created to help mother and child care. Last year (after my first album), we donated. This new album, will be launched tomorrow, is dedicated to similar cause. A large portion of whatever is generated from the sale of the album is donated to motherless babies home.

    We want to buy an ambulance to help save lives. It is not just about the ambulance, not just for emergencies but to help convey patients from private clinics to specialist hospitals. Most times, we lose lives because of simple avoidable causes. The pain I went through after my wife’s death has taught me a lot. So, my friends and I decided that we should have a foundation. So, whatever I get from these songs goes into the foundation to assist the less privilege.

    What is the influence of your late wife on you and your music?

    She had enormous influence on me and my music. Before she died, one day she came to me and said ‘you stopped playing the keyboard. When I met you, you were marvellous on the keyboard and you used to sing for me. The children don’t even know you play music. Why don’t you get a keyboard and teach them?’

    After that, I met my producer who also told me people don’t know my talent because I just kept it to yourself. I said I was too busy. But as soon as she transited, I got the message and when my producer came in, it was like my wife was talking through my producer. So, I decided to use my music for charity.

    What is your assessment of the Nigerian music industry?

    I am not happy because people don’t play instruments any more. The computer age is affecting instrumentalists and it is not good for our music. Those who play the instruments arrange music better than those who don’t. Nigeria is carving a niche for itself in the industry and it is helping a lot of people who have no job. What we have in the music industry today are entertainers. The musicians are Fela, Lagbaja etc. These other ones are entertainers because the men who bring the money (executive producers) tell you what they want you to do. They are the ones killing the industry; they kill creativity because they are only interested in the trash that will sell. To a large extent, the kind of music we hear today is a reflection of the larger society.

    But as a musician, you keep going whether the money is there or not; if the album flops or not, you keep doing what you want to do because there is a small crowd that likes you music and that gives you satisfaction.

    Today, highlife is going, nobody sings highlife again; yet, it is something that was associated with Nigeria. When you listen to artistes like Flavour, you hear something of it but the typical aspect is not there and we should ensure we retain our rhythm. If I play highlife, it will be pure highlife. I don’t play to please the marketers. I went back to reggae to play it as it should be because if you go back to the 90s, those who made Nigeria proud were reggae musicians – Majek, Kimono, Blackie, Oritz Wilikie, Alex Zito and Evi Edna Ogholi. Those were reggae musicians and they stood there. Reggae is for those who like to contemplate and meditate.

    Today people sing about sex, Hennessey and all that. We have good young musicians out there, but if you check those who write that kind of songs, whether in mid-tempo, people don’t appreciate them because we don’t listen (to lyrics). People are so fast; so the rhythms are fast like ‘oya make we go Limpopo’ – to do what? But the rhythm is wonderful; as soon as it starts, you want to dance. But what message does it have? None. So, if you want to dance, play Nigerian music but if you want to listen, play reggae.

    What is the message in your latest work?

    The album title is ‘Reality’ and it has conscious music, lovers’ rock. Reggae is a wonderful channel to reach people, express yourself as an artiste and let people know that there are good reggae artistes out there willing to contribute to the industry. If you listen to my songs, you will hear clearly; I wasn’t aided by the system. My music is evergreen and it is going to last. If a song has message, you can play it over and over again. I am not thinking about immediate reward for my music.

    Do you see any of your children following in your footstep?

    My third son sings all my songs. He sits on the piano vamping. I know that one will come. I am going to guide him so he doesn’t end up singing the kinds of songs we hear today. But because my children listen to my music, I think it will have a great influence on them.

    Who is your role model?

    I have listened to reggae musicians over time and one man whose lyrics have a great impact on me is Bob Marley. His lyrics haunt me. But there are others like Dennis Brown, John Holt, Freddie Mcgregor and much recently, the Morgan Heritage Family. They have added value to music. They have messages in all their songs. They talk about the society, homes, love etc.

     

  • ‘My  wife’s rapists nearly lynched me with machetes’

    ‘My wife’s rapists nearly lynched me with machetes’

    What has been the reaction of the government to your plight since the last publication?

    Government is government; they know what to do. In a matter like this, I cannot tell them what to do, but one thing I know is that God is watching and members of the public, both locally and internationally, are watching. The humiliation, as I said before, was not done to me but the entire human race and women at large.

    One of the suspects at large called me on phone; he confessed and condemned what they did and apologised to me. But, all I could answer him was to stop confessing and apologising to me, rather he should do all of those to God. My wife is God’s creation and not mine. So, he should repent and surrender his life to God; so, he will not enmesh himself into such act again.

    Let me also use this opportunity to inform the government that by my experience on pregnancy and HIV/AIDS, and the campaign against transmission to unborn babies, I have some wise solution to it and will like to make myself available to them if I am called upon to proffer wise and workable procedures to preventing the transition from mother to child.

    What is your feeling on the way the government and the judiciary are handling the case?

    I have not heard anything about the matter since. Who am I in the society that my outcry should be taken seriously? Who do I have that will stand to ensure the matter is taken up? My fervent prayer is that the suspects (rapists) should repent from what they did. If they repent, the government should forgive them.

    Do you really mean that?

    Yes, if they repent, they should be forgiven.

    So, why are you concerned that nothing has been done about the matter?

    I was in Magistrate’s Court Nine, here in Port Harcourt the first time they were arraigned, and the case file was referred to the DPP. Since then, I have not heard any other thing about it.

    I want to tell the whole world that God is the ultimate in whatever we do on earth today and should not be ignored. Let us fear God; that is the beginning of wisdom.

    What is the reaction of your kinsmen, your community leaders and family members and is it true that you were banished?

    Nobody banished me. Indigenes of my community, the young, the old and the chiefs, were and are solidly behind me up till date. They totally condemned the act. Some of them described it as abomination while others said it was an act of gross wickedness, which bears grave consequences on the actors and the community, being members of my family and community.

    Knowing the consequences, our chiefs attempted to wade into the matter but unfortunately it was already with the police; so, I asked them to go to the police and discuss with them. It is no longer my matter.

    Every member of the community has been raining abuses on the criminals; I was not banished at all. They have continued to pray that God should visit and pay those people back in His own way. I believe they have begun to reap it. What is happening in that community now proves to me that they are on top of it.

    The only thing is that because of the continued threat to my life by the suspects and their cohorts, elders of my community advised me not to frequent the village as I used to, or if I must come, I should come in the company of security personnel.

    The last time I went there, they came after me with machetes, clubs and other weapons to attack me, if not for the community members that intervened and rescued me; I don’t know what would have become of me now.

    They were angry that I went to the press. They were asking me the reason I took the matter to the media, saying that I have disgraced them. My problem now is that I can’t go home as I wish to see my aged mother of over 70 years because of fear of their attacks. I was not actually banished.

    Why did your wife go back to her parents and how did she get to the police with the information about her rape?

    After I reported the matter to the police and made statement, police from the Rivers State Criminal Investigation Department (SCID) traced my wife to her parents’ residence at Owerri and arrested her.

    After the discovery that she and our about five month’s old baby boy were positive to the deadly disease, the parents invited her over to be with them for a while. It was there the police went to arrest her, brought her to their office in Port Harcourt, took her statement. It was in her statement that she mentioned the names of the people that raped her. Unfortunately, some of them are my cousins of the same surname. Before she was arrested, the boy had died.

    It was at this point that the police, led by a very senior officer, a Superintendent of Police (SP), Eneje, with the support of the DC/SCID ,Mr. Sam, led the investigations. As I said earlier, my wife was about two months pregnant when the incident happened.

    I am very grateful to God for the SP and his team; how they followed up the matter is worthy of emulation. The SP showed in that matter that he is a God-fearing man. I use this medium to express my heartfelt gratitude to him; he is an example of what policing should be. Efforts by the suspects and their sponsors to bribe their ways out and foreclose the matter were resisted by him.

    How is your wife coping with her status?

    Knowing that what she was diagnosed with is yet without medical solution, we resorted to seeking divine interventions. I took her to the Synagogue Church in Lagos, but unfortunately, we could not see the man of God, Pastor T. B. Joshua. The reason was that we did not go with her medical report.

    What is the position of your marriage?

    No comment on that.

    When was the last time you saw or called your wife?

    She is my wife. I don’t have comment on that still. My prayer is that God should show us mercy and heal her. She should also understand the fact that nobody other than God can heal her in this situation and her faith in God is very important at this point in time.

    When we went to Lagos, I bought a copy of the Bible for her. I never discriminated against her. We slept on the same bed, ate from the same plate, drank from the same cup. At my brother’s house where we stayed in Lagos, he provided different rooms for us but I left my own room for hers and we slept on the same bed. All to encourage her to be prayerful and study her Bible to build up her faith; because that is where lies the solution we need.

    My prayers always are that God may extend that divine mercy He has shown to me also to her. She is my wife.

    If God heals your wife of this disease today, will you take her back?

    (Smiles) I never divorced my wife. She is still my wife. I still give her courage. I always communicate with her elder brother even though I barely reach her. The last time I went to their Owerri residence I was told they had moved. The brother always denies knowledge of where she is.

     

     

  • My ordeal, by policeman  whose  wife, kids died in kerosene explosion

    My ordeal, by policeman whose wife, kids died in kerosene explosion

    A police officer with the Rivers State Anti Bomb Squad, Inspector Maxwell Samson Etuk, has petitioned police authority over perceived injustice done to him after his wife and children died in a kerosene explosion.

    Etuk said since the incident, which happened while he was at work at night, he has been sleeping in an abandoned vehicle at the police headquarters, Moscow Road, Port Harcourt.

    In a three-page petition addressed to the Inspector-General of Police by his lawyer, Mr. Higher King, Maxwell is asking the police to show concern over his predicament.

    He said it was painful losing his wife and four children in the kerosene explosion at night while on duty and being abandoned by the police authorities.

    King told Niger Delta Report in Port Harcourt, the River State capital, that before his client petitioned the Inspector- General of Police. Several appeals were made to draw the attention of the police but all efforts proved abortive.

    The human rights lawyer said the authorities should to come to the aid of his client to cushion his anguish and suffering.

    He said: “We have petitioned the Inspector-General of Police. All we are expecting by this week is to receive reply which will determine our next line of action. As for justice, I know we will get justice over the matter.

    “Let me state clearly here that we are ready for any legal battle to ensure that justice is done and that will depend on the response to our petition.”

     

  • ‘Woman in rape video is my wife’

    ‘Woman in rape video is my wife’

    After months of investigations, Southsouth Regional Editor SHOLA O’NEIL and ROSEMARY NWISI reveal the missing links in the 2011 rape video erroneously tagged ‘Abia rape video’. They unravel the victim’s identity, the Rivers State scene of the crime and how the victim was infected with HIV, which claimed the life of the child she was carrying.

    On a rainy Sunday afternoon in June, Obite, Etche Local Government Area of Rivers State wore an innocent look. Nothing gave it away as the scene where four men gang-raped a pregnant wife of their relative and indigene of the community.

    Driving through the tranquil town on that soggy Sunday, it was hard to picture it as the setting for the sordid rape that travelled through and repulsed the world in 2011 and became erroneously known as ‘Abia rape’.

    Mr Stanley Sunday (not his real name), husband of the victim, said Obite was where the crime took place. The police think so too.

    Pointing to a nondescript bungalow in one of the suburbs, Mr. S (as he preferred to be known in this report) told Niger Delta Report in an emotion-laden voice: “That is where they raped my wife”.

    The hapless woman was pregnant with a child, whose fate was sadly sealed by the rape.

    Mr S refused to speak with us inside his house – a bungalow on the outskirts of the village – because of fear that we could be attacked by the rapists and ‘their sponsor’.

    “We must talk quickly and you leave; I do not want to put your lives in danger,” he said.

    When reports of the rape first surfaced on the internet in August 2011, it was said to have occurred at the Abia State University (ABSU). The rapists were thought to be students of ABSU. Governor Theodore Orji and his wife Mercy lent their voices to the gale of condemnation, with ABSU denying that”there was no such inglorious act and ugly incident in the institution.”

    Mr. S said: “Some of the rapists did not even finish their secondary education; none of them is a student of the institution.”

    The heartbroken man hinted of conspiracy between some powerful persons in the community, including a member of his extended family, and the rapists.

    “They know what they did; the activities they and their boss are engaged in,” he added.

    He said his wife told him that there were eight men in the room when she was molested.

    “Four of them raped her, while the other four acted as bouncers, guard and commanders.”

     

    Kept in the dark

    Our checks revealed that the distraught husband found out about the sordid affair late. He had also lost a son to HIV/AIDS infection, which his wife is believed to have contacted from the rapists.

    Attempts by our reporter to speak with the victim met brick walls. At her family’s home in Nazi, Owerri, where she moved in with her parents, we were told she had relocated to the village, ostensibly because of the stigma from the incident.

    Her sibling, who was contacted on telephone, became suspicious and hung as soon as we told him we were trying to reach his sister.

    Over one year after he found out, Mr S could not completely conceal the hurt and betrayal in his voice when he spoke.

    He said he found out about the rape of his wife through his colleagues. He was working offshore when his colleagues started discussing the “evils going on in the society. They said I should see what evil people are doing. I was not interested until they started talking about a sad one that happened in Abia State. They said university students raped their colleague, videoed and posted it on the internet. I said they must be cultists to have done such things.

    “When they started narrating it, I got interested and asked to see the video. When I saw it (video), I listened to what the woman was saying but it was her voice that struck me. I was shocked; I said within myself ‘am I dreaming?’ The woman in the video had my wife’s voice, face and the hair style?

    “I couldn’t contain myself; I asked my colleague to transfer the video to my mobile phone. I did not tell him why I wanted the video, but I wanted to compare it with her (wife’s) photo I have on my laptop computer back at home.”

    After some time, he got time-off from work in an offshore location and went home to confront his wife and his worst nightmare. He said the woman initially denied she was the woman in the video before he pressured her into confessing.

    Obite’s indigenes, who asked not to be named, said the husband was so angry that he summoned a family meeting and threatened to divorce his wife, if she did not open up.

    “It was then that the woman narrated that she was going to visit her husband’s relative when she was lured into the house by the suspects, some of whom are her husband’s relatives,” said a source.

    Confirming this, Mr S said: “She said she hid it from me because of the threat to her life, my own life and those of our family members.”

    More intriguing, according to our checks, was that most of the man’s relatives in the town reportedly knew about it before he was aware. More perplexing, Mr S said, was that one of his relatives, a very influential member of the community, was fingered as the godfather of the boys, who raped his wife.

    “I didn’t know what she was going through, what had happened to my wife. She was living with me and cooking for me while living this horror and fear that they would kill her if she told me or go to the police.

    “The worst aspect of the case is that they infected her with the deadly disease (HIV). When this incident happened, my wife was pregnant (about two months).”

    Yet his feeling of sorrow and empathy failed to save the marriage. Although he would not confirm or deny report that he was separated from his wife, yet he said he had not seen her for over two months when we met him in Obite.

    “She is living with her parents in Owerri. I do call her and we talk once in a while. I even took her to TB Joshua’s church in Lagos when we were finding solution to the case (her infection).”

     

    HIV Infection

    Our investigations revealed that the husband’s anger was fuelled by a tragedy that earlier struck the couple in 2011 when their six-month-old son – the first child of the marriage – died of complications resulting from a mysterious HIV infection.

    He said: “The child was taken to a children’s clinic located in GRA Phase 1, Port Harcourt after he fell ill with cough, about two months after his birth. He was coughing without stopping and we had to take the child to the specialist hospital.”

    At the hospital, the child and mother were diagnosed with the deadly Human Immune Virus (HIV). The blood report from a Haematology Laboratory Request form dated August 5, 2011, (a copy is in Niger Delta Report’s possession), showed that the mother and child tested positive to HIV antibodies. The father’s result was negative.

    The result struck a blow that shook the young marriage to its foundation.

    The child was barely two months old and had just be dedicated at a Pentecostal church with fanfare and an elaborate celebration party in mid-June 2011.

    Before the incident, Mr S was surprised when the doctors asked for his blood sample for a routine test.

    “I told them that it was my child that was ill and not me. But they insisted and I had to allow them even though I didn’t know why.”

    After the test, top management staff of the hospital (names withheld) invited the couple to a meeting where they broke the sad news to them. “They told me I am a lucky man; my wife and son had HIV but I don’t have. I was surprised. I didn’t know what to say. I asked ‘what is the luck in that when my wife and child were infected?’”

    The hospital declined comment when contacted. An official politely cited the sensitive nature of the diagnosis and doctor/patient secrecy oath, stressing that the hospital should not be mentioned in this report.

    A medical source, who spoke on condition of anonymity, confirmed the report.

    It was gathered that the revelation rocked the foundation of the couple’s marriage with both family members getting involved in the effort to solve the mystery. Mrs S was accused of infidelity and almost sent packing when the child died two months later.

    Yet, she refused to disclose the source of her anguish until her husband confronted her with the video.

     

    More intrigues

    It was while the couple was managing the crisis resulting from the child’s death that Mr. S stumbled on the rape video and possible answer to mystery of the HIV infection.

    If his wife was cowed by the threat, the angry husband was unfazed and determined to bring the harbingers of his misfortune to justice. He immediately dragged his wife to the Rivers State Police Command’s Criminal Investigation Department. The case was assigned to an inspector of police identified as Mr. Eneje.

    The victim was taken in by the police for interrogation after which she identified three suspects as part of the gang. A fourth suspect narrowly escaped and was still at large at the time of this report.

    The suspects are: Uchenna Ukulor, Chizoba Nwosu, Nwazuo Nmezi and one person at large.

    Mr S said as soon as the suspects were arrested, some prominent members of the community met and decided that he withdrew the case from the police and let bygone be bygone. When he refused, he said he was banished from the community.

    However, it was gathered that weeks after the police began investigation, Mr S lost his job. He claimed that he was victimised because of his insistence on bringing his wife’s abusers to justice. He said some members of the society boasted after he lost his job that”let’s see how he is going to pursue the case now”.

    He added: “Since I came to the knowledge of the incident and began the move to prosecute the suspects, my life has been under threat; the suspects are after me, their sponsor (names withheld), is after me. They have been making frantic efforts to eliminate me.”

    He said the threats were so serious that he and his wife had to temporarily relocate to the Police Headquarters during the investigations.

    Attempts to scuttle the case

    Although scores of persons were either arrested or interrogated over the incident, the trial has dragged on for over a year amid reports of attempts to bribe the police and other agencies involved in the prosecution.

    Police Inspector Eneje, who investigated the matter, refused to comment on reports that he was offered inducement to ‘close the case’. He said the police had concluded its investigation and arrested suspects who were charged to Magistrate’s Court 9, Port Harcourt.

    Records obtained from the court indicated that the case file was transferred to the Department of Public Prosecution (DPP) for advice last year after the court declined jurisdiction on the ground that it was not competent to try the suspects.

    At the DPP office, a source, who spoke on condition of anonymity, said the prosecution was delayed when certain key evidence disappeared from the file.

    Our source said: “The photographs and other exhibits needed to prosecute the case disappeared but I think efforts are being made to retrieve them now.”

    Solicitor-General of the State and Permanent Secretary, Ministry of Justice, Rufus Godwin, who was contacted, referred us to the chief registrar, insisting that he could not speak on the case without the charge sheet number.

     

    ‘Rapists’ on the loose

    Nevertheless, while the case winds painfully through prosecution, the suspects, Ukulor, Nwosu and Nmezi, have returned to their normal lives, much to the angst of Mr S, his distraught wife and members of the human rights community.

    It was gathered that the suspects were granted bail in late last year.

    Mr S, who said the release of the suspects, has further heightened fear over his safety, said: “We don’t even know the position of the matter now; since last year we were told that the DPP advice was being awaited. The suspects are walking freely everywhere; even one of them just got wedded about two months ago.”

    He said his family has been let down by the government, which allowed the case to drag on until it is almost forgotten.

    He said: “Well, one thing I believe is that the crime, humiliation was not committed only against me, they did it to Nigeria, Nigerians in general and women all over the world in particular.”

    The Director of Programmes, Centre for Environment, Human Rights Development (CEHRD), Steve Obodoekwe, agreed that the crime was against humanity, not just the family involved.

    He expressed dissatisfaction with Ministry of Justice’s handling of the case, adding: “It is not one of such cases that should be swept under the carpet; it is unfortunate to hear that the matter is as good as dead.

    “Right now, we learnt that the suspects earlier arraigned in a Magistrate’s Court in connection with the crime are no longer in custody, even when the DPP’s advice is yet being expected and the matter not yet before any High Court either in the state or country. This is, indeed, very appalling.”

    He called for the conduct of a probe on how the suspects ‘escaped’ from custody.

    Obodoekwe said: “They should be rearrested and detained, charged to court and tried accordingly. We are also recommending that those that let them off the hooks should be equally fished out and given the same treatment as the criminals.

    “This is because, we are in Nigeria, and obviously nothing goes for nothing in this country. Those that released them from custody must have done deals with them, and so should be given even worse treatment than the suspects.

    “A serious matter like ‘gang rape’ is what we are talking about here, you arrested some suspects took them to the Magistrate’s Court which we know have no powers to try capital offences. Now we are hearing that they are moving freely everywhere like free persons. It is unheard of; it is evil.

    “One thing that is certain in this whole issue is that the incident is not a crime against the victim and her family; it is a crime, humiliation against the state, Federal Government and I want the ministry of justice to know this.”

    It is uncertain when the family will get justice, but what is sure is that the last has not been heard of this gang rape, even though the video has been pulled from the internet.

     

     

  • Akeredolu, wife console Fashola

    The governorship candidate of the defunct Action Congress of Nigeria (ACN) in last year’s general election in Ondo State, Mr. Rotimi Akeredolu (SAN) and his wife, Betty, have consoled Governor Babatunde Fashola on the death of his father, Pa Ibrahim Ademola Fashola.

    They said in a statement: “We have received the sad news of the transition of Papa Ademola Fashola to eternal life. We join other well-meaning Nigerians in extending our heartfelt condolences to our brother and friend the Governor of Lagos State Babatunde Raji Fashola, his amiable wife, Bimbo and children in particular, and the entire members of the Fashola clan in Lagos and elsewhere.

    “Granted that death is a necessary end, some passages are phenomenal in that they leave indelible footprints on the sands of time. Any father, who was able to invest in the education of his children to the point of giving the country well-trained children, must be adjudged a great asset indeed.

    “The father of a Senior Advocate of Nigeria and other professionals was a successful man. The man who fathered Babatunde Fashola was an exceptional man. Being the father of the man, who has raised the bar of quintessential performance in governance is worthy of acknowledgement and celebration.

    “Governor Fashola is a veritable mirror showcasing the quality of his family values.

    “We pray that Almighty Allah will grant Papa the eternal rest that he deserves and the necessary assistance on his journey to Aljana Firdaus.”

  • Is Caroline Danjuma a Real Lagos Housewife?

    Is Caroline Danjuma a Real Lagos Housewife?

    IF information going round is anything to go by, then stunning actress and boss of the record label, Guepard, Caroline Ekanem Danjuma is set to join the cast of new reality TV show, the Real Housewives of Lagos. Since it was announced that the franchise will be coming to Nigeria, entertainment lovers have been eager to know who will be a part of the series.

    Reports have it that NBCUniversal, owners of the popular American reality series’ franchise is partnering with a Nigerian organisation to produce a version of the show for the African audience. The new show will be called the Real Housewives of Lagos and will cover the lifestyle of about eight different women resident in Lagos.

    Among the criteria for participating, according to findings, the women must fit a certain age (between 30 and 50), be extremely wealthy, they could be married, divorced or single. They will also grant an all-access pass to their lives: their families, friendships, careers and homes.

  • Fayemi’s wife cares for the needy…3000 on three square meals free

    Fayemi’s wife cares for the needy…3000 on three square meals free

    The new lease of life being enjoyed by the aged, widows, HIV/AIDS patients and other vulnerable citizens in Ekiti State has continued with the introduction of Soup Kitchen by the wife of the state governor, Erelu Bisi Fayemi through her Ekiti Development Foundation (EDF).

    Under the Soup Kitchen plan, the needy are fed three times a day three days in a week.

    It boosts the subsisting freebies introduced by the government. Such freebies include payment of a monthly N5,000 to the aged from 65 years, consistent free medical missions for all categories of residents in the state, free healthcare for children under five years, the aged over 65 years, expectant mothers and indigent disabled persons.

    The feeding plan started with 200 persons, with beneficiaries accessing meals across centres in Ado-Ekiti, Osi, Itapa, Emure, Aramoko and other centres across the state. Now, there are 3000 persons benefitting from the programme.

    The Soup Kitchen follows closely on the heels of the Food Bank launched in October 2012 through which well over 3,000 selected individuals had been accessing raw food materials at centres located in Ado-Ekiti and other locations in the state, according to Erelu Fayemi, EDF founder.

    The governor’s wife said the EDF spearheaded the food bank and soup kitchen as part of its contributions to the administration’s resolve to banish poverty and extreme hunger from the state.

    Said she at the soup kitchen launch: “The target of the current administration is to ensure that every family secures access to free nutritious meals a minimum of nine times every week. This is not just a dream, it is a goal towards which we are working.”

    On the soup kitchen, the EDF is collaborating with the Centre for Family and Reproductive Health Initiative (CFRHI), a non-governmental organisation, founded by the State Commissioner for Women Affairs and Social Development and Gender Empowerment, Mrs. Fola Richie-Adewusi.

    The governor’s wife said the ultimate target of the initiators is to ensure that the soup kitchen is replicated in each of the 177 wards of the state before the end of the year.

    She is optimistic that the target will be achieved if indigenous people of the state residing at home or in the Diaspora, as well as political appointees in the state, support the initiative.

    The Deputy Governor, Prof. Modupe Adelabu, and some top female officials of the state were with the governor’s wife as she spoke during the launch of the feeding plan.

    The beauty of the soup kitchen, as noted by the governor’s wife, is the decision by some of the beneficiaries with catering background to cook the foods and serve as volunteers in each centre.

    “This will erase any suspicion about the quality and safety of the food. We don’t want political opponents to turn round and say that there is something else to the initiative. “That is why those who are cooking and serving are among those eating it,” Fayemi’s wife said.

    She said the introduction of the soup kitchen was in fulfilment of some of the electioneering promises of the governor when criss-crossing the nooks and cranny of the state for votes.

    She thanked organisations and individuals that have contributed to the success of the projects so far and sought further support.

    She urged all political office holders in the state to ensure the establishment of at least one soup kitchen in their ward to take government nearer to the people at the grassroots.

    In her remarks, Prof. Modupe Owolabi said the initiative was the begining of good things that the people of the state have longed for.

    She described the project as an imitation of best practices in the developed world, adding that the government was proud of the efforts of the governor’s wife towards giving the people a new lease of life.

    She appealed to the people of the state to continue to support the administration to enable it to deliver more dividends of democracy to them.

    The founder of the CFRHI, Dr Richie-Adewusi thanked the state government for its giant strides aimed at ensuring that the people enjoyed the presence of government in their localities.

    She urged the volunteers in charge of the soup kitchen not to divert the food, whether raw or cooked, and to treat the beneficiaries with love and care.

    Two of the beneficiaries, Mrs. Margaret Abegunde in Ado-Ekiti and Mrs. Bosede Folorunso in Emure, lauded the initiative and prayed for the continued success of the administration.

    Abegunde said: “I collect N5000 monthly from the government. I enjoy free health services and now free meal. Fayemi and his wife are taking care of the aged and my prayer is that they will age gracefully.

    “I’m short of words because none of us enjoying these freebies have ever been asked to produce any political party card before we benefit. I’m close to 90 years and I can say this is the first time I’m seeing this type of thing.”

    The governor’s wife also recently supported nearly 200 individuals across families with various sums totalling N11 million direct financial empowerment and individuals in the state. However, what made the event tick was the flavour of the so-called minority groups including the Ibo, Hausa-Fulani, Urhobo and Ebira who took prominence among the list of beneficiaries.

    All the beneficiaries of Erelu Fayemi’s assistance however shared just one common attribute: they all needed material and financial assistance, reached out to her office and succour came their way.

    Many among the 190 beneficiaries who spoke to the nation were lost in words when a total of their accumulated four-month largesse were handed over to them one after the other in sum which totaled N11 million.

    One of the beneficiaries, an Igbo trader in the state, Mrs. Irene Obasi, was full of praises for the governor’s wife on her efforts at supporting people of the state, irrespective of their political or ethnic backgrounds.

    She noted: “I would have made my request last year but I was discouraged by people who said I was Igbo. I was to discover late that the Igbo were among those who benefitted that same year.  I thank the governor’s wife for not discriminating among the people of the state and for offering good leadership to all communities in the state. May God continue to bless you, Ma.”

    The beneficiaries included widows, orphans, multiple birth mothers, students and those seeking assistance to offset medical bills or start businesses.

    At the ceremony, the governor’s wife said she would continue to use her position and networks to empower the people and enhance their well-being.

    She explained that the four-month accumulated disbursement was delayed due to the death of the former Deputy Governor, Mrs. Funmilayo Olayinka, an incident she said plunged the state into mourning.

    The First Lady assured the people of the state of her avowed commitment to sustained financial assistance through her office and EDF, but admonished beneficiaries to make judicious use of the money, urging them to ensure they commit the given sums on whatever they might have planned, with a special prayer for the sick among them to get well quick.

    The governor’s wife used the opportunity to urge the beneficiaries and well-wishers of the Dr. Kayode Fayemi-led administration to continue to disseminate information about its unprecedented achievements, saying “we give assistance not on the basis of political r religious affiliation. Christians have access to my office as much as Muslims. Whoever genuinely approaches my office for succour would surely find one.”

    She however added it would be improper and possibly look like being ungrateful for those benefitting from the different life-changing programmes of the administration to keep silent while detractors run down and talk ill of the government.

    She said: “Let me encourage all of us here to tell others about this programme. The more people we can make happy and restore smiles to in whatever way, the more successful the administration of Governor Fayemi. We should also endeavor to speak the truth to people whenever the enemies of the administration deliberately misinform the public in respect of Governor Fayemi’s many laudable and life-changing programmes.”

    Just as I told our Igbo mothers on their Igbo Day recently, the programmes of my office and that of EDF are not for only the Yoruba or Christians alone. It is for those who lack a definite source of income. Once you come Younwill be asked questions to ascertain how true your claims are. We will definitely reach back to you wherever you come from or your religious/political affiliation.

    Meanwhile, the wife of the governor also recently led advocacy visits of the members of Gender-Based Violence Prohibition Law Management Committee to the Ekiti state University (EKSU); the State Judiciary. She equally visited the Ministry of Justice as well as the Ekiti state Police Command in the drive to ensure zero tolerance for gender violence in the state.

    Erelu Fayemi Fayemi, who is also the Chairperson of the Management Committee said the reason for the visits was to build partnership with all relevant stakeholders including government agencies to combat all forms of violence against women.

    She added that working with stakeholders will enable women have a better grasp of the situation on ground and the plight victims of violence and ensure that response to the law against gender violence was adequate.

    Erelu Fayemi, who was accompanied by the Commissioner for Women Affairs, Social Development and Gender empowerment, Mrs. Fola Richie-Adewusi, said the committee, will not leave any stone unturned to ensure that violence against women and girls became a thing of the past in the state.

    At the Ekiti state University, the governor’s wife commended the university community on the various steps it had taken against some students and even lecturers found violating women.

    She further gave kudos to the university for establishing GBV support club in the school which would make students and lecturers work side by side to address the issue of violence against women.

    Erelu Fayemi promised to fully support the establishment of the Centre for Gender and Development Studies being proposed by the institution. She used the opportunity to advise victims of gender violence not to be silent but to report immediately any form of violation against them in order to get justice.

    The Chairperson advised administrators of higher institutions in the state to ensure that security personnel took the issue of violence against women serious and to discourage out-of-court settlement.

    At the Ekiti state Judiciary and state Ministry of Justice, the governor’s wife solicited for the establishment of a gender court to operate side by side with the family court already in existence in the state.

    She requested the designation of a gender court to hear and determine GBV cases as provided by section 5 of the Gender-Based Prohibition law 2011, as well as replication of the family courts in all the judicial divisions of the state. The committee also demanded that adequately trained gender sensitive court officers should be assigned to work on gender issues, as well as to ensure that gender cases were expeditiously tried.

    Speaking with the state police commissioner, Mr. Sotonye Wakama, Erelu demanded the strengthening of gender desk at the police  stations by posting gender sensitive officers with adequate and continuous training.

    She also request that gender cases must be charged under the Ekiti state Gender-Based Violence Prohibition Law 2011, while also calling for prompt release of case files to ministry of Justice, adding that survivors of gender violence should be given free medical treatment as provided by section 8a of the law.

    In her remarks, the Commissioner for Women Affairs, Social Development and Gender Empowerment, Mrs Fola Richie-Adewusi urged all hands to be on deck to address the challenging issues of gender violence with vigour.

    The commissioner, who is also the vice chairperson of the committee, noted that government has given the committee a mandate to ensure zero tolerance for gender violence in the state, adding that government has also approved GBV support fund to assist those who have been violated to get back on their feet.

    On the visit to the EKSU, Erelu Fauemi made similar appeals and called for supports of the Institution’s management in the fight against various abuses of women.

    Responding to the various demands of the committee, the Vice Chancellor, Prof. Oladipo Aina said the university had embarked on the construction of female hostel accommodation with full security network to ensure that women were adequately protected from all forms of harassment.

    He disclosed that a lecturer of the university was recently sacked as a result of violating female students and promised to meet such stern action on any staff of the institution who used their positions to harass and embarrass female students on the campus.

    The VC disclosed that the University Council has approved the establishment of Centre for Gender and Development Studies to ensure that all men and women are treated fairly and equally with dignity and respect. He used the opportunity to solicit more support from government for empowerment of women in the state.

    Meanwhile, the state government recently opened  a black book, called the Sexual Offenders Register, in which a blacklist.for the programmes founded by the State Commissioner for Women Affairs and Social Development and Gender Empowerment, Mrs. Fola Richie-Adewusi.. for the programmes founded by the State Commissioner for Women Affairs and Social Development and Gender Empowerment, Mrs. Fola Richie-Adewusi. of convicted sexual offenders would be catalogued possibly alongside the specific sexual crime they have committed.

    This was a culmination of several efforts of the wife of the state governor, Erelu Bisi Fayemi in the area of gender advocacy and empowerment which well complement the efforts of the state governor Kayode Fayemi’s at instituting people-centered and genuine socio-economic  progress in the state.

    for the programmes founded by the State Commissioner for Women Affairs and Social Development and Gender Empowerment, Mrs. Fola Richie-Adewusi.