Category: Hearts

Romantic words to use as a starting point for your own message –

when picking which to use think about which you and the recipient will be most happy with… feel free to pick and mix from this assortment of hopefully romantic words…

Without you… in my life… without you there no dreams…

You are the best thing that has ever happend to me … and always will be

I love you more each day, no I love you more every second of each day.

I love you. I need you as much as the air that I breathe.

me + you = happy me . me – you = sadness

Money could not buy the happiness you bring to my life.

Three little words

honest and true

today and forever

I will love you.

Remember that the best words of all are the ones that you say and mean.

ar A, good evening. How’re you and the family? Thanks for publishing my request on 17/11/12. Ask God to connect me to the right person. Is it ok to marry a woman 7 years older than me? Personally I don’t like it. Keep up the good job. Shalom. Rev Lucky.

•Dear Rev. Lucky, I know so many couples whose marriages have lasted through the years and in some of the cases, the wives are older than their husbands. So, personally, I don’t frown at age difference in relationships. But it may call for alarm and concern if you want children (a must in Africa) and the woman is above child-bearing age.

In that case, you must talk it over. I don’t know how old you are and so I cannot say if this woman who is seven years older is right for you. If you however love her and think you will be happy with her, then go ahead. May God connect you to the right person. Good luck. Shallom!

Good day ma. My name is Joy, I am 17years old, I have a boyfriend that admire but I don’t think I have feelings for him, though he likes me.

He is 8 years older than me and the problem is that he hardly calls nor texts till I do it myself. He is a nice guy though he works a lot but we hardly talk to each other.

• Dear Joy, from all indications, you’re not in a relationship. First, you’re not sure of your feelings for this guy, second, he’s not helping matters y not showing he cares enough. Words of mouth alone cannot prove love, actions do. At 17, try to be preoccupied with things that will advance you in the future. Let this boy face the work he loves so much… more than he cares about you and you should face what you care about more than him too.

From you to me

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•Beloved, compliments of the season. Imeba Davis Olayi wishes you a Merry Christmas and a happy New Year. May it be a memorable season to remember. Be Blessed.

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P.S: I’m indeed very grateful to all of you who sent season’s greetings to me. I’m sorry I can only publish these few. I will try to do more next week y God’s grace. One thing is sure, I appreciate you all. Thank you.

If you and your spouse have reached a stale point in yourrelationship, don’t fear – help is near. Just about every marriage (whether you’ve been married a few months or years) may experiences a time when the two of you and your spouse need to reconnect. In this article, I’ll provide you with some proven tips to spice up your marriage and get the ball rolling again.

Look for the good in your partner. Just like you did when you first

got together, you should make an effort to see the good in your partner. When you first met, their nuisances were cute and attractive so try and ignore those annoyances once again. By seeing the good in your spouse, complimenting them and making them feel special, you’ll set the tone for a better marriage.

Be more affectionate and loving. Touch your spouse more and tell them that you love them. For instance, when they come home from work, give them a welcome home kiss. Instead of saying gruffly, “Oh hey , it’s you.” Instead, give them a real hug and a kiss (even a wet one if the time is right. This will prove that you do love and care about them.

Spend quality time together. Many relationships hit a stale point when they don’t make their relationship a priority. So, take time out of your schedule to spend some quality time with your spouse. Whether you decide to cuddle while watching the news or go to a romantic movie, just do it. Make your spouse a priority now. Don’t wait.

Be spontaneous. If you do the same old thing every single day, your marriage is bound to seem unexciting. Therefore, spice things up a bit. Do something totally unpredictable. For instance if you normally spend Sunday afternoons working in your garden and your hubby is a Cubs fan give up the gardening for a day and go to a Sunday game. Just do something to get out of the rut you’re in.

Encourage time away. Although it is important to do fun stuff together, you should also spend time alone. Encourage your spouse to spend time with friends. For instance, if your spouse loves to play golf, encourage him to play a few rounds of golf with his friends. You can then have a spa date with some girlfriends.

Enjoy your life. Don’t be so serous all the time. If your spouse is in a bad mood, don’t have a hissy fit. Everyone makes mistakes so lighten up and stop being so pessimistic. Learn to laugh instead of pout. Do the things that make you happy. You’ll then find that you’re more fun to be around.

Listen to your spouse and communicate effectively. Instead of talking all the time, really listen to your spouse. Concentrate on what they’re saying and let them know that you care enough to listen to them. Pay attention to them, especially about matters that are important to them.

Make time for romance. Intimacy and passion are paramount to a healthy marriage. So romance your spouse and make lovemaking a priority to ensure that you rekindle your relationship and show how much you love and value your spouse.

Control your anger. When you are angry, you often say hurtful things that you can’t take back. Therefore, you must learn to control your anger at all costs. If you need to take a “time out” then take it.

This will ensure that you don’t say something harmful to your spouse.

Ask for forgiveness. If you mess up and say something harmful or damaging, sincerely apologize right away. Often times when couples argue, there is a lot of tension. By admitting you were wrong, you demonstrate that you are sorry and care about your spouse’s feelings. In conclusion, a successful marriage is hard work but it is well worth the effort. If you notice that your relationship needs a little rekindling, try the above tips and in no time at all, you’ll rekindle the passion and love that’s there but just needs to be fired up.

Here we are, about to say goodbye to the year 2012. I’m feeling nostalgic already as I remember the great embraces of the year 2012… and the kisses too. Like a child, I opened my arms to the universe at the beginning of the year and like a child the year carried me up high and with God in every step of the way, I was not let down.

The year 2012 offered me some of the best gifts life has on offer and it made me sail over many seas without drowning. As I surrendered to the dictates of God, I flew over many mountains and across the skies and to the greatest kisses of my life… to the beauty of God ever so sure. I stayed under the shadow of the Being who made me be where angels take dominance and make the sun comforting. I learnt the lessons of life and of love and of giving without wanting anything in return. I got to a place of freedom and so, I won’t ever forget the great kisses 2012 gave me.

The year 2012 has been for me a good year. I lost some, I gained some and I look forward to 2013 with hope. I pray we all get there with God steering the boats of our life. This year 2012 will soon become another yesterday in our lives, may our tomorrow be bright and beautiful. And may it offer us a lot of emotional kisses and embraces.

To a lot of you out there whose love made me glow, I can’t help but appreciate you openly. Senator Umaru Dahiru (as usual), I bow my head and say thank you. Abiodun Saheed Hammed… thanks for watching my every step and never leaving me alone. You sure made the year great and sweet. Rt. Hon. Aminu Waziri Tambuwal, I haven’t stopped saying thank you and God bless you. Bukola Daniyan, I feel your love today and always.

Look at you all Hearts fans in whose voices I hear love and get carried to heights up, up there, I don’t know what I’d do without you all. May we all live happy lives all through 2013. May God grant my last wish for 2012 – May I will be here to welcome us by with love and kisses and warm embraces, amen.

I am indebted to you. I cry out of emotion when I see how you advice at times. My wife of 21 years, 16 of which was childless just asked me the effect and consequence adultery. I did not answer her but I have not been the same ever since. We have two 2 kids – boy and girl.

Please advice; I don’t want to insinuate that she just asked me that question for nothing but I find it strange that she did. Could she have started anything? I love my wife and I’m clean, that’s why I am worried.

•My dear brother, stop breaking your heart over nothing. There are so many ways a man can know if his wife is cheating, and one of them is NOT through innocent questions. If your wife is cheating on you, I bet, you wouldn’t be the person she’d be asking such a question. Most people who cheat are really discreet about it; in fact, you may be the last to know about it.

I’m going to show you 10 signs to know if your spouse is cheating on you and 10 tips to help you rekindle your love if it is running low.

Cheer up brother and make the New Year one to remember in your marriage: Here are 10 signs your partner may be cheating on you.

1) Cell Phone: If your partner is very protective of their cell phone, they may be trying to hide text messages or phone calls. Yes, I know you can erase text messages and phone calls. I honestly believe if your partner will not leave the phone in the room with you alone, they are trying to hide something. Text messages during late night hours is another sigh. A friend may once in a while send a text message but if they are getting text messages almost every night really late, I would be very suspicious.

2) Attitude: Attitude is everything. Mood swings to me is a sign to look for. If your partner goes out and comes home in a bad mood or is acting weird for say….not wanting anything to do with you, if they are cheating, they are feeling guilty but place the blame on you for it. In my experience, it’s easier for the cheater to push you away making you feel as if you did something wrong.

3) Clothing: This is a big deal. If you can smell perfume or cologne then it’s a huge possibility they have been around someone else. It’s not uncommon for people to hug others who wear large around of perfume or cologne. This by its self doesn’t make them a cheater. However, if they have been out late or all night for that matter and they blame it on a family member, be suspicious.

4) Bathroom: If your partner comes home and goes straight to the bathroom, showers, or whatever, this could be a sign too. If they take a shower and hide their clothes, it’s not a good thing.

5) Going Out: If you ask to go out with your partner and they tell you NO! You can’t go. There is a reason. Either they are meeting someone or they are not really going where they say they are. If for some weird chance they do allow you to go but act like you are not even with them, it’s time to take notice. Watch the room because it’s possible the person is going to show up. Most people who cheat don’t always tell the person they are seeing they are married or with someone for that matter. If you happen to see someone spending a lot of time around them that you don’t know, be weary.

6) Sex: This one is never an easy subject to tackle. This can go several different ways. First if they are not interested in having sex with you but once in a blue moon there could be a problem. I was always told if your partner is not getting it at home they are getting it somewhere else. However, they could be getting it at home and everywhere else too. You really just don’t know on this one. In my experience, if they are settled with one person they are cheating with then you are not going to be seeing much action from them. If they are still getting it from you on a regular basis, chances are they could be seeing more than one person.

Change in sex habits is a sign to watch for. If they are trying out new things but in the past kept them the same all the time, I would ask why the new interest? If they just don’t seem to be enjoying it or seem to be a million miles a way it’s possible you’re not the one they are wanting to be with.

7) Truck/Car: If your partner keeps the truck/car locked and they don’t want you getting anything out of it unless they are with you, it’s possible a sign is there. If the keys to that car are not kept out in the open and they are hiding them from you. It’s a reason behind it.

8) Unexplained Receipts: Dinner for two, that’s not uncommon but if you find a receipt for jewelry or lingerie dated around Christmas and it’s March and you know you didn’t receive that type of gift from him that’s a clear bonus they are cheating. Don’t be surprised to hear they picked that up for a buddy or they lost it. The best excuse he could come up with was he placed the bag on the top of his car and drove off, forgetting about the purchase. Yeah right.

9) Friends: If your partner is hanging out with single people or married ones that you know cheat on their partner’s you should be concerned. Single people go out to mingle with other singles. I am not saying it’s not ok to have single friends when you’re in a relationship but if they are out all the time and you’re never invited, this is a sign.

10) Your Gut Instinct: By far your gut instinct is the best source you will ever have. This feeling of sickness in the pit of your stomach when you see them drag in at day break should never be ignored. I believe our mind and body know the fact that we are being cheated on long before our heart ever does.

And now my brother, if you have checked all the hints and your wife is a saint, please give her a kiss and a hug and try out the following tips to put some fire into your marriage:

Hi Aunty, please help me I’m 37 and my lady is 21, is it societally okay for us to marry? Please help me. I don’t have access to your paper these days in our place. – Joe, Plateau.

You’re both adults and she’s of consent age, so what’s stopping you?

Except her parents are against the union, I don’t see why you shouldn’t be married. Love, maturity, endurance and other ingredients have to be in every relationship and marriage; do you think you both

have those? Then go ahead. Below, I have some opinions of your subject matter for you:

P. Ahmed: So long as you are both legal and grown up enough to know about love, relationships and marriage.

Creative Guy: One of the strongest & happiest couples I know are a genius blind woman then aged 31 and a super fit ex-commando then aged 75. Over 2 years later, they are still the most fabulous lovebirds and everywhere they go, folks love them. They are both quite exceptional folk.

Jemil: Well, I’m 64 and my girlfriend is 38. We get on famously even though she does call me father from time to time.

Goody: My wife is 10 years younger than me and we have been together for 9 years and not many problems at all.

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