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  • My past relationship was a nightmare

    My past relationship was a nightmare

    Nigerian-American actress, Jennifer Oguzie, is not swayed by the glitzy life of Hollywood, California, U.S., as not to remember her root. Currently on a visit to Nigeria, the multi-talented artiste and mother of one is literally very much in love with her country home in Owerri, Imo State.  In this interview with VICTOR AKANDE, she talks about her attraction to the local environment, despite her international exposure, and her interest in the 2015 general elections in Nigeria.

    Could you explain why you have remained in your home town since you arrived Nigeria?

    Nigeria is a country I proudly call my home. I always have the adrenaline rush to visit Nigeria, regardless of any other business or vacation agenda. Also, I have chosen to witness the elections first-hand and exercise my most powerful weapon as a citizen by voting. Secondly, I received a call from my dear friend and movie director, Mr. Obi Emelonye, that he had a project for the African Magic channel and that he would want me to be a part of it.

    So, does it mean you are around now primarily to vote for your preferred candidate(s) in this election period?

    Yes, I came back to support and show solidarity to a very close friend of mine who is running for a political position. Despite all the rumours of violence being envisaged during the presidential election, I still want to be a part of the history. Nigeria deserves more than what it is today. So, I believe with free and fair elections, our country will move forward. That stigma of one must win by rigging the election has to be ‘buried’ for good. Let the people’s voice and choice be heard for a better Nigeria. We are one nation. Therefore, as the Mother Land of Africa, divided we fall, united we stand.

    Would you say most Nigerians in America are really concerned about how the elections will turn out or do you think some of them don’t care what happens back home, as long as they are doing well abroad?

    I can’t answer to anyone’s desire, but I can tell you that it will be foolish for any citizen of our country not to want to see our nation flourish. We are the giant of Africa. We have the money, infrastructure, lands etcetera to make our country a tourist attraction. But man’s greed and corruption are the cause of our socio-economic challenges in this country. At the end of the day, anyone abroad who thinks they he or she is doing well and doesn’t care about what goes on in our country is putting a curse on the future generation of our country. Of all the beautiful places in the world, there is no place like my home: Nigeria.

    As an actress who is conscious of her shape, how do you marry your taste, food-wise, with the discipline that your outlook requires?

    Knowing full well that I am particular about my diet, I still look forward to my favourite delicacies whenever I am home. Besides, the more exciting part of it is that they are all organic, unlike the food abroad, which are all processed. For example, among the foods I usually crave for when I am in Nigeria are: Ukwa, an Igbo delicacy, which is a source of protein and iron; roast corn and pear as well as Udara and Opioro Mago. Back home in Hollywood, California, I throw them down in my kitchen because if you know the history of any Owerri woman, you will find out that we have the master key to kitchen when it comes to cooking.

    So, this is not always about quantity, but the nutritional value of what is eaten?

    Yes. I live and preach fitness as a lifestyle. You just mentioned the key word, which is ‘discipline’. In the entertainment industry, you will find people of different shapes and sizes, but it is left for you to choose where you want to belong. I love looking good because looking good is good business. My personality and image are a key part of who I am. It gives me joy and great confidence. And even as a mother, I can still fit into any crowd. I say to my friends: you are what you eat. So, if you don’t feed the stomach well, then, the result will be quite devastating. Don’t get me wrong; eat right, but stay fit and active.

    It’s good to know that our local delicacies do some good to the body. So, apart from your passion for fitness, do you have any training on health, beauty and related areas?

    Yes, I took some classes in food and nutrition at a very young age and it has really helped me along all my adult life. I am also a part of a programme called the ‘Weightwatchers’, which basically teaches you how to eat and how to count the calories you take daily. The beautiful part of it is my love for arts, so I transitioned it to the body. I did professional makeup for different occasions. I did it for a while when I was in college, but I don’t do it anymore due to constraint of time. I do not eat foods that will affect the appearance of my skin or cause acne. So, I will say I know beauty and beauty knows me.

    How are you able to cope with the village life, knowing that America, where you are based, is in sharp contrast to your village in terms of social amenities?

    (Laughs) I am a village chic nah!! Just kidding… I can adapt to change to an extent. Gone are the days when people couldn’t afford generators to power electricity. I thank God for that and the fact that we can afford to buy loads of Eva water to avoid getting sick. My prayer for our country is that, someday we will boast of reducing the sharp contrast.

    Did you bring your son, Obama, with you and is he in anyway irritated by the environment, particularly the foods and other things?

    The last time I checked, no one travels without his or her hand luggage. Our son, Obama, is my ‘Gucci hand luggage’ and I can’t leave him behind. He is a true son of the soil and he loves everything about the food and the environment. Obama’s best food is Fufu and Okro soup. And this is so because I instilled it in him when he was five months old. He was raised with the real culture of Igbo land. So, there will be no second-guessing as he grows to love the foods. Mind you, this is the fifth time he has visited. So, it’s not new to him. He understands and speaks Igbo too. I guess that makes him a village boy too (laughs). In all, I thank God that he loves Nigeria, just like me.

    Talking about you constant training in martial art, aren’t you bothered that it may give you some masculine looks or at best a “tomboyish” feature?

    (Laughs) That’s a typical stereotype question of an African man. I can confidently tell you that I am a tomboy and there’s nothing wrong in looking fit and toned. I say tomboy because the type of training and sports I do is not so loved by most women. It’s only in this part of the world that people will discourage you from working out because they fear you will start looking like a man. But in other parts of the world, you are like a hot cake and everyone prays to have your physique. I admire my muscles and toned body. I will never trade it for anything. If the masculine look is what it takes to keep fit, then, I’m in it for a lifetime.

    On the issue of muscles, isn’t this too much power for you, given that America already gives so much power to women?

    There’s no such thing as too much power. Power means advancement, growth, confidence and the ability to defend oneself in any circumstance that arises, physically, mentally, emotionally and otherwise. That is my personal definition of power. With such a notion in mind, all you do is to want more power. America is a diverse country that does not discriminate against women and it also gives equal opportunities to both sexes. That’s why African men feel intimated about such acceptance of women in the Western world. Any man who is confident of himself should admire a powerful and fearless woman like me. I don’t see anything wrong in that. Abusing, suppressing and intimidating a woman is a disease and should not be accepted as a culture or a norm. The time is now for every woman out there to be allowed to contribute to the well-being of her family, the society and the country as a whole. Without us, the history of men will not exist because through Christ, Our Lord and personal saviour, we gave birth to all the powerful men in the world. So, much respect should be given to us.

    Given your American accent, how long have you lived in California and how convenient is it for you now to speak Igbo with its proper intonations?

    You are very right about my American accent. I am very fluent in it and that has not affected my ability to teach our son Igbo. It’s my heritage; a link of chain that can never be broken. I have been in the U.S. for a very long time. I moved from Baltimore, Maryland to Hollywood, California, in 2007.The weather is just like Nigeria’s.

    Your friend, Obi Emelonye, came out with an Igbo movie, which won an award at the AMVCA. Do you look forward to acting in an Igbo movie in the near future?

    Yes, I was there to celebrate with him at the Eko Hotel and Suite, Victoria Island, Lagos. The following day, we commenced with his new film titled Love Struck. As an actress, you have to be ready and open for any challenge you come across. So, I look forward to any project that requires a foreign language-not just Igbo, but even Chinese, Hindi, Swahili etcetera.

    Now, let’s talk about the glamour of the job. Do you think that Nigerian actors actually strike a balance between professionalism and glamour? I mean, people’s works should speak for them than their expensive dresses and dazzling appearances on the red carpet…

    When it comes to the glamour of the job, I think it should be 50/50, which means striking a balance between professionalism and glamour. Don’t forget that most actors do have 9.00a.m. to 5.00p.m. jobs or constant businesses that put food on their tables. The reason is that it might take a while to come across a good script that pays you well. However, most actors and actresses are ambassadors of some collections or designers. So, the dresses are not owned, but they are a way of showcasing the brands they represent. Also, some use their personal wardrobes in most cases. It all depends on the look you want to achieve on that particular red carpet event. So, one can’t be really judged by a certain look; it’s just a part of the industry.

    You looked quite glamorous at the last AMVCAs. So, what defines your style?

    MamaBama defines my style. I wanted to make a statement about how comfortable I am in my skin, while also showing off my toned legs. As I was told on the red carpet, “Angelina Jolie aint got nothing on you girl.” But frankly, I work hard to stay fit; so, why don’t I use it now that I am fit and able? I had my smashing abs and see-through mesh wrap skirt. The Afro was custom-made for me by my cousin, who is a celebrity hairstylist in Hollywood. Her store is called Chikaodi’s World. All my accessories were provided by her too. At the end of the day, I think I achieved the fashion statement I intended to make and I made several front cover pages with that outfit. Thanks for the compliments; I am used to it (Laughs).

    But how did you come about your outfit for the AMVCA?

    Honestly, that outfit was a gift from a very close friend and colleague, Jackie Appiah, the Ghanaian movie sensation. She admired the dress and asked if I would wear it, if she bought it for me. And I replied: “Try me”. So, I had to put the rest of the looks together. I personally call it the ‘Try-it-if-you-can look’. You have got to have the body and the confidence to dare such an outfit.

    Does acting and film production pay your bills all the way?

    I believe that soon, I will be able to comfortably say that acting and film production fully pay my bills. But for now, my answer to that will be no. And this is because I am not doing it full-time. I know quite well that it will spin around if I dedicate 100% to my acting and producing work; it will surely generate more suitable income.

    What else are you into that complements your financial inflow?

    I think it’s fair to say that I am a jack-of-all-trade person. My main job deals with law enforcement and security at both the federal and state levels in the United States of America. And that’s what pays my bills. I am also a fitness trainer and a professional massage therapist. I also produce low-budget independent films, but I am yet to receive the proceeds. Of course, I do some other businesses by the side like buying and selling of cars.

    Could you tell me some of the films you have featured in that are dear to your heart, in addition to your own personal productions?

    Funnily, I can’t list all the movies I have featured in because it’s been a while. However, they include: Close Enemies, My American Nurse 2, Okoto the Messenger, Far from Home Part 1, 2 & 3, Stubborn Grasshopper, CIS Las Gidi, Thorazine, Last Flight to Abuja, Miles Away, Love Code, Mira, Only you & Me, and Love Struck,  which we just wrapped up a few weeks ago. I can tell you that out of all, the most dear to me is Last Flight to Abuja because I have received two awards from it- the last award was an African Oscar as Best Promising Actor in a film, which was held in Beverly Hills, California, in September 2014. Every actor’s dream is to be highly recognised with a trophy. That motivates you to keep striving for the best and makes you stand out. So, now that I have an African Oscar in my name, I can proudly say that I am one step closer to winning the American /Hollywood Oscars- and that will be a dream come true.

    Is your hair-do the signature you want to be known for?

    It is, indeed, a MamaBama signature look. Many have tried and failed to replicate my Afro. As I said earlier, it’s personally custom-made. And quite frankly, it is a super-size Afro and I have a unique facial structure that suits the hair-do. Anything less than a person with my kind of personality will look like a masquerade. So, be warned (Laughs)!

    How did people react to the style on the day of the AMVCA and afterwards?

    Whenever I arrive on the red carpet, all the cameras turn to me. The people are like, “Oh, my God! You are pretty… I love your hair… you have a beautiful smile… I love your eyes… Girl, you are rocking that outfit… lovely legs and so on.”  I have never received any negative statement. I can tell when I see some ‘chics’ are jealous of my body and I give back to them the ‘I-don’t-care look’.

    Indeed, you are a very fun and jovial person. But when is your off period and what could trigger a bad mood in you?

    It really costs nothing to smile.  I can honestly tell you how many doors that sparkling smile has opened in my life. My God has been so good and generous to me; so, I have every reason to be happy and share the joy amongst close family and friends. I am a very respectful and honest person. I like transparency and expect that back from anyone I am dealing with. I love to spend time with my family on my off days. I catch up with my son and watch movies…. Anyone who knows me will tell you that I hate liars and cheaters. You only get one chance with me to tell the truth. I can’t stand lairs. The truth is bitter, but I prefer to be told.

    Are you in any relationship at the moment or are you all for your career as many would choose to do?

    I don’t discuss my personal relationship in the media; it’s private and should be left alone. At least, I have one thing that keeps everyone on the edge.

    Is there anything you have learnt in your past relationship that you believe has made you a better person?

    My past relationship was a nightmare. I thought I was in love, but never knew it was lust. What can’t kill you will only make you stronger. That was a big lesson learnt.And to all the women out there, change is a personal choice. Don’t ever believe you can change a man from his old behaviour.

    I hope the disappointment you suffered then hasn’t made you to be uptight with men and relationships?

    Oh, not at all! It has enlightened me more on how to understand the curriculum in a healthy relationship.

    So, from your new curriculum, what is the most probable way to a man’s heart?

    A probable way to a man’s heart is understanding, respect and mutual compatibility. With all these, love will follow naturally.

    As an African woman, to what extent do you believe in the tenet of submissiveness?

    As an African woman, I believe in 100% of submissiveness, but not submissiveness to abuse and cruelty.

    Don’t you think that Obama is old enough for a sibling?

    Obama is two and a half years old. And there is no rush for another at the moment, though he loves babes so much. And with time, he will get one.

    When you talk about Obama being an Igbo boy, are you trying to steal him away from his main nationality, which is America?

    See me see wahala o! I am his mother; I am also an American and we are blessed with the liberty of dual citizenship. So, I can never deny him of his nationality.

    Could you tell me briefly about your family background?

    My family upbringing is something that I hold very dearly. I was raised in a Christian home, Anglican Church, to be precise. Education was a key achievement that all my siblings had to accomplish. We were taught to be family-oriented in our doings and to love our neighbours as ourselves.

    And on a final note, what do you say to your fans?

    To all my fans out there, you can find me on Facebook: Jennifer Oguzie Official; Twitter: @jenniferoguzie and Instagram:@joguzie.

  • He promised me paradise, but all I got was hell! (5)

    He promised me paradise, but all I got was hell! (5)

    Concluding part
    The front door was unlocked and as I stepped into the house, I could hear sounds like loud moans from the direction of our bedroom.
    I opened the door and almost collapsed at the sight that met my eyes- there was my husband, the man who had sworn to love me forever, forsaking others, in bed with Clarissa! A lady whom he claimed was just a friend!

    The incidents of that day are imprinted in my memory forever. Try as I could, I can’t get rid of the picture of my Kel making love with that stupid woman, Clarissa. I remember screaming at them: “Kel, what are you doing with this woman, in our bed?”

    I expected shame even remorse but all he did was climb off the bed, pull on his boxers and say in a nonchalant tone: “What does it look like? And by the way, what are you doing home by this time when you should be at work?”

    All this while, the shameless woman still laid on the bed, naked not even bothering to get up and leave the room. I would have fought her then but I remembered my condition: I was over eight months pregnant and could give birth any day. Despite my distressed state of mind, I knew I had to keep my cool for the baby’s sake. So, I instead focused my anger on my husband.
    “So, the casual leave you took from work was so you could be sleeping with that bitch behind my back! Why are you so wicked, Kel? Why are you doing this to me? This was not what you promised! Here I am heavily pregnant and all you could do is be sleeping around with this intruder, a home wrecker! As for you, “I said, turning my attention to Clarissa who was sauntering after Kel as he left the bedroom, “your evil plans to destroy my marriage won’t work!  Stupid woman, home breaker! Husband snatcher! Go and look for your own husband and leave mine alone!”

    I continued shouting on them as they left for one of the spare rooms.

    “You are the intruder! You came uninvited and spoilt our fun,” was all the wicked Clarissa could say as she walked pass me. They locked themselves inside and refused to come out despite my banging on the door continuously…

    ***
    Later, I sat in the living room, weeping profusely, feeling really sorry for myself. Then, after I had calmed down a bit, I called my friend Trina. When she heard what happened, she offered to come to the house to stay with me.

    “So, he’s still there, in that room with that woman! Na wa o! What has come over Kel? This is not the same man you dated and courted before your marriage. He has changed so much,” she said as we sat talking in the kitchen.

    “That is what I’m seeing in this house. I’ve not known peace for a day since this strange woman came. And today was the climax- catching both of them in my bed. Imagine the betrayal. This is a man who promised to love and cherish me forever, treating me this way, “I said sadly, close to tears again.
    “I feel really bad for you. You have to take it easy because of your condition. This thing must have been going on between them for sometime but God wanted to expose them today,” she stated, before adding: “So, what are you going to do now?”

    I shrugged helplessly.

    “What can I do? I can’t fight her. Look at my tummy! I’ve to think of my baby’s safety,” I replied.

    “But this can’t continue! Dating her is bad enough, but doing it under your nose in your own bed is terrible. It shows he doesn’t have any respect for you as his wife. I think you need to report the situation to his parents. Someone needs to talk some sense into his thick head,” she suggested.

    Some hours later, Trina and I were in the living room watching a programme on TV when Kel and Clarissa emerged from the room.
    “We are going out. Ensure you prepare some food for us on our return,” said Kel, his arm around his lover’s waist.
    Trina gave me a shocked look after they had gone, stating:

    “This is terrible! What kind of husband behaves this way? So irresponsible!”

    Out on the streets

    I took my friend’s advice and reported Kel to his family. The following weekend, his parents summoned us to their home for a meeting. When asked why he brought in his girlfriend Clarissa into his matrimonial home, he had this to say:
    “I’m not denying bringing a woman into our home. But she caused it,” said Kel, giving me a baleful look.
    His parents, some uncles and cousins who were at the meeting, all looked at him askance.
    He continued speaking.
    “Ask her when was the last time she allowed me to touch her. Over six months ago! Am I a piece of wood? I’m a man for God’s sakes!” he stated angrily.
    “Nobody is disputing that, that as a man you need a woman. But it’s wrong of you to bring the lady in question into your home. How do you think your wife will feel?”
    “I don’t bloody care how she feels! She only thinks of herself and her needs and doesn’t care about me. I never knew when I marred her that she’s so selfish, stubborn and wicked!” he noted with a hiss.
    “And you are an angel, abi? You should be ashamed of yourself acting the way you do with that prostitute girlfriend of yours! Stupid fool!” I fired back at him furiously.
    “Did you hear her? You see how rude she is, talking to her husband so disrespectfully! You people should warn her or I will beat some sense into her, not minding her condition!” he threatened.
    Later, after things had quietened down, Kel’s father put down his judgement, that Kel, for the sake of peace in our home and marriage, should send Clarissa out of the house immediately.
    “Jessica here, is the one we know as your wife. You brought her here to us that she’s the girl you want to marry. We don’t know this other woman you have brought into your home. Send her away so peace can reign in your home again,” he ordered. He was supported by nearly all the other family members.
    I was very happy at the way things turned out and I looked forward to regaining my home and husband from Clarissa’s clutches. My joy was however, short lived. On getting back home that day after the family meeting, I expected Kel to send the woman packing as he had been instructed to. Instead, I was the one he threw out of the house!
    “You are not even afraid! You have the guts to go and report me to my family! It’s like you are tired of this marriage. So, I will make it easy for you- just pack and go! Take your stuff and get out of my house and my life!” he said as he threw my suitcases and bags out of the house.

    My pleadings with him to reconsider at least for the sake of the baby, were ignored by him.

    I stood forlorn, among my belongings in the courtyard, my heart heavy with bitterness, anger and regret…

    Later, my brother came to pick me to my parents home. It was there I had my baby, Henry who is the spitting image of his father. Kel never showed up throughout my stay in the hospital; my baby is over a year old now and he has only seen him once, during the baby’s christening and dedication in the church.

    I feel traumatised by my marital woes, the breakdown of my marriage with Kel less than four years after we tied the knot. My family have been so supportive. I don’t know what I would have done without them. Trina and other friends, have been strong pillars of support.

    I heard Kel’s father and other family members have given him an ultimatum to take me and the baby back home. As far as I’m concerned, they are acting on their own. I don’t feel too good living in my father’s house at my age and a married woman with a child. But it’s better here where I have peace (and no beatings) than being with Kel and face all the horrible things I saw in his house.
    Or what do you think? Should I go back to Kel or not? Readers’ views are welcome!

    The End

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    Names have been changed to protect the identity of Jessica, her husband and other individuals in the story

  • New Year Resolution… unhealthy relationship habits

    It’s about time to dump old habits and embrace new and productive lifestyle that fosters good relationship. The long and short of it is go ahead and plan-New Year, quarterly, monthly, weekly, daily, just plan because when you fail to plan, you have planned to fail.

    When you do not study, you have planned to fail when it’s time for examination. No miracle can change your fate if you fail to do the right thing! We by ourselves decide our fate to an extent. When you plan is one fate. When you fail to plan is another kind of fate. The former is a good fate because the result is success. The latter is a bad fate because the result is failure. Even the holy book says, ‘whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might…’-hard work is the price you need to pay. ‘A hard working man will not stand before unknown men. He will stand before king’ so says the holy book.

    The one habit many need to confront headlong in this year also is laziness and indiscipline.

    God have a covenant with us to prosper us. A covenant is a supernatural agreement entered by God with mankind. This covenant is kept and honoured by God but human beings have a way of not playing their part.  After all, an agreement is between two people. And the two people must play their part to achieve a desired result. When God said, ‘whatever you put your hands to will prosper, ‘He meant it. The only reason why we fail to prosper the way we want is failure to uphold our side of the bargain (agreement).

    There is no dream too tall so don’t be afraid to plan, to set goals this new year. Whatever goals you set, God has a covenant to prosper us but be ready to keep your part of the covenant.

    Decide to keep good and profitable relationship/friendship this year. That is one way to working out your success. When you consciously surround yourself with people of great minds or rob minds with them, your career, work and life will be the better for it. Another way to interact with great minds is by reading. This year read any and everything. Henry ford puts it this way, read a lot. Think a lot. Work a lot.

    Here are some excerpts from the bestseller “my advice to business men is to read a lot, and think a lot and work a lot. I started that way. I kept on thinking and I’m still thinking. The habit of analysis, the habit to get under the surface things and at vital essentials, gives a man tremendous advantage over those of his competitors who do not do likewise…we study too much and think too little…a lot of people are crammed full of knowledge but they don’t know how to use it.

    “The Woolworth building was once a thought…thought is the parent of progress. Thought creates all. Everything springs from thought. Human beings are distinguished from animal by this one power, the power of thought. The immortals of this world are they who thought deeper or more brilliantly than their fellows…

    “The Tobacco King, James B. Duke, attribute is rise largely to a thought that came to him when he was a young man. “Why can’t I do in tobacco what John D. Rockefeller has done in oil? He asked himself. “And then,” he told me, “I started out to do it.” Note that: “I started out to do it.”

    2015 think! Think! And think! See you at the top soon! Because I’ve started thinking too!

  • New Year Resolutions… unhealthy relationship habits

    IT’S about time to dump old habits and embrace new and productive lifestyle that fosters good relationship. The long and short of it is go ahead and plan-New Year, quarterly, monthly, weekly, daily, just plan because when you fail to plan, you have planned to fail.

    When you do not study, you have planned to fail when it’s time for examination. No miracle can change your fate if you fail to do the right thing! We by ourselves decide our fate to an extent. When you plan is one fate. When you fail to plan is another kind of fate. The former is a good fate because the result is success. The latter is a bad fate because the result is failure. Even the holy book says, ‘whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might…’-hard work is the price you need to pay. ‘A hard working man will not stand before unknown men. He will stand before king’ so says the holy book.

    The one habit many need to confront headlong in this year also is laziness and indiscipline.

    God have a covenant with us to prosper us. A covenant is a supernatural agreement entered by God with mankind. This covenant is kept and honoured by God but human beings have a way of not playing their part.  After all, an agreement is between two people. And the two people must play their part to achieve a desired result. When God said, ‘whatever you put your hands to will prosper, ‘He meant it. The only reason why we fail to prosper the way we want is failure to uphold our side of the bargain (agreement).

    There is no dream too tall so don’t be afraid to plan, to set goals this new year. Whatever goals you set, God has a covenant to prosper us but be ready to keep your part of the covenant.

    Decide to keep good and profitable relationship/friendship this year. That is one way to working out your success. When you consciously surround yourself with people of great minds or rob minds with them, your career, work and life will be the better for it. Another way to interact with great minds is by reading. This year read any and everything. Henry ford puts it this way, read a lot. Think a lot. Work a lot.

    Here are some excerpts from the bestseller “my advice to business men is to read a lot, and think a lot and work a lot. I started that way. I kept on thinking and I’m still thinking. The habit of analysis, the habit to get under the surface things and at vital essentials, gives a man tremendous advantage over those of his competitors who do not do likewise…we study too much and think too little…a lot of people are crammed full of knowledge but they don’t know how to use it.

    “The Woolworth building was once a thought…thought is the parent of progress. Thought creates all. Everything springs from thought. Human beings are distinguished from animal by this one power, the power of thought. The immortals of this world are they who thought deeper or more brilliantly than their fellows…

    “The Tobacco King, James B. Duke, attribute is rise largely to a thought that came to him when he was a young man. “Why can’t I do in tobacco what John D. Rockefeller has done in oil? He asked himself. “And then,” he told me, “I started out to do it.” Note that: “I started out to do it.”

    2015 think! Think! And think! See you at the top soon! Because I’ve started thinking too!

  • Are you ready for a relationship?

    May be you are tired of the dating scene, or that you are tired of pouring time, energy and money into relationships that start off so well with all the excitement, but end with heartache. Could be that you are just frustrated because you don’t know when is the right time to start. May be you’ve been in many serious relationships, but for some unknown reasons, you can’t seem to close the deal, perhaps you are single again and you are afraid of making the same mistake that resulted in so much pain and disillusionment in previous relationships. If you can relate with the above, then you will find this edition of great use.

    Are you ready for a relationship? This is an important question for those who want to start a dating? Only you can answer this question? Friends and relatives might be pressurizing you to start dating, mostly when they feel that age is not on your side as they claim, forgetting that you are the one going into the relationship not them. However, sometimes they meant well. But on the long run, the choice is yours. It is also very important to know that making the decision to start a relationship and be committed to a person based emotion, lust, or physical desire can be a costly mistake. Don’t get us wrong. Of course, we know that there must be that initial attraction. The question is: Now, what is your attraction based on. Remember the purpose of dating is to get to know someone, not to have sex or fulfil lustful desires.

    The first way to know if you are ready for a relationship is to be sincere with yourself. Here are some tips you might find useful:

    Ability to define your reason: In a common language, you need to ask yourself: Why? What is your reason. People go into relationship for different reasons, so you need to be clear on it. Trust me, it is very vital to know your ‘why’ because when you are faced with the ups and downs, only your ‘why’ will keep you going.

    Your exes: Forget about your exes, and everything that they did whether you liked it or not. Your new partner or date is not going to be exactly like them, and that will be both good and bad. Accept this as quickly as possible and be ready for something fun and completely new.

    Be absolutely prepared to be patient and wait for the right person to come along to spend the rest of your life with. This won’t happen right away, but most people find the persons when they least expect.

    Nobody at all wants to be with an intensely negative person, and for this fact, you need to be as positive and upbeat as possible. Being ready for a relationship means that you are ready for everything else that comes with it.

    If you are embarrassed or self-conscious of your looks, then do everything you can to change them first. A person with low self-esteem based on looks isn’t ready for a relationship, and you don’t want to go changing right away, if that person likes the way you look.

    Another area to check is your job. What about my job? You may ask. After all, I need a good job to keep a woman, that is, if you are a man with a very demanding job.  If this is you, you need to think it through because no sooner or later, you will have to create time for your partner. If not, he/she will start complaining and that might affect your relationship, but if you are simply trying to get a foot in the door of a possible career, then you are not ready for a relationship because only a few can understand your situation without making a big deal out of it.

    Do an intense self-evaluation before giving complete approval to the idea of being ready for a relationship. Take a good hard look at yourself and pay attention to your habits because your significant other will tell you about them soon enough, and that will only make you angry.

    Remember what it is from previous relationships that doomed your chances of a long-term situation, from both sides. What are the habits that you have that turned him/her off and what are his/her that you could not stand. Now the question that comes to mind is: are you ready to change because the chances are that it might come up again, so are you ready to deal with it now or later?

    Please remember that regardless of if you agree or not, there is another person at play in your decision of if you are ready for a relationship. That other person should be respected and treated as good as you want to be. Don’t doom this relationship and others by disrespecting your other half.

    Furthermore, financial independence must be put into consideration; everyone should have some financial freedom before going into a relationship because if you don’t have something doing, you won’t be happy, even if you date, fall in love and get married. Why you may ask, the truth of the matter is that you will have nothing to offer to the relationship, and you will drain your spouse/ partner completely dry. Inevitably, you will be putting extraordinary expectations on the other person to fulfil you, complete you and also make you happy. A regular source of income must be put into consideration. This is not being materialistic. It is reality. Money has caused a lot of problem in relationships, therefore, it is wise for you to at least have a source of income.

    Finally, as you reflect on the above tips, note that when you rush into dating, you might miss the opportunity to develop solid friendship and really get to know the person because being friends first allows you to start identifying core characteristics of the person you want to go out with. You never know he/she might just be the one you will have to spend the rest of your life with.

    Harriet Ogbobine is a counselor and a motivational speaker. Send in your questions and suggestions to her on bineharriet@gmail.com.   You can also follow her on twitter@bineharrietj or txt message only to 08023058805. Blog; liwh.com.ng

    A problem shared is a problem half solved. Take care of yourself and each other.

  • Feelings would get ruffled from time to time

    Feelings would get ruffled from time to time

    THE first rule in a relationship is that you cannot give what you do not have. This naturally means that you have to develop your personality and self worth to get a heart that matches your dream.

    In addition to this, you must also love yourself before you can truly accept love from someone else. Unfortunately, a number of people do not work on themselves and expect that the heart they are falling in love with would walk in and fill in the emotional gaps. Developing a strong sense of self worth will help stabilise your relationship and you will experience greater peace and fewer conflicts. On a daily basis, hearts that are meant to be together fall apart never to be mended again. Others are actually sitting on an emotional bomb that may explode any time from now. Why is it easier to extinguish love flames instead of keeping the flames alive? Interestingly, experts believe that a happy relationship is made up of two good forgivers. Being imperfect and flawed human beings, there would always be a time when we deviate from the emotional plan and we offend or hurt our partner. Look around and you would find emotional plans and strategies that have been muddled up by one or both parties.

    The crux of the matter is that feelings will get ruffled from time to time and that is why it is better to have an open mind as well as forgive one another. It is wrong to go around looking for reasons to feel offended, and when it happens we don’t want to assume that it was intentional. Forgiveness builds peace. Holding a grudge and making someone feel guilty destroys that peace. To maintain peace in your relationship, master these two life skills and be the mature emotional candidate.

    One way to stay on top of the emotional game is to listen with your heart. For instance, hearing what someone says is not the same as really listening. When we listen to someone who is important to us we should do so with the intention of hearing what they really mean, even if the word choice isn’t perfect. Listening is vital to good communication, but this requires that our motives be sincere. Conversations can easily fall apart if we are looking for an excuse to take offence at what is said or start picking apart the word choices. Listening with your heart means being motivated by a desire to understand the thoughts and feelings of your partner for the good of the relationship. It also means respecting them enough to listen without being judgmental or reading meanings to simple gesticulations.

    People who are insecure when it comes to making friends are usually scared of what other people might be thinking. When you do that, you are making it all about you; but making friends is about a connection between two people. If someone doesn’t seem interested in making friends immediately, don’t take it personal because there could be any number of reasons for their response. Maybe their life is upside down right now. Since you don’t know, why take it personal?

    Always remember that in the beginning of a friendship, everyone is on his or her best behaviour. But making friends usually takes time. Sure, there are times when people seem to bond instantly, but that is the exception, not the norm. So, when making friends, don’t expect too much too soon. Give them some space and let things unfold in a natural way. One of the most important features of beginning a new friendship is to not be scared or overly self-conscious. When making friends, there is a tendency to make assumptions on what another person may be thinking. A guy may think: “I’d like to go over and talk to her, but she probably wouldn’t be interested in making friends with someone like me.”

    Meantime, she is thinking: “I wonder why he never talks to me, he’s probably just not interested.” When making friends, avoid making assumptions. How can you possibly know what the other person is thinking? Remember, you don’t know them. Why not take the initiative to start a conversation and see what happens?

    The path to forgiveness is easier to find when there is a sincere apology pointing the way. If you blew it, say I’m sorry. Don’t let your pride get in the way. A genuine, heartfelt apology can go a long way toward keeping peace in your relationship. Life is short and an apology costs you nothing. So, be willing to do the right thing for your relationship, instead of propping up your ego.

    People who are on the same team, who love and care about each other, don’t need to be defensive. Listen compassionately when your partner expresses their feelings. They are not trying to attack you; they are just trying to tell you how they feel. Don’t treat their expressions as criticism. Listen with acceptance and a genuine desire to understand their needs. This is not a power struggle, it is a conversation. When your partner expresses their feelings and needs, it’s about them not you. Accepting that you are both on the same team will help you resist the urge to be defensive.

  • Court dismisses plea of non-contractual relationship with supplier

    Court dismisses plea of non-contractual relationship with supplier

    The appeal in this case, arose from the  judgment of Hon. Justice F.I. Oyelaran of the Oyo State High Court delivered at Ibadan on December 6, 2012. The Appellant – New Age Beverage Company Ltd, in the course of its business, engaged one Mrs. Abiola Odeyemi to procure sugar for its use in its manufacturing business. The said Mrs. Abiola Odeyemi went to the Respondent – Mrs Abiola Aramide, procured some quantity of sugar and paid for the supply. Subsequently, the Respondent insisted on direct payment of supplies made to the Appellant by the issuance of cheques directly to the Respondent in her name and in consequence, further supplies procured from the Respondent by the same Mrs Abiola Odeyemi were paid for by cheques issued in favour of the Respondent and no longer Mrs. Abiola Odeyemi after Mrs. Abiola Odeyemi had introduced the Respondent to the Appellant. Between December 2009 and January 2010 the Appellant requested for and was supplied with 700 bags of sugar by the Respondent amounting to N5,740,000.00 (Five Million, Seven Hundred and Forty Thousand Naira only). Of the amount, the Appellant issued three cheques in payments totally N3,900,000.00 (Three Million Nine Hundred Thousand Naira only) to the Respondent leaving an outstanding sum of N1,840,000.00 (One Million Eight Hundred and Forty Thousand Naira). When the outstanding balance was not paid as expected, the Respondent through her solicitors wrote the Appellant demanding payment for the sum outstanding. The Appellant did not respond to the letter which prompted the Respondent to sue the Appellant at the Oyo State High Court at Ibadan. In the High Court, the Appellant contended that although it had issued some cheques in favour of the Respondent, it (Appellant) has no contractual relationship or privity with the Respondent and that it had paid the aforesaid Mrs. Abiola Odeyemi the outstanding balance. The High Court Judge gave judgment in favour of the Respondent adjudging the Appellant liable to pay the sum of N1,840,000.00 as claimed. Aggrieved with the judgment the Appellant appealed to the Court of Appeal. The Appellant formulated five issues for the determination of the appeal and the Respondent also formulated three issues. In determining the appeal the Court noted that all the issues, whether raised by the Appellant or by the Respondent could be narrowed into two or three at the most viz.

    1. What was the jural relationship between the appellant and the respondent? How was the relationship created? By the parties or by operation of law?

    2. On whom was the Primary Onus of proof in this case, was the onus discharged?

    3. Did the respondent as plaintiff prove her case at the court below?

    On the first issue, the Appellant’s counsel contended in his brief that there was no contractual relationship between the Appellant and the Respondent as will enable the Respondent maintain an action in debt against the Appellant. The Appellant contended that from the evidence, the only contract that existed (if any) was between the Respondent and Mrs. Abiola Odeyemi and not the Appellant. On this issue, the Court stated that Mrs. Abiola Odeyemi started out as an agent of the Appellant in the procuration and payment of the consignments of sugar from the Respondent. Later when the Respondent objected to continue dealing with Mrs. Abiola Odeyemi as a kind of go-between, Mrs Abiola Odeyemi then introduced the Respondent to the Appellant as the Principal for whom she was acting and thereupon dropped out of the transaction. What then are the jural relations involved in this rather uncomplicated transaction? The Court stated the common law principles of agency as encapsulated in the maxim “Qui Facit per alium, facit per se”. “He who acts by another acts by himself because the common law allows one man to authorize another to contract for and to bind him by an authorized contact. The Court held that relationship of principal and agent arises where one party, the principal consents that the other party, the agent shall act on his behalf and the agent consents so to act. The relationship need not be contractual, need not be expressed and could be implied – see

    Chitty on contract vol 2 (24 ed) p2002

    The Court held that the agent Mrs. Abiola Odeyemi having disclosed the principal dropped out of the transaction and her principal i.e. Appellant became directly responsible to the Respondent in respect of goods directly ordered by it and supplied by Respondent. The Court held that this is a basic rule of agency (i.e. disclosed Principal) and it applies with full force in the transaction in this case. The Court further held that there is thus established a direct contractual privity between the Appellant and the Respondent entitling the Respondent to sue the Appellant in respect of such contract.

    The Court further stated that the rationalization of the transaction and a basis for the decision of the learned trial judge would be on the principle derived in equity – estoppel which broad term is now statutorized in Section 169 of the Evidence Act thus:-

    “When one person has either by virtue of an existing court judgment, deed or agreement, or by his declaration, act or omission, intentionally caused or permitted another person to believe a thing to be true and to act upon such belief, neither he nor his representatives in interest shall be allowed, in any proceeding between himself and such person or such person’s representative in interest, to deny the truth of that thing’’

    The Court held that on this issue, the learned trial judge had every justification in arriving at the conclusion she reached that there was privity of contract between the Appellant and the Respondent. This issue was therefore resolved against the Appellant.

    On issue No.2, the Court stated there was evidence that the Appellant ordered for bags of sugar which were supplied. There was also evidence of cheque payments made directly to the Respondent. The Court held that these alone were sufficient to draw the conclusion of a binding commercial transaction between the Respondent and the Appellant and justify the finding in debt by the trial judge against the Appellant.

    On the 3rd issue raised whether the respondent proved her case in the lower court, the Court adopted the reasoning considered in relation to issue No.2 above and hasten to answer the question in the affirmative, that the Respondent by preponderance of evidence proved her case in the trial court and was entitled to the judgment as entered by the trial Judge.

    On the whole the Court held that the appeal lacks merit and was accordingly dismissed.

     

    •Edited by LawPavilion

    LawPavilion Citation: (2014) LPELR-23266(CA)

     

  • Love and relationship

    Love, relationship and sex, in the order of important hot topics in the minds of young people rank next to career and money. Youths feel highly misunderstood by parents, teachers, churches and society. Youths have little or no experience about life; no past and no tradition and therefore feel as free agents. They are risk takers and adventurous and like to explore and experiment.

    Bola Dada has dedicated a great portion of this book to the topic of sex the way most authors have not. Sex is the topic most churches do not like to highlight. Parents hope that their wards will not get into it early and the fear is that they may get into trouble.

    Since these issues; Love, relationship and sex are front burners of the existence of man particularly the younger generation, they dominate man’s thoughts and faculty and also represent the key topics of discussion among friends, in the media, social media and books. These issues also play a major role in many decisions and interactions with the opposite sex.

    Bola Dada, in this book, ‘Love, Relationship and Sex’ tries to explain these issues from the perspective of being a christian. In his view, pains,agonies, heart breaks, disappointments, betrayals, frustrations and losses can all be avoided if choices concerning love, relationship and sex are made under the influence of GOD.

    The book contains eight chapters. Chapter one is titled, ‘Let’s talk about Love’; chapter two talks about ‘Chastity’; chapter three is titled ‘The Sex Drive’; chapter four is titled ‘The trials, the temptation and the test’; chapter five discusses ‘Appearance’; chapter six is titled ‘Who are your friends?’; chapter seven is ‘Building a successful future’ and the last chapter is titled ‘Where are the sons and daughters’.

    The first chapter talks about love which is the greatest desire of man; to be cared for. In history, the greatest songs of all time are songs about love. William Shakespeare attained a high ground as a playwright and poet with his plays and poems on love. Romantic novels are usually best sellers and even when thrillers are about crime and adventure, the authors more often create romantic dimensions.

    Most of the movies produced all over the world are on love and when they are not, romance is still included in the plot. In musical videos, makers of music maximise sales with the creation of a form of romance with sexual appeal through dance steps and in the appearance of characters in the videos. Regardless of what is adertised; soft drinks, tissue paper, toothpaste and so on, television commercials also displays a form of love,romance and affection. So, if love is seen in all these and shown everywhere, when young persons come into the world, they like everyone else have to satisfy their love desires because it does not take much to learn from the environment.

    Therefore,the book postulates that what the world preaches in the movies,books, soap operas and songs as love is not love at all. The world teaches lust, infractuation and obsession.

    Chapter two talks about chastity. The book explains that chastity is the quality of practising sexual purity. Sexual feelings are part of what makes us human. That is why married couples can have romantic feelings. Sex, invigorates a marriage and adds zest to life and it enables a husband and wife to be truly one. So, there should be a proper outlet to build the sexual feelings and the only outlet that God recognises is marriage.

    Young individuals play around with sex in the community with reasons which the book refers to as ‘Common lies of the devil’ which are: Everyone is doing it so we should not be different.Nothing is wrong with it, boys saying that they will get married as soon as possible and many girls are falling for the line ‘I cannot help myself’, ‘If you love me, you would let me’, ‘Just this once’ and ‘If you do not let me, I will do it with someone else’.

    The author, gave reasons  why young individuals should avoid pre-marital sex. He said one may never know real love with such act, sex before marriage may affect sexual relations with one’s spouse, there is loss of dignity and self-esteem, it leaves an individual with a life-long guilt, there is loss of God’s presence, there is exposure to devil’s attacks, there is a danger of contacting sexually transmitted diseases, possibility of marrying just anybody and danger to hell fire.

    Purity on the other hand is beautiful. It means that a person has character, self respect and courage. The book encourages that individuals should always turn to God in prayer.

    Chapter three is on sex drive; a powerful force in the body of males and females which creates appetite for sex. According to the book,young individuals should not allow movies, soap operas, and commercials on television to shape their minds. It is important to understand sex drive and learn to control it before marriage. This is possible because God would not ask of it if it was not possible.

    All young people are bound to go through difficult times and face trials(betrayals and disappointments) in life. Chapter four of the book talks about ‘the trials, the temptation and the tests’. Trials can manifest in form of lack which makes concentration on important things impossible. Whatever an individual goes through in life, is nothing compared to a bright future by God.

    In Chapter five, titled ‘Appearance’, it reflects the different ways of dressing around the world that centers on multiple cultures, values and religious beliefs. Like Moses, a way of dressing may be used to identify a civilsation one belongs to and may even reveal one’s religious inclination. Dressings which reflects people’s cultural background and scriptural admonition have been done away with. Dressing seems to have gone haywire everywhere.

    In the nation’s higher institutions, most female students now dress so provocatively and this is also seen in the ‘well modernised’ Pentecostal churches. When you wear clothes that are revealing, you send wrong messages to people. The boys are not left out. The waist of their trousers are lowered and fastened tightly at the middle of the two bottom lobes to reveal their inner wears. This is known as ‘sagging’. In the aspect of bearing tattoos, he examines that throughout history, the tattoo bears the mark of paganism, demonism, baal worship, shamanism, mysticism and every other pagan beliefs known. He attributes bad dressing to poor parenting and wrong influence of the society to individuals.

    Indecent dressing is not good for a christian. It encourages rape and sexual harassment.A fine boy and girl does not need to go semi-nude or sag.

    Chapter six assists young individuals in defining friendship. A good friendship is progressive, there are quality discussions, good behaviour and advice, love, concern and understanding.

    In ‘building a successful future’ in chapter seven, the author advises as one journeys through life, one should be moving in the direction of set goals and ambition. Achieving goals will not be an easy task. An individual will go through a lot of obstacles and distractions and one could only get to the desired destination through focus, good strategies, determination, discipline and diligence.

    The last chapter titled ‘Where are the sons and daughters?’  discusses Abraham’s faith in God which is legendary and it remains a model for children of God today in putting unalloyed confidence in God. In the story of creation, God created man to be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth. But satan ensured he scuttled the fellowship between God and man. The satan knows that God hates sin and being the great deceiver and liar, he deceives Eve and man into sin.

    One lesson to learn is that satan can go to any length just to destroy one life. If he has to kill everyone in a commercial bus, derail a train filled with passengers or sink a ‘Titanic’ just to get one soul, he will not think twice. The good news is despite the onslaught of the devil against the church, the church will continue to march on and the gate of hell can never prevail on the church. Which side are you on? The author asks readers in this last chapter.

    A new earth created by God is a place of continual fellowship with God. No more sickness, diseases, poverty, anxiety and darkness. Death will be thrown into the lake of fire and therefore, there will be no more death.

  • Who should show more affection in relationship?

    Who should show more affection in relationship?

    Opinion has been divided on who should be more affectionate when it comes to matters of the heart. Different schools of thought have come up with different postulations on the matter. Adetorera Idowu put this question across to the public to feel their pulse.

    Omolade, Policy Analyst

    Both should show the same amount of affection. There is no rule to it. In reality, in my experience at least, it’s like a see-saw; one person is more affectionate at a time

    Bella, HR Manager

    Because of the way women are built, they tend to show more affection, so I would say the woman

    Rotimi, Lawyer

    Both Parties need to show equal affection because a relationship is a joint effort.

    Yeside, Business woman

    The guy should show more affection. Women naturally have good hearts, are loving and affectionate. It therefore behooves on the guy to show more affection so that the lady would know if the relationship is worth it or not. If the guy doesn’t show it, then he doesn’t have it.

    Temitope Kudayisi, Chemist

    A man should show more affection because women show affection naturally but men need to make the effort because it’s not a natural instinct for them

    Abilo, Banker

    That’s a tough question. I think men should because women are more receptive to emotions than men.

    Kunle, Nurse

    I think the man should because men are known to conceal emotions.

    Femi, Businessman

    Men should show because women like love and when they receive a lot of affection from a man, they become more serious about the relationship. In the end, both should show affection because it makes both parties more committed.

     

  • Is there trust in your relationship? (4)

    Dear Reader, I welcome you to this last edition of the teachings of this month. The Lord is good and His mercies endure forever. He has been faithful to His Word! In my first teaching, I taught on how you can build trust. The second teaching, I taught focused on relationship. While the third teaching, I showed how to relate with the opposite sex.

    Today, I want to show you the Benefits of Building Trust in Your Relationship.

    What are the Benefits of Building Trust in Your Relationship?

    It brings Intimacy

    Intimacy is defined as “a feeling of being intimate and belonging together, close in friendship or acquaintance.” What trust does in any relationship, is to bring people close together, with a sense of true belonging one to another in an atmosphere of true friendship. Intimacy is one of the benefits of trust. Trust is very fundamental in building a successful relationship. True and lasting intimacy can only be built with trust as its backbone. Just as building trust takes time, so does intimacy. It does not just grow naturally, and it is not something that can be enforced. Intimacy will only come, when everyone feels a sense of safety and confident in the integrity of the other people involved.

    Any family that enjoys intimacy must of necessity command the blessings of the Lord. The Word of God says: Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity! Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity! It is like the precious ointment upon the head, that ran down upon the beard, even Aaron’s beard: that went down to the skirts of his garments. As the dew of Hermon, and as the dew that descended upon the mountains of Zion: for there the Lord commanded the blessing, even life for evermore (Psalm 133:1,134:1).

    Children brought up in an atmosphere of true intimacy, are usually very emotionally balanced. They find it easier to resist and overcome peer pressures, because they feel so much love and affection from their family members. I want you to know that intimacy involves both physical and emotional interaction. It helps one to be able to share his/her feelings, experiences and thoughts in a very honest way among family members or in your relationship with others.

    It Eliminate Fear

    Another great benefit of building trust in your family, is the elimination of fear. It is important for you to know that fear dies, where there is trust in any kind of relationship. You can therefore, entrust your life and anything in the hand of the person you trust, without being afraid of what will happen. As we all know that fear is a spirit, which gives birth to jealousy and insecurity in any relationship.

    There is sometimes, a feeling of insecurity between husband and wife, which leads to an unwanted apprehension of marital unfaithfulness. Husband and wife must learn to be open to each other. The devil often makes people to think that if they open up completely, they may never be accepted for who they are or that when their friends or spouse hear the whole truth about an issue, they won’t love them anymore. But this is a lie of the devil. Trust is probably the most important ingredient in building an intimate relationship between husband and wife.

    Trust is one thing that takes a long time to build and a very short time to destroy. Be careful how you treat each other. Many people wrongly believe that in a good marriage, you can “relax” and not have to monitor everything you say and do. Nothing could be farther from the truth. In a good marriage, you must always be monitoring your behaviour. This is the key to building a strong relationship and trust. May the Lord give you understanding.

    To enjoy the benefits of building trust in your relationship, you need to have a relationship with God, first and foremost. Do you want to be born again? You can say this prayer and you shall become a child of God: Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for saving me. Now I know I am born again!

     

    Congratulations! You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: contact@faithoyedepo.org and counselling@faithoyedepo.org; Tel. No: 07026385437; 08141320204

    For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work and Building a Successful Family.